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Be You – Be Different

“Being different isn’t a bad thing, it means you are brave enough to be yourself!”

There are so many things that make us different from everyone else, but we live in a world where it’s almost frowned upon to be different. The sad thing about that is that there are so many reasons that the world needs YOU just as you are, not someone trying to fit in or be like everyone else.

Being different, standing out, expressing yourself just as you are, that takes real courage…but most importantly it means YOU have to know who YOU are!

I don’t know if any of you remember that movie “Runaway Bride”? In that movie Julia Roberts was engaged at least 3 or 4 times and each time literally ran away from the wedding as the groom was standing on the altar. Nobody knew why she did it for a long time, in fact, she gained a reputation and it was newsworthy enough that a reporter went to her small town to write about it. Turns out that what she actually did was fit into a mold of exactly what she thought each of the grooms wanted her to be. Whatever eggs they liked, she liked too. In summary, she pretty much didn’t show up to any of the relationships as herself, and when the reality hit (on the wedding day) she couldn’t go through with it.

I have seen this so much in life, it’s so easy to fall into line with what we think everyone else wants us to be, so much so that we give up who we really are. The problem with that is that the real us is still inside just stuffed down somewhere out of sight, and it means that we can’t ever find complete fulfillment or happiness until we let her or him out!

I have always been a very strong person, but there have definitely been times in my life when I have been afraid to let people see who I really am – specifically in relationships for fear that they wouldn’t love me, or they would leave. I am not the type of person that can live like that, so at some point, usually when I couldn’t take it anymore, I would explode and pretty much blow the relationship anyway. Even with Brandon and I it took me a long time to realize that it was OK to be 100% myself.

I have learned that I don’t need permission to express myself, it doesn’t matter to me if everyone loves everything about me, because I have found that the more authentic and real I am, the more people love being around me anyway.

I love to express my feisty personality through my style, and I have found that the more I love me, the more I love who I am, the more happy I am. My style is uniquely me – and I will always keep it that way! In fact, the jacket that I’m wearing in this post is one that I had customized for me…I saw something similar on Pinterest and had my mum knit it and create my one exactly how I wanted it! What’s better than that?

Being unique is one thing that we all have in common, and it’s exactly what the world needs!

If you could do one thing today that you have been afraid to do, what would it be?

Feel Good in your own Skin

“The best gift you can ever give yourself is the permission to feel safe in your own skin.  To feel worthy, and like you are enough!”

Feeling good in your own skin is so much more than being confident in how you look…it is more about who you are as a person and how you feel about that person.

We all came into this world the same way, but our experiences and our relationships in our lives shape us into who we are today. Sometimes those experiences can  cause us to feel insecure, lacking in confidence, or even make us feel like we are not good enough.  It can be hard to move through things that trigger us, or make us feel like this, but there are definitely steps we can take to help soften us and allow us to feel more worthy, more comfortable in our own skin and ultimately more confident.

I have found that the more I give myself grace for not being perfect, and the more I don’t compare myself or what I do to others, the better I feel about myself.  I can tell you that this getting older thing is not for the faint of heart.  I didn’t realize how much it affected me until I saw some pictures of me when I was younger, and noticed that I have laughter lines, I have wrinkles I had chosen not to notice before and that perhaps my muscles aren’t as toned as they once were.

 

 

So, as we go through life, how do we feel good about ourselves even as these things happen?

