I have always loved the superhero movies – maybe because I grew up in a home with only brothers and now I only have sons. Nevertheless, when a new movie comes out I am the first to want to be there, and I absolutely love them!
With all of that being said, I do believe that the world actually has REAL superheroes. I don’t believe in them in the same way that Superman can fly or Aquaman (oh boy! Aquaman…) can actually survive underwater, but more in the sense that we all have our own super powers should we choose to use them.
Our family went to watch “Glass” earlier this week, and for those of you that have seen that or seen “Unbreakable” or “Split” you may get where I am going with this. I don’t want to be the one to ruin this movie for you just in case you haven’t seen it, but just know that in the movie things you would not expect to be superpowers or strengths actually are what make the characters super-human. I really enjoyed the movie and would definitely recommend it. Unbreakable was the prequel to this movie and released in 2000. In that movie Bruce Willis’s character was the sole survivor of a train wreck and it was at that point after he had experienced such trauma that he realized what his superpower was.
After I watched it I started contemplating how if in the movie (and yes, I do know that it was not based on fact), if it was possible to have strengths or superpowers, then why not in real life? I have always believed that our talents or strengths are actually our superpowers. We are not all good at the same things, and that is what makes us stronger and more unique.
The quote I posted at the top of this blog is one that really resonated with me, because if we consider our weaknesses and how they can stop us from reaching our full potential, how amazing would it be if we converted those weaknesses into our strengths?
So, if we consider our weaknesses and how we can turn them into our strengths, what is the one that you really want to be your superpower? I would love to say that I am going to turn the fact that I am not the fastest runner into me being The Flash, but in the real world, that will never happen. So, I am going to focus on those things I know can make me stronger, more confident, resilient and happy!
For now – I consider my superpowers to be: I believe I can do anything if I put my mind to it, confidence, empathy, and inner strength. What are yours?
https://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Confidence-Superpower.jpg54723648Stylequeeniehttps://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/SQL2-300x84.pngStylequeenie2019-01-24 09:08:062019-01-24 09:08:15I Believe in Superheroes
Perfection is something that is one of those unattainable goals that we somehow seem to be striving for, always in vain. We set expectations on ourselves and set ourselves up for failure when our goal or expectation is to become perfect.
It is easy to get caught up in wanting ourselves to be perfect, but it is also very dangerous because when we are wanting that perfection it very often doesn’t stop at ourselves and we come to want or even expect that from others around us as well!
In previous posts I’ve talked a little about how comparison of ourselves to others is fatal, and in this age of social media, it’s really hard to not allow ourselves to succumb to such self-sabotaging behavior. So how do we change our mindset so that striving for personal excellence is what we aim for? Here are some things that I use daily and they work for me:
Choose to focus only on being better each day than the day before – rather than focusing on what we’re doing wrong or we’re not great at.
Choose to appreciate and love the things we are good at and build on those…
Practice positive self-talk so that we can start to realize how amazing we are.
Allow ourselves to celebrate any victory, whether great or small. That way we are not always dissatisfied with our results. We have to appreciate the small things first otherwise we won’t know what the big things are!
Don’t just focus on the outcome – a lot of growth and strength building comes in the journey. In the learning – you know, the falling down and getting up!
Sometimes procrastination comes from not wanting to not be able to complete something or do it perfectly. Allowing ourselves the grace to not finish something immediately gives us the opportunity to avoid procrastination and learn something along the way.
I know when I let go of my need to control everything, my need for things to go EXACTLY according to a plan I might have in my mind, I am always pleasantly surprised by the results I get. My expectations have been known to get me into trouble, because I promise you the scenarios and outcomes I create in my mind are so much more elaborate than I could ever create in real life. It took me a while to realize that I didn’t want to hold myself back and I certainly didn’t want to be unhappy…but once I did, it created a huge amount of freedom and was light a weight being lifted off my shoulders.
