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Tips to make Bargain Shopping Simple

A good denim jacket is a must!

Nothing haunts us like the things we didn’t buy!

I have always enjoyed the challenge of finding a deal, bargain shopping and feeling like I have accomplished something.  Do you get excited at the prospect of “saving” money, even if you didn’t need something?
Buying things that are on sale is not always easy, there are a lot of things that I have bought in the past that have sat in my closet, tags still on, and never worn because I only bought them because they were a “deal”. If this sounds like you, then you definitely need to read on!

Have you ever heard yourself say “look how much money I saved” when you bought something?  I have to admit that I have told Brandon that many times and he just laughs because he knows that in order to SAVE that money, it means I had to spend money 😉

If you’re interested in saving yourself some money without stressing yourself out, and having fun – read on…

Take Your Time

One of the biggest reasons that some people might be more effective at bargain shopping is that they allow themselves time.  I know it sounds simple, but if you’ve ever been into a store like TJ Maxx, Nordstrom Rack or Ross you know that if you want to find anything you really have to dig.  You have to be able to rummage, to pull things out, and to check everywhere because things are crammed onto racks and not everything is where it should be.  I have been told that stores like this are an anxiety catalyst, meaning that it makes them break out into a sweat even just thinking about going into them, so it makes sense that if you don’t want to experience that feeling as intensely, you probably want to avoid peak times (weekends or lunchtimes).

Know What You’re Looking For

I have found my bargain shopping success comes more often when I have a specific color, style or fabric I am searching for.  Of course that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t jump at amazing deals just because they are outside your search criteria (unless they fall into the category of buying it ONLY because it’s on sale), it just means you have at least a goal in mind.  Knowing styles that work for your body is also helpful so that when you find something in your size you have an idea of whether it will work even before you try it on.

Give Yourself a Limit

This is definitely an area where I struggle a little because I don’t like to take anything off the table.  If I find something I like to be able to buy it, but there have definitely been times that I have told myself I would only spend a certain amount and I have always been able to find multiple things that have kept me under that budget.  One thing I like to remind myself of is that something is only a bargain if you can afford it…if you have the means.  I absolutely love a lot of designer shoes and I would love to have my closet filled with Louboutins, Jimmy Choos or Manolo Blahnik’s, but it’s also not something I want to spend all my money on!

Take a Friend

I am definitely a highly efficient solo shopper (anyone who knows me will attest), however, the most fun I have is when I have a friend – you know that person that will tell you “NO!  don’t buy it just because it’s cheap!”  Another rule of bargain shopping is that a bargain is not a bargain unless it’s something you will really wear!  Like I mentioned before, the number of times I have bought something that was a “deal” only for it to sit in my closet for ages until I spring clean and send it to goodwill!

I’m loving this green color right now – it is such a fun spring/summer color to add to your closet!

Break it up

If you are making a day of shopping, break it up by grabbing lunch or coffee, just to allow yourself to recoup even if just for a little while.  As you know I often go out of town on shopping trips and while I do spend 99% of the time shopping, I definitely take time to smell the roses, enjoy the food and company! If you are not a “shopper” by nature, then you will definitely want to make sure that wherever you’re going, you don’t plan on spending more time than necessary there. Even though I do love to shop, I definitely don’t like to spend too long in any store – I like to scan, and then leave.

Do it Online

Bargain shopping is by no means something that needs to be done in person.  Most stores have mailing lists that you can sign up for and will receive sale offers, there are also many sites that offer discounts, and daily deals, so there is honestly no reason that you can’t find a deal from the comfort of your couch.  The key with online clothes shopping is knowing the styles that work for YOU and reading the sizing guide because every store has different sizing).  Some of the best deals I have came from online sites, which I especially love because I am less likely to see someone else wearing the same thing! Some of my favorite online shopping stores are: ASOS.com, BOOHOO.com, HAUTELOOK.com and of course some websites like Zulily that offers daily deals, and Brads Deals. Amazon has really “upped” their game too – so if I am looking for something specific or want to see some fun, less expensive styles, I always search their inventory too!

