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Professionally Styled

If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for permission!

Have you ever struggled with what to wear for work, an interview or for a professional meeting? I am not sure if it is because I am from England or just because I like to play dress up but I have always loved putting together outfits that are more dressy and polished looking…

To me, when I dress up, it is letting my audience (who I am meeting with) know that I am taking them seriously and that I care enough about making a good impression to dress up! Sometimes knowing when it is the right time to dress professionally can be the difference between getting the job at an interview, closing the sale, or making the impression you want so that you can make a long term connection. I have heard a lot of people tell me that people shouldn’t judge us by what they see, but rather by what they hear or learn from us. The problem with that is that we have ABSOLUTELY no control over what others think, and whether they should or not, they are likely going to form an opinion of us whether we like it or not. But here’s the thing…we can have a lot to do with what that opinion is by dressing appropriately for our audience (or more simply, dressing in a way that is going to make the best impression on the person we will be interacting with at any time).

I know that when I meet someone I pay attention to pretty much every detail – good or bad. I notice shoes, accessories, styles, colors, cuts of clothes, how things fit, and I most definitely notice the confidence of the person I am meeting with. If I meet someone that has their own unique or even quirky style, their confidence level is going to be what I notice the most because to be different, unique or quirky a certain level of confidence is required…and it’s this that sets them apart!

Having confidence in yourself and how you are presenting yourself is vital to this whole dressing the part thing! I actually think it is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING because even if I don’t like I style for myself, I can truly appreciate someone else’s style especially when I know that it makes them feel amazing. It tells me that they are not afraid to take risks and they are comfortable in their own skin.

Professional or business style doesn’t have to be boring, in fact, it can have an even greater impact if it is more non-traditional and a little bit unique. For women we have the opportunity to create a lot of different looks – and that’s what makes our style so much more fun…

Take this tweed dress – it’s professional, but unique. Paired with some sparkly tights and boots, a fun, unique take on business style.

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Make No Excuses – Just Goals

 

“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment!”

 

Do you have goals?  Even if you think you don’t, I am sure there are some things that you want to achieve.  It could be as simple as decorating your home, raising your kids to be respectful, or even just about eating healthy.  What one thing do all these goals have in common?  They require WORK to get there!

Have you ever found yourself imaging your future, the home you’ll live in, the career you’ll have, standing at your kids’ weddings next to the bride or groom with pride all over your face?  To imagine is completely normal, but the only way you will actually get there is by doing at least some work.

In order to stand next to your kids on their wedding day requires you having a good relationship with them (WORK), to have the career you want (EFFORT), to move homes (WORK, TO BE ABLE TO AFFORD IT).  The thing that I have noticed in my 20 year career in sales is that unfortunately a lot of people want the reward without the effort.  The problem with that is that our imaginations can create AMAZING realities, but when we are in our actual reality it looks bleak in comparison.

It is only my second day in my new career, and I can tell you that it has its challenges, the grass is not always going to be greener, but the one thing that I have going for me is that no matter what I am not afraid to put in the effort.  Working hard is not the most important thing, working smart needs to be part of it as well.  I have found myself having to think a lot more about structuring my day to include tasks I want to accomplish, the things I need to do, along with things that I know will distract me if I don’t schedule time for them.

We have so many distractions in our life that if we don’t schedule time for those distractions we will become swept away, and when the option of doing a harder task versus something that is more fun, we will always welcome the fun one if we haven’t planned ahead.  For example, as I sit writing this blog I have probably had 20 emails, 3 texts, not to mention the phone call from one of my boys.  Obviously some distractions can’t be avoided (I try to never miss a call from my kids, even though most of the time it’s about drama or something I wish I didn’t have to deal with), but the big question is…do we welcome those distractions.  I will definitely admit that when I am doing mundane tasks I tend to become more easily distracted and tend to stay that way for longer.