Here are a few things that help me – maybe they’ll help you too:

  1. Take care of yourself – for me this can be as simple as taking a bath at night, reading a good book or just having a small amount of time to be left with my thoughts.  I like to be unpredictable, so for me going on a bike ride in a different direction, walking the dog a different route or even driving home a different way allow me to feel free and let the stresses of the day go a little.  We don’t all have the same things that relax us or make us feel good, so whatever it is for you, that’s what you need to do.  It seems like the world is advertising to us all the time about what we should do, eat, wear, and like…but ultimately whatever it is that makes YOU feel good, well that’s what you need to do!
  2. Focus on the good – it’s easy to be critical about your flaws or what is wrong with you…so what if every time you saw something that you didn’t like about you, in turn you found something to appreciate about that thing.  For example, I always had a really flat stomach and that’s not the case anymore…but here’s the best part – I have 4 boys that I am immensely grateful for,  and I wouldn’t trade a little bit of a stomach for any of those kids.  Another could be the wrinkles around my eyes – but I appreciate that I have had plenty to laugh about in this life.
  3. Embrace your Uniqueness – we are all created to be different,  so why would we want to change who we are in order to fit in?  I am very lucky that my parents always encouraged me to embrace my unique, quirky and feisty personality, because I wouldn’t be who I am today if I hadn’t.  Society teaches about fitting in all the time, and social media only accentuates that need…but what if we considered that the world just wouldn’t be as it should without US and what unique traits we have to offer.
  4. Don’t be afraid to be alone – before I met Brandon I was a single mom for about 5 years, and during that time I really wanted to meet someone to settle down.  What I realized is that I wasn’t ready to meet him until I was 100% OK with being alone.  I love the time I spend by myself, not that I don’t love the company of my family or my friends, but I also need that time to make me the best I can be for all of them.  Taking time to be alone to read, to contemplate, meditate, or exercise are great ways for us to enjoy alone time.
  5. Do things that make you happy – as you have probably noticed by now, one of my biggest loves is travel.  I love to travel with Brandon, with my kids, my friends and even alone.  The thrill of exploring new places, enjoying sunshine, waterfalls, the ocean, the forest, and many, many other things is really the reason I work.  Even going out of town for business is a huge thrill for me because I usually get at least a little time to relax.  I love to shop (I know, shocker), I love to go to movies and dinner with my family, I love river rafting, hiking, biking and sunbathing.  By doing any of these things we are able to fill our cups to make us better for ourself and those around us.

 

Oh and if by wearing some funky boots, or a fabulous leather skirt makes you feel as good as it makes me feel…I’ve linked my boots and the rest of my outfit (or similar pieces) below…


5 Dreamy Dressing up Ideas

“Those most courageous act is still to THINK for YOURSELF ALOUD!”

Today – I have a guest blogger – Rebecca Siggers.  If you are anything like me, you will think it’s important to hear other peoples ideas, suggestions and perspectives when it comes to style and fashion.  (I have featured a TBT picture of me above wearing one of Rebecca’s suggestions).  The more you know about style and what is possible, the more likely you are going to be able to make your own decisions about what YOUR unique style is.  Read on for her take on adding a little sass to your wardrobe:

 

Who doesn’t want to dress up to perfection? Add a little dazzle and get the perfect outfit. Ditch your usual look and dig in a little deeper in your wardrobe. Or is it time to go shopping? Trust us, it will be worth it! Be daring and go for a new look.

Check out these suggestions-

 

The Shimmy Shimmer 

Get a full shimmer bodycon dress in your favourite color. Buy something strappy or strapless for a sexier look.

Add some class with a silk stole which can go through your arm joints in the back. For an edgier look, trust us and wear a bullet bra (regained popularity in 2016) under your dress and you will really stand out.

Put on some glitter in your makeup, pair up your outfit with a clutch, sky high heels and look like the diva that you are.

 

The Pantsuit Hottie

Get a basic black high waisted pants, a blazer with a full sparkle top. This way your look won’t be that basic anymore!

You can even wear black pants, a black top and a full sparkle blazer. It’s very in! Experiment further and you can get a mesh black top instead of a standard one.

Don’t hold back from getting a different colour than black in your outfit.

 

A Glam Jumpsuit

Get a semi- mesh jumpsuit in white, black, bottle green or a nude shade. You can also get something with lace or shimmer.

Wear your sexiest stilettos and a carry a clutch. Always in vogue, these will make you look tall and extremely attractive.

