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Casual doesn’t mean not dressing up!

When you don’t dress like everyone else, you don’t have to think like everyone else!

I am still learning this concept. For the longest time I had the notion that in order to dress casual it meant that I couldn’t dress up. And since I LOVE to dress up, I would very often have a hard time styling my casual outfits!

I am learning more and more every day, in fact, I would say that I am even starting top feel comfortable dressing down a little more than I ever have. I think for me the biggest challenge was that in corporate America I had to dress for business every day, and even on Friday’s it was a rule that we couldn’t wear jeans. That doesn’t mean I didn’t break the rule and wear different colors of jeans, jackets & skirts, but it definitely limited my creativity. Now I don’t have the same restrictions so I am starting to grow and have even more fun with my casual style.

Denim is such a versatile fabric, but I think it had a bad reputation for so long. I used to argue with my bosses that I would spend more money on my jeans than my business clothes, but somehow it didn’t change anything. I think the reason was that for most people, wearing jeans meant that they were in their “scruffs” and they would REALLY dress down the outfit to the point of just looking sloppy. Of course that wasn’t the norm, but it was what everyone seemed to remember unfortunately!

Hence, today’s post about denim…about how versatile, classy and professional it can still be!

Of course, I am not saying that anyone should not follow the guidelines of where they work, but what I mean is that if you have any leeway or any other times you can put together some denim outfits, then why not have fun with it 😉

Denim

Chambray – this is probably one of my favorite fabrics right now. It’s denim, but much softer. It is also not typical and could probably allow you to sneak by undetected in a company that has a rule of no jeans. It is feminine, it flows, and most importantly, it is cool for summer days whereas regular denim really isn’t!


Denim jacket – everyone needs one! Whether you are wearing it just to carry for those nights when you’re not quite sure how the weather will be, or you’re looking to dress down a more formal look…a denim jacket is such a versatile piece that I always recommend everyone has at least one (and I say at least one, because there are so many styles, that I would feel a little unprepared if I didn’t have a few different ones 😉 )

Denim skirt – especially one with a sexy slit is something that can be worn, look classy as well as a little sassy. I love a fitted denim skirt but there are so many styles out there, that there is one that will suit your body type and confidence level! Choose the style that best fits your unique style and dress it up with a nice blouse and some heels, or go for a more casual look with some summer wedge sandals and a T shirt!

I did a little research and found some great denim styles and I have linked them to shop below – just click the links…

Denim on Denim

Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail!

I have to admit wearing denim on denim like I am in this post is not something I have done a lot of, but I wanted to experiment, so I wanted to share.

I always had some preconceived notions that it had to look a certain way, that only certain people could pull it off, and that it always had to be a contrasting denim…what I found is that I actually loved it and I will more than likely do a lot more of it!

As we all know there are so many rules when it comes to fashion (at least how fashion used to be), but I am here to remind you that those rules are really just GUIDELINES and you can adapt them to yourself.

Before I moved over to the U.S. from England I didn’t wear a lot of denim, I considered it a lot more casual than I liked so I shied away from it. Since I have been over here, I have found that I love it for all occasions. The best thing is that it can be dressed up or down and I can create any look I want. When I used to work in Corporate America there were rules for dress, and at one point we used to be “allowed” to wear jeans on Fridays until Casual Friday’s were taken away because they started to become a little too casual. I couldn’t understand it for a while because the jeans I was wearing actually cost more than a lot of my business clothes, and I always dressed them appropriately, but nevertheless it perpetuated that thought process in me that caused me to believe that jeans were TOO casual.

I honestly do believe that jeans or denim of any time can look just as professional, if not more when done correctly, than any business wear. It is also a fabric that is highly adaptable, versatile and fun…so experimenting is always fun! So, here are some quick and easy steps to styling your denim that will work for anyone:

  1. Add a statement piece – this is exactly what I did with my super funky jacket that my mum customized for me. The Black sleeves really break up the look and make it much more eye catching. Adding really cool accessories can work too.
  2. Steer clear of adding a denim handbag, scarf or shoes…it can be just a little too much for a denim on denim outfit.
  3. Make sure that the shade of denim you choose flatters your body type – the darker the denim the more flattering it is. If you are really craving a lighter shade, then make sure that the cut is only hitting you where you want it to.
  4. Adding a loose, flouncy denim like chambray is a great way to create a more feminine vibe.
  5. Try not to look too “matchy” – wearing the exact same shade on the top or bottom, with nothing to break it up, can just look like you’re trying to hard to get that perfect match.

