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Keep it Simple

The greatest prison people live in is the fear of what other people think!

I think one of the biggest challenges we face when trying to figure out what our style is or how to dress is the fact that there are so many options and styles available.  There is a huge problem in society where we tend to overthink things, or even talk ourselves out of things because we are worried what others might think, or we are just not confident enough to trust our instincts.

Confidence in today’s world is word that is thrown around all the time, but what does it really mean?  Around the age of 9 we start focusing more on what other people think and tend to shape ourselves more after the reactions we get from people rather than by what actually makes us feel good.  The good news, just as we chose to mold our thought process after what others think, we can change that same thought process and make it more into what we want it to be.

The only way to do that is just to jump in and start dressing for YOU without any thought (or at least not giving in to the fear that you might not be accepted) and just go for it.  Starting small, keeping it simple is the best way to start.  Because there are so many style options out there, the best way to create your own unique style and do it for YOU is to start by finding colors that you love.  Once you have your favorite color (one that looks good against your skin tone), then you start looking for styles that flatter your body type (of course, only ones that you like and not what you think others will like).

The pictures in today’s post are a couple of years old because I wanted to demonstrate that simple can also be timeless.  A simple pair of faux leather leggings, a peplum top (flattering when you are looking to accentuate a smaller waist or give the appearance of a small waist) and a leather jacket.  Simple – classy and comfortable.  When you dress using simple pieces like these, a great way to add a little funk is by adding some fun accessories and shoes.  A pair of fun drop earrings, a chunky pearl bracelet and some bold pumps.

The key is to not let the fear, over thinking or lack of confidence dictate what you wear or how you feel.  I know that may sound easier said than done, but honestly the only way to grow your confidence is to expand your comfort zone and try new things.  Loving to dress for YOU is the start of having an amazing relationship with yourself.  If we don’t love and treat ourselves the way we deserve to be treated, other’s won’t know that’s how they should be treating us.  

Confidence is like love, the more you have the more you get…the hardest part is just latching on to that little bit that is already inside you.  I believe that everyone in this world has at least one thing they can own and be proud of.  That one thing that makes you know how amazing you are.  It could be something like being a good cook, having creativity and using that to make your house into a home, being exceptionally patient with your kids to name just a few.  There is always something, and that feeling you get when you feel satisfaction after accomplishment or showing love, that is the feeling you will want to latch onto.  Use that to help you gain confidence in any other area of your life…trust me, I have used this so many times in my life and it works.

I hope you have a blessed weekend, and if you feel like sharing something that you did to help you gain more confidence, I would love to hear!

Michelle
XOXOX


Crossover Outfits Made Simple

“You will never influence the world by being just like it!”

OK, so we may be into the New Year but that doesn’t mean that your party or fun styles have to be retired to your wardrobe.  In fact, what a great way to move into a New Year by keeping your style fresh, funky, versatile and most importantly YOU!

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There are lots of style that people wear for business or work that you wouldn’t want to be seen wearing if you had a dinner or get together right after work, but I’m happy to tell you that’s its not too hard to create a look that works for both!

 

 

Today’s post is one of those outfits.  It is a simple dress, but by adding some sparkly tights, and a fun faux fur jacket, it makes it a more non-traditional work style that you wouldn’t mind being seen wearing after work in a restaurant or wherever you might be going.

 

I have never been a big fan of conforming to any traditional style – I much prefer to tailor it to my personality…it is what makes me who I am!  The greatest thing about styles and what we wear is that it can announce us before we even speak.  If you’re someone with a big personality wouldn’t you want what you wear to say that about you.  You might even be someone that is kind of shy but doesn’t want to be…so why not let your clothes and outfits do the talking?

