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Business like a Boss Lady

She knew the power of her mind, so she programmed it for success!

Just in case you missed my Video Podcast, I wanted to talk a little about Business Style and how it doesn’t have to be boring.

I think this was one of the most important realizations I had when I was working in Corporate America. YES – there are rules, but NO – it doesn’t mean you can’t adapt them and still be business appropriate.

I am a firm believer in that fact that you can look amazing even if you are not in a business suit or the traditional styles of old business. I’m not condoning breaking the dress code at the company you work at, but I have found that dressing appropriately for business doesn’t mean that you can’t still march to the beat of your own drum.

As women we have so much more opportunity to create our own look than men do, so why not take advantage of all the amazing offerings the world of fashion has for us?

Here are a few of my own suggestions and things I did that helped me feel great about my business style:

  • Incorporate bright colors – yes, you can add a bright colored blouse but what about really stepping it up and adding a pair of bright colored pants or a skirt. Red is always my favorite go-to, but there are so many others like green, purple, orange and yellow – or pretty much any color that is bold and stands out! Bold patterns are always find to wear too – like these cute joggers that look professional yet funky!
  • Add a little lace – it is so feminine and looks so professional as well. By adding something lace to your look, you will immediately elevate the look from ordinary to fabulous.
  • You don’t have to stick to traditional fabrics – try adding some leather or velvet. Gone are the days when wearing something less traditional is a bad thing. Leather was once thought to be edgy but now it really can be made to look feminine and classy by wearing a pretty blouse, and some stand out shoes!
  • Don’t forget the details – accessories can be the thing that elevate an otherwise ordinary outfit. By adding some cute jewelry, a scarf or carrying a bag that is fun – you will immediately draw peoples eyes to those pieces. Which means, if your business style is understated, you can make it more sassy and fun by adding some gorgeous accessories. Beware though – in this situation, less is more. Don’t over-do it…keep it classy!
  • You know my philosophy about shoes…well, it applies to business style as well. When you wear a pair of shoes that is colorful, bold or unique that’s what people more often than not will remember. I’ve talked about how someone’s shoes are usually the first thing I notice…well, I can tell you that I am not the only one 😉
  • Business IS all about looking professional – you having a jacket handy is a good thing…but that doesn’t mean that the jacket has to be ordinary. In fact, finding jackets that are unique is always fun for me – like the blazer I’m wearing here with the leather accents. Professional – YES! Unique – YES!

A lot of dressing for business in a way that still expresses your personality is really about changing your mindset. It’s about being open to exploring differentiations and creating your own interpretations of the rules.

None of the pictures I’ve posted are inappropriate business style, but can you agree that they are my unique style? I have found that I am happiest when I am not conforming to the opinions of others, but rather adapting situations to suit my style – but doing it in a way that is still social acceptable and fun! Sounds like a win/win doesn’t it?

Are you ready to explore your business style?

What does success mean to you?

Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules and build a life you’re proud to live!

There are so many definitions for success – for some it could mean being happy in whatever it is that you do.  For others it is tied to income or status, or even it could mean helping others.  Whatever your definition is, there is one thing that is absolutely vital in order to achieve your level of success.  You need to surround yourself and associate with people that think the same way as you do, because when you spend a lot of time with people, you start to emulate their characteristics – so pick the ones that think like you do, that have similar goals and most importantly, people that will lift you up rather tear you down or drain your energy!

As you know, I have changed the career that I had for 20 years, so things have definitely changed to say the least!

Here are some key things that I use in my life to stay motivated and feel successful:

  1. One thing that is a constant for me is that I get up every morning, get dressed (nicely) and go to my office. It’s not that I couldn’t work from our home office, but I have found for ME, I like the dressing up and going out part…
  2. I have found that the more passionate I am about something the more likely I am to put forth the most amount of effort into making it successful – so loving what I do every day is vital. Even when I am doing tasks I may not like, I tell myself I am doing it BECAUSE…and that because could be something as simple as “I want to feel proud of myself” or “I want to have the money to travel” etc…
  3. I am not afraid to try new things or take risks – it is sometimes easy to talk yourself out of something because it is not comfortable or scary.  You will not always get the results you want, but you certainly won’t grow unless you try new things and take risks. This is one that is very real for me right now – with the launch of my video podcast, things are definitely uncertain but HEY! I’m going with it 😉
  4. I have 100% confidence in myself that I will be successful.  If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody else will believe in you.  It doesn’t mean that every time you are going to get the result immediately that you want, but it does mean that sometimes you take a different path and find success in other ways.
  5. I always make sure that I take care of myself.  I have a busy life with a career, kids and volunteer work, but I always make sure that my cup is always at least partly full because if it isn’t, I can’t be there for anyone else. Self care and vacations are two very important things for me and, you can just ask anyone that knows me – especially about the vacations, I don’t ever sacrifice them!
  6. Finally, I take my relationships in business and my personal life very seriously – I am extremely grateful for everyone that I have and make myself available as much as possible to ensure that I continue to foster those relationships!

