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How Strong is your Boot Game?

Your style is confined only by the walls you build yourself!

The right shoes or boots can make or break an outfit, so when I came across these gold boots I just knew they had to be mine. They’re not new, I have had them for a couple of years, but I still love them and I absolutely love breaking them out every once in a while when I want to elevate my outfit.

We are drawing to a close of the season where boots are worn all the time, but I also love the idea of wearing boots in warmer months too. In fact, to me, there’s nothing that shows more sass that a cute sundress or skirt with some boots or booties. Just a different take on a regular summer vibe.

So how is your boot game?

Do you shy away from boots that are too high, too bright, too much of anything? I’m definitely not saying that everyone should hurry out there and buy themselves a pair of metallic boots like mine (but I have linked a similar pair below just in case – and they’re less than $10 right now), but what I am saying is that you love to wear boots, you feel comfortable in boots and you are looking to elevate your style…try adding a pair of funky boots. In fact, as we draw closer to spring, it’s probably a great time to add some to your wardrobe because there are so many on sale right now!~

You may also notice that I am wearing a super cool mermaid styled faux leather skirt (again a throwback but I have linked a similar one below), because leather also is fabulous for ANY season…

The key to transitioning your style from season to season is to not always follow rules. I never pack away all of my winter or summer clothes, because sometimes adding a piece from a different season can create a really cool vibe. Like the boots, or the leather…because I find it important to put my own stamp on everything.

Again, if you’re looking for some fun boots on sale or some leather pieces to add to your closet…you can click the links below.

Shop your Closet

You can’t change what’s going on around you until you start changing what’s going on within you!

While it would be wonderful, I realize that shopping every time we have somewhere to go or something to do is not reasonable, which is why sometimes shopping in our closets can be so much fun too! Sometimes I am amazed at the things I find, and it gives me the opportunity to create even more styles that are unique to me!

We are approaching spring pretty quickly here which means that the weather is changing (hopefully), and therefore the clothes we wear will also change. At the beginning of a new season I love to go through my closet, pull out clothes that I had from last year and put together some combinations just using those pieces I already own. I start out by picking out a single piece and finding funky, different combinations that will work with that piece. It’s a great way to recycle what we have from previous years or seasons without looking like we are just wearing the same thing over and over. For example, if I have a top that I have worn with a specific pair of pants or skirt in the past, I try it with jeans or I add something else to make it different (like a scarf or a vest/cardigan).

As I am sorting through my clothes from previous seasons I also like to donate some as well – leaving me room to go and buy a few more pieces that are specific for this year. I don’t ever get rid of everything completely but I have a rule – if I haven’t worn it for at least one season, it’s time for someone else to have the opportunity to wear it 🙂

Since we remodeled our house a few years ago, I have a good sized closet, but that doesn’t stop me from packing away things I know I won’t be able to wear during a season. In fact, one of my most favorite things to do is to pull out my spring/summer clothes that have been packed away and find some gems I had forgotten about. I’m not going to lie, sometimes I have things in my closet that I have absolutely no recollection of (and I have been known to throw bags in there and never wear things)…
With all of that being said, shopping in my closet can actually like just regular shopping. Even if I find things I have worn before, I take the time to fall in love with them again by creating whole new looks! Do you store your seasonal clothes, shoes and bags?

The green velvet pants I am wearing in this post actually have a green loose fitting jacket, but I wanted to mix things up a little for a colder day. The brown belt and leopard shoes add something a little different, and draw their own attention. Adding a different pair of shoes or a simple accessory like a belt is a great way to create a new vibe without having to think too hard. Because winter is drawing to a close here in Utah, even though the weather can’t seem to make up it’s mind, I am cycling through things I know I won’t want to or be able to wear for a while.

Velvet is not typically a fabric for warmer months, so I am making the most of wearing things that are more appropriate for cold days. However, I will admit that my trusted leather jacket in this picture is something I wear in EVERY season, it’s my go to when I am not sure what the weather will be like. When I travel 9 times out of 10 I take it with me (just in case) and I haven’t regretted it once!