I used to think that the pressure I put on myself – the pressure to create success and fulfillment – was what made me successful, but what I have realized after A LONG time is that it’s actually the opposite. I am always going to be driven, motivated, have a love of stepping out of my comfort zone, but it was actually the expectations and the need for perfection that held me back rather than making me better. It’s hard to come to the realization that I was sabotaging my own success, but once I did and I became conscious about my behavior…that’s when the magic started to happen!
https://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/SQ_Dec18_Pt2141.jpg54723648Stylequeeniehttps://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/SQL2-300x84.pngStylequeenie2019-01-22 07:36:302019-01-22 07:36:39Real Not Perfect
As I think back to my childhood I realize that there were so many times that people told me negative things which caused me to feel bad or insecure with myself. In fact, one of the things that I was told when I was growing up by “mean girls” was that I had a huge chin and that it made me look like a witch. I’ll admit that there were some times where I wasn’t sure what they were saying was true or not, and it definitely made me self conscious.
It took me a few years to realize that those that told me those things were probably saying it because they felt insecure or less than confident about themselves. I had a choice at that time to either let what they told me become what I believed and repeated to myself, or to not let it get to me. I was a teenager when it happened, and it was one of the must vulnerable times in my life. My choice was to embrace my features, enjoy who I was and not only carry on but to hold my head up and be proud! I looked at my family and realized that my “strong” chin – which is what I choose to call it – came from my Grandad and he was an AMAZING man! How could I possibly feel bad about it?
As I think back to that time in my life I realize that it was a turning point – it was the time that I made a decision to not let others determine how I feel about myself. It was at that time I promised myself that I would always stand up for myself and be bold! If I could see the people that said mean things about me, I would want to thank them – because if they had not said those things, I wouldn’t have become the strong, determined, powerful and fulfilled woman that I am.
There are definitely people in this life that are going to try and make you feel bad about yourself, who you are, what you look like and very often undermine what you are capable of. I can promise you that NO ONE can make you feel anything. It is your choice to believe what people say or think about you or not.
I have found at times in my life that some people I thought were my friends chose to root against me, to sabotage my success, and quite often be two-faced and almost a wolf in sheep’s clothing. As I become older and more mature I realize that I have no control over how people act or how they think, but I do have control over how it affects me. When someone points out a weakness of mine or roots against me, I choose to not focus on that but rather on being the best me that I can be!
What I have also found is that for all the negativity out there…there is still so much positivity. I choose to focus on that.
Whatever we focus on we end up with more of – so why not think the best about yourself, your talents, your blessings…see what happens!
https://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/SQ_Dec18_075.jpg54723648Stylequeeniehttps://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/SQL2-300x84.pngStylequeenie2019-01-16 07:36:442019-01-16 07:36:56Turn Weakness into Strength
Something that has always been apparent in my life is the need for me to laugh. I like to think of myself as quick witted, because I love to say things a little off the cuff to make others laugh too. I’ll tell you why…I have always loved laughing and find greater connections with others when I feel that they have the same sense of humor as me or are equally as “strange” 😉
When I first came to the US from England and I was newly married I found myself sometimes getting offended or hurt by things Brandon or others might say. I was brought up so much more reserved, I was taught that sometimes saying something to someone wasn’t necessary. Not that I have ever had a problem giving people a piece of my mind…I just was taught that it was so much more important to be polite over “just being honest”.
My family was one that always laughed and made fun of each other, but somehow we just knew that it was a joke and a little cheeky. It’s weird that even though I had been brought up that way and my family and I had done that, when Brandon particularly said things it made me feel a little self conscious and sensitive. The good thing about having a mindset coach for a husband is that he is ALWAYS willing to talk things through and somehow we just figure out a way to make it work.
Over the years I have learned that I need to not take myself so seriously, and I have actually learned to laugh at myself. Being a work in progress is nothing to be ashamed of, in fact, it’s absolutely vital. I do still get called the “fun sponge” but more often than not I try new things, I don’t mind if I screw up and make a fool of myself, but most importantly I work on not letting ideas be more important than people.