Mornings are hectic in my house as I am sure they are in yours, so taking the time on appearance, or spending time to make sure you are presenting yourself in the best way is something that can be neglected or at least not a priority.  I don’t think that I can say this enough – the better you feel about yourself, the better people are going to feel about you.  It doesn’t mean that you have to wear a ton of makeup, dress to the nines every day, but it does mean that you need to feel good about however you look.  Holding your head high when you walk into a room can change the entire dynamic of a situation…

Today’s outfit is one that makes me smile – makes me feel sassy (which I love to feel) and most importantly makes me hold my head high knowing that I feel good about myself…after all, when we love ourselves and feel good…that’s what others see!

Shop my look by clicking the links below…PS – I found the red pants and they’re ON SALE!!!

Professionally Styled

If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for permission!

Have you ever struggled with what to wear for work, an interview or for a professional meeting? I am not sure if it is because I am from England or just because I like to play dress up but I have always loved putting together outfits that are more dressy and polished looking…

To me, when I dress up, it is letting my audience (who I am meeting with) know that I am taking them seriously and that I care enough about making a good impression to dress up! Sometimes knowing when it is the right time to dress professionally can be the difference between getting the job at an interview, closing the sale, or making the impression you want so that you can make a long term connection. I have heard a lot of people tell me that people shouldn’t judge us by what they see, but rather by what they hear or learn from us. The problem with that is that we have ABSOLUTELY no control over what others think, and whether they should or not, they are likely going to form an opinion of us whether we like it or not. But here’s the thing…we can have a lot to do with what that opinion is by dressing appropriately for our audience (or more simply, dressing in a way that is going to make the best impression on the person we will be interacting with at any time).

I know that when I meet someone I pay attention to pretty much every detail – good or bad. I notice shoes, accessories, styles, colors, cuts of clothes, how things fit, and I most definitely notice the confidence of the person I am meeting with. If I meet someone that has their own unique or even quirky style, their confidence level is going to be what I notice the most because to be different, unique or quirky a certain level of confidence is required…and it’s this that sets them apart!

Having confidence in yourself and how you are presenting yourself is vital to this whole dressing the part thing! I actually think it is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING because even if I don’t like I style for myself, I can truly appreciate someone else’s style especially when I know that it makes them feel amazing. It tells me that they are not afraid to take risks and they are comfortable in their own skin.

Professional or business style doesn’t have to be boring, in fact, it can have an even greater impact if it is more non-traditional and a little bit unique. For women we have the opportunity to create a lot of different looks – and that’s what makes our style so much more fun…

Take this tweed dress – it’s professional, but unique. Paired with some sparkly tights and boots, a fun, unique take on business style.

You can shop my look and similar by clicking the links below…

Make No Excuses – Just Goals

 

“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment!”

 

Do you have goals?  Even if you think you don’t, I am sure there are some things that you want to achieve.  It could be as simple as decorating your home, raising your kids to be respectful, or even just about eating healthy.  What one thing do all these goals have in common?  They require WORK to get there!

Have you ever found yourself imaging your future, the home you’ll live in, the career you’ll have, standing at your kids’ weddings next to the bride or groom with pride all over your face?  To imagine is completely normal, but the only way you will actually get there is by doing at least some work.

In order to stand next to your kids on their wedding day requires you having a good relationship with them (WORK), to have the career you want (EFFORT), to move homes (WORK, TO BE ABLE TO AFFORD IT).  The thing that I have noticed in my 20 year career in sales is that unfortunately a lot of people want the reward without the effort.  The problem with that is that our imaginations can create AMAZING realities, but when we are in our actual reality it looks bleak in comparison.

It is only my second day in my new career, and I can tell you that it has its challenges, the grass is not always going to be greener, but the one thing that I have going for me is that no matter what I am not afraid to put in the effort.  Working hard is not the most important thing, working smart needs to be part of it as well.  I have found myself having to think a lot more about structuring my day to include tasks I want to accomplish, the things I need to do, along with things that I know will distract me if I don’t schedule time for them.

