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Summer Hair Styles

A classic French Pleat

The right hairstyle can make a plain woman beautiful, and a beautiful woman unforgettable!

Hair is the most important accessory we ALL have, so why not get creative, have fun and be different?

One of the reasons that I keep my hair mid length to long length is because of the versatility it allows me. I love that I can style it down straight, wavy, pull it back in a ponytail, use scarves, various styles of up-do’s and of course, it looks great with most hats.

I do know that a lot of people struggle with knowing how to style their hair, so that’s why I am dedicating this post to creating fun summer styles.

I learned when I was much younger how to do a french braid, french pleat, and various other styles and I would practice. Some nights when I am bored, instead of checking out and watching TV I go into my bathroom, pull out all my fun hair accessories, pull out the mirrors so I can see the back of my hair, and I set to work. I find styles that I have seen on others, experiment with my own way of styling my hair, and I have fun. In fact, when I lived with my cousin after first moving to the US, she used to wake me up in the morning to help her put her hair up for work. I had fun playing around with her hair and creating classy, business styles for her…

First things first, how do you find a style that will work for your hair? You can definitely find inspiration in all places, from friends, from people we see at work, in a store, or even on TV…but I have found that the best source of inspiration for me is definitely Pinterest. I have my own board, where I pin ideas, things I have tried, and things I want to try…(you can see my board by clicking here)

Secondly, how do you recreate a look you see? This one can be a little more tricky because it’s easier for some than others. If you haven’t been one to try different things with your hair or experimented, then it’s going to take a little more practice. I have found that for me it is best to try out a style I have found when I have a little extra time. As I am waiting for my bath at night I will pull out my phone and work on some of the styles I have pinned. I practice, play around to make it work for me, so that when I am getting ready in the morning and don’t have as much time, I can still manage to pull it together!

Thirdly, choose a style that works for what you are doing and is right for the weather. I do realize that not everyone has long hair, and I definitely do love some shorter styles and even pixie cuts, especially if you are are really making them sassy…but for me, I love the versatility that mid to longer length hair gives me. I love the up-do and I love being able to be flexible every day on what I create with my hair, but also having the option to make sure I stay cool. I tend to wear my hair up a lot more in the warmer months just because it’s more practical because it means that my neck is not sweating like crazy.

A simple chignon bun looks classy, is easy to do and is honestly my “go to” style because I know I can create it in less than 5 minutes because I have done it so many times! I had a friend tell me that she will often sit behind me at church and try to figure out how I created my up-do. All I can tell you is that I have found simple things that cut my time down and I use every shortcut possible. My biggest secret is that all I do is put my hair in a ponytail making sure I have all the hair framing my face that I want, and then I take one of those really small clear elastics, wrap my hair into a bun shape and put that around the shape to hold it in place. I then add some bobby pins strategically to hold it in place.

Because I realize that so many of us are visual people, I will be creating a “how to” video for my simple “go to” up do, and I will be sending that out in my newsletter…so if you haven’t signed up, click here to do that so you don’t miss it!

The Art of the Imperfect Selfie

 

“Making mistakes is better than faking perfection!”

 

We live in an age where the “selfie” is an art, where we judge ourselves more harshly than we would ever judge another human being, and we base our self worth on how many likes or comments we get on social media.  So how do we get back to the time when it was OK to not look “perfect” all the time or at least make people feel that we are looking “perfect”?

The Huffington Post wrote the following in an article and it’s probably one of the most scary things I have ever read:  “Social Media’s Impact on SelfEsteem.  Social media has been linked to higher levels of loneliness, envy, anxiety, depression, narcissism and decreased social skills. … However, what is shared across our social networks only broadcasts the positive aspects of our lives-the highlight reels.”

Even though we know what we are posting isn’t actually the reality of OUR lives for some reason it is not what we think when we see what other people post images and talk about their lives.

The reality is, no matter what, we are NEVER going to be perfect human beings.  In fact, when we strive for perfection all we bring into our lives is disappointment, insecurity and sadness.