One thing I look forward to in 2019 is the opportunity to smile more, have more fun, create even more connections and love my life even more.
Laughter truly is something that makes every situation more enjoyable…in fact, when we create experiences that involve laughter and smiling they are always more memorable. Even if you don’t remember exactly what you were laughing about, remembering the feeling you had and the experience of connecting with those you love is felt throughout our bodies FOREVER. I can still remember the feeling I had when I was around my Grandad Ron…he always made us all laugh because he was quick witted and funny. His saying that still brings a smile to my face was “Happen she/he wasn’t thinking” – he would say that whenever someone would do something that was an accident or not intentional.
Because smiling and laughter is contagious in our house when someone gets started on a good laughing fit, there are always going to be others that join in at some point. My kids tease me that when I really laugh, not only do I cry but also my right eye closes and they say I look like a pirate. I’m totally OK with it, especially because at the very moment that I know my eye is closing, I am having the time of my life. Who knows, I may even capture a picture of me with the eye closed mid-laughter at some point soon.
If you don’t resolve to do anything else for 2019, decide to add a little more smiling and laughter into your life and see what happens. I bet you won’t be able to say you’re not having fun!
https://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/SQ_Dec18_150.jpg54723648Stylequeeniehttps://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/SQL2-300x84.pngStylequeenie2018-12-27 09:30:052018-12-27 09:30:13Laughter - the Best Medicine
Christmas is the season for so many things: Family time, present buying, parties and friends. Even if you’re not spending your time going to parties or spending it with friends, there’s definitely nothing wrong with “shining” a little. I know, sounds a little strange, but we hear a lot about making a good impression or dressing for an occasion, and all of those are great, but unless you are letting your inner light shine, are you really making a good impression?
I have spent the past few years becoming more and more aware of how my actions and behavior most definitely changes the outcome that I get. I realized a few years ago when I was going through a kind of dark time in my life, that if I wanted light or positivity to show up in my life then I had to be the start of that light.
Sensitivity to energy is something we all have but some more than others. I noticed that when I surrounded myself with people that didn’t evoke a positive feeling in me, or even worse that made me feel dark or even down, I wasn’t able to be as resilient to certain situations or when adversity hit my life. I realized that I must also be doing that to others too when I was not putting off a positive or light energy.
This may sound a little woo-woo, but I can attest 100% that I had to change MY behavior before anything in my life would change. I had actually reached the point where I didn’t even like being around me because I knew I was more focused on negative than positive, and I was more likely to see the cup as half empty rather than half full.
I don’t know if you have ever experienced this yourself or not, but even if you haven’t I am sure you have been around someone and for some reason you just felt a weird around them or they felt a little “off” and you couldn’t figure out why. Before someone even speaks our body is picking up on their energy and if that energy isn’t good, we may not understand exactly what is happening but chances are we feel uncomfortable or don’t want to be around them.
I made a choice to change my energy, to focus more on positivity and on bringing more light to others. After making a choice to do this and working on it every day, I have noticed that the more light I give off, the more light I actually get in return. If you haven’t heard the expression “you get what you give” I can tell you that for this example, it is exactly true. Just like the more love we give the more we get, it is true about light too.
So, as I plan spending family time tomorrow, amidst all the chaos of the Christmas season, I am focused on being the light in my home, in being the one that when someone feels like they need strength or positivity, that they can turn to me.
I don’t know if you experience this in your home or not, but I can tell you if I am having a bad day or I feel sad, EVERYONE in my house knows it. They know because the light or energy they are used to seeing from me isn’t present during my “down” times. I used to think that it was too much responsibility for me or that I didn’t want all of that to rest of my shoulders, but I have definitely changed my mindset so that now I think of it is as a privilege rather than a weight on my shoulders.
I wish you all a Merry Christmas…I hope your inner light finds its way to the surface and you have wonderful time filled with love and light!
