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How Strong is your Boot Game?

Your style is confined only by the walls you build yourself!

The right shoes or boots can make or break an outfit, so when I came across these gold boots I just knew they had to be mine. They’re not new, I have had them for a couple of years, but I still love them and I absolutely love breaking them out every once in a while when I want to elevate my outfit.

We are drawing to a close of the season where boots are worn all the time, but I also love the idea of wearing boots in warmer months too. In fact, to me, there’s nothing that shows more sass that a cute sundress or skirt with some boots or booties. Just a different take on a regular summer vibe.

So how is your boot game?

Do you shy away from boots that are too high, too bright, too much of anything? I’m definitely not saying that everyone should hurry out there and buy themselves a pair of metallic boots like mine (but I have linked a similar pair below just in case – and they’re less than $10 right now), but what I am saying is that you love to wear boots, you feel comfortable in boots and you are looking to elevate your style…try adding a pair of funky boots. In fact, as we draw closer to spring, it’s probably a great time to add some to your wardrobe because there are so many on sale right now!~

You may also notice that I am wearing a super cool mermaid styled faux leather skirt (again a throwback but I have linked a similar one below), because leather also is fabulous for ANY season…

The key to transitioning your style from season to season is to not always follow rules. I never pack away all of my winter or summer clothes, because sometimes adding a piece from a different season can create a really cool vibe. Like the boots, or the leather…because I find it important to put my own stamp on everything.

Again, if you’re looking for some fun boots on sale or some leather pieces to add to your closet…you can click the links below.

Professionally Styled

If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for permission!

Have you ever struggled with what to wear for work, an interview or for a professional meeting? I am not sure if it is because I am from England or just because I like to play dress up but I have always loved putting together outfits that are more dressy and polished looking…

To me, when I dress up, it is letting my audience (who I am meeting with) know that I am taking them seriously and that I care enough about making a good impression to dress up! Sometimes knowing when it is the right time to dress professionally can be the difference between getting the job at an interview, closing the sale, or making the impression you want so that you can make a long term connection. I have heard a lot of people tell me that people shouldn’t judge us by what they see, but rather by what they hear or learn from us. The problem with that is that we have ABSOLUTELY no control over what others think, and whether they should or not, they are likely going to form an opinion of us whether we like it or not. But here’s the thing…we can have a lot to do with what that opinion is by dressing appropriately for our audience (or more simply, dressing in a way that is going to make the best impression on the person we will be interacting with at any time).

I know that when I meet someone I pay attention to pretty much every detail – good or bad. I notice shoes, accessories, styles, colors, cuts of clothes, how things fit, and I most definitely notice the confidence of the person I am meeting with. If I meet someone that has their own unique or even quirky style, their confidence level is going to be what I notice the most because to be different, unique or quirky a certain level of confidence is required…and it’s this that sets them apart!

Having confidence in yourself and how you are presenting yourself is vital to this whole dressing the part thing! I actually think it is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING because even if I don’t like I style for myself, I can truly appreciate someone else’s style especially when I know that it makes them feel amazing. It tells me that they are not afraid to take risks and they are comfortable in their own skin.

Professional or business style doesn’t have to be boring, in fact, it can have an even greater impact if it is more non-traditional and a little bit unique. For women we have the opportunity to create a lot of different looks – and that’s what makes our style so much more fun…

Take this tweed dress – it’s professional, but unique. Paired with some sparkly tights and boots, a fun, unique take on business style.

You can shop my look and similar by clicking the links below…

Dress For You

Style is a deeply personal expression of who you are, and every time you dress, you are asserting a part of yourself!

When you are truly confident in yourself and what you bring to this world, you don’t ever feel the need to be someone you’re not, which includes dressing for YOU.

Because we are so unique as individuals, it is only a natural reaction to dress to express that uniqueness. When we do that, when we do it for ourselves without a fear of what others will think or the need to seek approval, that is one of the most empowering things we as women can do.