So, now we know what we have to deal with on a daily basis..how do we  handle it effectively?  I have found that I allocate myself a certain amount of time on a task, and once that time is up I switch to another task.  If I haven’t completed the first task I can always go back to it.  This helps me with my focus,  my boredom and most importantly I allow myself a little break (even if it’s just a bathroom break) so I don’t become burned out!

 

 

I don’t always do work outdoors like I am in this post, but there are definitely times when a little fresh air can be exactly what the doctor ordered – maybe you can give it a try (although it’s been pretty cold here in Utah, so I won’t be able to do it soon!)

Today is Wednesday – what have you accomplished this week already and what do you still want to achieve?  Comment below…

Leather and Heels

 

“Instead of thinking how hard your journey is, think of how great your story will be!”

As you already know I love my shoes, and I love all shapes, sizes, colors and patterns…so when new styles, especially those that are unique come out, I have to at least try them, right?!

The good news about some of the latest styles out right now -they work for just about anyone.  Block or chunky heels are great because they are much easier to walk on than stiletto’s, kitten heels are heels that are much smaller than regular pumps, yet the small heel still allows them to look feminine.  The heels in this are some mules that I found on my trip to England, and absolutely fell in love with (mainly because I loved how unique the heels were, but also because I didn’t have a pair of mules like this…

 

My leather skirt is a Zara purchase – not that I am short of leather skirts, but I didn’t have one this color 😉 The cream blouse is perfect to add a feminine touch to the outfit, and make it work appropriate.  I have talked about wearing leather for work before, and this is another great example of how you can do that and still look classy/business like!

Looking for ideas or ways to wear leather for work…here are a few of my favorite looks:

  1. Leather pants with a velvet tuxedo jacket and button up blouse
  2. Knee high leather skirt, knee high boots and a fitted sweater.
  3. Suit jacket with leather accents, paired with satin pants, and satin blouse.
  4. Midi fitted leather skirt with ankle boots and a loose fitting blouson top.
  5. Leather leggings or tight pants with a long tunic top and animal print shoes.

These are just a few of my favorite ways of wearing leather for work…what is your favorite way?

Shop some of my Top current leather picks below…

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Prepare yourself for the Changing Seasons

“The best color in the whole world is one that looks good on you!”

Black has always been a color that pretty much everyone can embrace, but Navy can also be a color that works in any season, on any skin tone and most importantly, is versatile and can be worn with many other colors.  I know it’s easy to think of dark colors when Fall and Winter are coming, but there are also so many other alternatives that can add a little spice to your wardrobe.

I have been wearing a lot of short sleeved blouses, T shirts and such during the summer because the weather has been so hot and dry, so now as Fall quickly approaches (can you believe it’s Labor Day weekend this weekend?), adding some flowing, feminine long sleeved blouses is something I am really looking forward to.

I am not someone that is OK to wear the same things over and over (not that there’s anything wrong with that), I just like to express myself differently, and I really get bored with wearing clothes that are seasonal. That’s why, even though I don’t look forward to Winter or colder days, I do look forward to wearing layers, different styles, and different shoes or boots.  See, I’ve managed to find a silver lining in the fact that I don’t like cold weather 😉

What do you look forward to when the seasons change?  Just like every Monday it is an opportunity to look at the week and make a decision to make it go well…not that things can’t happen to derail even the best intentions.  Seasons can be just like Mondays!  I look forward to different activities, different fashions, different feelings that come from weather, environment and how warm I am.  I am very sensitive to weather and when I don’t see sunshine for long periods of time, it causes me to feel down and a little demotivated…which is why I moved from England to Salt Lake City which is essentially a desert.  Not that I don’t love England and its green rolling hills, but I crave sunshine, mountains and warmth.  So, for 3-4 months of the year I have to plan trips to warm climates (because winters here are definitely cold).    Even during the winters here I see the sunshine, which is the most important thing to me.