Shop my look by clicking the links below…
https://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/SQ_Dec18_217.jpg54723648Stylequeeniehttps://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/SQL2-300x84.pngStylequeenie2018-12-24 10:00:322018-12-23 23:11:46Shine a Little
Do you ever wish that you could go back to your 20 year old self and tell them something that you have learned? I am constantly finding things that I wish my 20 year old self knew, so that I wouldn’t be scrambling to fix things I would have taken care of already.
For example, I am sure you know about muscle memory, and how when you do something often enough and well enough, your body just remembers what to do and goes back to doing it. It’s kind of like riding a bike – something our minds and muscles don’t forget.
One thing I have been thinking about recently is how I am determined to grow old at MY pace. I don’t want to be that little old Grandma sitting in a rocking chair with my grey hair in a bun. Not that there is anything wrong with being that Grandma I just don’t think it would suit me.
My actual Grandma didn’t pass away until she was almost 97 and right up until the end she was fabulous. I once asked her what her secret was and she told me that taking care of herself, especially her skin had always been vital for her. She went clothes shopping right up until the end, she cared about how she looked, not because she was vain, but because it was important for her to feel good. I realized that I am the exact same way. I dress up and take care of myself because of ME and how it makes ME feel!
I am always searching for new products and ideas to help me age gracefully. I recently had the pleasure to try out some new collagen anti-aging skin products…and even after only using them for a week I can feel a difference. As you know one of the things that aging does to your skin is to diminish its elasticity and plumpness. Immediately when I started using this Meriance line, I could feel the skin on my face tightening and it just felt a lot softer. I don’t know about you, but I am pretty much willing to try any product at least once to find out if it works for my skin, especially if it means that I can delay or redirect my aging process. It kind of drives me crazy that my husband, Brandon, just seems to get better looking with age, and I feel like I notice a new wrinkle every single day.
While I don’t want prevent aging completely, I certainly do want to delay it as long as possible. If you haven’t heard of Meriance, it is a Canadian company, I would recommend checking them out. You can click this link to do some research or try some products for yourself.
I am using the Full Anti-aging skincare kit, and right now they are offering $100 off the total cost of the kit if you use the code STYLEQUEENIE100 at the checkout. I never recommend something unless I feel like it works, I like it for myself and I believe it is a good value, and this kit, well it answers all three of those questions. Just click here to shop this kit or one of the others they have to offer
https://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/SQ_September_061-e1545410997797.jpg22163639Stylequeeniehttps://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/SQL2-300x84.pngStylequeenie2018-12-21 10:12:242018-12-21 10:12:33Don't give in to Aging
I think one of the biggest challenges we face when trying to figure out what our style is or how to dress is the fact that there are so many options and styles available. There is a huge problem in society where we tend to overthink things, or even talk ourselves out of things because we are worried what others might think, or we are just not confident enough to trust our instincts.
Confidence in today’s world is word that is thrown around all the time, but what does it really mean? Around the age of 9 we start focusing more on what other people think and tend to shape ourselves more after the reactions we get from people rather than by what actually makes us feel good. The good news, just as we chose to mold our thought process after what others think, we can change that same thought process and make it more into what we want it to be.
The only way to do that is just to jump in and start dressing for YOU without any thought (or at least not giving in to the fear that you might not be accepted) and just go for it. Starting small, keeping it simple is the best way to start. Because there are so many style options out there, the best way to create your own unique style and do it for YOU is to start by finding colors that you love. Once you have your favorite color (one that looks good against your skin tone), then you start looking for styles that flatter your body type (of course, only ones that you like and not what you think others will like).
The pictures in today’s post are a couple of years old because I wanted to demonstrate that simple can also be timeless. A simple pair of faux leather leggings, a peplum top (flattering when you are looking to accentuate a smaller waist or give the appearance of a small waist) and a leather jacket. Simple – classy and comfortable. When you dress using simple pieces like these, a great way to add a little funk is by adding some fun accessories and shoes. A pair of fun drop earrings, a chunky pearl bracelet and some bold pumps.