 

Velvet Is Everything 

Get a boat neck, long sleeved velvet dress. Not only you would look sexy but elegant at the same time. Show lots of skin on the chest. Wear a classy necklace and flaunt your outfit.

You can wear platforms or heels as both will look great. Wear this look to a dinner party and you will definitely look like a glam queen.

 

The Princess Gown

 Get a full length, flowy gown and feel like a princess. Choose something with cut- outs near your waist or something which is fully backless or strapless or both! A flowy or puffy gown looks extremely spellbinding.

Wear your best neck piece and carry a clutch with you. You will surely own the night.

 

Try out our tips and flaunt them with confidence. While there are various other outfits that you can wear, these are bound to make you look like a glorious dream.

 

Author Bio

Rebecca Siggers is an avid reader who enjoys getting lost in the world of books. Holding on to her passion for fitness, she is also caught by the fashion bug. She has been writing for True Corset for sometime now. A traveller by heart, she enjoys meeting new people and experiencing new cultures.

 

Not sure what to shop for – I’ve made it easy…shop some of Rebecca’s suggestions below by clicking the links…

Shopping in your Closet

“Know the rules well so you can break them effectively!”

Have you ever found something hiding on the floor of your closet or buried at the very back?  I am always finding things that I forgot I had, things I bought and haven’t worn before and I have to tell you it can definitely be very exciting!

Shopping in your closet can also be very fun because you can repurpose your clothing and create new, unique ways of putting them together.

Todays post features me wearing all “shop from the closet” items – Everything except the shoes.  It’s easy to wear things the same ways you have always done, but the real fun begins when you experiment and create your own ways of wearing things.

My denim jacket is one I have had for about 5 years but it’s still so fresh, the peplum top is fun with all the bold colors, so I paired them with some Grey culottes and a pair of fun, strappy shoes.

The best part about shopping in your closet is that you don’t have to start completely over every season and buy a whole new wardrobe – because who can afford to do that anyway?!

Here are some ideas for repurposing pieces in your closet:

Pair one of your favorite fun tops from last spring with a pair of wide legged satin pants and a denim jacket.

Pull out an older pair of skinny jeans, add a new graphic Tee and throw on a tuxedo jacket.

Pair a new lace jacket with a pair of satin joggers from your closet and add a fun pair of closed toe mules.

I always have fun putting together outfits using pieces I already have, and very rarely will I buy a completely new outfit when I’m shopping because I kind of already have an idea of what I want to wear with what when I buy things.  If You’re not as sure as I am, if you don’t really know what goes with what as easily, don’t despair!  Pinterest can really be your friend…you can search outfit styles and see ideas of what does and doesn’t work!  If I am seeking inspiration for an outfit I definitely turn to Pinterest from time to time!  Or, you can also reach out to me and ask me a question.

I have friends that will text me and send pictures to see what does and doesn’t work for them – I find it fun to help!!

I hope your Easter Sunday is spent the way you want it to be…!

Managing Expectations

“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start!”

One of the biggest challenges I have in my life are managing my expectations. I quite often find myself imagining how a scenario will go, how something is going to turn out and even worse, expecting people to react in a certain way. It wasn’t until the past few years that I even recognized that I was doing this and noticed what effect it was having on my life or the happiness I was unable to experience because of it.

I have always been someone that has demanded REALLY high standards from myself, and also from others that I work with, interact with and live with. As you can imagine, having expectations about how one of your kids or your spouse is going to react is pretty much insanity…because we have absolutely no control over that and we more often than not end up disappointed.

Even this past weekend I had so much fun traveling and shopping and one of my favorite things to do is to buy gifts for people. What I found is that my excitement for the gifts wasn’t exactly felt by those I had bought the gifts for. After speaking with Brandon about how it made me feel sad that someone wasn’t excited about what I bought them, he helped me understand that it wasn’t about the gift at all but rather what I “expected” they would react like when I gave the gift to them. I know I’m not crazy and I know I am not the only one that has done or does this…in fact, my guess is it is pretty common (whether you may be conscious of it or not).