I decided to write a post about the “imperfect selfie”, because we are not used to seeing them on social media.  Taking the selfie with the fish pout, with the fake smile, to capture a moment that would in fact have been more of a moment to remember if the camera hadn’t been out, are more and more what we see and consider to be the “norm” on social media.

 

 

Trust me, for each selfie or picture that’s taken of me that I consider worthy to post, there are 100’s of others where I have my eyes closed (see for yourself – in fact, for the eyes closed, I would say there are probably at least 40% of the pictures where my eyes are closed).  Then there are some where I have to edit the lighting, create a patch over something in the background that I want to cover up, and so on and so on.

I recently took a social media class and in that class one of the lessons was to know which angle to use to show the most flattering angle of your face, and which programs to use for editing and how to optimize your features.  I do realize that social media, especially Instagram is a very visual platform and that if you want to use it for a business, you are going to have to post things that are visually appealing, but that doesn’t mean that at some times it’s OK to not look “perfect” in a picture.

I took this selfie of myself today sitting in my office, the camera wasn’t at the angle that would take the most flattering picture, but I posted it anyway to prove a point.  As I sit and look at this picture I could tear myself down with thoughts like “my nose looks crooked”, “I can see the fine lines and wrinkles on my face” or even “my lips are too narrow”, but instead I decided to look for what I love about what I see.  Instead of the crooked nose, I feel thankful that I am able to be able to smell pumpkin spices, and much more at this time of year.  Instead of the fact that I have fine lines and wrinkles, I love that I have lived a life that has allowed me to develop laughter lines and experience life.  Instead of the fact that my lips are too thin, I love the fact that I am able to kiss my husband and my kids.

To summarize my self esteem is not rocked because I am not “perfect” and I am OK with people seeing a side of me that is not my best side because I want people to see the real, authentic and loving ME!  I am not afraid to say when I am sad, I very often react with anger when I become frustrated and anyone that knows me knows that I am can be a force for good or bad (just depends on how I am treated), and guess what, I am not ashamed of that either.  I am fiercely loyal and love the fact that my friends KNOW they can always count on me.

So, what does a “perfect selfie” mean anyway?  Is there really such a thing?  The thing about authenticity is that only people that don’t know you are going to be able to be taken in by fake pictures, and over-editing.  Those that know you, already know your flaws, and love you in spite of them.  Only those that don’t know you might judge you if you don’t look perfect in a picture, but those that already know you that there’s no such thing as a perfect picture and they love you anyway.

I don’t know about you, but I want my life to be filled with real relationships and that is why I put myself out there.  Why I tell stories about myself making stupid mistakes, in the hope that people can get to know me and relate on a deeper level than the superficiality of a picture.  Don’t misunderstand me, Instagram and social media are still a place to show some pretty fabulous pictures and that is what captures someone’s attention initially, but if you really want people to stick around…well, that is done with relationships and letting people get to know you.

I hope as you consider taking your next selfie, before you throw out a picture that you don’t think shows your best side, all is ask is that you ask yourself “what do other see when they see me?”  My guess is that then the picture will become so much more than just a pretty face smiling back, because seeing ourself through another’e eyes is the way we need to see ourselves – PERIOD.

Stay fabulous my friends 🙂

 


That Vogue Feeling

“Life is a mirror – what you see from your outside comes from your inside!”

 

Whether you’re like I was when I started this blog and hate having your picture taken, or even if you don’t mind at all, there are definitely some pictures that you HATE and those that you LOVE!

Thankfully in this digital age and with fast shutter speeds a lot of the pictures I have taken manage to capture me without my eyes closed, and some even make me have that “Vogue” feeling – where I feel like I could actually be a model.  Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t ACTUALLY think I could be in Vogue magazine, but I have learned to appreciate my beauty and definitely love finding good pictures of me.