You can shop some of my top denim picks by clicking the links below…

A Good Hair Day can just make a GOOD DAY!

“Good hair days make me feel like I can rule the world!”

Have you ever noticed how different you feel when you’re having a good hair day?  I have always loved having hair long enough to be able to put it up and style it differently (even though sometimes I try to style it the same and it just doesn’t work out 😉 )

After the terrible “hair” incident I had last year when my flat iron was turned up too high and fried the front of my hair, so much so that I ended up cutting bangs which I immediately regretted and started to grow out…I have really started to pay more attention to caring for my hair.  Especially now that my hair is longer, it requires more moisturizing, more protection and more care than ever before.

 

 

Have you ever done something to your hair that you immediately regretted or just wondered what you were thinking?  About 10 years about I decided I’d had enough of longer hair and decided to cut my hair into a pixie cut…and then to color it platinum blonde.  It was definitely a noticeable, stylish hair cut, and I was in love with it for about a year, but the bleaching burned my head a couple of times and I quickly started to become bored.  It’s a good thing that my hair grows quickly because when you have a style like that it’s really hard to grow it out.

Now I try not to use a flat iron or curling iron too much and I use heat protectants to prevent another “incident” like last year.  I love to pull my hair back and experiment with new styles of wearing my hair up.  My favorite way to find these styles is of course Pinterest.  The tutorials, the pictures and the ideas never disappoint.

In today’s post my hair is in a simple chignon and this is my “go to” style whenever I need to pull my hair back quickly.  I know how to make it look great in a matter of minutes, and this is what I turn to on mornings when I don’t have as much time to get ready.  Do you have a “go to” style for your hair?

I tend to post more about dressier outfits than casual, but this look is one that I pull out quite frequently for running errands, weekend casual dress, baseball games and so on…it’s comfortable, easy and still stylish.  Don’t think that sweatpants and a T shirt can’t still be cute…the camo print and wide legged cut make these sweatpants really cute AND comfortable!

Do you have a favorite way to wear your sweat pants & T shirts?  Comment below…I would love to hear.

You can shop some stylish sweatpants and T shirts by clicking the links below!

 

 

Denim & Ruffles

“Either you run the day or the day runs you”

 

Do you ever have times when you are feeling run down or have very little energy?…You know, when you’re a mum, have a full time job, as well as write a blog the world doesn’t seem to turn just right if you can’t keep everything going.  Not that I kid myself enough to think that I am the only one capable of doing everything (at least not anymore), but I guess I just have a hard time letting myself take time off things I know need to be done…

So, my question to you is…what gives you the energy you need to accomplish the things you need to do? Have you ever noticed that some days when you get home at night you feel more tired or have a distinct lack of energy?  I notice that when I am focused on too many things at once, all it really does is sap my energy.  With that being said, I want to talk about multi-tasking, and how it could actually be hurting you!

I have always worn my ability to multi-talk like a banner and shouted to the world that I could do so many things all at once, and I had it all handled.  But over recent years (and it could be because I am becoming more mature – or at least older), I have noticed that I feel exhausted, overwhelmed and just down on myself for not being able to do all the many things that are on my list everyday.  I used to beat myself up about not being as productive as I want to be (and again, these are the expectations that I put on myself), but I don’t do that anymore.  I have learned that the best ways for me to accomplish the many things that I need to do are by making sure I follow these simple guidelines:

  1. Don’t over-promise and under-deliver – spreading yourself too thin is only going to cause you a ton of stress.  If you know you have a lot of your plate, DON’T take something else on!
  2. Shift focus – instead of trying to multi-task and split your focus between multiple tasks, set aside time for each task you need to do and focus 100% of your attention at that time on that ONE thing!
  3. Delegate – this is a huge one for me…I had a hard time letting go of control, and would almost rather ineffectively complete a task than allow someone else the opportunity to grow and help. Even my kids are delegated certain tasks that I used to take care of, and while they may not love the idea, it is teaching them and they are growing from it.
  4. Take breaks – taking a 10 minute break every few hours where you can do something that will rejuvenate your energy will allow you to make up much more time because you won’t be burned out.
  5. Smile – even when you’re frustrated.  Smiling can physiologically change your body and allow you to be more productive than you ever thought possible.