Who isn’t attracted to, or doesn’t want to be around a confident and self-assured person – I know I do. I am always drawn to strong women, and I know that’s because I am that way myself,. It comes down to the old saying of “birds of a feather flock together”.

So, the question is, what do you want to attract in your life? I feel empowered and even stronger when I am around other strong individuals, and the more time I spend around them, the stronger and more confident I feel.

I remember when I was in college I had a few posters on the walls of my apartment- and one of them was a Garfield poster that I found amusing because it showed Garfield with books balanced on his head and the quote said “I learn by osmosis”… I think I found it so funny because as I was taking a lot of medical classes I really wished that it was true.

It may not be true about college learning, but I can tell you that energy is contagious – OK, it may not osmosis but it kind of works in a similar way. When I choose to spend my time around those that lift me up rather than drain me, my cup is filled – which then leaves me energy to pass along and help others.

My style has always been exactly that – MINE. I don’t always wear the most ground breaking styles, or even buy all the newest things out (mainly because I don’t like them all, and I’m definitely not going to spend money on something I don’t like. I find my inspiration in lots of ways, in lots of different places and on lots of different people. I love experimenting, because that’s just me. You may like to stick to things you know, colors you love or you may even hate shopping. Whatever your way of dressing, my hope is that you do it for you. Not for a partner, not to be accepted, not to be envied by flashing lots of expensive designer stuff, and most definitely not to hide who you really are.

I thought it might be kind of fun to come up with a name for my style personality – I am

What is your style personality?

If you find any inspiration for your style from me…you can shop my look by clicking these links:

Turn Weakness into Strength

Women are never stronger than when they arm themselves with their weaknesses!

As I think back to my childhood I realize that there were so many times that people told me negative things which caused me to feel bad or insecure with myself. In fact, one of the things that I was told when I was growing up by “mean girls” was that I had a huge chin and that it made me look like a witch. I’ll admit that there were some times where I wasn’t sure what they were saying was true or not, and it definitely made me self conscious.

It took me a few years to realize that those that told me those things were probably saying it because they felt insecure or less than confident about themselves. I had a choice at that time to either let what they told me become what I believed and repeated to myself, or to not let it get to me. I was a teenager when it happened, and it was one of the must vulnerable times in my life. My choice was to embrace my features, enjoy who I was and not only carry on but to hold my head up and be proud! I looked at my family and realized that my “strong” chin – which is what I choose to call it – came from my Grandad and he was an AMAZING man! How could I possibly feel bad about it?

As I think back to that time in my life I realize that it was a turning point – it was the time that I made a decision to not let others determine how I feel about myself. It was at that time I promised myself that I would always stand up for myself and be bold! If I could see the people that said mean things about me, I would want to thank them – because if they had not said those things, I wouldn’t have become the strong, determined, powerful and fulfilled woman that I am.

There are definitely people in this life that are going to try and make you feel bad about yourself, who you are, what you look like and very often undermine what you are capable of. I can promise you that NO ONE can make you feel anything. It is your choice to believe what people say or think about you or not.

I have found at times in my life that some people I thought were my friends chose to root against me, to sabotage my success, and quite often be two-faced and almost a wolf in sheep’s clothing. As I become older and more mature I realize that I have no control over how people act or how they think, but I do have control over how it affects me. When someone points out a weakness of mine or roots against me, I choose to not focus on that but rather on being the best me that I can be!

What I have also found is that for all the negativity out there…there is still so much positivity. I choose to focus on that.

Whatever we focus on we end up with more of – so why not think the best about yourself, your talents, your blessings…see what happens!

The Importance of Contemplation and Gratitude

“Gratitude is not a passive response to something we have been given, gratitude arises from paying attention, from being awake in the presence of everything that lives within and without us!”

I was going to write about this later in the month of December but after the events of my weekend, I knew I had to write it today!  