If you are one of the many that likes the idea of bargain shopping but it causes anxiety just thinking about it, I hope these tricks or tips have helped!  I would love to hear if you have any ideas that I may have missed…hit me up 🙂

You can check out some amazing deals by viewing some shopping links I have put together for you – my latest favorite bargains…and these SALE items even have a bigger discount, just click the picture links below…

A Simple Dress

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Beauty isn’t about having a pretty face. It’s about having a pretty mind, a pretty heart and a pretty soul!

Have you ever owned a dress that is just so perfect it can be dressed up or dressed down?

If you want to keep your wardrobe as simple as possible, adding a versatile dress that works for both business or casual is a great way to do it.

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This simple Grey dress I am wearing is perfect for a more casual look with sport sandals. I wore it this way for my son’s baseball tournament in St George, because it was cool, comfortable but still stylish. It can even be dressed up with some heels/booties, and I added a little edge to my look by wearing my Moto biker leather jacket.

I love simplicity, but only when it is also stylish and this dress is exactly that. I have found that I am most happy when I feel good about how I look, and that even includes when I am just going to a baseball game. I have always lived by the philosophy that when I feel good about how I look, I act nicer, and I am more confident.

Confidence to me comes from knowing that I am taking care and time into looking my best for ME. I dress how I dress because I love to do it. I don’t do it for compliments (although I’m not going to lie a compliment always feels good), I do it because it makes me feel good about myself.

Have you ever noticed that when you are not in a good mood, you’re not happy or you’re going through something in your life, that you find it harder to decide what to wear? Last week was a rough time for our family with something going on at my youngest’s school, so I found myself standing for ages in my closet at a loss to what I could wear. I sat there staring, I picked out LOTS of different things & tried on things before I decided on an outfit that would normally have taken me only minutes to pick out. It made me realize that because I didn’t feel good inside, it was hard to want to feel good on the outside! Crazy I know…but once I did dress up and feel good about what I was wearing, it helped me to feel a little stronger, more confident and even more prepared to handle what was thrown at me that day.

Have a great day!!

Casual doesn’t mean not dressing up!

When you don’t dress like everyone else, you don’t have to think like everyone else!

I am still learning this concept. For the longest time I had the notion that in order to dress casual it meant that I couldn’t dress up. And since I LOVE to dress up, I would very often have a hard time styling my casual outfits!

I am learning more and more every day, in fact, I would say that I am even starting top feel comfortable dressing down a little more than I ever have. I think for me the biggest challenge was that in corporate America I had to dress for business every day, and even on Friday’s it was a rule that we couldn’t wear jeans. That doesn’t mean I didn’t break the rule and wear different colors of jeans, jackets & skirts, but it definitely limited my creativity. Now I don’t have the same restrictions so I am starting to grow and have even more fun with my casual style.

Denim is such a versatile fabric, but I think it had a bad reputation for so long. I used to argue with my bosses that I would spend more money on my jeans than my business clothes, but somehow it didn’t change anything. I think the reason was that for most people, wearing jeans meant that they were in their “scruffs” and they would REALLY dress down the outfit to the point of just looking sloppy. Of course that wasn’t the norm, but it was what everyone seemed to remember unfortunately!

Hence, today’s post about denim…about how versatile, classy and professional it can still be!

Of course, I am not saying that anyone should not follow the guidelines of where they work, but what I mean is that if you have any leeway or any other times you can put together some denim outfits, then why not have fun with it 😉

Denim

Chambray – this is probably one of my favorite fabrics right now. It’s denim, but much softer. It is also not typical and could probably allow you to sneak by undetected in a company that has a rule of no jeans. It is feminine, it flows, and most importantly, it is cool for summer days whereas regular denim really isn’t!


