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Business like a Boss Lady

She knew the power of her mind, so she programmed it for success!

Just in case you missed my Video Podcast, I wanted to talk a little about Business Style and how it doesn’t have to be boring.

I think this was one of the most important realizations I had when I was working in Corporate America. YES – there are rules, but NO – it doesn’t mean you can’t adapt them and still be business appropriate.

I am a firm believer in that fact that you can look amazing even if you are not in a business suit or the traditional styles of old business. I’m not condoning breaking the dress code at the company you work at, but I have found that dressing appropriately for business doesn’t mean that you can’t still march to the beat of your own drum.

As women we have so much more opportunity to create our own look than men do, so why not take advantage of all the amazing offerings the world of fashion has for us?

Here are a few of my own suggestions and things I did that helped me feel great about my business style:

  • Incorporate bright colors – yes, you can add a bright colored blouse but what about really stepping it up and adding a pair of bright colored pants or a skirt. Red is always my favorite go-to, but there are so many others like green, purple, orange and yellow – or pretty much any color that is bold and stands out! Bold patterns are always find to wear too – like these cute joggers that look professional yet funky!
  • Add a little lace – it is so feminine and looks so professional as well. By adding something lace to your look, you will immediately elevate the look from ordinary to fabulous.
  • You don’t have to stick to traditional fabrics – try adding some leather or velvet. Gone are the days when wearing something less traditional is a bad thing. Leather was once thought to be edgy but now it really can be made to look feminine and classy by wearing a pretty blouse, and some stand out shoes!
  • Don’t forget the details – accessories can be the thing that elevate an otherwise ordinary outfit. By adding some cute jewelry, a scarf or carrying a bag that is fun – you will immediately draw peoples eyes to those pieces. Which means, if your business style is understated, you can make it more sassy and fun by adding some gorgeous accessories. Beware though – in this situation, less is more. Don’t over-do it…keep it classy!
  • You know my philosophy about shoes…well, it applies to business style as well. When you wear a pair of shoes that is colorful, bold or unique that’s what people more often than not will remember. I’ve talked about how someone’s shoes are usually the first thing I notice…well, I can tell you that I am not the only one 😉
  • Business IS all about looking professional – you having a jacket handy is a good thing…but that doesn’t mean that the jacket has to be ordinary. In fact, finding jackets that are unique is always fun for me – like the blazer I’m wearing here with the leather accents. Professional – YES! Unique – YES!

A lot of dressing for business in a way that still expresses your personality is really about changing your mindset. It’s about being open to exploring differentiations and creating your own interpretations of the rules.

None of the pictures I’ve posted are inappropriate business style, but can you agree that they are my unique style? I have found that I am happiest when I am not conforming to the opinions of others, but rather adapting situations to suit my style – but doing it in a way that is still social acceptable and fun! Sounds like a win/win doesn’t it?

Are you ready to explore your business style?

We All Need Inspiration

“No one ever injured their eyesight by looking on the bright side!”

Recently I had someone ask me if I have always wanted to write a blog…and it got me thinking.  What I realized is that even though I started by blog only a few years ago, I have kind of always loved style, fashion, walking to the beat of my own drum as well aDon’t compare…empower, use your style & fashion for confidence, seek inspiration helping others reach their potential.

It has always given me great satisfaction to be able to be there, to help and empower my friends & family – so when I started working on Stylequeenie I kept this in mind.  I think that in the world we live in there is so much negativity and that is perpetuated by social media and our perceptions of the lives that people lead based on what we see them doing on Instagram, Facebook etc.  I have heard stories of people shaming or bullying on social media and it breaks my heart.  I realize that it is easy because it can almost be hidden from the world…to shame another person really sets us back individually, and aren’t we here to grow?

There are times when I compare myself and what I do to others, but that is probably the most self-defeating thing that anyone can do.  Comparison is the thief of joy – it robs us from feeling good about ourselves, who we are and what we are capable of!

The world is definitely big enough for everyone, but it’s up to us to carve our own niche!  I know that there are people out there that know so much more than I do about blogging, empowerment, style and so on, but that’s OK with me…in fact I use it to my advantage.  Have you ever heard the expression that “success leaves clues”?  What that means is I can seek inspiration from others and use that to make me better.  When I first started my career in sales I made it my goal to surround myself with successful, powerful sales people that I could learn things from.  I took what they did and adapted it to create a style for myself…and because I know that technique worked for me in the past, that is what I do now with blogging and my social media.