Saturday night was pretty normal, I went to sleep around 12:30am, and at around 1:30am Brandon woke me up because he was having severe pains in his abdomen and chest.  After I saw how panicked he was, and how much pain he was in we decided to head to the E.R.  They were amazing and got us straight in…and immediately ruled out his heart as causing the pain – which was a huge relief!

We were taken back to a room where then took blood for some further testing, put him on monitors etc. etc. and kept checking in with us about every 1/2 hour.  After they had ascertained that it wasn’t a heart issue, they ruled out gallbladder and gave him a G.I. cocktail.  It is basically Lidocaine and Maalox, and after about 1 hour his pain was almost gone.  

It took hours to get the labs back, and when they did they thought he could be suffering from pancreatitis, so to rule that out they had him eat some crackers.  Because there was no pain from that, and the fact that the cocktail made him feel better, they thought it was very likely to be acid reflux with esophageal spasm.  

OK, so I know that was a very detailed story, and the reason I wanted to share all of that with you was because that is kind of what kept me going.  I immediately went into the role of helping him, being there for him and not even thinking about the fact that I hadn’t had any sleep.  

As I contemplate my life with Brandon, I realize that I haven’t always been the most amazing wife, I sometimes let my needs be all consuming, and because of my past life and relationship experiences I have, at times, not allowed myself to be completely vulnerable and present with him.  Going through something like we did on Saturday night, even though it turned out that it wasn’t life threatening, we didn’t know that when we were in it.  It certainly made me pause to be grateful for having him in my life.

Adding a pop of color to this fabulous leopard dress – shop my post by clicking the links below

Do you ever find yourself being so caught up in living your life that you don’t have time to appreciate how amazing your life is?  I was talking to a friend who also has kids that are getting older now, and we both agreed that having young kids was one of the best times in our lives…but when I was raising a house full of boys, the chaos, the mess, the tantrums, and the lack of freedom sometimes caused me to wish away those years to the day that I would be able to leave them at home alone!  Now that my boys are getting older, I have less and less control, I hate that they are not the snuggly little boys that they used to be and I wish I could bring back all the wonder and excitement they had around learning new things.

Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love my life, and I love this stage of my kids too – I have definitely learned not to wish away the time, but I am also grateful for all the younger years too.  The years that both they were and I was younger…the years that they were excited to go to the movies with their parents and hanging out with us was always a first choice 😉

There are so many things that I feel gratitude for, especially at this time of year, because I allow myself enough time to slow down and notice the things that are important in our lives.  Having a family I love, working side by side with my husband helping people improve their lives, having a home I love, friends I couldn’t live without, sharing my experiences and hopefully helping others know that they are capable of anything they set their mind to via my blog and so much more.

I choose to pause and feel gratitude every day so that when I contemplate what I have in my life I don’t have any regrets…and that I am able to share my appreciation and love with others!

What would you answer if you asked yourself every day “what do I have to be thankful for RIGHT NOW”…even when things are going wrong, there is always something to feel gratitude for!

Small Things Make a Difference

“The beauty of life is in the small details not in big events!”

 

We all have our own unique way of handling things in life, we do things differently, we place varying degrees of importance on some things over others, and as a result, we are all unique individuals.

Paying attention to the small things can be hard when we have goals, ambitions and life’s distractions – who knows what I’m talking about (especially if you have kids!~) . So how do we stay focused and remember the small things?

The small details in our lives may not seem significant until we start adding them up – then the accumulation is actually HUGE!

This method can be equally true when putting together an outfit – all the combined detail of an outfit are what make the outfit great.

I always try and make sure that I have at least one conversation starter, or one thing that may seem like a small detail but it is significant to me.   I typically choose shoes, but there are lots of other ways to do it as well…

 

 

In this outfit I am wearing there are a couple of things – the ribbon detail on the pants definitely got me some attention, the boots (especially for those of you that love Dr Marten’s either more recently or from the good old days) and the nail polish.  A detail like your nails is something that can definitely be a small detail that can make you feel sassy and fabulous.