Denim jacket – everyone needs one! Whether you are wearing it just to carry for those nights when you’re not quite sure how the weather will be, or you’re looking to dress down a more formal look…a denim jacket is such a versatile piece that I always recommend everyone has at least one (and I say at least one, because there are so many styles, that I would feel a little unprepared if I didn’t have a few different ones 😉 )

Denim skirt – especially one with a sexy slit is something that can be worn, look classy as well as a little sassy. I love a fitted denim skirt but there are so many styles out there, that there is one that will suit your body type and confidence level! Choose the style that best fits your unique style and dress it up with a nice blouse and some heels, or go for a more casual look with some summer wedge sandals and a T shirt!

I did a little research and found some great denim styles and I have linked them to shop below – just click the links…

What is YOUR Style?

The two most important days of your life are the day you are born, and the day you find out why!

From when we are five years old right up until, at the very minimum, we are eighteen, we go to school to learn…We learn some general subjects as well as those specialized to help us determine the career path we want to take in our life, but not only that, we learn how to interact with others, we learn how to be respectful all whilst we are growing and coming into ourselves.  So if we spend all this time learning and honing our interactional skills, learning capabilities and maturity, why would we not do the same when it comes to our appearance?  After all…in a world where judgements are rampant and our appearance is very often how people determine whether or not they want to do business with us, we should spend as much time if not more, learning and developing our presentation (and I mean personal appearance presentation) skills!

The challenge we face is that it is not as clear cut as school studies, relationship skills or even leadership skills.  So how do we grow our personal presentation capabilities?  Some people have innate skills, while others have to work a little harder, but the good news is that no matter how good we are, we can all learn more.

I will let you all into some of my secrets, which are pretty simple and I am sure you could figure them out even if I didn’t tell you (but just in case)…

  1. Don’t try to be something you are not.  I have talked about making sure you dress your age, but this goes even further than that.  Only choose styles that work for you, because wearing something just because it is “in” doesn’t necessarily mean it is going to look good on you.  I was just talking with some friends about how there are some styles that should NEVER come back in because they are not flattering, and I feel like mom jeans for me are one of those styles.  They do work for some people, but they are definitely one of the most flattering things for my body type.
  2. Dress for what you are doing.  Simply put – it is better to over dress for something than it is to turn up to an important meeting looking under-dressed or sloppy.
  3. Choose your colors wisely – again, just because a color is “in” doesn’t mean you should wear it.  Some colors can drain your color, while others are just a little too bold for what you are doing and who you are seeing.
  4. Notice how others are dressing, see how they wear belts, accessories, or shoes.  If you are wondering if a style of clothing would work for your body type, you can always google certain styles or check on Pinterest because there are always pictures of different body types.  Of course, nothing beats trying something on, but if you are looking to decide if something could work before you even get to the trying on stage, this is a great starting point.
  5. If you are unsure about how to put a whole outfit together, it is best to not get too carried away.  I do think it’s important to keep your style unique to you, but that doesn’t mean that you need to be so far out there that people remember you for the wrong reasons.
  6. Every store gets new styles, colors and fabrics throughout each season, so it is always good to check out the latest trends at Nordstrom, Macy’s and other department stores.  If you find a brand that you like that is great, but it doesn’t mean that everything they make is going to work for you.  Check out the styles, see how the mannequins are put together and use them as guidelines.

I love new seasons, and I especially love that we get all 4 seasons here in Utah because it gives me the chance to change my look every few months (although I must say that I am sooo ready for this rain to top and for hot days right now)!  Changing seasons allows me to keep my look fresh, change it up and adapt…

Even if you don’t remember anything else about this post, I want you to take this away with you…continue to learn about style.  Just like in anything else, it is not something where one day we can say we have learned all we can learn…things are always changing, new styles are coming out and old ones are being repurposed . That is why we need to keep it fresh.  Don’t be a follower or just stuck in your ways, find new ways to present yourself in the best way possible for your personality, body type and coloring.  I promise if you do this, you will feel more self-confidence and people will be attracted to that (whether it be business or personal relationships)…

Happy Hump Day!