The reason I am telling you this is that it is so important for us to see our own beauty, and like the quote says, true beauty comes from being beautiful on the inside too.  I have known a lot of people in my life that may not have had the most attractive features but once I got to know them, I realized that they were the most beautiful of all people…because they radiated that inner beauty.  The same can be said for those people that have the perfect features, and are pleasing to the eye, if they are not beautiful on the inside, that will eventually show and they won’t be seen as beautiful people.  Do you remember that movie “Shallow Hal” with Jack Black and it had a cameo from Tony Robbins who actually taught him to see the inside and not just the outside.  Once he did that he started overlooking people’s outside flaws and saw them for who they really are.

OK, so I know that Tony Robbins is not going to actually do that for each of us, but here’s a great way we can start:  We can see ourselves as beautiful, recognize beauty in others (and not just appearance beauty but the real stuff) and the more that we look for it, the more we will see it (including in ourselves).  I know a lot of people that can truly see beauty in others but have a hard time seeing it in themselves.  For whatever reason they don’t like to look for it.  Here’s what I’ll tell you, just like the lack of inner beauty eventually shows, so does the real beauty and no matter what, even if you kid yourself that you aren’t actually beautiful or deserve love, guess what, it’s going to come out in the end.  You may as well see it for yourself because it’s not something that can be permanently hidden.

 

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Perhaps it’s a worthiness, where because of something in your past you don’t feel worthy of love or anyone’s praise?  Perhaps you have heard your entire life that you aren’t beautiful from someone you trusted or loved?  Or it could even be that you have faced some type of bullying or abuse?  The only way you can change your past is by changing your future.  If you’re still believing what someone told you, how you felt, and you’re ultimately agreeing with what they said or did, then you are still allowing that person or situation to control you.  Maybe i’m the only one that has a problem with control, but I can tell you, something like that wouldn’t sit well with me – I definitely wouldn’t want to feel that someone or something else had power over me.

Don’t get me wrong, there have been times in my life when I have felt “less than” because of someone’s behavior, because of not meeting unrealistic expectations I put on myself, and many more reasons.  So, when I did eventually come to my senses and realize that in order to move through something I had to just let go, that’s when everything changed.  I have been known to have a hard time letting things go, i’m not going to lie, so when I tell you that I did it, just know that it didn’t happen overnight.  In fact it took years, and during that time when I didn’t let go I was absolutely miserable.  I had this notion that everyone should know what an injustice had been done to me, that it just wasn’t fair, and honestly I thought I was fighting back, but what I realized is that what I was doing was perpetuating the situation.

So how do we move through something so that we can start to see our beauty (and not just the mirror reflection kind of beauty)?  The easy answer is just change your thoughts, but that’s easier said than done.  So honestly, here’s what it will take…repetition, telling ourself that we are beautiful, so that eventually we start to see what others see.  And here’s the best news, as you start to see beauty in yourself, the beauty around you becomes so much more pronounced and life just starts to seem rosier!

I don’t about you but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with looking at the world through rose colored glasses – who knows we might actually start to find things and people we didn’t even know existed.

Happy Wednesday – you’ve made it to the middle of the week, there’s definitely beauty in that!

 

 

 

 

Let your Inner Light Shine

 

“Aging is not lost youth, but a new stage of opportunity and strength!”

I remember being a teenager and feeling frustrated that I couldn’t do things that adults could and that I had rules that I felt were unnecessary!  It’s so weird, that I was wishing my life away and wanting to grow up so quickly.  Now that I am well into my forties my only regret is that I hadn’t spent my time wishing my years away.  Now I value my time, every minute, and I love who I am today.

I no longer focus too much on things that are going to happen, but rather I like to enjoy exactly what is going on in the here and now.  I realize how valuable time is and that every wrinkle and smile line is there because of the many experiences and the journey I have been on.

Aging is not for the faint of heart though – it is definitely something that is hard as a woman.  I still feel like I am 20 years old, and I want to be able to do all the things I used to be able to do.  That’s why staying healthy, staying in shape, taking care of my skin, my body and my mind are vital to me so that on the day that my kids decide to make me a Grandma, I can be the active, cool Grandma 🙂

 

 

I look in the mirror sometimes and don’t recognize the person I see.  Sometimes I notice more of my flaws and the signs of aging and other times, I truly see what is underneath and recognize my value.  As I already said, this getting older thing is something that needs quite a bit of faith and self love.