Whether you’re someone that likes to be noticed or not, ask yourself this question “Do I like to feel good about myself” – if you answer yes, and I am guessing that most people will answer “yes”.  The next step is to figure out what it is that makes you feel good.  Are you a girl that absolutely loves makeup?  Do you enjoy the process of making yourself up and putting on some fabulous lipstick?  Do you find your hair to be your favorite feature?  Does it make you feel good to know that you are working out regularly?  Do you like to get your finger or toenails done regularly?  Do you like wearing a pair of shoes that is unique? Are you a bargain shopper that loves the thrill of finding a deal so that you can wear something knowing that it didn’t cost you a fortune?

Whatever it is that makes you feel good, that is something you should make sure you nurture.  Paying attention to all details in your life and appreciating those details is something that will make you feel great.

I have found that while it’s important for me to think “big picture” I definitely realize the steps that it takes me to get to my goals, and I appreciate and every single one of those steps.  And while I’m at it – I think it’s important (at least for me) to feel good as I am on the road to my goals…

 

 

Motivational Monday

“The biggest source of motivation are your own thoughts, so why not think BIG!”

You may have noticed that I like to post a quote each day, and that they tie into the theme I am writing out that day.  You may be asking yourself why I do that, so I thought I would fill you in…

I have talked a little about why I started this blog and what it has meant to me, but there’s definitely more to it than I have have spilled the beans on already.  For example, when I write a blog post, the reason I do it is because it is something that resonates with me that day and I feel that by sharing what thoughts I have that it might also help someone else as well.  I have found that when I have thoughts about something, when I am feeling a certain way, it really helps me to focus on handling it rather than avoiding it.  It is pretty much the story of my life and it is definitely worked for me to come at something “head on”.  I choose quotes that serve as motivation for me, and they help me focus on overcoming whatever I am going through at that time…or at least serve as a reminder of what I need to do.

We all have storms in our lives, and I am definitely no exception.  I really need to remind myself constantly to be strong, to weather the storms, to feel grateful, to be patient, to remember why I am here and so much more.  So when I post something about gratitude for example, it’s because on that day I realize that I need to focus on gratitude rather than the fact that something might not be working out for me!

I have found that my mindset is absolutely what controls my outcome.  When I feel positive I am much more likely to achieve what I am striving for, or at the very least, be OK with whatever comes my way.  Do you ever wonder why when something bad happens that more bad seems to show up as well?  I have seen it time and time again in my life, and being lucky enough to be married to a mindset coach, I have learned that focus is absolutely what needs to change if we want results to change.

Now don’t get me wrong, just changing how you think isn’t going to change everything in your life, action is still required, but positive action starts with positive thoughts.

 

 

Do you have habits that you wish you didn’t have?  The best news about habits is that they can be changed at any time in your life…and just as they were started, habits can only be changed by repetition of what you want to replace your old habit with.  For example, if you want to change the way you eat (kind of like the post I wrote on Friday), then you have to create new habits that embody the way you want to eat in the future.  Think about why you want to change, what it means to you, what it would mean if you didn’t do it and how it could affect anyone else around you.  Once you reach the point of pain where it hurts too much to continue the old habit, that’s when you will be motivated enough to change.

The key to changing those old habits, because positive thinking is not all that’s needed like I said, is to realize that there is a COST associated with not changing.  I have had many times in my life where old habits are stopping me from getting where I want to be in relationships and in business.  Here’s one of my habits that I have had to change to make my relationship with Brandon excellent:  I have always been someone that is not big on talking about my feelings in a relationship, I have never been a big talker and I always felt like because Brandon wanted to talk about EVERYTHING that it meant there was something wrong and I was being told that I was doing something wrong.  You see, Brandon (and actually 2 of my kids) are people that need to problem solve by talking things through, and I am a person that internalizes what I am going through and just handles it on my own 99% of the time.  As you can imagine, me not being a talker and having a husband that needs that could cause huge problems in our relationship.  For many years I fought it, I thought “why should I have to be the one to change?”  “This is just the way I am”, but eventually I realized that I wouldn’t actually be giving something up to give Brandon and my kids this gift.  I started to open up more, to talk things through and learn how to not “own” whatever it was they were going through and to not try to fix it.