 

 

I have found that smiling is something I didn’t used to do too much, at least not when I was by myself…but I am working on implementing this into my life more.  I look for things to smile about, I imagine people I love, traveling, and many more things and it’s funny, somehow that smile just seems to happen.  If you haven’t already tried it…perhaps it could work for you too!

Of course, it’s much easier to smile when you feel good about how you look or what you’re wearing.  Even people I know that aren’t into fashion or don’t care too much about the latest trends, still like to make sure they look good.  Feeling good on the inside very often comes from what we perceive on the outside! Do you remember being a kid and getting a new pair of shoes, dress, or some article of clothing?  How did you feel when you wore it?  Did you think you were the “bees knees” – I know I did!  The same is true as we are older, but I think we may not be in tune with it as much because there are so many other things going on in our lives…

Even sickness and lack of energy is no excuse to not have something to smile about 🙂

This Yellow top and denim skirt definitely made me smile, especially because Yellow is such a happy color anyway…you can shop some similar pieces below

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Look for the Good

 

“Maybe the best thing to do is to stop trying to figure out where you’re going and just enjoy where you are!”

 

For those of you that know me, you will know that I absolutely HATE rain!  I think it must be the fact that I grew up with so many rainy days in England that I truly would be OK if I never saw rain again.

For my birthday this year we planned a trip to the Big Island of Hawaii (the only island I haven’t already been to – at least of the most popular ones), and we brought the kids.  We have had a wonderful few days here already, and today we planned a trip to the Volcano to go and see everything there.  We have heard stories of lava flows, views of the crater making the sky glow and walking on the lava to see the lava underneath glowing.  We had heard that there might be a storm coming in later in the day, so we set off early.

As we drove to the wet side of the island, all was great until we hit the town of Hilo (which by the way is the rainiest city in the United States with an average of 22 days a month of rain).  As we approached the National park, the rain became harder and stronger, and by the time we made it to the visitor center we pulled out our raincoats just to make it across the parking lot without drowning.  We found out some information about things that we MIGHT be able to see without all the rain and cloud coverage getting in the way.  We explored the inside of a lava tube, got really soggy and ran back to the car.  We then drove down below the clouds and actually found a place to walk out onto the lava without rain and had fun looking at petroglyphs.

All in all we had some fun times, with lots of driving in a wet dog smelling car because of the all the soggy clothes!  We then decided to go to the famous Black sand beach to hang out for a little…well, that didn’t happen.  As soon as we got out of the car, the skies opened up again and we got soaked.

Now, with all this rain coming down, things not looking how I might at one time have imagined they should look, this is the time I might have started to lose my cool.  Instead, I decided to take a different tactic.  I actually didn’t let the weather and my inability to control it, stop me from having a fun day with all my boys. A miraculous thing happened…I actually enjoyed myself.  I found myself not worrying about my hair looking crazy, I didn’t get worked up about being wet, I didn’t try to hurry the kids back into the car so we could hurry and get out of there.  I actually just let it be what it was!

 

Brandon and I talk all the time about “fighting with the weather” and how I get worked up or disappointed because I have expectations about how the weather should be!  I realize this is probably a crazy notion, but it is still something I fight all the time.  Have you ever been so excited about a vacation, an outing or an occasion, so much so that if the weather when you get there is not what you imagined it would be, you start to become frustrated or disappointed?

Brandon and I were in Hawaii last year for my birthday and every day was amazing EXCEPT for on my actual birthday.  I woke up happy until I saw the rain pouring and I actually felt a little depressed.  I found myself thinking “why did it have to rain today”?  For those of you that have never thought any of these things, I promise I’m not crazy, it’s just an example of something I like to try to control but I absolutely can’t.