You can shop my look and similar by clicking the links below. The best thing, the green velvet is ON SALE!

5 Tips to Help you Find your Unique Style

Be what you are…This is the first step to becoming better than you are!

One of the easiest ways to put together an outfit is to find unique pieces that express your style and personality. Take the outfit I am wearing, it is a simple skirt with a fun statement bow, a simple short sleeved sweater and some funky earrings. It’s simple, yet I feel like it is really noticeable because I chose a few statement pieces.

So the question is, how do you find things that match your personality? It can definitely be something that requires a little thought and inspiration if it’s not something you are comfortable with. Here are a few things that may help you figure out how to create your own unique style personality:

1. Find things that you are drawn to. If you love a certain color – then use that color to create your look. If you love a certain style and you find yourself drawn to it, why not try it on for size.

2. There are so many styles that I love, but I know from the experience of trying them on that they don’t all look good on me. So, I allow myself to try things, and see how they make me feel – obviously the goal is to feel good AND look good.

3. Remember that your size doesn’t have to determine that you have style. When you have confidence, everything else just seems to work out! When we walk with our heads held high, absolutely believing that we are worthy and strong, that’s what gives defines us. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in worrying what size something is, but honestly no one can see the size label on the inside of your clothes, so why worry about it?

4. Make sure you have plenty of accessories. These are the things that can make or break an outfit…so make sure you have plenty to choose from.

5. I have always trusted myself. When I have a feeling that something is right for me, my instincts haven’t steered me wrong. When you have confidence and believe that you are amazing, listening to yourself becomes easier and easier the more you practice it.

The best thing about any style is that it is always a moving target. Your style isn’t going to remain the same forever, in fact, it changes all the time…

Sometimes finding your style and refining it can be intimidating, so the first thing to do is recognize that you want to make a change or you need help. Asking for help from a friend or seeking inspiration from magazines or blogs is not a shameful thing, in fact, everyone does it. I am always looking for new ideas, researching trends to see what I do and do not like, because I know I don’t know it all.

If you are looking to change your style completely or just seeking a few ideas, I hope that you found something useful in today’s post.

My amazing skirt was sold out, but I have linked some similar ones as well as the sweater and some earrings…just click the links below to shop my look.

Dress For You

Style is a deeply personal expression of who you are, and every time you dress, you are asserting a part of yourself!

When you are truly confident in yourself and what you bring to this world, you don’t ever feel the need to be someone you’re not, which includes dressing for YOU.

Because we are so unique as individuals, it is only a natural reaction to dress to express that uniqueness. When we do that, when we do it for ourselves without a fear of what others will think or the need to seek approval, that is one of the most empowering things we as women can do.

Who isn’t attracted to, or doesn’t want to be around a confident and self-assured person – I know I do. I am always drawn to strong women, and I know that’s because I am that way myself,. It comes down to the old saying of “birds of a feather flock together”.

So, the question is, what do you want to attract in your life? I feel empowered and even stronger when I am around other strong individuals, and the more time I spend around them, the stronger and more confident I feel.

I remember when I was in college I had a few posters on the walls of my apartment- and one of them was a Garfield poster that I found amusing because it showed Garfield with books balanced on his head and the quote said “I learn by osmosis”… I think I found it so funny because as I was taking a lot of medical classes I really wished that it was true.

It may not be true about college learning, but I can tell you that energy is contagious – OK, it may not osmosis but it kind of works in a similar way. When I choose to spend my time around those that lift me up rather than drain me, my cup is filled – which then leaves me energy to pass along and help others.

My style has always been exactly that – MINE. I don’t always wear the most ground breaking styles, or even buy all the newest things out (mainly because I don’t like them all, and I’m definitely not going to spend money on something I don’t like. I find my inspiration in lots of ways, in lots of different places and on lots of different people. I love experimenting, because that’s just me. You may like to stick to things you know, colors you love or you may even hate shopping. Whatever your way of dressing, my hope is that you do it for you. Not for a partner, not to be accepted, not to be envied by flashing lots of expensive designer stuff, and most definitely not to hide who you really are.