Palazzo Pants

We don’t know who we are until we see what we can do!

Are you someone that likes to try new style trends or do you like to stick to those that make you feel comfortable?

One of my favorite trends right now is the Palazzo pants trend. I love it because it’s like wearing pants and a skirt at the same time. So for those of you out there that prefer pants – we got you! Or, for those of you out there that prefer to stick to skirts – we got you too!!

I have found such a wide variety in some higher end stores, and those stores that are a little less expensive. The pair I’m wearing in this post I was so excited about because I found them on clearance, and they were such a great deal (am I the only one that loves it when I can tell my husband that I have SAVED us so much money 😉 ? ) – similar pair linked here

I may not have talked about this but my 2nd oldest son is graduating High School this year and we just had his Senior pictures taken. As he was deciding what to wear for the pictures (he is very particular about how he looks, but he kind of got stuck in black and white thinking), he had a really hard time trying to decide on an outfit. He wanted to do two outfits, one more casual and one in church clothes, but for the church clothes he was having a hard time. I had recently bought him a pair of light blue pants, and a vest that was a darker blue color. He wasn’t convinced that the two went together, so was trying to explain to him that a contrast is sometimes even more classic than trying to match too closely. He begrudgingly wore it and the pictures looked really great.

He was having such a hard time because he believed that in order for the outfit to look good, that it had to match completely. I tried to explain that the new rules are that we create our own rules and not everything needs to “match” (it’s actually way more fun to NOT match!)

Check out some great Palazzo pants that I found and linked at the bottom of this post

Speaking of that concept, I had some fun mixing the floral with the pinstripe, but had I been stuck in an older, more traditional way of thinking, I don’t think I would have even tried it.

Here are some ways that I decide my outfits – I have found that when I am unsure about something I seek a little guidance from others that are already doing what I want to try…here are a few of mine, just in case you need a little inspiration:

  1. I try things on that at one time I might not have worn together and walking around my bathroom & bedroom a little to see how I feel wearing them. If they make me feel conscious or not great, I decide that the look doesn’t work for me on that day.
  2. If I found something and decided not to wear it (as in tip #1) I will try it another day, a sunnier day, a day when I am feeling differently about myself and life, and try it again. I have found that just because I don’t like something on one day, it doesn’t mean I won’t like it EVER…it just means I wasn’t ready for it at that time.
  3. I pick out a piece that I love and want to wear and find another piece with a color that is a contrast or compliment to that first piece. For example, Pink and Red are great compliments to each other, and a great way to get bold. The Navy sticking on my pinstripe top ties into the pants because the outline of the pattern is also in Navy.
  4. If I am having a day where I am not feeling like being really bold or like trying something new, I will stick to something I know I have worn before and I am comfortable in, and I add a pair of bright shoes (because I can always feel good in bright, sassy shoes).
  5. There are days when your audience requires that you are a little more conservative, then pattern mixing become a little more difficult. However, that doesn’t mean that you can’t add a statement scarf, necklace or even a pair of tights.

The key is that no matter how you dress, the styles you like and how you are wanting to be remembered, you make sure that YOU feel comfortable. Dressing for yourself is so important because it allows us to take the focus to how we act and what we accomplish rather than how we look.

I believe in starting off the week great – so be the energy that you want to attract! HAPPY MONDAY.

Don’t be Afraid to be Different

Always remember that you are absolutely Unique – just like everyone else!

Do you fit the mold?
Do you identify as “normal”?

I don’t know what it is about the word NORMAL that just gets me going…

I know there were times in my life that I was laughed at for being different, for not being afraid to dress a little differently, for having strong convictions, and most importantly for not being afraid to stand up for myself.

As I get older I realize that I care less and less about what other people think, but care more about what I think about myself. In fact, that is one of the reasons I decided to start my blog. I wanted to share my belief that being unique is absolutely vital in this world, and it’s the only way that change will ever be made!

