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Laughter – the Best Medicine

Always find a reason to laugh. It may not add years to your life but it will definitely add life to your years!

Something that has always been apparent in my life is the need for me to laugh. I like to think of myself as quick witted, because I love to say things a little off the cuff to make others laugh too. I’ll tell you why…I have always loved laughing and find greater connections with others when I feel that they have the same sense of humor as me or are equally as “strange” 😉

When I first came to the US from England and I was newly married I found myself sometimes getting offended or hurt by things Brandon or others might say. I was brought up so much more reserved, I was taught that sometimes saying something to someone wasn’t necessary. Not that I have ever had a problem giving people a piece of my mind…I just was taught that it was so much more important to be polite over “just being honest”.

My family was one that always laughed and made fun of each other, but somehow we just knew that it was a joke and a little cheeky. It’s weird that even though I had been brought up that way and my family and I had done that, when Brandon particularly said things it made me feel a little self conscious and sensitive. The good thing about having a mindset coach for a husband is that he is ALWAYS willing to talk things through and somehow we just figure out a way to make it work.

Over the years I have learned that I need to not take myself so seriously, and I have actually learned to laugh at myself. Being a work in progress is nothing to be ashamed of, in fact, it’s absolutely vital. I do still get called the “fun sponge” but more often than not I try new things, I don’t mind if I screw up and make a fool of myself, but most importantly I work on not letting ideas be more important than people.

One thing I look forward to in 2019 is the opportunity to smile more, have more fun, create even more connections and love my life even more.

Laughter truly is something that makes every situation more enjoyable…in fact, when we create experiences that involve laughter and smiling they are always more memorable. Even if you don’t remember exactly what you were laughing about, remembering the feeling you had and the experience of connecting with those you love is felt throughout our bodies FOREVER. I can still remember the feeling I had when I was around my Grandad Ron…he always made us all laugh because he was quick witted and funny. His saying that still brings a smile to my face was “Happen she/he wasn’t thinking” – he would say that whenever someone would do something that was an accident or not intentional.

Because smiling and laughter is contagious in our house when someone gets started on a good laughing fit, there are always going to be others that join in at some point. My kids tease me that when I really laugh, not only do I cry but also my right eye closes and they say I look like a pirate. I’m totally OK with it, especially because at the very moment that I know my eye is closing, I am having the time of my life. Who knows, I may even capture a picture of me with the eye closed mid-laughter at some point soon.

If you don’t resolve to do anything else for 2019, decide to add a little more smiling and laughter into your life and see what happens. I bet you won’t be able to say you’re not having fun!

Michelle
XOXO


It’s all in the Smile

 

“Light up the night wild one, your smile is going to change someone’s life!”

Does it seem sometimes that life is too serious, and that there should be a time when we can just let it go, be ourselves and smile?  I have always loved to smile, but I am not one that can fake something easily, so just know this, when I smile, it’s because I really mean it.  It’s usually because I have had a funny thought, I see someone or something that I like, or just because the happy energy I feel inside is a little too much to be contained.  Whatever it is that makes you smile, here are a few things to consider that may make you want to smile more…

1. Smiling is contagious – when you see someone smile it is almost impossible to stop yourself from smiling, because our body’s mirror neurons copy what they’re doing!  If you want to see more smiles, you have to give more smile!
2.  If you’re feeling sad, forcing yourself to smile can actually improve your mood by increasing your body’s endorphins – you’ve heard the expression “fake it until you feel it”…well, in the case of a smile, it actually works!
3.  If you smile a smile that’s big enough to make your eyes squint, you boost your immune system, which in turn decreases the cortisol in your body, which can create a number of side effects you don’t want or need!
4.  It can reduce your blood pressure – you know those endorphins that improve your mood, well they also reduce your blood pressure.
5.  Smiling can actually make you look prettier – I don’t know about you but I’ll take as much help as I can in this department!
6.  It’s actually easier to smile than frown…meaning that you’re using less muscles, reducing the likelihood of having extra wrinkles.
7.  People who smile are more likely to be promoted – it demonstrates that you are happy, eager to work with and engaged, and that’s what employers love to see.

 

 

I can tell you that there have been times in my life where someone has smiled at me when I was feeling down and that smile was enough to lift me up.  Even if you don’t buy into any of this, what if you could be the person that someone else might need to see smiling?  What if you could be there for someone else that really needs you?

Without a doubt the happiest times in my life are those times when I wasn’t self-absorbed or just focused on myself, or when I took it a step further and actually focused on being there for someone else.  So, what if all you need to do is smile at someone and that is enough to change their perception about something? That’s not counting all the benefits you’ll receive…would that be worth it to you?

We have seen so many people in the media (like Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain) who had the perception of being happy, or at least fulfilled in their lives.  We would see them and think that they had the perfect life or that everything was great with them.  It just shows that we don’t really know what is going on with another individual or how they are feeling.  Sometimes people can be in the depths of despair without anyone having an inkling…

Things aren’t always going to be great, our lives are never going to be perfect, but that doesn’t mean we can’t make them that way. There is always someone that can be there for you – there is someone that you can be there for…

Choose to spread a little light and receive light if that’s what you need.

Happy Wednesday!

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Laughter- the Best Medicine

“If you laugh a lot, when you get older, your wrinkles will be in the right places!”

As I was driving to work today I started thinking about my life, things I have done, people I have met and the things I am grateful for.  I contemplated my relationships and how much I treasure them and what it is that makes them special.  The one thing that I realized is that laughter is vital in my life.  For as long as I can remember I have always loved to make people laugh or smile and I gravitate to those people that do the same for me.  Not that I can’t be serious (because I am English you know and we do love to be reserved and serious) but laughter…that’s my favorite.

Because knowing facts about things is so important to me, I did a little research to find out why laughter might seem to cure so many things, and here’s what I found:

Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells which improves our ability to fight disease. It also triggers the release of endorphins which promote a sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain.

So, the expression “laughter is the best medicine” actually does have medical implications – I don’t know about you but I would much rather laugh than have to take medicine of any kind 😉

 

With all of this being said, laughter is only the start of the things that you can do for yourself that will help keep you vitalized and young.  Finding something else that you love will also help – especially if that thing is some kind of exercise…even if it’s just walking, you will find a huge difference in your outlook, energy and most importantly, you’ll be having fun!

So, how do you add more laughter and fun into your life, you ask…well, I have found that the more fun, spontaneous, sassy and interesting people that I surround myself with, the more I find laughter just appears in my life because I love spending time with them.  We all have different personality types, different sense of humors, and different life experiences, so who you associate with should be in tune with what you love or are looking to attract into your life.

Have you ever noticed that sometimes you may be in the mood to watch a movie and the only ones that appeal to you are comedies – I take that as a sign that my body needs some laughter, so I always like to make sure I an listening and I of course oblige 😉

However you choose to invite laughter into your life, remember – we don’t laugh because we’re happy, we’re happy because we laugh!

Have a wonderful weekend my friends!

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