There are definitely some things about aging that we can’t control, but there are still some things we can do to ensure that we look the best as we’re doing it!  I am all in favor of doing things that make you feel good – whether that is great skin care, eating healthy, exercising, relaxation or anything else that tickles your fancy!

Above everything else, no matter what, I know that feeling good about myself makes my inner light shine and that is the best anti-aging thing anyone can do!

Have a blessed Sunday!

Positive Talk

“Why compare yourself to others?  No one else in the world can do a better job of being you, than you!”

Have you ever had a picture taken of yourself and thought “that isn’t my best angle” or “that wasn’t a good one”?  Well, the pictures that I’m posting today were some that as I was taking them the whole time I was thinking these thoughts…

What it made me do is really think about how much we tell ourselves things in our lives that are not the things we need to hear.  For example, do you ever think to yourself that you don’t look good in something, you can’t do something or do it well, you are not going to be able to make something happen or even worse, that you are not good enough?  I know this is a common theme in today’s age, which is heightened because of social media.  We can very often find ourselves comparing to others and very often competing with others, when really what we should be doing is being focused only on how we can make ourselves better than we were the day before!

 

 

I don’t know about you, but I am certainly going to respond much better to hearing something nice rather than something critical, even if it is just from myself.  In fact, hearing praise and confidence come from yourself is probably one of the most motivating and inspiring things you can do for yourself.

There was a study that was done on water, and more specifically in speaking to water.  I know, sounds a little hokey, but there was a scientific study that looked at the response when water was talked to negatively…what it created was cloudy, murky, dark water.  Whereas when the water experienced only positive talk, the most beautiful crystals were formed.  Now you may be thinking what on earth could this have to do with anything to do with not comparing yourself to others, or confidence building?  Well, aren’t we as human beings made up of 60% water?  So what if, when we listen to negativity, surround ourselves with negativity or tell ourselves negative things about ourselves, our abilities our appearance, what do you think will happen to us?

The moral of this story…speak to yourself the words you need to hear.  Only tell yourself things that will lift you up.  Don’t let yourself believe the worst about yourself, replace criticism for gratitude and create an environment where you can grow and become better every day.

On this Sunday what better time to make a commitment to yourself to speak kindly to yourself, to love yourself and to allow yourself some grace for not being perfect.

Have a wonderful Sunday!

Aging Gracefully

“Aging is not lost youth, but a new stage of opportunity and strength!”

I know I am not the only one that wishes I would have been more proactive in planning for the future when it comes to taking care of myself.  Working out was more about how I looked rather than how healthy it was making my body, skincare was more about “if I had time” rather than routine, I took for granted my muscle tone, being able to eat a lot of what I wanted and the whole digestive thing, you know where eating an abundance of fried foods wasn’t an issue (OK, so I admit I have a thing for good old fashioned English chips).

As I am skating very close to turning 50 I now pay way more attention to what I see when I look in the mirror, I workout for health as well as looking good, my food choices are a conscious thing and finding products to reverse skin damage or hair damage are a must.

Since I have been blogging I have been fortunate to try out new products and I definitely pay attention to how I look more.  I don’t think aging is a bad thing, in fact, I love who I am today, how I look and what I have accomplished, but I have realized that I want age at my pace, take back a little control and enjoy it rather than fight it.

With all of this being said, I don’t think there is anything wrong with doing things that slow down the aging process, whether permanent or more temporary, I don’t think anyone should be ashamed of how their body ages, because just like everything else in this life, how our body reacts to climate and different environments is going to be different.  I live in a very dry climate, and when I moved here from England it was a huge adjustment.  My skin felt shriveled and I hated how it felt, so I took action and completely changed how I took care of it.  We are all unique and so are our bodies and how they will age.  We can’t control everything but we can certainly slow it down and in some cases reverse it.