Expectations can be our worst enemy. They can take a positive thing (like giving a gift) and turn it into frustration, disappointment and sadness…

Unfortunately there is not a “quick fix” because I have had these habits for longer than I would care to admit, but what I do know is that now that I recognize what I am doing, it is easier to spot it, and even if I initially feel the disappointment, or frustration, I can tell myself that I am slipping into old patterns and nip the expectations in the bud.

Just as most things in life, a want to and most definitely a huge effort is what is needed to change any direction in your life, and more often than not, that effort is at times going to seem overwhelming.

 

Expectations can manifest themselves in so many ways, it can be expectations of ourselves, of others and also of situations. I have to admit that when I first started my blog I had HUGE expectations about how long it would take me to learn all I need to know, what kinds of reactions I would have to my content, how many followers I would get, etc. I can tell you that I soon realized that it was going to look nothing like my initial expectation and that’s when I started to become frustrated, impatient and even discouraged. What I realized is that the main reason I started my blog was to help people (particularly women) recognize their worth, gain confidence through feeling good about how they look, and have the courage to take on their lives…so how could I put a timeframe on that? Great things take time and I am willing to take that time to help as many people as possible!  I made a decision to trade the expectations of how I thought my blog should look for an appreciation of what it has taught me, how much I’ve grown and just the fact that I am able to help people 🙂

With that being said, if you can think of anything topic I could cover that would help you personally, shoot me an email…I would love to know!!

One final thought…”No one can make you feel inferior without your consent!”

Dress your Age

“Life is your mirror…what you see as your outside, always comes from your inside!”

 

Have you ever heard the expression “mutton dressed as lamb”?  When I was growing up I remember seeing “older” women and thinking that they looked either really old, frumpy or on the other end of the spectrum…dressed too young and looking trashy.  As I am now in that “older” category (even though I definitely don’t feel old, and I still think I look pretty good), I am very conscious about not falling into any of those categories.

 

 

Disclosure:  Some of the links in this post are affiliate links, meaning, at no additional cost to you, I will earn a commission if you click through or make a purchase.

 

I don’t lack confidence and I am definitely not afraid to try new styles, and even have been known to really push the envelope, but there are still some things I wouldn’t be caught dead wearing!  I take good care of my skin, my body, my hair and my health, so I am slim enough to be able to wear most things, even with all that being said, there are some styles that I think you should NEVER wear once you reach a certain age.

 

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think you should demote yourself to just wearing a “mumu” or “frumpy clothes”, but I definitely make sure I am not trying to act or look like a teenager.

 

I believe in class, sophistication, but I also believe in showing off a little of what you have – without going too far.  I am pretty proud of how I look, so I am going dress with that in mind, and you can be assured that when people meet me they will know that I am confident and love myself.  After all, if we don’t love OURSELVES who else is going to love us?

 

confidently wearing leather 🙂

 

If you truly felt amazing about yourself, what would you love to wear and how would you like to look?  I always wanted to have longer, less muscular legs so I could wear skinny jeans with flats and not feel conscious…but guess what, no matter what I do, I can’t control how long my legs are, so I just adapt and wear the things that are most flattering for my body type.  Which is why, more often than not, you will see me wearing a heel (even if sometimes they are smaller than others).

 

I have found that the most important thing about how I look is for me to feel good about it.  Have you ever noticed that when you look in the mirror and you feel like you look great that you go out and that’s the energy you take with you…whereas when you look in the morning and you think you’re having a bad hair day, or you look more tired than usual, that more negative energy is what you will take along.  I have had lots of experiences where the results or my experiences during the day are determined by something as simple as how I view myself in the mirror… Crazy to believe that other people are going to feed off our emotions and energy and whatever we are emitting, that is what they will feel about you!!