The key is to not let the fear, over thinking or lack of confidence dictate what you wear or how you feel. I know that may sound easier said than done, but honestly the only way to grow your confidence is to expand your comfort zone and try new things. Loving to dress for YOU is the start of having an amazing relationship with yourself. If we don’t love and treat ourselves the way we deserve to be treated, other’s won’t know that’s how they should be treating us.
Confidence is like love, the more you have the more you get…the hardest part is just latching on to that little bit that is already inside you. I believe that everyone in this world has at least one thing they can own and be proud of. That one thing that makes you know how amazing you are. It could be something like being a good cook, having creativity and using that to make your house into a home, being exceptionally patient with your kids to name just a few. There is always something, and that feeling you get when you feel satisfaction after accomplishment or showing love, that is the feeling you will want to latch onto. Use that to help you gain confidence in any other area of your life…trust me, I have used this so many times in my life and it works.
I hope you have a blessed weekend, and if you feel like sharing something that you did to help you gain more confidence, I would love to hear!
https://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/SQ_Leather081.jpg54723648Stylequeeniehttps://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/SQL2-300x84.pngStylequeenie2018-12-14 11:18:412018-12-19 11:42:59Keep it Simple
“Ask yourself – what’s really important and then have the courage and wisdom to build your life around the answer!”
I recently came across this concept and I absolutely fell in love with it…
It’s the concept of creating your own day. What I mean is, other than your birthday, what day do you use to celebrate YOU? I have found that my birthday, as enjoyable as it is, is never really just about me – not in a bad way, but it involves celebrations, dinners, and very often I have to work. So when I came across this concept I immediately latched onto it.
Here’s the thought…Make a day your own. Create a celebration of you and spend time doing whatever it is that sets your soul on fire. If it’s being alone, then do that, if you prefer to be with friends or family, do that. Ultimately the goal is to take a day to reflect on where you are in your life, what you’ve accomplished, how you feel about yourself, what you are grateful for and so on. My theory (I haven’t actually tried it yet) is that I will feel rejuvenated, I will find it easier to handle stresses, challenges, disappointments and it will reaffirm why I love my life. I know, no matter what, there are always things that aren’t the best that are happening in our lives, but when you start to look at how things are happening FOR you and not TO you, it can change your perspective.
I haven’t decided the date I am going to celebrate my day, but I’ll give you some ideas of what I love to do so that maybe you can come up with some of your own or use some of mine:
I will workout in the morning, that way I know no matter what happens during the day, I feel good about me knowing I am taking care of my body.
I will get a massage, a pedicure or a facial. Just a few things that are focused on self-care and love.
I will have a lunch at one of my favorite lunch spots with a friend that I know will lift me up.
I will do a little shopping – it actually relaxes me.
I will find the best bakery in town and get myself the most decadent dessert (I have to because there’s no birthday cake 😉 ) And I won’t feel guilty because I worked out already.
I will go for a drive up the canyon and take in all the beauty. I love to drive different ways, see different things and feel appreciation. If the weather is warm enough I will trade the drive for a bike ride. I love taking my mountain bike into the foothills and getting dusty while I am enjoying the view.
I will go to dinner with my lovely husband, because he’s the one that can make me feel the most amazing of all.
It may seem silly, but if there is something I can do to help in the self care department or something that will help me remember that I am important and that ME taking care of ME doesn’t have to mean neglecting anyone else. in fact, it is necessary to take care of me, so that I CAN take care of others.
What do you think about this concept? Are you on board?
My birthday is February and I hate that I can’t do a lot of the things I love because the weather is usually cold, so I will probably plan MICHELLE DAY for a day in the spring or summer…stay tuned! I’ll post some pics 🙂
you can shop some coats similar to the one I’m wearing by clicking the links below…
https://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/SQ_GAH_Nov18_135.jpg36485472Stylequeeniehttps://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/SQL2-300x84.pngStylequeenie2018-12-07 13:14:552018-12-07 13:18:15Create Your Own Day
“Improve by just 1% every day, and in just 100 days you are twice as good!”