The idea of managing expectations and letting go of control works for so many other things that I thought I would share with you my experience and how I am still only learning, but I am definitely working on it – which is the first step, right?

 

Strut with Confidence into the Weekend!

 

“I am confident because I can admit who I am, what I’ve done and love myself for who I’ve become!”

 

When you hear the word strut what does it make you think about?  It reminds me of what models do on a runway, or what a really confident person does instead of just walking…

Of course to model on a catwalk or runway you have to feel pretty self-assured and confident, so where do you get that confidence from?

We all come from different backgrounds, we all look different, we all have different personalities and we all like different things…so what makes one person more confident than another?  After having 4 boys I can tell you that a certain amount of that confidence is something you’re born with (because although all my boys are self-assured, some have it more than others), but a lot of your confidence comes from what you are told when you are young – either your parents or people you interact with tell you things that you can choose to believe or not.  I have a brother that is one of the most loving, caring, amazing people I know, but for some reason a lot of his life he hasn’t really believed that himself.  It could be that he had some experiences early on in his adulthood that shaped him, or it could also just be that sometimes we don’t feel worthy or good enough to love ourselves to the extent we need to so that we feel good about himself.  I can tell you that he is good looking, very fit, very intelligent and would do anything for anyone, believes and encourages those around him, but for some reason he hasn’t for a long time believed that he could be or do anything he set his mind to.  I feel like know he is coming out the other side of that lack of confidence, but it caused me to wonder where confidence really does come from.

We were raised in the same home (although some might say being a girl and boy in the same home isn’t the same), we were loved the same (at least I think so), and we were given the same chances and opportunities. The biggest thing I can see on the surface is that he is more sensitive than I am and got hurt a lot easier than I did…Being caring and sensitive is obviously a wonderful thing, but I have this part in me that when someone does something to me, says something to me, or tries to hurt me…it kind of fuels me even more. In the fight, flight or freeze scenario I am a fighter, I will come out swinging…

Because I love my brother so much I have always been amazed at how he couldn’t see himself how I and everyone else around him saw him…which is an amazing, talented, loving and caring man.

 

 

So, as I contemplated where confidence truly comes from, I came to the conclusion that it is a choice.  It truly is a decision to fight for yourself, believe in yourself, trust yourself, and most importantly love yourself.  If we don’t do these things for ourselves then why would anyone else want to do them for us. Essentially we teach people how to treat us – and that comes from how we treat ourselves.

It’s almost a cycle, the more confident you feel, the more great things you attract to yourself, which in turn gives you more confidence.  So how do you make that choice to feel confident?  There have definitely been times in my life when things have happened to me where it has caused me to doubt my value, and honestly the only thing that has helped me is focusing on one or two things that I truly can appreciate and love about myself and feel grateful for.

I can promise you, no matter where you want to go, what you want to accomplish and who you truly want to become, if you start by loving and appreciating yourself and all the amazing unique things you bring to this life, the more likely you are going to be to accomplish them.

So if you want to make this really simple, if you have a hard time finding something you can appreciate about yourself, you can start with taking care, and pride in how you look.  It doesn’t mean you have to go out and spend a ton of money on makeup, beauty products, clothes, shoes or bags, it just means making the most of what YOU have!  As I get ready in the morning, I am always conscious about making sure I like what I see in the mirror (not because I am vain and love looking at myself), but because when I know I have made an effort I can strut and walk more confidently…

Give it a try…I think you’ll like what you see 🙂


Confessions of a Styleaholic

 

“The ultimate definition of bravery is not being afraid to be yourself!”

Have you ever noticed that one person who is so consumed with how they look that they never dress down?  Someone that could take hours and hours to get ready in the morning…or someone who has to make sure they are wearing makeup and their hair is done even if they are going to workout?