We have so many distractions in our life that if we don’t schedule time for those distractions we will become swept away, and when the option of doing a harder task versus something that is more fun, we will always welcome the fun one if we haven’t planned ahead.  For example, as I sit writing this blog I have probably had 20 emails, 3 texts, not to mention the phone call from one of my boys.  Obviously some distractions can’t be avoided (I try to never miss a call from my kids, even though most of the time it’s about drama or something I wish I didn’t have to deal with), but the big question is…do we welcome those distractions.  I will definitely admit that when I am doing mundane tasks I tend to become more easily distracted and tend to stay that way for longer.

So, now we know what we have to deal with on a daily basis..how do we  handle it effectively?  I have found that I allocate myself a certain amount of time on a task, and once that time is up I switch to another task.  If I haven’t completed the first task I can always go back to it.  This helps me with my focus,  my boredom and most importantly I allow myself a little break (even if it’s just a bathroom break) so I don’t become burned out!

 

 

I don’t always do work outdoors like I am in this post, but there are definitely times when a little fresh air can be exactly what the doctor ordered – maybe you can give it a try (although it’s been pretty cold here in Utah, so I won’t be able to do it soon!)

Today is Wednesday – what have you accomplished this week already and what do you still want to achieve?  Comment below…

Leather and Heels

 

“Instead of thinking how hard your journey is, think of how great your story will be!”

As you already know I love my shoes, and I love all shapes, sizes, colors and patterns…so when new styles, especially those that are unique come out, I have to at least try them, right?!

The good news about some of the latest styles out right now -they work for just about anyone.  Block or chunky heels are great because they are much easier to walk on than stiletto’s, kitten heels are heels that are much smaller than regular pumps, yet the small heel still allows them to look feminine.  The heels in this are some mules that I found on my trip to England, and absolutely fell in love with (mainly because I loved how unique the heels were, but also because I didn’t have a pair of mules like this…

 

My leather skirt is a Zara purchase – not that I am short of leather skirts, but I didn’t have one this color 😉 The cream blouse is perfect to add a feminine touch to the outfit, and make it work appropriate.  I have talked about wearing leather for work before, and this is another great example of how you can do that and still look classy/business like!

Looking for ideas or ways to wear leather for work…here are a few of my favorite looks:

  1. Leather pants with a velvet tuxedo jacket and button up blouse
  2. Knee high leather skirt, knee high boots and a fitted sweater.
  3. Suit jacket with leather accents, paired with satin pants, and satin blouse.
  4. Midi fitted leather skirt with ankle boots and a loose fitting blouson top.
  5. Leather leggings or tight pants with a long tunic top and animal print shoes.

These are just a few of my favorite ways of wearing leather for work…what is your favorite way?

Shop some of my Top current leather picks below…

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Prepare yourself for the Changing Seasons

“The best color in the whole world is one that looks good on you!”

Black has always been a color that pretty much everyone can embrace, but Navy can also be a color that works in any season, on any skin tone and most importantly, is versatile and can be worn with many other colors.  I know it’s easy to think of dark colors when Fall and Winter are coming, but there are also so many other alternatives that can add a little spice to your wardrobe.

I have been wearing a lot of short sleeved blouses, T shirts and such during the summer because the weather has been so hot and dry, so now as Fall quickly approaches (can you believe it’s Labor Day weekend this weekend?), adding some flowing, feminine long sleeved blouses is something I am really looking forward to.

I am not someone that is OK to wear the same things over and over (not that there’s anything wrong with that), I just like to express myself differently, and I really get bored with wearing clothes that are seasonal. That’s why, even though I don’t look forward to Winter or colder days, I do look forward to wearing layers, different styles, and different shoes or boots.  See, I’ve managed to find a silver lining in the fact that I don’t like cold weather 😉

What do you look forward to when the seasons change?  Just like every Monday it is an opportunity to look at the week and make a decision to make it go well…not that things can’t happen to derail even the best intentions.  Seasons can be just like Mondays!  I look forward to different activities, different fashions, different feelings that come from weather, environment and how warm I am.  I am very sensitive to weather and when I don’t see sunshine for long periods of time, it causes me to feel down and a little demotivated…which is why I moved from England to Salt Lake City which is essentially a desert.  Not that I don’t love England and its green rolling hills, but I crave sunshine, mountains and warmth.  So, for 3-4 months of the year I have to plan trips to warm climates (because winters here are definitely cold).    Even during the winters here I see the sunshine, which is the most important thing to me.