 

If you want people to think good thoughts or feel good energy about you, it has to come from you!

 

 


How to be Fashionable

Confidence is in knowing that your fashion story is YOURS alone!

Fashion makes a statement about us…

“Be a Flamingo in a flock of pigeons!”

My Fashion Story

I always thought that being fashionable meant that you had to follow all the latest trends, and just basically blend in with what everyone else is doing…

What I have realized is that I can decide what is fashionable.  No matter the season, I don’t like every new trend that comes out (especially since as I am getting older I see more and more of the old trends that I used to see coming out again and again!)  It’s crazy that the styles I hated, the ones that I would never be caught dead wearing, and the ones that seemed to be the least flattering still seem to circle back around.  I remember looking at a picture of myself after having Dalton (my oldest), he was only 6 weeks old and we were in Disney World, I was wearing high waisted short-shorts, and a striped tank top that REALLY didn’t flatter me in any way!  So crazy to think that just because a style is IN that you should have to wear it.  As I have matured, I can tell you that I decide what is fashion for me, and I interpret it my own unique way.

I love seeing a new style and trying to figure out ways that I can adapt it to be my own.  I like to be classy/chic and everything in between.  The one thing that is always consistent is that I like to be feminine and always, always I avoid things that make me look trashy.  I don’t dress up every day, but when I have an important meeting or I know that a first impression is important, I definitely dress accordingly.  Even when I dress down I make sure that I am no sloppy.  If I am wearing sweats they are not creased and I wear with them a t shirt that is flattering.  Jeans are something I love to wear but I don’t wear them for work if they have holes or are distressed.  If I do wear jeans for work, I make sure that the blouse or top I wear is feminine and classy and more than likely the first thing that people notice.  I make my outfits memorable – but in a good way 🙂

Shoes are my staple – I don’t believe you can ever have too many, and they can really make a statement about you, so choose them wisely.  Sometimes heels can get damaged and start to look worn out, so take care of your shoes…if you take care of them, they will take care of you!

I read fashion magazines, I check out blogs, I look online at some of my favorite stores, I like to go on shopping expeditions whenever I travel somewhere to see what is available in other places, and most importantly, when I see things, I think about how they will work for my body type, coloring, age, and if they would be appropriate for me to wear for business, casual or more formal events.  Sometimes I try new things and get it wrong, and sometimes it works out, but the key is I TRY…Having the confidence to try something new and see if it works for you is half the battle, with the final piece being that if you get it wrong, don’t worry about what other people might say and think.  I have found that not everyone is going to like my style and what I wear all the time, and you know what, I am so great with that…I wear what I wear and do what I do for me only!  Because I feel that way, I have an air of confidence and it shows – and that is what people are drawn to!

What is your Fashion Story?

We all have our own fashion story, even if that story is that fashion or style is not your focus, or you don’t want to or can’t afford to go shopping all the time!  Whatever your story, I would love to hear all about it.  You can either comment or email me directly by clicking the CONTACT link on the left toolbar if you don’t want to share with everyone.  I am always looking for ways to improve my style game, and would love to help you with yours too…

I look forward to hearing your fashion story to see if I can help you be fashionable with the clothes you have and up your style game!

What makes you Unique

“Worry about loving yourself instead of worrying about the idea of other people loving you!”

If you’ve read any of my previous posts or seen me on Facebook or Instagram, you know that I talk about being unique all the time.  So I wanted to elaborate a little on what I meant.  Even since I was a little girl, being different, unique, standing out, not following the crowd and not being afraid to be myself has been something I have constantly strived for.