I thought it might be kind of fun to come up with a name for my style personality – I am

What is your style personality?

If you find any inspiration for your style from me…you can shop my look by clicking these links:

Be You – Be Different

“Being different isn’t a bad thing, it means you are brave enough to be yourself!”

There are so many things that make us different from everyone else, but we live in a world where it’s almost frowned upon to be different. The sad thing about that is that there are so many reasons that the world needs YOU just as you are, not someone trying to fit in or be like everyone else.

Being different, standing out, expressing yourself just as you are, that takes real courage…but most importantly it means YOU have to know who YOU are!

I don’t know if any of you remember that movie “Runaway Bride”? In that movie Julia Roberts was engaged at least 3 or 4 times and each time literally ran away from the wedding as the groom was standing on the altar. Nobody knew why she did it for a long time, in fact, she gained a reputation and it was newsworthy enough that a reporter went to her small town to write about it. Turns out that what she actually did was fit into a mold of exactly what she thought each of the grooms wanted her to be. Whatever eggs they liked, she liked too. In summary, she pretty much didn’t show up to any of the relationships as herself, and when the reality hit (on the wedding day) she couldn’t go through with it.

I have seen this so much in life, it’s so easy to fall into line with what we think everyone else wants us to be, so much so that we give up who we really are. The problem with that is that the real us is still inside just stuffed down somewhere out of sight, and it means that we can’t ever find complete fulfillment or happiness until we let her or him out!

I have always been a very strong person, but there have definitely been times in my life when I have been afraid to let people see who I really am – specifically in relationships for fear that they wouldn’t love me, or they would leave. I am not the type of person that can live like that, so at some point, usually when I couldn’t take it anymore, I would explode and pretty much blow the relationship anyway. Even with Brandon and I it took me a long time to realize that it was OK to be 100% myself.

I have learned that I don’t need permission to express myself, it doesn’t matter to me if everyone loves everything about me, because I have found that the more authentic and real I am, the more people love being around me anyway.

I love to express my feisty personality through my style, and I have found that the more I love me, the more I love who I am, the more happy I am. My style is uniquely me – and I will always keep it that way! In fact, the jacket that I’m wearing in this post is one that I had customized for me…I saw something similar on Pinterest and had my mum knit it and create my one exactly how I wanted it! What’s better than that?

Being unique is one thing that we all have in common, and it’s exactly what the world needs!

If you could do one thing today that you have been afraid to do, what would it be?

Feel Good in your own Skin

“The best gift you can ever give yourself is the permission to feel safe in your own skin.  To feel worthy, and like you are enough!”

Feeling good in your own skin is so much more than being confident in how you look…it is more about who you are as a person and how you feel about that person.

We all came into this world the same way, but our experiences and our relationships in our lives shape us into who we are today. Sometimes those experiences can  cause us to feel insecure, lacking in confidence, or even make us feel like we are not good enough.  It can be hard to move through things that trigger us, or make us feel like this, but there are definitely steps we can take to help soften us and allow us to feel more worthy, more comfortable in our own skin and ultimately more confident.

I have found that the more I give myself grace for not being perfect, and the more I don’t compare myself or what I do to others, the better I feel about myself.  I can tell you that this getting older thing is not for the faint of heart.  I didn’t realize how much it affected me until I saw some pictures of me when I was younger, and noticed that I have laughter lines, I have wrinkles I had chosen not to notice before and that perhaps my muscles aren’t as toned as they once were.

 

 

So, as we go through life, how do we feel good about ourselves even as these things happen?