So as I start thinking about what I am going to wear during the Fall and Winter (yes, I know, it may be weird planning that far ahead, but I like to have an idea of what I already own and what new seasonal items I want to purchase this year, so that the outfits I put together can convey my own unique style), I check different stores online, I check out Nordstrom and their Anniversary Sale, I look on blogs, Pinterest, in magazines and I always check sites and watch people from Europe to see what they are wearing.  One of things I remember when I first moved here was that my styles were a little ahead of the styles in Utah, so I always like to makes sure I am keeping up with the newest styles which are often not from the US.

Are you always looking for new trends, styles and ways to express yourself like I am?  Do you have any routines or tricks that help you stay on top of your style?  I would love you to share them with me if you do!


Ultimate Confidence

 

“Make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you.  Know your worth even if they don’t.”

I have recently been soul searching to find out why I started my blog.  Then I remembered, I have had some experiences in work and in my life that have led me to know that I need to learn and grow from them.  I started this blog to help empower others to use what they already have inside them to create a rich and fulfilled life.

I was raised with the belief that I could be or do whatever I wanted to. I am extremely lucky that my parents encouraged and validated me enough to believe in myself.

Confidence is something that is visible – how you stand, your facial expressions and body language

 

That doesn’t mean that I haven’t met bumps along the way, made life harder for myself, or have just basically fallen flat on my face! But what it does mean is that no matter how many times I feel crappy, have self-doubt, insecurity, or failures, I KNOW I can pick myself up and figure something out. Whether that means trying the same thing over again or trying to do something a different way, I don’t quit.

As the years have progressed, I have found that the more success I have, the more confidence comes from it. I feel very secure in my abilities and know that the only thing holding me back is ME.

After Graduating from College, still living in England, I had an interview with a Pharmaceutical company that I thought went really well. I made it to the third round of interviews – feeling really confident in myself and my abilities I met with the female recruiter only to have a conversation I was not expecting. She explained to me that I would be meeting with Doctors who expect to see a Woman who (words to the effect of) “wears a short skirt”. Being a Young Woman I was absolutely appalled that someone could expect something like this. I was definitely naïve but I have realized as my career has gone on, that unfortunately, you meet people like this all the time.

No matter how hard you try, not everyone is going to like you all the time…so love yourself – that you can control!

 

I made it my goal to find a way to express myself with style that did not dictate how short or tight my clothing was. Being remembered should not be for these reasons. I believed that my intelligence would be what people remembered, but after years of experience, I have found that unfortunately that is not the case. Why am I telling you this? Because… if you want to be remembered, the most important factor, is to be your own unique self. Fashions will fade, your confidence and belief in yourself (that very often can come from looking and feeling great) is what people will remember.

You will notice that I don’t always follow rules for fashion and I most certainly like to find things that are different.  I have been told that I like to take fashions and make them my own…Now it’s time for you to use your unique style to help you create success and confidence in your life!

We all have experiences that can knock us down, make us feel self-doubt or feel defeated, in fact, there are some times in our life where that is what we feel more than anything else.  If we have a foundation of confidence and determination then it will make those times much easier to handle.  It certainly doesn’t mean that we won’t ever face challenges because we have no control over what other people do, but what it does mean is that we will be able to handle those challenges.

Have you ever found yourself in a place in your career where you have ended up working for someone that has not treated you well, disrespected you, or devalued you?  My guess is that at some point during your career you may have felt at least one or more of these things.  I went through an experience over the past few years that directed me into starting this blog so I could share my experiences.  I don’t feel angry about it anymore, I feel grateful that I was able to see the situation as a great learning opportunity…

I am sure you have heard the expression “Fight, Flight or Freeze”…Which category do you fall into?  I have always been a FIGHT girl, my first reaction is to attack rather than be attacked, and I have to admit it has served me well in my chosen career, it has given me the determination I needed to get through tough times.  That doesn’t mean that if it’s not your natural tendency to fight for things, that you can’t still do that…we are just talking about your initial reaction.  If you were placed in a life or death situation, if your life or someone you love’s life were in danger, would that change your reaction?  If the answer is yes, then think about this – your life is in danger (at least from a happiness and peace perspective).  How do you feel now?  Are you willing to fight for yourself…develop your confidence and make your life happy and successful?