I feel confident and happy in my own skin, I am learning to find more joy in my journey of life because I think it’s important to do so much more than just exist.  I know there are varying degrees of motivation, confidence and determination, but think about this…what if someone out there needs what you have to offer?  What if what you have is exactly what they need to save their life??

I believe in the philosophy of “pay it forward” for this very reason.  I believe that we are all pieces in a puzzle and the only way that puzzle can be complete is if we all believe in ourselves and work on reaching our potential!

I always tie in style and fashion with my blog posts because I do believe that when you feel good about yourself, when you tell yourself that you like who you are and how you look, that is what is going to be seen by the outside world.  I have always considered style to be a way to express your unique personality, and as such, something that EVERYONE should pay attention to.  I realize that not everyone is as enamored by style and fashion as I am, and for some it seems harder…but just like I said about following the clues of those that are successful, you can do the same with style and fashion.  Sometimes all you need to do is seek a little inspiration and adapt it to yourself!  You can shop similar looks to those I am wearing in this post by clicking the links below!

I hope this Wednesday that you will realize how important & how beautiful you are – and that no matter whether anyone says otherwise, you are ENOUGH!!

HAPPY WEDNESDAY…

 

 

Top 10 Things you need in your Closet this Holiday Season

 

“Life is short, wear your party pants!”

Before I start, I wanted to let you know that it’s definitely not to late to start planning your holiday styles, party wear, and recovery wear (yes, after all the chaos we are going to need a little recovery time!)

 

There are a lot of things to plan, so does this seem like one more thing that you just don’t want to have to deal with?  I know there have been times when I have gone in my closet and just walked right out again because I haven’t known where to start…so here are some tips, ideas and styles that are really easy to duplicate to take some of the stress out of the holidays for you:

  1. Make sure you plan ahead…this doesn’t necessarily mean going shopping to get new things, but what it does mean is that sometimes if you lay out a few things on your bed to see how they look together, it’s going to help you decide what combinations you like the best.  I never try to plan an outfit for a special occasion when I am in a rush – even if I haven’t pulled out my clothes to look at, I have at least put them together in my mind (I know, I may or may not love thinking about clothes 😉 )
  2. Don’t try to wear something that is not comfortable for you to wear.  For example, if you are not comfortable wearing high heels, then don’t try to do it.  All that will happen is that you will feel awkward all night and want to take off your shoes.  Instead, find a pair of kitten heels (still feminine) or block heels that are easier to wear for longer periods of time.
  3. Make sure that what you are wearing expresses YOUR personality NOT someone you know or someone else you have seen wearing something that’s “really cute”…as you know, we are all unique, so when you are trying to be someone else not only will you feel like a fraud, but when people see you they are not going to know who you are.

 

With all of that being said, there are a few things that you are going to want to add to your closet this holiday season.  Don’t get me wrong I’m not necessarily encouraging you to go out shopping for yourself when you are still Christmas shopping (although sometimes it’s necessary to do that), but maybe you can put some things on your Christmas list or drop hints.  Even after Christmas there are lots of get-togethers and parties for the New Year, so even if you don’t have them in time for a Christmas party, it won’t be a bust!

 

 

Here are my Top 10 MUST HAVES for 2017:

  1. Something leopard print – whatever you choose (because not everyone is comfortable with a coat, a dress or shoes), make sure you that you rock it.  I have seen so many leopard tights, scarves, blouses, sweaters and purses plus many, many more things.  Pick one and have fun with it.
  2. Something sparkly – I love all the metallics, and they can be used in many different ways.  For example, I just bought some metallic liquid eyeshadow by Stila (from Sephora)…it is amazing and lasts all day.  It’s a great way to add sparkle without having to go over the top.  A great silver or gold top, pants, or shoes are great ways to add metallic into your wardrobe.
  3. Sock booties are my new favorite thing – I love how they fit to your legs and work with a skirt/dress, with jeans, or even under pants.  Versatility is key here, and they come in a variety of different styles and patterns.
  4. A great faux fur or fluffy coat – the reason why is that even if you are wearing something plain, by adding a really funky coat, you are going to make your whole outfit stand out.  Who doesn’t love the idea of being simple and still finding a way to be stylish?
  5. Sequins – what more needs to be said here?  Sequin earrings, sequin hair accessories, sequin leggings, or even sequin boots.  Find something again that expresses your personality, don’t wear the boots if you are more of an understated earrings kind of girl 😉
  6. A long kimono or thin cardigan -I love using these over pants, dresses or skirts.  They can just pull a whole outfit together and make it really funky.
  7. Velvet is still so huge.  It is such a comfortable and warm fabric, not to mention chic, so why not incorporate it into some of your outfits?
  8. Funky tights or fishnets.  Wearing a pair of unique tights with a dress or skirt this winter is not only necessary (at least here in Utah), but it is also a great way to make a statement.  I am always on the lookout for unique styles of tights, and love to incorporate them into my business and party style!
  9. A pair of chunky boots – there are definitely going to be those days that you are going to want to be able to walk and not have to worry about slipping, falling or just hating life because of your stiletto boots.  At the weekends or evenings, I love to wear a pair of comfy boots, but also look stylish, so find a pair that can be both for you.
  10. A great beanie or winter hat – I have never been a big hat person, but I am definitely learning to love beanies especially during the winter months.  I love how feminine some of the styles are now, and if you wear one with some accent jewels, patterns or even a pom pom it is going to look a little dressier!

 

So there you have it…my Top 10 of things everyone should have.  I have always been one of those practice what you preach kind of girls, so I wouldn’t tell you to do something that I didn’t do, so just know that all of these things I have tried and tested, and they work for me!

I don’t by any means expect anyone to be something they are not, so if don’t like or want to try any of these things, then you need to follow your gut.

Happy Holidays and more importantly – Happy Shopping!

I picked a few things I think are really hot below and you can shop the links below…


Wake up to Blue Skies…

“Look for something positive in each day, even if you have to look a little harder on some days!”

 

Yesterday I talked about how crazy it is that we get frustrated by things outside of our control, and how sometimes I feel down by the weather…

 

When I woke up this morning I loosed outside and while it is still chilly, I looked around and saw beautiful sunshine and blue skies.  What it made me realize is that no matter what challenges or struggles we have going on in our lives, there will always be a blue sky coming.  It can really be hard to keep a positive attitude when things aren’t great, but no matter how hard things can be, the only thing we really know for sure is that things always change.

 

This can be true for both positive and negative…I am sure you have experienced times when you have been really happy, finances are great, family is great, everything seems to be going the way you want it, and then suddenly something happens that derails you.  Or, you have been struggling, feeling really down, and then out of nowhere someone does something to help you or you find a light at the end of the tunnel.  It is not possible to be able to control everything happening in our lives, but we can certainly control how we reacts to it and how we feel about it.

 

So, as I woke up, saw the blue skies and sunshine, it gave me a sense of optimism that I can do and be anything I want to be.  I feel like I am able to see things more clearly when I feel that optimism and suddenly tasks that have been procrastinated are things I’m ready to take on – like organizing our storage room – YAY!  🙂

 

If you were able to let go of trying to control what could you accomplish?  Are you happy running on the hamster wheel over and over or are you ready to take back control of your life by controlling how you feel and how you choose to let things affect you?

 

I would much rather start off my weekend on a positive note…especially since when I am down it’s funny how it seems to affect all my boys.  They know that there is something going on with me and it makes them feel bad…which just proves that even if we think we are only affecting ourselves, our attitude and disposition affects others.

 

Remember…a negative mind will never give you a positive life!

 


Isn’t it Fascinating that we want to control the Weather?

 

“Anything you can’t control in life is teaching you how to let go!”

 

When I wake up on a cold, overcast, or rainy morning I have a hard time not letting myself feel a little down or even depressed.  While I consciously know that I most certainly don’t have the power to control the weather, it still sometimes leaves me feeling similar to Chicken Little where the sky is falling in!

 

It is almost an exercise in insanity to feel so down because of something so out of my control and scope of understanding, nevertheless, my body still feels this way.  I realize that not everyone feels like this about the weather, however, I am sure there are all times and things that make you feel inexplicably out of sorts. Knowing that the only solution to get through times like this is that you have to let go of control and realize that things are just happening for you, the key is to recognize when this is happening…

 

 

I still find myself sometimes worrying about things I shouldn’t, over-thinking, over-analyzing or even obsessing about things that clearly I have no way of influencing.  I am definitely starting to recognize when it happens more and more, and the more I become conscious of it, the more likely I am to be able to eliminate these habits.