Obviously as you look in the mirror your face is the first thing you will notice, and that is where I have spent most of my time taking care of.  The second place I notice are my hands…if you think about it, your hands are doing dishes, washed after going to the bathroom, etc., and both of these things along with other factors really dry out our skin and cause the hands to age.  If I really want to have an idea of how old someone is the first thing I look at are their hands.  It’s so hard to hide aging hands, but the good news is that I have found a company that has some products manufactured specifically to work on your hands.

 

I started using Daily Dual Repair from Hand MD, and I absolutely love it. It’s a 2-step hand serum & moisturizer that helps smooth fine lines and wrinkles on your hands, and make them really soft. I’ve got to say I’m a big fan so far and I think you will be too, so go check them out! Stay tuned for my results!
Even better news, they’re actually having a 15% off flash sale on right now, so click here to take advantage before it ends.
Aging is not something to be afraid or ashamed of, especially if you can make it on your terms.  I know that’s what I’m going to do!

Finding Joy in your Journey

“A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to it’s old dimensions!”

I believe that in life it is easy to be focused on an achievement or a goal rather than actually enjoying the journey of experience and beauty that it takes for you to get there…

That may sound a little cliche, so bear with me.  I understand the whole focused, driven, determined, passionate side of things, and I am definitely all of those things, but one thing that I am a little more focused on now more than ever is that I can actually ENJOY my days as I am striving to achieve my goals.  It used to be that I was so focused on the outcome that I was pretty much miserable on my way there.  Meaning that I missed out on so many experiences and most importantly time – especially with my family. I used to be so focused on my career that I wouldn’t want to take vacations in fear that I might not be as good or as successful.  I made a decision about 7 years ago that I would enjoy taking vacations, spending time with my family and let the rest of the stuff just work itself out…the crazy thing is that I found that I was actually MORE successful, AND happy!  I realized that in anything in life you attract good things to you when you’re happy, positive and loving life…and let me tell you, I am definitely loving life.

Don’t get me wrong there are definitely times when I cry because things are hard or things aren’t going my way, and sometimes I just cry (no, I’m not crazy, I’m just OK letting myself be vulnerable letting things go so I can move through them).

 

 

That’s another thing that I discovered – of course the hard way – that I beat myself up for not having everything together all the time…and that is self defeating because the more I fight it, the worse it gets!  So, I get in my car, or just take a “time out” at home, and spend time letting myself feel what I’m feeling, and not telling myself I am weak, I shouldn’t be doing it or even worse that I am stupid for feeling a certain way.  We are all emotional beings, and we all have feelings…the difference is that some of us bottle it up, some let it all out where everyone can see it (sometimes to have others help us solve our problems for us), and some just know how to “ride the wave”.  I am learning to ride that wave, but not only that, I am actually enjoying riding it!

This is one of things that we talk to our kids about all the time – you can either learn how to handle things when they are smaller and easier to deal with when you’re younger, or become an adult that doesn’t know how to problem solve.  I see it all the time and I am guessing you do too…people that are great until they come across a sticky situation and then they turn into mush. Here’s the kicker – they will keep having these situations until they learn how to handle them.  I know for me there is a certain type of person that keeps appearing in my life, teaching me, stretching me, and definitely making me a better person.  I haven’t figured out EXACTLY how to deal with them, but I am starting to recognize patterns, learn from them, and react differently.  It seems crazy to do the same things over and over and expect different results, but I have definitely been guilty of that!

 

So as you can see from this post, you can find joy wherever you are…whether you are doing something you used to do as a kid (like blowing on this dandelion clock that was definitely nostalgic for me), or even just looking for something good in the thing you are doing…it will change your whole experience.  I don’t know about you, but I definitely choose to find joy and beauty around me!

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Finding the Beauty Around Us

 

“I choose to listen to my inner voice not the random opinions of others!”

No matter where you live, there is always something around you that can give you cause to contemplate the beauty and feel gratitude for something.  At my darkest moments, or when I feel the most depleted, I find myself turning to my kids, my husband, my dog, my friends, my family or the beauty in my garden…and that is without even thinking about anything material.