I feel very fortunate to have always been able to listen to my body when it comes to hunger, and seem to know what I want. I had a client I used to work with that after a few times of taking him to lunch he nicknamed me “small portions” because I only ever eat what I hear my body telling me what I need. That way I don’t have to feeling of being bloated and I know I can eat pretty much at least a small amount of whatever I fancy!
I know that isn’t true for everyone, so after having lunch with a friend, Claudia, and she told me about her amazing book “One, Two Punch” I just knew I had to share about it and here’s why…
You can click on this picture to buy the book for yourself…
Claudia Wilson, Author and so much more!
How many of you know the difference between HUNGER and APPETITE? I don’t know if I consciously knew either, at least until I read this book. HUNGER is your body’s need to eat, APPETITE is your desire to eat. It is a simple explanation of something that if unchecked can get even the best eater into trouble. For example, how many of you eat when it’s TIME to eat, when you’re bored, when you’re watching TV or a movie, rather than when you’re hungry? If any of those things are something you do all the time, then you definitely need to read this book, if you do it sometimes (and even I do it sometimes), I still don’t think it would hurt for you to read the book either 😉
If we really listen and learn how to hear what our body is telling us, we can actually not just learn to know we are hungry but also learn what our body needs to eat. The thing about this book that I love the most is that it doesn’t say you have to diet, but it says by choosing to balance your meals and not counting calories, you can actually eat a little bit of whatever you want – remember me saying that I like to eat “a little bit of whatever I fancy”. So, what you do is look at the amount of carbs that you have with a meal and balance that with protein and fats. She teaches about how this method works anywhere, when you’re traveling (no need to measure or count calories), all you need to do is look at the portion size. And here’s the best part – you measure the size of a portion by the size of your fist! So with this method you’re not depriving yourself of ANYTHING just making better choices (and the key here is that it’s YOUR choice).
I know I have talked to friends and family and they talk about their experience with diets and how they don’t work. It’s mainly because their choice is taken away, and pretty much everyone in the world doesn’t want to controlled or have their choice taken away (even if it is by ourselves!)
In today’s social age we can definitely become distracted by going out to dinner with friends, chatting and not being conscious to listen to our bodies and find out if we are full. I know I am always going to go to dinner with friends and family, so it just means I have to be paying attention a little more. I have definitely been guilty of filling up on appetizers or bread before my meal comes and before I know it all I have eaten are carbs, and my intake is not balanced. Obviously that doesn’t work with this method because the One, Two Punch is about balance and portion size… so now I will be more conscious about not snacking before my meal comes. The same can also be said about eating a meal in front of the TV, especially if you’re watching something that is very intense or has your pinned to your seat. Ultimately the key is to focus on eating while you’re eating, that way you know to drink as you eat, you can listen to your body to know when you’re full and leave food on the plate if you don’t need it. I know it can be hard to leave food uneaten, especially if you’re out at a nice restaurant and are paying for the meal, but for you and the wellbeing of your body, knowing when to say when is also necessary!
If you are that person that has a fear of missing out, which can be one of the main reasons many quit their “diets”, if you’re looking for something that will allow you to be more conscious about your eating – because 90% of how we look comes from what we put into our body! Then you need to click this link or the picture of the book above, to buy the book! Use the code STYLE to get 10% off!
I love one of the quotes in the book “There’s no wagon to fall off” – that whole “I screwed up so I’m going to restart on Monday” kind of excuse doesn’t work.
Stop beating yourself up and just work on being more conscious moving forward. And here’s the most important thing – START NOW!!! Go ahead, order the book and see what happens in your life. Even if all you want to do is find a routine that helps you balance your weight and health fluctuations, this will work for you!!