Once I started creating a space where I was open, the conversations became easier, and now (not that I still get it right all the time) but I am definitely on the road to making this my normal behavior rather than just shutting down.  It wasn’t until I realized that the cost to NOT do it was higher than it was to DO it, that’s when I was able to change my habit.  It was worth it to me to be there for Brandon and my kids, and guess what I found out, it actually wasn’t just who I was, and I started to be able to feel empathy and just listen – something that was hard before because I very often could see something and want to just fix it.

Whatever you have going on in your life, I hope that you will find at least a little motivation from my posts and quotes…and if there’s a topic you would especially love to see – i’m all ears!!

Happy Monday!

XOXO

 


The Beauty of Simplicity

 

Overthinking is a PRISON of your own cursed thoughts – it’s where you get tangled!”

I have found that I may be a little bit of an over-thinker (for those of you that know me, not a shock I am sure!)  For some reason, and that reason is not logical, I seem to make things harder on myself by creating scenarios in my head, telling myself stories and just basically thinking about things that I have no need to think about.

I am sure you can imagine the problems something like this can cause…like, being worried about something that doesn’t even exist (except in my mind), causing my brain to be working overtime which creates exhaustion,  even when I am not aware that it is doing it.  I don’t know about you but logically I realize that this is reducing my productivity, creating stress, irritability and it can even cause lack of motivation.  Changing my thoughts or getting them under control is easier said than done, however, now that I am conscious that I do this, it makes it easier to recognize when things come up for me, so I can not let them take off running by themselves 😉

This thought process can also be something that we do when we think about how we dress and our style.  Have you ever found yourself worrying about what you are going to wear, overthinking it and then just throwing anything on because you don’t have the energy to worry about it.  It can definitely be a vicious cycle where we end up not feeling the best about ourselves because we are not allowing ourselves to take care of ourselves.  Even if you are not a follower of fashion or someone that cares about the latest trends, most of us still care what we look like and (whether we like it or not) it is important what others think about how we look.  So how do we create a space so that we can still look great, and not have to create drama or overthink it at the same time?

Keeping it simple is 100% the answer.  Once you start worrying about adding accessories, the shoes, the bag, whether you should wear a belt, the colors or patterns that suit you, and whether fabrics can be worn together or not it can become waaay too complicated and overwhelming.  So, here’s what I think:  stick to simple pieces, don’t worry about getting fancy, and don’t read too many fashion magazines that might make you feel like you are failing because you aren’t wearing the latest trends.

 

 

My outfit in this post is so simple, yet it’s still ME and classy.  A simple black dress (yes, the sleeves are little bit fancy, but it is just one piece to worry about), a pair of my style of booties,  and that is IT!  Nothing else to think about.

If you ever find yourself becoming overwhelmed by fashion, the first step is don’t try to be someone you are not.  The next step is to not give up, just try something that makes you feel good instead of just throwing in the towel.  Fashion is really there for us to take and make our own, not for us all to be walking around looking the same…because if it was, there would only ever be available one style, one color and one fabric.  Clothes are unique, and they are ours to mold into who WE are, not the other way around.

I honestly believe that the more confident we become in owning who we are, the easier style will come to us, and the better we will feel about ourselves.

My confidence comes from feeling good about how I look, what I accomplish, who I am but most importantly that I am a good person because it makes me feel good to help others.

 

Make a Statement with your Shoes

“Sometimes you need to just stop, breathe and focus on the positive.  And if that doesn’t work, try a new pair of shoes!”