I realize that we all come to this earth with different talents, we look different, we have different priorities and consider some things more important than others.  I have very strong opinions, which I don’t apologize for, but I am also a very open and nonjudgemental person!  I recently did a little survey with some of my closest friends and family, I asked them to give me some adjectives that they thought best described me, to tell me what was their favorite trait of mine, what they thought I could improve on, and how they would describe my style.  I have to admit I was little nervous to get the feedback but I absolutely loved EVERYTHING that was said (even the things I could improve on, which I honestly already knew 🙂 )

So…here are a just a few highlights of what was said:

Adjectives used to describe me:  Tenacious, happy, optimistic, spicy, vivacious, direct, strong, ambitious, smart, confident, vulnerable, decisive, professional, urban, sexy, adaptable, reliable, complex, transparent and interesting!

The things I need to work on are:  patience, bluntness, and to believe in myself.

This is just a snippet of what was said, and I have to say that it made me want to be better but at the same time made me realize that I picked the friends I have for a reason 🙂

So, with all that being said, what is it that makes you unique.  We are all so different, what makes you, YOU?  The best relationships I have in my life, the greatest friendships and the ones that span the Ocean and all time, are the ones where I am spending time with someone that is not afraid to be themselves and it 100% secure in who they are.  I have met many people that don’t have as much confidence in themselves that they should.  I do love strong people, but those people come in all shapes and sizes.  I am strong in some ways and I have friends that aspire to be like because they are strong in other ways.  I think this life is all about us lifting up those around us and making them better.  If we are not worrying about what others think of us, and just being US, then we are able to be a true friend, wife, husband or partner!

I feel so happy and blessed to have the life I have chosen, because I know I have chosen the path I am on.  Even small decisions we make lead us onto a path and can totally change the course of our lives…

So, I ask you, what makes you unique?  If you were to ask those around you what they love the most about you, how they would describe you and what they think you could improve on, would you be surprised?  I talk a lot about style and presentation of yourself, but before you even get to that, you need to exude a certain power and that power comes from within you, seeing yourself as the unique, amazing person that you are.

I wanted to start off this Monday with a positive thought…as I think positive thoughts, I become more positive.  I hope it does the same for you too!

HAPPY MONDAY…

I will post tomorrow where you can shop this post..:)

Layering can be Fun!

 

 

“Being different isn’t a bad thing.  It means you’re brave enough to be yourself!”

As the seasons change it is a perfect time to experiment with layering your clothes.  I always find it fun add cardigans, sweaters, waistcoats/vests and I especially love cooler evenings and mornings because I get to add an extra dimension to the outfits I wear.

Today’s post shows me wearing a great Lularoe Vest that is obviously designed more for style than it is to keep you warm.  The outfit was simple and Black but as you can see, the addition of the waistcoat/vest really made it pop.  There is never a bad time to wear Black, but it is sometimes really nice to mix things up a little add and little depth and dimension to what you are wearing by adding something like this!

If you don’t already own some Lularoe pieces of your own, you really need to contact my friend Jamey by clicking here and grab some of their unique, comfortable pieces.  The great thing about Lularoe is that they have such a wide variety of styles that anyone can find something that will work for them.  You definitely can’t go wrong with a vest because they can be styled in so many different ways…so use it the way that works for you!

This shoot was so much fun – sometimes I wonder if I am doing something wrong because I love what I am doing…

If you can think of something that would help you please let me know and I will craft a post just for you!!

 

Finding Something Unique

“I just like to wear things that are ME in different ways!”

With all the styles that are available out there it’s really easy to find pieces that are unique and that fit your style.  The skirt in this post is definitely something that fits my style and its definitely different.

If you are looking for something that stands out and is not what everyone else is wearing then there are certain stores and websites that make that task easier for you!

I like to travel and when I do I typically buy clothes I know aren’t available in a Utah, and I also like to shop on some unique websites, such as:  www.stylewe.com, www.chicwish.com, and www.nastygal.com.

Finding unique clothes doesn’t have to be difficult, you just need to be willing to try new things and shop in new places.  How will you ever truly know what your unique style is if you don’t try out some different things?

Go and check out some of the sites I listed…

Happy Sunday!