I have shared on my Instastories a little about some mountain biking that I have been doing because Brandon and the kids bought me an E-bike for Mother’s Day.  For those of you that don’t know what that is, it’s a mountain bike that is also electric.  I have never been a mountain biker, in fact I had never even done a trail on a bike before…but what I have found is that I love it.  It is partly because I love to exercise, it is partly because I am liking the thrill of riding up and down trails not knowing exactly what is going to come my way next, but it is mainly because I feel so blessed that I can ride right from my house and in about a mile I am in the mountains on a trail, and as I ride to the top of the trail, the views of the entire Salt Lake valley are absolutely breath taking!  I have hiked around the trails many times, but somehow being on a bike allows me to do it almost every day and get better and better.  I have to admit I have a few war wounds from falling – but the key for me is getting back up again and working on not falling the next time.

I think that contemplation, finding a quiet, peaceful spot to think about your many blessings in this life is so important.  Sometimes just a place where you can quiet the noise and focus on only the good stuff is enough.

Today’s pictures were taken in “the gully” which is just around the corner from my house, it has a walking trail, a stream, some great greenery and flowers, and it just such a place.  Yes, I was taking pictures, but as I was in the midst of the shoot I found my thoughts drifting to those things…

Do you have a place where you like to go?  It doesn’t need to be outside, but the key is a place where you won’t be disturbed.  Meditation is a great way to clear your mind, but if you are not familiar with meditation, just allowing your thoughts to go to appreciations and gratitude will allow you to focus on the good things in your life.  I try to take a small amount of time every day to focus on this, but sometimes busy schedules don’t allow every day, so at the very least, every other day works for me!

I often like to walk my dog and as I walk through my neighborhood, as I admire the beautiful homes, the trees and plants, the sunshine or whatever the weather, I find myself sometimes becoming emotional about all the amazing people and things in my life.  My thoughts run rampant as I am walking, and sometimes the most random things come up…I reminisce about my childhood, my family, the things that have shaped my life so far, and as I start to think these things, more and more gratitude comes to my mind.

Even if you feel depressed, like things are not great for you, I promise if you find at least 1 thing per day to be grateful for, you’ll find as you think about that thing more and more things will come to mind.  Whatever we focus on we get more of, so I would much rather focus on what I do have rather than what I don’t…what about you?

 

 

My contemplation outfit was not exactly the walking through the gully type of outfit, however, it’s very feminine and by adding the long strand of pearls, it is also classy!  (more to follow on the pearls…)

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~AFTER~

“Gorgeous hair is the best revenge!”

Is your Mum as good a sport as mine is – let me tell you a story and you’ll know what I mean!

When I was 18 I came over to the U.S. to go to college, and I obviously didn’t have my family around.  As time grew closer to graduating, my Mum came over to stay with me for about a month – we took graduation pictures, hung out and had fun.  During that time I didn’t have much money and I was living in a very small town that had few, if any, hair salons.  I decided it would be a good idea to color my Mum’s hair for my graduation, to spice things up a little 😉  Let me preface this with the fact that I am in no way experienced and I had NEVER done anything with hair like this before (especially not on myself)!

We bought a color kit from the local supermarket, and I set to work coloring her hair.  All was going well until I realized that I hadn’t tested an area to see how the color would take, and suffice it to say that by the time I was done my Mum’s hair wasn’t blonde but RED.  Now all I can say is that she is much, much nicer than I am because she didn’t melt down, in fact her only response was “it’ll grow out.”

So when I called her this week and wanted to try a new product on her I was very surprised to hear that she was 100% OK with me doing it.  It’s not because I have suddenly become a pro at hair styling, because I haven’t!

 

 

Thank goodness for AGEbeautiful Topcoat Toners which I just discovered…The thing is, just like my hair, my Mum’s pulls warm, brassy tones whenever she dyes it…and I noticed that there were some more brassy blonde tones in her hair and I wanted to “cool” them down for her.

 

~BEFORE~

 

I discovered this amazing new product at Sally Beauty and I have to admit I was cautious about using it on myself because I am not as patient as my mum is, and I’m pretty sure if it damaged my hair or it didn’t turn out right, I might have had a mini meltdown myself ;).