Here’s my confession…I have always been concerned about how I look that no matter what I am doing I always make sure I am dressed appropriately – even down to making sure I had the “cutest” golf outfit for our Annual work golf tournament even though I probably only make it to play golf once or twice a year…

Now, I don’t consider this as a problem unless it interferes with your wellbeing, or of those around you! It has never really taken me a long time to get ready – in fact I had a flight to catch last week and set my alarm for 6:30PM instead of AM – for some reason I woke up at 6:55AM and managed to make it out my front door ready to go by 7:08AM and I was through security by 7:30AM – but, there have been times when I have caused myself undue stress by over-thinking what I would wear for certain events or on certain days, so much so that I have not enjoyed things like I might had this not happened.

 

So, without changing who I am (because I am ALWAYS going to take care in dressing nicely), I have rethought how much pressure I put on myself.  Before I moved over the the US I hardly ever wore jeans, and I typically wore dress pants, skirt or a dress most days.  I have learned over the years to incorporate some more casual, non high maintenance outfits into my style repertoire.  In fact, I’ll admit that there are some days where wearing jeans is something I crave to do.  I love weekends where I can dress up a pair of jeans or dress them down depending on what I am doing.  I allow myself some days where I don’t have to plan ahead the night before what I am wearing, and I reserve this for days when I know I have more time in the morning or those days when I don’t have to be somewhere special.  Weekends are perfect for not over-thinking what I am wearing, and I take those days to relax more and not put pressure on myself.

I am a styleaholic – and I am kind of proud of it.  I love fashion, always have and always will.  I love taking
something to wear and making it my own by adding some unique accessories, pairing it with something unexpected (like mixing colors that not everyone is doing) or adding a funky pair of shoes.  I have realized that not everyone enjoys style and fashion as much as I do, and that’s OK.  We are all unique individuals and we don’t ever want to change that, so how can someone that is not interested in style or fashion change up their look?

Here are a few easy to follow steps to help you in your own fashion story:

  1. Identify your body type – figure out if you are pear shaped, round, apple shaped etc.  Once you know this, you can then determine the styles that will work for you:  Pear shapes look better when they wear things that aren’t fitted around the legs and butt.  In short – don’t accentuate areas where you are largest, find styles that balance your body.
  2. It seems like the easiest thing to do would be copy what someone else is wearing – but that is not always going to work.  You can certainly use someone else’s style and outfit as a guideline, but don’t try to duplicate it identically.  Everyone’s body type is different, so stick to styles that work for your body type.
  3. Pick out one thing in each outfit that is a statement piece – it can be a necklace, scarf, pair of shoes, skirt, dress, pants, blouse, jacket etc.  Whatever that item is, you can build around it – if you have a statement necklace or scarf, wearing a plain dress is a really simple way to put together an outfit that can work for any body type.  It could be a fitted dress, A-line, shift dress, or empire waist dress it doesn’t matter – the key is you have added something that will make your outfit stand out and be noticed.
  4. Make sure that your shoes are looking nice – they don’t have to be fancy, but always make sure that they are polished and well taken care of, otherwise you are going to draw attention to that and people will notice the wrong thing about you.
  5. Casual looks are just as important – wearing jeans doesn’t have to mean that you are not caring about how you look.  Even distressed jeans can look amazing and classy – especially if you wear them with the right things!  This amazing cross body bag with the tribal strap is a statement all in itself, but by adding a funky jacket and some awesome booties…the whole look is exactly what I was going for!
  6. Finally, make sure that your hair and makeup match your style…don’t wear too heavy makeup during the day if you are going for a more business like look!  While smoky eyes look amazing, there is a time and a place for that kind of look!

The final, most important piece of looking like you know style is having the confidence to rock your own style…wear it with pride, own it, flaunt it and feel good about yourself.  Remember – behind every strong woman is an amazing story!

For those of you who have been waiting…here are the shopping links to this outfit (for the cross body bag with the tribal strap – click here)

 


Can you still Feel Feminine in Jeans?

 

“Today I woke up with that purpose drive, warrior princess, save the world kind of vibe!”

What do you think determines how feminine you are?  Is it something you wear?  How you dress?  Your makeup?  Or just simply how you feel about yourself?