So as I start thinking about what I am going to wear during the Fall and Winter (yes, I know, it may be weird planning that far ahead, but I like to have an idea of what I already own and what new seasonal items I want to purchase this year, so that the outfits I put together can convey my own unique style), I check different stores online, I check out Nordstrom and their Anniversary Sale, I look on blogs, Pinterest, in magazines and I always check sites and watch people from Europe to see what they are wearing.  One of things I remember when I first moved here was that my styles were a little ahead of the styles in Utah, so I always like to makes sure I am keeping up with the newest styles which are often not from the US.

Are you always looking for new trends, styles and ways to express yourself like I am?  Do you have any routines or tricks that help you stay on top of your style?  I would love you to share them with me if you do!


Ultimate Confidence

 

“Make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you.  Know your worth even if they don’t.”

I have recently been soul searching to find out why I started my blog.  Then I remembered, I have had some experiences in work and in my life that have led me to know that I need to learn and grow from them.  I started this blog to help empower others to use what they already have inside them to create a rich and fulfilled life.

I was raised with the belief that I could be or do whatever I wanted to. I am extremely lucky that my parents encouraged and validated me enough to believe in myself.

Confidence is something that is visible – how you stand, your facial expressions and body language

 

That doesn’t mean that I haven’t met bumps along the way, made life harder for myself, or have just basically fallen flat on my face! But what it does mean is that no matter how many times I feel crappy, have self-doubt, insecurity, or failures, I KNOW I can pick myself up and figure something out. Whether that means trying the same thing over again or trying to do something a different way, I don’t quit.

As the years have progressed, I have found that the more success I have, the more confidence comes from it. I feel very secure in my abilities and know that the only thing holding me back is ME.

After Graduating from College, still living in England, I had an interview with a Pharmaceutical company that I thought went really well. I made it to the third round of interviews – feeling really confident in myself and my abilities I met with the female recruiter only to have a conversation I was not expecting. She explained to me that I would be meeting with Doctors who expect to see a Woman who (words to the effect of) “wears a short skirt”. Being a Young Woman I was absolutely appalled that someone could expect something like this. I was definitely naïve but I have realized as my career has gone on, that unfortunately, you meet people like this all the time.

No matter how hard you try, not everyone is going to like you all the time…so love yourself – that you can control!

 

I made it my goal to find a way to express myself with style that did not dictate how short or tight my clothing was. Being remembered should not be for these reasons. I believed that my intelligence would be what people remembered, but after years of experience, I have found that unfortunately that is not the case. Why am I telling you this? Because… if you want to be remembered, the most important factor, is to be your own unique self. Fashions will fade, your confidence and belief in yourself (that very often can come from looking and feeling great) is what people will remember.

You will notice that I don’t always follow rules for fashion and I most certainly like to find things that are different.  I have been told that I like to take fashions and make them my own…Now it’s time for you to use your unique style to help you create success and confidence in your life!

We all have experiences that can knock us down, make us feel self-doubt or feel defeated, in fact, there are some times in our life where that is what we feel more than anything else.  If we have a foundation of confidence and determination then it will make those times much easier to handle.  It certainly doesn’t mean that we won’t ever face challenges because we have no control over what other people do, but what it does mean is that we will be able to handle those challenges.

Have you ever found yourself in a place in your career where you have ended up working for someone that has not treated you well, disrespected you, or devalued you?  My guess is that at some point during your career you may have felt at least one or more of these things.  I went through an experience over the past few years that directed me into starting this blog so I could share my experiences.  I don’t feel angry about it anymore, I feel grateful that I was able to see the situation as a great learning opportunity…

I am sure you have heard the expression “Fight, Flight or Freeze”…Which category do you fall into?  I have always been a FIGHT girl, my first reaction is to attack rather than be attacked, and I have to admit it has served me well in my chosen career, it has given me the determination I needed to get through tough times.  That doesn’t mean that if it’s not your natural tendency to fight for things, that you can’t still do that…we are just talking about your initial reaction.  If you were placed in a life or death situation, if your life or someone you love’s life were in danger, would that change your reaction?  If the answer is yes, then think about this – your life is in danger (at least from a happiness and peace perspective).  How do you feel now?  Are you willing to fight for yourself…develop your confidence and make your life happy and successful?