It’s not that I necessarily look for ways to stand out every day, but more about me making a decision to be ME every day regardless of what anyone else thinks. Now that doesn’t mean that I don’t like to try new and different things, embrace new styles or look for opportunities to put my stamp on something…it just means that I am doing it because it makes ME feel good and everything else is just gravy!

Take this outfit for example, nothing really groundbreaking…I added a little sass to a plain black outfit by wearing wonderful red booties and a scarf. Now, a scarf is nothing groundbreaking, except that I decided to wear it a little different. I wrote a blog post about a month ago about how wearing accessories doesn’t have to be just the traditional way – that you can also look for other ways to adapt the style to fit YOUR personality. I don’t wear scarves often and I think the reason I haven’t is because I find them a little too mainstream. Not that I don’t love them, but more that I haven’t really loved them on ME!

I will say that I did feel a little sassy wearing the scarf this way (not that the boots hurt either), but it made me feel like I was putting my own stamp onto the look and that always makes me smile!

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The scarf is linked on my Instagram story – or just click here to check it out…

Spring Colors

Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be!

One of my favorite things about a changing season is all the new colors that are around. Spring is such a great time to start wearing bright, bold colors and mixing and matching.

Yellow is such a pretty, happy and bright color. I love finding out the meaning behind each color and wearing that color when I need to feel a certain way or I want to create a certain energy. Spiritually Yellow is the color for freshness, happiness, positivity, clarity and joy amongst other feelings.

Today’s outfit includes chambray joggers, white mules and a fabulous top – all of which work perfectly for spring and certainly made me feel positive and happy standing amongst the spring flowers taking these pictures.

Joggers – linked to shop here
Studded slides – linked to shop here
Yellow eyelet top – linked to shop here
Sunglasses – linked to shop here

Do you have certain colors that make you feel a certain way?

We all have certain colors that we are more drawn to than others, so what do we do when we see new styles or trends that tell us to wear something that is not exactly in tune with what we like?  It seems like everyone is telling what we should and shouldn’t like…so how do we decide what is best for US?  Do we just wear what the fashion magazines and stores tell us?

I don’t think anyone should do something that is something that doesn’t make them feel the best possible way about themselves…so here are my top 5 reasons you should wear colors that make you feel good:

  1. We may not realize, but our energy (both positive and negative) can be directly correlated to what colors we like.  If our favorite color is Red for example, then we are going to feel great when we are wearing Red!   So it stands to reason that if you want to feel positive about life, yourself, and what is happening around you, then you should wear the colors that evoke a positive response within you!
  2. It is also true that while colors can cause certain feelings and experiences within you, they can also do the same in others.  Red is a very strong, confident color…but it can also be intimidating to others.  So while it is important to wear those colors you are in tune with, you also need to consider different shades within your favorite colors, so as not to cause adverse reactions in others.  Essentially, know your audience – and if you are dealing with someone that is not going to like you to be too bold or overbearing, then you shouldn’t wear a color similar to the Red dress in this post (darker or more muted Red tones are more appropriate in this case).
  3. It is important to get feedback from others when you try new styles or colors, but bear in mind their opinions may be more in tune with what they like than what is going to make you feel good.  You may have one friend that loves Green so when you try something Green she is going to think it’s amazing, but it may not feel the same way to you.
  4. For each season you are going to see different shades of colors, so if you want to feel like you are still “in style” for the current season, you can try different shades of your favorite colors.  Yellow is a great example, for summer and spring it is bright and bold but for fall and winter, you will see more mustard colors…they are still Yellow but they work differently at different times of the year.
  5. Finally, fall in love with your favorite colors.  Red is absolutely my favorite color, and whenever I am shopping I am innately drawn to that color.  After wearing it, I recognize that it is my power color and I pull it out when I need to feel strong and confident.  I am in tune with what works for me and makes me feel good…so fall in love with what you love and you can use that to help you feel amazing and confident when you are wearing something you love too!

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Stand Out – Your Own Way!

“The final forming of a person’s character lies in their hands!”