 

I’ve talked a lot about how shoes make an outfit…and my opinion hasn’t changed, in fact, with all the great styles, colors and patterns out there, even if you are not a fan of wearing heels, there is no reason your shoes can’t be amazing!

Take these satin pumps with the ankle strap and pom pom – tell me you wouldn’t notice someone wearing these shoes?  I know when I have worn them, even if someone wouldn’t wear them, they are still admired. Pom poms are not for everyone, but that’s why there are so many other choices out there.

I have put together just a few of my shoes that I have recently worn that are my favorites.  If you scroll down to the end you can also find some great styles that you can shop (along with my shoes).

 

 

Metallic Flats or Platforms

Even if you’re wearing flats there is no reason your shoes can’t be looking good.  Silver or any metallic is a great way to add a little sass to your shoe game.

 

Strappy Mary Janes

Block heels & straps are a statement style all in themselves.  The block heel is great for those of you who don’t like wearing heels to high, or feel a little wobbly on a stiletto heel, and the straps just add a little funk to the look.  My outfit when I wore these shoes was pretty simple, but the shoes definitely made my outfit stand out!

 

 

Patterned pumps

There are some really fun patterns and florals available right now, just like these Nine West pumps with the Bees on them.  When I see something like this that catches my eye, I know they will be a great addition to my wardrobe, because there are times when a plain color just isn’t enough for the look I am going for.  I wore these pumps with a plain Black skirt, a lemon top and White jacket.  The look was classic but needed a little extra pop to make it complete!

 

 

Embroidery

There is nothing more fun than an embroidered pair of satin shoes or boots.  With jeans, a dress, or dress pants, I can always find a way to wear these fabulous boots.  Honestly the only reason I don’t wear them every day is because they are so noticeable and I don’t want to be that predictable 😉

 

Shop some of my styles below and some more of my favorites…

 

Dress up your Jeans

“Successful women have their feet on the ground, they just have better shoes!”

If you have been reading my blog for a while you may notice a common theme – I really love to dress up.  In fact, dressing down is something that is still a style of dressing I am experimenting with, and learning…

Today’s post is really about how even when you dress down or go for a more casual look, you can still look put together and classy.

I found these jeans in the Zara sale – and since Zara is one of my favorite stores, and since the store in Utah isn’t yet open, I am always checking out their app (it’s a dangerous thing) for new styles, and most importantly, for things that you aren’t going to see many people wearing around town.  Embroidered jeans are a really cute way to dress up your jeans, but with the turn up, I liked these ones even more.

 

You may ask yourself why dressing up is important to me, so here’s my little secret:

I LOVE to dress up or add a little extra touch because it’s what makes ME feel good.  I like to know that when I walk out the door (unless I am going to workout, planning on just running errands, etc.) I am put together and that when I glance myself in a store window, or in a mirror that I am going to be happy with what I see.  It may sound vain, but the truth is that when I feel good about how I look it’s weird but I definitely act differently.  Because I feel good, I tend to project an air of self-confidence and even charisma that seems to make other people react differently to me.  So the little secret is that I dress for ME and only ME…not that it isn’t great to hear compliments, but for me to love me and how I look is the most important thing.  Obviously, I do like to do things that Brandon will appreciate too…but ultimately if he liked something that I didn’t like to see myself wearing, I couldn’t do it.  In fact, I have found that he likes the things I like because he is reacting to how I feel about myself.

Have you ever experienced this phenomenon?  Have you experimented to see if people react differently to you when you feel good about yourself and how you look?  You should really give it a try, I can promise you will notice a difference!  And let’s put it this way, what have you got to lose?  At the very worst, you will feel good about YOU and that’s the most important love you can nurture…because then you’ll just have so much more love to go around 🙂

It may sound cheesy, and I wouldn’t ever tell you to do something that I haven’t tried myself.

BTW – these jeans were on sale and they are all gone, so I have found some similar ones and linked them below…

Hope you have a great Friday…