 

Weather is just one example of something outside of our control, another huge cause of feeling frustrated is worrying about what other people are doing and how they are not doing things the way we want them to. As I sit here writing this post, my dog is outside and he’s barking at someone walking by or another dog out there, and I even found myself getting irritated and shouting at him.  Yes, I can shout at him and tell him to stop or bring him inside, but then he’s going to forget in a few minutes or he’s going to jump on the couch and start scratching at the door again.  Bottom line, I may be able to get him to stop for a while, but not until HE wants to!

 

I realized when I had kids that control is really just an illusion, but there are definitely times when I find myself jumping in and handling things for the boys when the best thing to do would be to let them figure it out themselves.  I am definitely not a mum that hovers enough to fall into the helicopter mom category, but I think that’s just because I work on catching myself when I have the urge to “fix” and force myself to take a step back a lot of the time.

 

Worrying about things outside your control is definitely one of the major stress causes in today’s world, so what if you could just allow yourself to let go and just enjoy the moment.

 

Today was a gloomy, rainy, cold day with some sleet and snow.  While I don’t like winter, I have to admit that I actually love how it looks with snow on the ground, blue skies and sunshines, even when it is cold. The real reason I don’t like winter is because it brings grey skies and in Utah we get an inversion in the valley – which I find ugly and dreary.  I did get through the day without too much frustration, but now I sit by a lovely warm fireplace with my feet up after eating a lovely fish and chips dinner.  I can feel all the stress that the gloom brought me just melting away…

 

If you can relate to any of these feelings or thoughts, and you are looking for a quick fix, i’ll let you into a trick that works for me…find something you love and move your focus away from the thing causing you frustration to that thing.  I love to spend time with friends, so sitting in a coffee shop with a great friend is a great remedy to the blues.  I also love to shop (I know, big surprise), so I sometimes take myself off to the mall and just wander around until I feel the thoughts just slip away – of course, if I see some great things while I’m there, I may have to buy them too!  Another great way to refocus is to sit by a lovely fire, curl up with a good book, watch a movie or spend time with your kids.

 

I am definitely a long way from being an enlightened being, but I feel that if I am constantly working on improving myself and my attitude, things will start to get easier and eventually I may even be strong enough to kick some habits!

 


A Woman Empowered…

“Nothing can dim the light that shines from within!”

Whether you know me personally or if you know me from reading my blog, Instagram, Facebook or Twitter posts, you probably already know by now that I am a very focused and driven woman.  I march to the beat of my own drum, I like to get my own way (and I don’t mean the kind of person that stomps their feet if they don’t get their own way, but someone that busts her butt until things work out how I want them or at least close to!), I make a goal and whether I get to that goal in a direct route or if I have to take a few detours, I ALWAYS get there!

 

A lot of you may or may not know what being a blogger entails.  Here’s how my life looks and how I am learning along the way…

  1. I am a mother of 4 amazing boys that bring me a lot of joy but also require that even when I’m home I’m “on my game!”
  2. I support all my boys in their sports and other activities, and show up to all their performances, games and events not because I HAVE to but because I wouldn’t miss them for the world.
  3. I work full time in a Sales Organization and have been a top performer for around 15 years, and it is a very demanding, self motivated and stressful career.
  4. I maintain friendships and relationships with people that are important to me, and they are most definitely a priority in my life.
  5. I am happily married and work on my relationship with my husband all the time (because let’s face it, in real life, marriage is hard but also soooo worth it!)
  6. I write a minimum of 5 blog posts each week, promote them through social media, and learn new ways to grow my following and provide value to people that are interested in what I have to say.
  7. I face daily challenges and obstacles that while they have helped me grow, I am determined to not them define me!

 

I know that my no means am I alone in what I have going on in my life, and I am certainly not super-human, but what I can tell you is that no matter what I do, I always give it 100%.  I love being successful and I am such a determined and motivated person that knows I am in control of my own life and that nothing or nobody else can decide how successful, happy and peaceful my life is!  I constantly strive to improve myself, and most importantly to not take myself too seriously.