Style comes from inspiration, experiences, and emotions. And this is what you need to understand and create your own style; it’s important to tap into YOU so it’s an honest and true reflection of yourself. Now you may think that this sounds a lot easier said than done, but it’s just about feeling. Even the simple things like waking up really happy – you may want to add a little sunshine by wearing something yellow, because it’s bright and just like how you’re feeling. Make sense?

Here are some more examples…

A statement by accessorizing

Accessories are so much fun because you can mix and match them, stack them, tie them – and the list goes on. The more creative you are, the more freedom you will have to do whatever you like. For example, if there’s a chiffon scarf that you saw in the store and just had to buy it because it was pretty, you may not have actually thought of how you’re going to wear it. Well, why not turn in into a head tie one day, and a bracelet or wrist wrap the next? Or let’s say you’re feeling very sassy or funky – choose a pair of statement earrings to accentuate that feeling and make you look twice when you see yourself in the mirror. There is nothing better than seeing yourself in the mirror and REALLY appreciating what you see!

Pick the shoes

Shoes, shoes and more shoes. You really can never have enough (I know I can sound like a broken record, but it’s the truth). I love wearing a different pair of shoes each day, and they have to flow with my ever changing emotions too. If one day you’re in a ‘bring it on world’ kind of mood (it happens to all of us) a pair of pointed toe booties for that vibe would be perfect. If you’re feeling a little more feminine, you could try a pair of strappy sandals or pretty colored stilettos.

Another tip to use is to match your whole look – including your hair to the shoe. More casual shoes or boots mean that you can get away with a messy ponytail or bun, whereas a business vibe like the stilettos you would want to wear your hair in a more sleek and smooth style.

The confidence

Confidence is something that comes from inside, from how you feel about yourself, so it’s not something you can just choose to wear. However, you can choose to work on your confidence every day, so that when you walk out your door, you can hold your head high knowing that YOU feel amazing about who you are, and knowing that the rest of the world will follow suit with how YOU feel!

Business like a Boss Lady

She knew the power of her mind, so she programmed it for success!

Just in case you missed my Video Podcast, I wanted to talk a little about Business Style and how it doesn’t have to be boring.

I think this was one of the most important realizations I had when I was working in Corporate America. YES – there are rules, but NO – it doesn’t mean you can’t adapt them and still be business appropriate.

I am a firm believer in that fact that you can look amazing even if you are not in a business suit or the traditional styles of old business. I’m not condoning breaking the dress code at the company you work at, but I have found that dressing appropriately for business doesn’t mean that you can’t still march to the beat of your own drum.

As women we have so much more opportunity to create our own look than men do, so why not take advantage of all the amazing offerings the world of fashion has for us?

Here are a few of my own suggestions and things I did that helped me feel great about my business style:

  • Incorporate bright colors – yes, you can add a bright colored blouse but what about really stepping it up and adding a pair of bright colored pants or a skirt. Red is always my favorite go-to, but there are so many others like green, purple, orange and yellow – or pretty much any color that is bold and stands out! Bold patterns are always find to wear too – like these cute joggers that look professional yet funky!
  • Add a little lace – it is so feminine and looks so professional as well. By adding something lace to your look, you will immediately elevate the look from ordinary to fabulous.
  • You don’t have to stick to traditional fabrics – try adding some leather or velvet. Gone are the days when wearing something less traditional is a bad thing. Leather was once thought to be edgy but now it really can be made to look feminine and classy by wearing a pretty blouse, and some stand out shoes!
  • Don’t forget the details – accessories can be the thing that elevate an otherwise ordinary outfit. By adding some cute jewelry, a scarf or carrying a bag that is fun – you will immediately draw peoples eyes to those pieces. Which means, if your business style is understated, you can make it more sassy and fun by adding some gorgeous accessories. Beware though – in this situation, less is more. Don’t over-do it…keep it classy!
  • You know my philosophy about shoes…well, it applies to business style as well. When you wear a pair of shoes that is colorful, bold or unique that’s what people more often than not will remember. I’ve talked about how someone’s shoes are usually the first thing I notice…well, I can tell you that I am not the only one 😉
  • Business IS all about looking professional – you having a jacket handy is a good thing…but that doesn’t mean that the jacket has to be ordinary. In fact, finding jackets that are unique is always fun for me – like the blazer I’m wearing here with the leather accents. Professional – YES! Unique – YES!