Here are a few things that help me – maybe they’ll help you too:

  1. Take care of yourself – for me this can be as simple as taking a bath at night, reading a good book or just having a small amount of time to be left with my thoughts.  I like to be unpredictable, so for me going on a bike ride in a different direction, walking the dog a different route or even driving home a different way allow me to feel free and let the stresses of the day go a little.  We don’t all have the same things that relax us or make us feel good, so whatever it is for you, that’s what you need to do.  It seems like the world is advertising to us all the time about what we should do, eat, wear, and like…but ultimately whatever it is that makes YOU feel good, well that’s what you need to do!
  2. Focus on the good – it’s easy to be critical about your flaws or what is wrong with you…so what if every time you saw something that you didn’t like about you, in turn you found something to appreciate about that thing.  For example, I always had a really flat stomach and that’s not the case anymore…but here’s the best part – I have 4 boys that I am immensely grateful for,  and I wouldn’t trade a little bit of a stomach for any of those kids.  Another could be the wrinkles around my eyes – but I appreciate that I have had plenty to laugh about in this life.
  3. Embrace your Uniqueness – we are all created to be different,  so why would we want to change who we are in order to fit in?  I am very lucky that my parents always encouraged me to embrace my unique, quirky and feisty personality, because I wouldn’t be who I am today if I hadn’t.  Society teaches about fitting in all the time, and social media only accentuates that need…but what if we considered that the world just wouldn’t be as it should without US and what unique traits we have to offer.
  4. Don’t be afraid to be alone – before I met Brandon I was a single mom for about 5 years, and during that time I really wanted to meet someone to settle down.  What I realized is that I wasn’t ready to meet him until I was 100% OK with being alone.  I love the time I spend by myself, not that I don’t love the company of my family or my friends, but I also need that time to make me the best I can be for all of them.  Taking time to be alone to read, to contemplate, meditate, or exercise are great ways for us to enjoy alone time.
  5. Do things that make you happy – as you have probably noticed by now, one of my biggest loves is travel.  I love to travel with Brandon, with my kids, my friends and even alone.  The thrill of exploring new places, enjoying sunshine, waterfalls, the ocean, the forest, and many, many other things is really the reason I work.  Even going out of town for business is a huge thrill for me because I usually get at least a little time to relax.  I love to shop (I know, shocker), I love to go to movies and dinner with my family, I love river rafting, hiking, biking and sunbathing.  By doing any of these things we are able to fill our cups to make us better for ourself and those around us.

 

Oh and if by wearing some funky boots, or a fabulous leather skirt makes you feel as good as it makes me feel…I’ve linked my boots and the rest of my outfit (or similar pieces) below…


5 Dreamy Dressing up Ideas

“Those most courageous act is still to THINK for YOURSELF ALOUD!”

Today – I have a guest blogger – Rebecca Siggers.  If you are anything like me, you will think it’s important to hear other peoples ideas, suggestions and perspectives when it comes to style and fashion.  (I have featured a TBT picture of me above wearing one of Rebecca’s suggestions).  The more you know about style and what is possible, the more likely you are going to be able to make your own decisions about what YOUR unique style is.  Read on for her take on adding a little sass to your wardrobe:

 

Who doesn’t want to dress up to perfection? Add a little dazzle and get the perfect outfit. Ditch your usual look and dig in a little deeper in your wardrobe. Or is it time to go shopping? Trust us, it will be worth it! Be daring and go for a new look.

Check out these suggestions-

 

The Shimmy Shimmer 

Get a full shimmer bodycon dress in your favourite color. Buy something strappy or strapless for a sexier look.

Add some class with a silk stole which can go through your arm joints in the back. For an edgier look, trust us and wear a bullet bra (regained popularity in 2016) under your dress and you will really stand out.

Put on some glitter in your makeup, pair up your outfit with a clutch, sky high heels and look like the diva that you are.

 

The Pantsuit Hottie

Get a basic black high waisted pants, a blazer with a full sparkle top. This way your look won’t be that basic anymore!

You can even wear black pants, a black top and a full sparkle blazer. It’s very in! Experiment further and you can get a mesh black top instead of a standard one.

Don’t hold back from getting a different colour than black in your outfit.

 

A Glam Jumpsuit

Get a semi- mesh jumpsuit in white, black, bottle green or a nude shade. You can also get something with lace or shimmer.