If you feel like it would help your confidence to wear something that I am wearing in this post, then feel free to click the links and shop below 🙂


 

Business in the Heat!

 

“Blowing out someone else’s candle doesn’t make yours burn brighter!”

Have you ever wondered how it would be to actually pull up to work or an appointment during the summer months without having your skirt or pants wrinkled because of the heat of your car?

Summer is my favorite season but there are definitely frustrations when it comes to dressing appropriately for business without looking disheveled.  I very often have lunch appointments sitting outside on the patio, and by the time that lunch is over, my clothes are definitely wrinkled and not looking their best.

I have a few things that help me stay looking polished even during the hot weather, so I don’t have to forego my style:

  1. Always carry a small bottle of Downey Wrinkle Release for those days when there is nothing you can do about sitting in your car while you are driving around, or just as a refresher to your outfit before you walk through the door.
  2. On those especially hot days try to wear fabrics that don’t wrinkle, or at least don’t look wrinkled when you wear them.  Polyester is a great fabric that is lightweight and doesn’t look wrinkled even if you get hot and sweat a little!
  3. Wear patterns, that way if you do sweat or if your outfit does have wrinkles, it is not as visible.
  4. Always carry a heavy-duty deodorant and body spray with you to combat the sweat and eliminate any odors.

Most importantly, as you are getting ready, consider the weather for the day and make sure that you dress appropriately.  If I know I am going to have to walk more than usual, I tend to wear pants with lower heel shoes, and if it is going to be really humid, I try to steer clear of fabrics that will show off damp areas if I am sitting around.  There is nothing you can really do about a little sweat, but you can certainly mask it and most definitely stop it from causing unpleasant odors.  There is nothing worse than meeting someone and seeing sweat stains in their armpits or noticing that they smell bad.

Above are some styles that I have worn on hot summer days, perhaps they will give you some style inspiration too!

Easter Sunday

“Everything around us is made up of energy.  To attract positive energy into your life, start by giving off positive energy.”

Today’s post is a quick one because I have been enjoying my day out by the pool, barbequeing and loving spending time with my family this Easter Sunday.

I love the warm days and evening where we can enjoy a few laughs, eat great food, and spending time together.  We opened the pool today and the boys have been swimming already (we keep it open a lot of the year by just heating it the day before we want to swim…although today it didn’t require much warming!)  I pulled out all the patio cushions and the umbrella’s because I really do think that we will be having many more days outside on our patio by the pool 🙂

A quick note about the outfit – this is a dress I bought last year from H&M because I loved the pattern and colors, because it’s spring I felt like it was a good time to pull it out again.  It is a shirt style dress that has the rounded hem and is just above the knee (perfect for a warmer day).  The shoes are not Valentino – I would definitely love to own a pair of those, but these are an imitation Sam Edelman pair, that I think will work for now (they are definitely more affordable).

As we head into the week I wanted to leave you with a note of positivity and optimisim because as we know, the way we feel and therefore what we focus on determines the types of experiences we will have and I want to make sure that as I head into this upcoming week (especially since it is my first days back after a week-long vacation), that I feel energized, confident and happy to be doing what I am doing.  The more I focus on my success rather than how things are NOT working, I find that more success is attracted to me.

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Timeless not Trends

 

“My life didn’t please me, so I made my life!”

I absolutely love it when I find a timeless style, one that doesn’t necessarily fit into any current trends – because I know that long after those trends have come and gone, I can pull out an outfit and it will still look great…

Some prime examples of these kind of styles are:  Pencil skirts, stiletto’s and many styles of blouses (particularly those used for business or a more polished look).