If you feel like it would help your confidence to wear something that I am wearing in this post, then feel free to click the links and shop below 🙂


 

Business in the Heat!

 

“Blowing out someone else’s candle doesn’t make yours burn brighter!”

Have you ever wondered how it would be to actually pull up to work or an appointment during the summer months without having your skirt or pants wrinkled because of the heat of your car?

Summer is my favorite season but there are definitely frustrations when it comes to dressing appropriately for business without looking disheveled.  I very often have lunch appointments sitting outside on the patio, and by the time that lunch is over, my clothes are definitely wrinkled and not looking their best.

I have a few things that help me stay looking polished even during the hot weather, so I don’t have to forego my style:

  1. Always carry a small bottle of Downey Wrinkle Release for those days when there is nothing you can do about sitting in your car while you are driving around, or just as a refresher to your outfit before you walk through the door.
  2. On those especially hot days try to wear fabrics that don’t wrinkle, or at least don’t look wrinkled when you wear them.  Polyester is a great fabric that is lightweight and doesn’t look wrinkled even if you get hot and sweat a little!
  3. Wear patterns, that way if you do sweat or if your outfit does have wrinkles, it is not as visible.
  4. Always carry a heavy-duty deodorant and body spray with you to combat the sweat and eliminate any odors.

Most importantly, as you are getting ready, consider the weather for the day and make sure that you dress appropriately.  If I know I am going to have to walk more than usual, I tend to wear pants with lower heel shoes, and if it is going to be really humid, I try to steer clear of fabrics that will show off damp areas if I am sitting around.  There is nothing you can really do about a little sweat, but you can certainly mask it and most definitely stop it from causing unpleasant odors.  There is nothing worse than meeting someone and seeing sweat stains in their armpits or noticing that they smell bad.

Above are some styles that I have worn on hot summer days, perhaps they will give you some style inspiration too!

Easter Sunday

“Everything around us is made up of energy.  To attract positive energy into your life, start by giving off positive energy.”

Today’s post is a quick one because I have been enjoying my day out by the pool, barbequeing and loving spending time with my family this Easter Sunday.

I love the warm days and evening where we can enjoy a few laughs, eat great food, and spending time together.  We opened the pool today and the boys have been swimming already (we keep it open a lot of the year by just heating it the day before we want to swim…although today it didn’t require much warming!)  I pulled out all the patio cushions and the umbrella’s because I really do think that we will be having many more days outside on our patio by the pool 🙂

A quick note about the outfit – this is a dress I bought last year from H&M because I loved the pattern and colors, because it’s spring I felt like it was a good time to pull it out again.  It is a shirt style dress that has the rounded hem and is just above the knee (perfect for a warmer day).  The shoes are not Valentino – I would definitely love to own a pair of those, but these are an imitation Sam Edelman pair, that I think will work for now (they are definitely more affordable).

As we head into the week I wanted to leave you with a note of positivity and optimisim because as we know, the way we feel and therefore what we focus on determines the types of experiences we will have and I want to make sure that as I head into this upcoming week (especially since it is my first days back after a week-long vacation), that I feel energized, confident and happy to be doing what I am doing.  The more I focus on my success rather than how things are NOT working, I find that more success is attracted to me.

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Timeless not Trends

 

“My life didn’t please me, so I made my life!”

I absolutely love it when I find a timeless style, one that doesn’t necessarily fit into any current trends – because I know that long after those trends have come and gone, I can pull out an outfit and it will still look great…

Some prime examples of these kind of styles are:  Pencil skirts, stiletto’s and many styles of blouses (particularly those used for business or a more polished look).

I am posting the outfit today because it’s one I wore last year – it includes black culottes, a lace blouse and grwat lace-up stilettos.  What I love about this outfit is that it is eye catching but not “trendy” and what I mean by that is it isn’t something where the style will be out of fashion shortly after you wear it for the first time.  If you are spending money on “staples” or certain pieces that you can use to add to any outfit and they are will work for a long time then you will want to find things that are classics!  A great way to gauge if something is timeless or not is to look at some magazines (or blogs) from a year or two ago and see if you can still relate to those styles…

I always have some of the latest trends – not all of them but definitely some because I like to add some fun pieces to my wardrobe, but I definitely add to my staples all the time as well to keep my professional look fresh!

Our Spring break is almost over and we have had a blast, and even though we’ve been having fun this week, we are now back to reality because the baseball season is back in full swing…

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Happy Friday & Easter Weekend!!