I have talked about femininity before and one of the key notes that I always come back to is that femininity is absolutely tied to how you feel about yourself.  Femininity is in fact a feeling that is transferred from you to whoever you are around.  I know that no matter what it is that I am wearing if I feel amazingly confident and happy with myself that is what I project.  Now, if I am wearing something that makes me feel better about myself because I’ve looked in the mirror and really like what I see, then I am more likely to feel feminine or classy.

So, with that being said, is it possible to feel really feminine when you are dressed more casually say in jeans or some sweats?  I say absolutely YES!  For me, when I find a fantastic pair of jeans that fits my curves, that are comfortable and also that look amazing, I am going add a fabulous top and make that whole outfit just rock!

I am always open to trying new styles and stores, so whencI was sent this pair of jeans from Curve Appeal Jeans to see if I liked them, I jumped at the chance to give them a try.  Here is my honest feedback and review on what I liked about them…

  1. They are perfect for a Woman that has an hourglass shaped body, curvy hips or small waist because they just seem to cling to exactly the right places!
  2. The denim fabric is really soft, stretchy and comfortable, which means that even if you’re not a fan of regular denim that can sometimes be harsh on the skin and not very flexible for sitting, you will love how these jeans feel.
  3. They are very affordable, which means that you don’t have to limit yourself to just one pair that you might have to if you were buying some of the more expensive designer jeans.
  4. They have a variety of different cuts and colors, so you can find exactly the style and color that works best for you – all with the same great fit that accentuates all your greatest features.
  5. Because they are fitted, they allow me to feel sexy, feminine and dress them up or down depending on what I am doing.  I have worn them with flat booties, high pumps, but they would also look amazing with some knee high boots when the weather gets colder.

So, in answer to the Title of this post “Can you still feel feminine in Jeans”, is that I can confirm that you can indeed feel feminine when you’re wearing jeans.  Finding the right pair for your body type, adding a great complimentary top, shoes and accessories, is the best way to ensure that what you feel about yourself on the inside, is also displayed on the outside.

Have you ever had a day when you have woken up and you don’t feel great, for some reason you have a lack of energy, and you just don’t want to dress up at all.  I usually have about one day every other week where I experience a little demotivation around putting forth an effort on my appearance, or I just don’t care.   I have found that on those days, when I really push myself to make an effort, at some point during the day my mood starts to match my effort.  I have always felt like as Women we should use our outfits to express how we feel about ourselves, and sometimes to help us feel on the inside how we look on the outside.

You’ll have to let me know if this has ever worked for you like it does for me!

These jeans are not available yet but they’re coming soon…stay tuned for ordering details!


5 Ideas to Supercharge your Success

“Work hard in silence, let success make the noise!”

There are many, many things that make people successful and they may be different, but there are some that ALL successful people do, and that’s what I want to focus on.  I don’t know about you, but I always get my inspiration by watching what other successful people do, and emulating that.  Have you heard the expression “success leaves clues”…well, here are some “clues” that will help you.

Firstly, let me start by saying that I am not just talking about financial, educational or business success, but also relationship and life success.  There are so many things that I wish I would have known when I was younger, so I want to share some things I know would have really helped me!

Here are my top 5 ideas to help YOU improve your success:

  1. Do more than is asked of you.  This goes for all areas of your life, in a job, in your marriage or relationship or with your kids.  It doesn’t mean letting others off the hook so they don’t pull their weight, but it does mean is that you take pride in your abilities and know what you bring to the table. Don’t be taken advantage of, but definitely do more than people expect.
  2. Know when you stay or when to go!  Never stay in any situation Don’t be afraid to change a job or get out of relationship, even if there is opposition.  Always trust your intuition!
  3. Don’t be afraid of failure.  The most successful people are not afraid of falling down or failing at something because there are always more failures on the road to success.
  4. Successful people always take accountability for themselves or their actions.  They don’t rely on anyone else to get the job done, but they look for solutions.
  5. All successful people are adaptable.  They can quickly change directions when they meet opposition, and they can reinvent themselves at the drop of a hat.

These are just the tip of iceberg, there are so many other actions and ideas that can help direct you more quickly to your success.  I have been looking for reminders to guide me and these are some that I have read before, but needed a reminder.  Repetition of these things will definitely guide me in the direction that I want to go, but ultimately any success comes from me making the decision to take some massive action.