A lot of dressing for business in a way that still expresses your personality is really about changing your mindset. It’s about being open to exploring differentiations and creating your own interpretations of the rules.

None of the pictures I’ve posted are inappropriate business style, but can you agree that they are my unique style? I have found that I am happiest when I am not conforming to the opinions of others, but rather adapting situations to suit my style – but doing it in a way that is still social acceptable and fun! Sounds like a win/win doesn’t it?

Are you ready to explore your business style?

Love your Life

Be so busy loving your life that you have no time for hate, regret and fear!

OK – so we all know consciously that we only have one life to live and that we need to make the most of it…but I sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in what is NOT great, what’s wrong and the fact that our life may not be looking exactly like our expectation of how it should look.

When you were little did you have an idea of what your life was going to look like? Did you imagine yourself with 2.5 children, the perfect spouse, and a lovely well kept home? I know that I had an idea, or even an expectation, of what my life should look like. I wanted the marriage, the children, the unconditional love, the career, basically the fairytale…but I found out very early on that my life wasn’t going to take that path. I started out WITHOUT a fairytale relationship, became a single mum, moved from England by myself to the U.S. to create a life for myself and Dalton, my son. There were times when I wasn’t sure if I was going to be able to pay the bills, I juggled paying the utilities, electricity and gas bills and had one or other of them disconnected at least once. It was a challenge, but I was up for that challenge!

I was so attached to the idea of having that perfect life that at times I felt like a failure. I felt like I wasn’t enough. I felt like my life sucked! Then something happened to make me see things differently. I had some friends that made me start to believe in myself again. Through talking me through what I DID have and make me start appreciating it again, I was able to start believing that I could have the life I wanted. It started with me being more than OK with where I was at that time, in fact, I started to feel that even if I never met anyone and spent the rest of my life with just Dalton – then that was enough for me!

Things didn’t start out ideal or PERFECT, but after a few years, I met Brandon and everything really changed. After a few more kids, we created the family that both Dalton and I had always wanted (although I’m pretty sure Dalton always wanted a sister, but I gave him 3 brothers instead 😉 ) .

Our family life has not always been a bed of roses, but it’s still amazing. Through the personal growth and development business that Brandon started we both grew stronger, happier and more fulfilled…but not without consistent effort, and that’s what I want to talk about today…

Being happy and loving your life when everything is going well is easy to do. It’s finding joy, fulfillment and happiness through the hard times – because there will always be hard times.

So how do you feel happy and fulfilled when all the cards seem to be stacked against you?

I found that the first step was to believe that I deserved to be happy no matter what. I embraced that mindset and a funny thing happened – I actually BECAME happy. My focus was on gratitude for what I DID have instead of what I DID NOT have! It may seem a little hard to believe but I am 100% certain that by appreciating how amazing my life was, focusing on my love for Dalton, my love for myself and my love for being in the U.S…that’s what allowed me to open the door for even greater things.

Are you in a place where you feel down or you’re not finding joy in your life? Does it seem like life is against you?

Life can be a dark place if we focus on dark thoughts, but it can also bring an amazing light into our lives when we focus on beautiful things, on appreciating what we have, what we’re grateful for and feel fulfilled knowing that we ARE ENOUGH.

I just wanted to share a little about what brought me here and why I will always focus on gratitude…

If you’re looking to improve any area of your life, I know with 100% certainty that whatever you focus on you get more of…so why not focus on all that is positive, good and amazing about yourself and this life?

My T shirt is here and my jeans are here…both from Nordstrom (shoes are from my closet).
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