And here’s another thought, this is a great Christmas gift – I have a few people in mind that I want to give this to! At the very least, go and check out her site and read a little more for yourself…
(Shop my looks my clicking these links below – I may receive a small commission if you buy but that commission doesn’t come by adding that to your cost)
https://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/Body.jpg54723648Stylequeeniehttps://stylequeenie.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/SQL2-300x84.pngStylequeenie2018-11-09 09:01:452018-11-20 09:28:21Listen to Your Body
“Life is a mirror – what you see from your outside comes from your inside!”
Whether you’re like I was when I started this blog and hate having your picture taken, or even if you don’t mind at all, there are definitely some pictures that you HATE and those that you LOVE!
Thankfully in this digital age and with fast shutter speeds a lot of the pictures I have taken manage to capture me without my eyes closed, and some even make me have that “Vogue” feeling – where I feel like I could actually be a model. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t ACTUALLY think I could be in Vogue magazine, but I have learned to appreciate my beauty and definitely love finding good pictures of me.
The reason I am telling you this is that it is so important for us to see our own beauty, and like the quote says, true beauty comes from being beautiful on the inside too. I have known a lot of people in my life that may not have had the most attractive features but once I got to know them, I realized that they were the most beautiful of all people…because they radiated that inner beauty. The same can be said for those people that have the perfect features, and are pleasing to the eye, if they are not beautiful on the inside, that will eventually show and they won’t be seen as beautiful people. Do you remember that movie “Shallow Hal” with Jack Black and it had a cameo from Tony Robbins who actually taught him to see the inside and not just the outside. Once he did that he started overlooking people’s outside flaws and saw them for who they really are.
OK, so I know that Tony Robbins is not going to actually do that for each of us, but here’s a great way we can start: We can see ourselves as beautiful, recognize beauty in others (and not just appearance beauty but the real stuff) and the more that we look for it, the more we will see it (including in ourselves). I know a lot of people that can truly see beauty in others but have a hard time seeing it in themselves. For whatever reason they don’t like to look for it. Here’s what I’ll tell you, just like the lack of inner beauty eventually shows, so does the real beauty and no matter what, even if you kid yourself that you aren’t actually beautiful or deserve love, guess what, it’s going to come out in the end. You may as well see it for yourself because it’s not something that can be permanently hidden.
Shop my outfit & more by clicking the links below
Perhaps it’s a worthiness, where because of something in your past you don’t feel worthy of love or anyone’s praise? Perhaps you have heard your entire life that you aren’t beautiful from someone you trusted or loved? Or it could even be that you have faced some type of bullying or abuse? The only way you can change your past is by changing your future. If you’re still believing what someone told you, how you felt, and you’re ultimately agreeing with what they said or did, then you are still allowing that person or situation to control you. Maybe i’m the only one that has a problem with control, but I can tell you, something like that wouldn’t sit well with me – I definitely wouldn’t want to feel that someone or something else had power over me.
Don’t get me wrong, there have been times in my life when I have felt “less than” because of someone’s behavior, because of not meeting unrealistic expectations I put on myself, and many more reasons. So, when I did eventually come to my senses and realize that in order to move through something I had to just let go, that’s when everything changed. I have been known to have a hard time letting things go, i’m not going to lie, so when I tell you that I did it, just know that it didn’t happen overnight. In fact it took years, and during that time when I didn’t let go I was absolutely miserable. I had this notion that everyone should know what an injustice had been done to me, that it just wasn’t fair, and honestly I thought I was fighting back, but what I realized is that what I was doing was perpetuating the situation.
So how do we move through something so that we can start to see our beauty (and not just the mirror reflection kind of beauty)? The easy answer is just change your thoughts, but that’s easier said than done. So honestly, here’s what it will take…repetition, telling ourself that we are beautiful, so that eventually we start to see what others see. And here’s the best news, as you start to see beauty in yourself, the beauty around you becomes so much more pronounced and life just starts to seem rosier!
I don’t about you but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with looking at the world through rose colored glasses – who knows we might actually start to find things and people we didn’t even know existed.
Happy Wednesday – you’ve made it to the middle of the week, there’s definitely beauty in that!