 

Still unsure about what really expresses who you are?  Then here are a few ideas that might help you…

  1. Ask yourself – do I want to be noticed or fly under the radar?
    • If the answer is yes, then you would want to wear “louder” more colorful clothes, whereas if you prefer to not be noticed, sticking with muted or traditional styles and colors are going to be where you want to live.
  2. Are you confident about your body and how you look?
    • If the answer is yes, wearing form fitting, bold styles and colors are going to make you feel great about yourself.  If you answered no, then wearing styles that accentuate your body are not going to be where you want to go (wearing a skirt that is tight around your stomach if you are conscious of that area is only going to make you feel uncomfortable and insecure).
  3. Are you worried about how others are going to look at you?
    • The most confident people know that when they wear certain things they are going to attract attention (not always good because there are always going to be people that are going to judge you), but they are OK with that.  They know how they feel about how they look and that is enough for them.  Therefore, if you are still not confident enough in yourself to wear those things you like without worrying about others, then you probably ought to stick to less outrageous outfits until you sidebar what others think!
  4. When you get dressed, who are you dressing for?
    • This is probably one of the most important questions you can ask yourself.  All too often I see people dressing for how they think their friends, their spouse or their boss might want them to. There is a huge problem in this because we are not being true to ourselves.  I have always marched to the beat of my own drum, but I do see very often people not knowing how to dress and buying things because they think it is something that someone else would like.  Confidence comes from knowing who we are, and not being afraid to show that…

The best gift you can give yourself is the gift of allowing you to be you!

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Simplicity…

“Simplicity is the ultimate form of sophistication.”

Every once in a while you just need to keep things really simple and today’s outfits is one of those where the cream top with understated ruffles is just enough!

The great thing about keeping an outfit simple is that you can add great accessories to spice it up.  I love taking something simple that you might see everyone else wearing and making it unique by adding just a few little things, for example adding a bright colored jacket or shoes to this outfit would really make it stand out!

If you are ever struggling for outfit ideas, the easiest way to put one together is by starting with simply stated pieces, and finish them with accessories and accents.   A simple dress with a great chunky necklace and shoes, a pair of jeans with a plain T-shirt with an animal print accent belt.  Simply find an accessory or accent piece that you really like and try it out with some plain pieces!

Saturdays are to help us recharge our batteries, have fun recharging yours this weekend 🙂

 



Feeling Good

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“Feeling healthy and good about yourself is not a luxury, it is an absolute necessity!”

Have you ever had one of those days where no matter what you do, for some reason you don’t feel great.  There is something in the back of your mind the whole time stopping you from feeling amazing?  Well, I have those days quite often.  I am someone that is very aware of things that are going on around me, and I certainly “feel” energy – whether that energy is good or bad!

If you are in a Sales environment then you can probably relate to the high’s and low’s that come from what we do.  You feel amazing when you are doing well, and not so great when things seem to be moving in the wrong direction.  So, the question is, what can you do about that.  If you have ever been to a Sales training or any other kind of motivational training, you have heard that “The only thing you can control is yourself…” well, that is definitely true.  And it is also true that any negative thought certainly perpetuates and makes things seem worse.  The great news is that positive thoughts also have the same effect.

The key is to find out what can cause you to think positively.  For some people optimism is something that comes naturally, for others it requires a little more effort.  I have found that when I feel down, I try to remove myself from the situation that is making me feel that way – if only very briefly, just so I can recharge my battery.  It can mean something as simple as going for a walk, meeting a friend or loved one, or even exercising…I do this so I can change the way I feel AWAY from what has caused me to feel that way in the first place.

I used to go shopping to help me feel better, it’s something that always seems to help, however, it can become expensive if you have too many times you need to do it!  Nowadays, I try to be more aware, and find positivity in other ways.

I have talked about this before, but I don’t think it can ever be said too much – there are things you can do to make you feel better about yourself.  Looking good and feeling good go hand in hand.  Regardless of how anyone else sees you, how you see yourself is vital to being the best you can be.

Today I am highlighting a really simple outfit that I finished off with an amazing Statement necklace (that you can actually buy for yourself on My Shop – click link below) – simple and classy is sometimes exactly what is needed.  I am an extrovert, but there are some days where I want to be understated…it’s always fun to change things up and keep people wondering what you will do next.

Dress:  NY Boutique (you can create your own look with a simple black shift dress)     Sandals:  Vince Camuto       Shades:  NY (similar in My Shop)        Statement Necklace:  On Sale in My Shop