 

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There are definitely things I wish I would have known in advance about writing a blog, and about social media, and of course I am still learning a lot of that stuff.  I didn’t even realize the things I didn’t know until I got in and started doing it, but here’s the key…even when I found out that I didn’t know a lot of stuff, I didn’t let it deter me, I just kept, trying new directions, shifting focus and most importantly…I DIDN’T STOP!!  Here’s my thought about anything in life – if you want it badly enough, you just find a way to get it done.  You don’t let setbacks, challenges, disappointments or other people prevent you from achieving your dream…

 

When I started my blog I started it with the plan to make it not just about fashion and style but more about helping other Women in particular see the value that comes from having confidence in themselves that can come from feeling good about how they look.  I definitely write about other things too (I see value in many other topics) but there is definitely an overall theme to what I write that should bring you back to feeling great about who you are…

 

As my blog has grown, I have definitely learned a lot of things, and I have definitely done some things wrong.  I don’t expect to be perfect, but what I do want to do is be improving and the only way to do that is to keep learning, trying new things and finally, by asking for feedback?  Who of you out there is willing to give me some feedback about if you have found value in what I have been doing and if there are some things you would like to see more of?

 

Whether you are someone just looking for style tips and ideas, or if you are reading this to find out about how you can boost your confidence and make the most of your appearance and use that to translate it to success, you are in the right place.  I may not wear something every day that has you thinking that you want to rush out and buy it – and that’s the point…I am ME, and you are you!  We all need to be who we are, but sometimes we just need a little inspiration.  There are very few original ideas in this world, but sometimes we don’t hear things or see things until we are ready to use those things.  For example, I have heard advice from people over the years, and it’s not until I am ready to take that advice that I really HEAR it…

 

Are YOU ready to hear advice or support that may help you?

 


What makes you Unique

“Worry about loving yourself instead of worrying about the idea of other people loving you!”

If you’ve read any of my previous posts or seen me on Facebook or Instagram, you know that I talk about being unique all the time.  So I wanted to elaborate a little on what I meant.  Even since I was a little girl, being different, unique, standing out, not following the crowd and not being afraid to be myself has been something I have constantly strived for.

I realize that we all come to this earth with different talents, we look different, we have different priorities and consider some things more important than others.  I have very strong opinions, which I don’t apologize for, but I am also a very open and nonjudgemental person!  I recently did a little survey with some of my closest friends and family, I asked them to give me some adjectives that they thought best described me, to tell me what was their favorite trait of mine, what they thought I could improve on, and how they would describe my style.  I have to admit I was little nervous to get the feedback but I absolutely loved EVERYTHING that was said (even the things I could improve on, which I honestly already knew 🙂 )

So…here are a just a few highlights of what was said:

Adjectives used to describe me:  Tenacious, happy, optimistic, spicy, vivacious, direct, strong, ambitious, smart, confident, vulnerable, decisive, professional, urban, sexy, adaptable, reliable, complex, transparent and interesting!

The things I need to work on are:  patience, bluntness, and to believe in myself.

This is just a snippet of what was said, and I have to say that it made me want to be better but at the same time made me realize that I picked the friends I have for a reason 🙂

So, with all that being said, what is it that makes you unique.  We are all so different, what makes you, YOU?  The best relationships I have in my life, the greatest friendships and the ones that span the Ocean and all time, are the ones where I am spending time with someone that is not afraid to be themselves and it 100% secure in who they are.  I have met many people that don’t have as much confidence in themselves that they should.  I do love strong people, but those people come in all shapes and sizes.  I am strong in some ways and I have friends that aspire to be like because they are strong in other ways.  I think this life is all about us lifting up those around us and making them better.  If we are not worrying about what others think of us, and just being US, then we are able to be a true friend, wife, husband or partner!

I feel so happy and blessed to have the life I have chosen, because I know I have chosen the path I am on.  Even small decisions we make lead us onto a path and can totally change the course of our lives…

So, I ask you, what makes you unique?  If you were to ask those around you what they love the most about you, how they would describe you and what they think you could improve on, would you be surprised?  I talk a lot about style and presentation of yourself, but before you even get to that, you need to exude a certain power and that power comes from within you, seeing yourself as the unique, amazing person that you are.

I wanted to start off this Monday with a positive thought…as I think positive thoughts, I become more positive.  I hope it does the same for you too!

HAPPY MONDAY…

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