Wear your sexiest stilettos and a carry a clutch. Always in vogue, these will make you look tall and extremely attractive.

 

Velvet Is Everything 

Get a boat neck, long sleeved velvet dress. Not only you would look sexy but elegant at the same time. Show lots of skin on the chest. Wear a classy necklace and flaunt your outfit.

You can wear platforms or heels as both will look great. Wear this look to a dinner party and you will definitely look like a glam queen.

 

The Princess Gown

 Get a full length, flowy gown and feel like a princess. Choose something with cut- outs near your waist or something which is fully backless or strapless or both! A flowy or puffy gown looks extremely spellbinding.

Wear your best neck piece and carry a clutch with you. You will surely own the night.

 

Try out our tips and flaunt them with confidence. While there are various other outfits that you can wear, these are bound to make you look like a glorious dream.

 

Author Bio

Rebecca Siggers is an avid reader who enjoys getting lost in the world of books. Holding on to her passion for fitness, she is also caught by the fashion bug. She has been writing for True Corset for sometime now. A traveller by heart, she enjoys meeting new people and experiencing new cultures.

 

Not sure what to shop for – I’ve made it easy…shop some of Rebecca’s suggestions below by clicking the links…

Shopping in your Closet

“Know the rules well so you can break them effectively!”

Have you ever found something hiding on the floor of your closet or buried at the very back?  I am always finding things that I forgot I had, things I bought and haven’t worn before and I have to tell you it can definitely be very exciting!

Shopping in your closet can also be very fun because you can repurpose your clothing and create new, unique ways of putting them together.

Todays post features me wearing all “shop from the closet” items – Everything except the shoes.  It’s easy to wear things the same ways you have always done, but the real fun begins when you experiment and create your own ways of wearing things.

My denim jacket is one I have had for about 5 years but it’s still so fresh, the peplum top is fun with all the bold colors, so I paired them with some Grey culottes and a pair of fun, strappy shoes.

The best part about shopping in your closet is that you don’t have to start completely over every season and buy a whole new wardrobe – because who can afford to do that anyway?!

Here are some ideas for repurposing pieces in your closet:

Pair one of your favorite fun tops from last spring with a pair of wide legged satin pants and a denim jacket.

Pull out an older pair of skinny jeans, add a new graphic Tee and throw on a tuxedo jacket.

Pair a new lace jacket with a pair of satin joggers from your closet and add a fun pair of closed toe mules.

I always have fun putting together outfits using pieces I already have, and very rarely will I buy a completely new outfit when I’m shopping because I kind of already have an idea of what I want to wear with what when I buy things.  If You’re not as sure as I am, if you don’t really know what goes with what as easily, don’t despair!  Pinterest can really be your friend…you can search outfit styles and see ideas of what does and doesn’t work!  If I am seeking inspiration for an outfit I definitely turn to Pinterest from time to time!  Or, you can also reach out to me and ask me a question.

I have friends that will text me and send pictures to see what does and doesn’t work for them – I find it fun to help!!

I hope your Easter Sunday is spent the way you want it to be…!

Managing Expectations

“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start!”

One of the biggest challenges I have in my life are managing my expectations. I quite often find myself imagining how a scenario will go, how something is going to turn out and even worse, expecting people to react in a certain way. It wasn’t until the past few years that I even recognized that I was doing this and noticed what effect it was having on my life or the happiness I was unable to experience because of it.

I have always been someone that has demanded REALLY high standards from myself, and also from others that I work with, interact with and live with. As you can imagine, having expectations about how one of your kids or your spouse is going to react is pretty much insanity…because we have absolutely no control over that and we more often than not end up disappointed.

Even this past weekend I had so much fun traveling and shopping and one of my favorite things to do is to buy gifts for people. What I found is that my excitement for the gifts wasn’t exactly felt by those I had bought the gifts for. After speaking with Brandon about how it made me feel sad that someone wasn’t excited about what I bought them, he helped me understand that it wasn’t about the gift at all but rather what I “expected” they would react like when I gave the gift to them. I know I’m not crazy and I know I am not the only one that has done or does this…in fact, my guess is it is pretty common (whether you may be conscious of it or not).