I am happy to report that these toners are the real deal.  For those of you out there who have ever gone to a hair salon and come home feeling less than satisfied because your hair is too yellow, gold or brassy…this is the answer you have been waiting for.

It is really easy to use, it only takes up to 10 minutes, you can do it yourself and you can see the amazing results.

I know, it’s not exactly like me taking her to a spa, but how she felt when I was done was definitely worth it!
AGEbeautiful Topcoat Toners are anti-brass toners that neutralize unwanted warmth to keep blonde shades looking cool. They deposit rich color & shine on pre-lightened or highlighted blonde hair, and because they contain Vitamin E they moisturize your scalp rather than drying it out – We used the Pearl Blonde – for reference!

You can click the link above to shop one yourself online, or just visit any Sally Beauty near you – go to www.sallybeauty.com to find your nearest location.

Think and Feel Beautiful

 

“If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought!”

Did you know that a child’s self esteem and confidence peaks at age 9.  Unfortunately it is all downhill from there.  What if you could take yourself back to being that 9 year old and erase whatever circumstances halted or even reversed your self confidence.

We’ve all had things that have happened to us, and some of those things could be something as simple as being teased for your height, your weight, your looks, etc.  I’ll be honest, I was a late bloomer, and I was very concerned about being flat chested until I was around 15, and I was under 5 feet until I was around 13.  Yes, I was teased, I had a nickname that wasn’t very nice – I was known as “stumpy” because I was short.  Yes, it made me feel bad, but somehow once I grew it went away and I kind of forgot about it.  I think it still lingers with me a little now I am older because I don’t like wearing flats very much and when I do I feel super short.

What if I told you that you can in fact erase all those bad things that have happened to you, if you recognize what they are and realize they are your triggers.  Self confidence is something that comes more naturally to some than others, but we all have the power within us to hold our heads up and know we are the wonderful person that we have been created to be.  The past few years have been quite a journey of personal growth and revelation for me…at times my self esteem has been rocked.  I have felt insignificant and “less than”, but instead of curling up into a ball and believing things that people were trying to make me believe, I made a choice.  I decided that I am the  master of my own destiny.  I get to decide who and what I am in this life and that the actions of NOBODY can change that.

I have found that I love to express myself through my style and I definitely don’t follow rules, guidelines and I only ever wear something if it is something I love – not what the latest trends dictate we SHOULD be wearing!  By choosing to be me, it helps me control who I am (which is honestly the only thing I can control).  The outfit I am wearing in this post is not totally unique, but I did add my own twist.  I added a pair of fishnet ankle socks by Kate Spade to give the look a little more funk!

 

 

I’m telling you a little about my story to let you know that no matter who someone is, how you perceive them, everyone has their path and sometimes it has been rocky!  It is definitely easy to look at someone, especially with everything we see on social media, and judge them for what we “perceive” to be true.  It is human nature to want what others have, to wish we could do the things that others can do and so on.  This only becomes a problem when we allow that to dictate how we feel.

I 100% believe that we can determine our own destiny by our thoughts.  Don’t get me wrong, we still need to take action, but I tell my kids all the time “how much more do you accomplish when you go about something with a positive attitude rather than being bugged that you have to do it?”  No matter how positive you are you are still going to have bad or hard things happen in your life, but if you have already figured out how to be positive about things, when these things come along, they definitely don’t seem as bad.

You see two people walking down the street, one has their head down and has a furrowed brow or a frown on their face, while the other makes eye contact with you and even smiles.  Which person are you most drawn to?  I know what my answer is…and I am guessing yours is the same.  Bottom line, if we want to attract nice people, things, circumstances and happiness into our life, we need to focus on having a good attitude about things even when they are going wrong.

I have studied the human body quite extensively, and my degree is even in Physiology.  What I learned is that the cells of our body are basically magnets to negativity and positivity.  In a nutshell, what you give is what you get.

So, this week, if you want to look more beautiful, start by thinking good, happy, positive thoughts!!