I am posting the outfit today because it’s one I wore last year – it includes black culottes, a lace blouse and grwat lace-up stilettos.  What I love about this outfit is that it is eye catching but not “trendy” and what I mean by that is it isn’t something where the style will be out of fashion shortly after you wear it for the first time.  If you are spending money on “staples” or certain pieces that you can use to add to any outfit and they are will work for a long time then you will want to find things that are classics!  A great way to gauge if something is timeless or not is to look at some magazines (or blogs) from a year or two ago and see if you can still relate to those styles…

I always have some of the latest trends – not all of them but definitely some because I like to add some fun pieces to my wardrobe, but I definitely add to my staples all the time as well to keep my professional look fresh!

Our Spring break is almost over and we have had a blast, and even though we’ve been having fun this week, we are now back to reality because the baseball season is back in full swing…

shops some styles similar to these by clicking on the links below!

Happy Friday & Easter Weekend!!




Tips for Spring Styling…

 

“It’s never too late to be what you might have been!”

Spring is here so today’s tip is focused with that in mind.  It is too easy to stick with things that we have always done and not try new things…but if you truly want to explore fashion and find styles that work for you, that is going to require a little experimentation.   Be on the look out for people wearing things that you like – it can be people you meet on the street, people you see on TV in shows, or even in magazines or in blogs.  The main point is that you want to be looking for things that you can adapt to work for your body.

Don’t get caught up in what you think you should be wearing, there is not one style that is going to work for EVERYONEwe are all so unique and different.

When you see a style or trend that you like, the best thing to do is find something that is similar and try it on.  If that is not possible, then take a look at that style and consider where it is fitted – does it fit the waist or hips snugly, or is the top tighter around the breasts?  Once you have determined how it fits the person you see wearing it, then consider if that would work for you?  If you are someone that doesn’t like to draw attention to a certain area of your body, that is very important when considering which clothes you can wear.

Finally, the most important detail is that you must carry yourself with style, grace and a smile…oh, and breathe.  If you are so self-conscious about your outfit that you catch yourself holding your breath or just not feeling great about yourself, then that is not something you should be wearing!

If you didn’t get a chance to check out this amazing clutch last time I posted, here is the link – India Hicks has so many bags, accessories etc that are worth looking at – click here

Smile as you head into the weekend – I know I will 🙂

 

 




The Full Outfit

 

“A strong Woman looks a challenge right in the eye and gives it a wink!”

Following on from yesterday’s post, this is the full outfit that I wore when I was carrying that amazing clutch!  A Pencil skirt has the ability to slim down any figure if it is not too tight and is the right length.  This Polka-dot pencil skirt is made from fabric that it stretchy and therefore clings just enough but not too much.  I paired it with a box cut blouse in White that added a little dimension and flow.  Wearing a blouse or top like this can be great if you want to avoid focus falling onto your mid-section.  These style of tops are very flattering and yet fun and stylish all at the same time.  The ankle strap pumps are a perfect monochrome compliment and add a little sass.  I kept the jewelry simple with some Mother of Pearl and a Gold and Pearl bracelet that matched the Gold watch.

I think it’s important to consider even the smallest detail when putting together an outfit, especially if you are going somewhere important or want to make a good impression.  When I have a business appointment or I am going to an event, I carefully pick out the jewelry and accessories I wear, as well as the shoes and of course the clothes.  While I don’t think it’s necessary to match every item or piece, I do think it’s important to make sure that they don’t clash.  Wearing pieces that don’t match too closely is sometimes a fun activity, and can add a little spice to an outfit.  In fact, I think it’s more important to wear constrasting pieces than try to match colors and textures too closely because it can look worse if you do that.

If you didn’t have a chance to check out the amazing products that India Hicks has to offer, you have another chance today by clicking here.

I always think that wearing a pencil skirt is a great business choice, and looks very professional, but definitely take care to not let it be too tight because it can look inappropriate if you do that.  Click below for some similar pencil skirt styles that you can add to your business wardrobe along with some two-tone shoes.