Expectations can be our worst enemy. They can take a positive thing (like giving a gift) and turn it into frustration, disappointment and sadness…

Unfortunately there is not a “quick fix” because I have had these habits for longer than I would care to admit, but what I do know is that now that I recognize what I am doing, it is easier to spot it, and even if I initially feel the disappointment, or frustration, I can tell myself that I am slipping into old patterns and nip the expectations in the bud.

Just as most things in life, a want to and most definitely a huge effort is what is needed to change any direction in your life, and more often than not, that effort is at times going to seem overwhelming.

 

Expectations can manifest themselves in so many ways, it can be expectations of ourselves, of others and also of situations. I have to admit that when I first started my blog I had HUGE expectations about how long it would take me to learn all I need to know, what kinds of reactions I would have to my content, how many followers I would get, etc. I can tell you that I soon realized that it was going to look nothing like my initial expectation and that’s when I started to become frustrated, impatient and even discouraged. What I realized is that the main reason I started my blog was to help people (particularly women) recognize their worth, gain confidence through feeling good about how they look, and have the courage to take on their lives…so how could I put a timeframe on that? Great things take time and I am willing to take that time to help as many people as possible!  I made a decision to trade the expectations of how I thought my blog should look for an appreciation of what it has taught me, how much I’ve grown and just the fact that I am able to help people 🙂

With that being said, if you can think of anything topic I could cover that would help you personally, shoot me an email…I would love to know!!

One final thought…”No one can make you feel inferior without your consent!”

Dress your Age

“Life is your mirror…what you see as your outside, always comes from your inside!”

 

Have you ever heard the expression “mutton dressed as lamb”?  When I was growing up I remember seeing “older” women and thinking that they looked either really old, frumpy or on the other end of the spectrum…dressed too young and looking trashy.  As I am now in that “older” category (even though I definitely don’t feel old, and I still think I look pretty good), I am very conscious about not falling into any of those categories.

 

 

Disclosure:  Some of the links in this post are affiliate links, meaning, at no additional cost to you, I will earn a commission if you click through or make a purchase.

 

I don’t lack confidence and I am definitely not afraid to try new styles, and even have been known to really push the envelope, but there are still some things I wouldn’t be caught dead wearing!  I take good care of my skin, my body, my hair and my health, so I am slim enough to be able to wear most things, even with all that being said, there are some styles that I think you should NEVER wear once you reach a certain age.

 

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think you should demote yourself to just wearing a “mumu” or “frumpy clothes”, but I definitely make sure I am not trying to act or look like a teenager.

 

I believe in class, sophistication, but I also believe in showing off a little of what you have – without going too far.  I am pretty proud of how I look, so I am going dress with that in mind, and you can be assured that when people meet me they will know that I am confident and love myself.  After all, if we don’t love OURSELVES who else is going to love us?

 

confidently wearing leather 🙂

 

If you truly felt amazing about yourself, what would you love to wear and how would you like to look?  I always wanted to have longer, less muscular legs so I could wear skinny jeans with flats and not feel conscious…but guess what, no matter what I do, I can’t control how long my legs are, so I just adapt and wear the things that are most flattering for my body type.  Which is why, more often than not, you will see me wearing a heel (even if sometimes they are smaller than others).

 

I have found that the most important thing about how I look is for me to feel good about it.  Have you ever noticed that when you look in the mirror and you feel like you look great that you go out and that’s the energy you take with you…whereas when you look in the morning and you think you’re having a bad hair day, or you look more tired than usual, that more negative energy is what you will take along.  I have had lots of experiences where the results or my experiences during the day are determined by something as simple as how I view myself in the mirror… Crazy to believe that other people are going to feed off our emotions and energy and whatever we are emitting, that is what they will feel about you!!

 

If you want people to think good thoughts or feel good energy about you, it has to come from you!