I have many books that talk about attracting success and such things, and while I do believe that it is possible to attract all kinds of things to you, it is also true that it still requires action.  We still need to do something about it…what good does it do to sit and think that you hate your job or your relationship and then take no action to resolve it.  I have been in many situations in my life where I have not been happy, and the first step to changing that is to recognize that you are not happy or satisfied.  Once you realize that, the next step to decide to do something about it. You don’t ever see a successful person that is afraid of taking action.

Like I mentioned earlier, success leaves clues and I am watching as many successful people as possible to see how I can learn at least one thing from each of them.  Success is something that is open to your interpretation, and what I mean by that is that your perspective about what is successful is different that mine because it’s based on our life experiences.  My path of choice is not going to be yours, but that doesn’t mean that either is wrong.  One of the traps we can fall into is comparing ourselves to others and that just means we are self-sabotaging or holding ourselves back.

I have a challenge for you this week…find something or somewhere that you would like to improve your success, once you have recognized that thing, find a person that you think has that thing figured out, and watch them or ask questions.  The goal is to learn one thing and add that thing into your daily or weekly action list.  So that the more you do it, the better you become at it and the sooner it becomes a habit.

This week’s goal…identify the area of your life that you want to achieve success and use some of these tips to get you started on that path. If you feel comfortable sharing, I would love to hear more, just comment below…

Oh and just in case you like what I’m wearing in this post, you can shop the affiliate links below for similar items (these affiliate links don’t cost you any more!)

Success starts with you…so dress for success and start incorporating some habits that will help you achieve the success you deserve 🙂

 


 

What does Confidence Look Like?

“Too many days are spent comparing ourselves to others and wishing to be someone we aren’t!”

One of the hardest things about confidence is that it is a feeling, a way of being, so how do we know if someone is or is not confident?  Actually, if you were to examine it, you would know a healthy self-confidence can be seen by how someone carries themselves, how they dress, how they allow others to treat them and how they treat others.  It is possible to be confident and not think or consider others at all, and that’s a whole different topic but typically, a self-assured and confident person genuinely cares about others and realizes that they have this innate ability to share what they know and the gifts they have been given.  Everyone is born into different circumstances, they have different childhoods and life experiences, and therefore the results are going to be really different.  With that being said, I truly believe that anyone that really wants something badly enough is able to achieve that in their lives.  But, it starts with believing you can do it and having the confidence to try…

One of the biggest reasons for not having a healthy self esteem is because you don’t live up to the standards you think you should.  We have expectations that are programmed into us by what we see on TV, in magazines, and the environment in which we live.  If you spend too much time watching TV and seeing celebrities and models on there you may create an unconscious expectation on yourself, which will only make you disappointed.

Be yourself because originals are worth more than a copy!

It is hard to not compare ourselves to other people, especially when we are not feeling confident in ourselves.  The best remedy for this is to take control of yourself.  You decide how you feel and that very often can stem from how you look. Make the decision to LIKE how you look, don’t look at others and envy or want what they have (I am sure we’ve all done that at times), but if you just love yourself for your amazing gifts and talents then the confidence will follow…

The first step to being able to feel great about yourself and your life is to recognize areas that you could perhaps improve upon.  Do you find yourself thinking negative thoughts when you think you are not as good, pretty, rich, or thin as another person? If the answer to any of those questions is yes, then the first step is to realize that you are doing that and it is a destructive behavior…instead look for something you have, something you can do or someone you have in your life that you can truly be grateful for!

Another great way to feel great is to look great – you know when you hear a compliment from someone about how you look, even if you weren’t aware, that does something physical to your body – we are human, we crave that connection. Everyone’s looking good is going to be different, and that is what is the most important thing to remember.  Don’t try to be someone else, just be YOU.  One of the funnest ways to feel good is to go into a beauty store or department store and go to the Cosmetics Department – ask them to do a makeover on you…it’s free and you can then see if it’s something you really want to do and if it makes you feel good.

Finally…trying putting together a great outfit, rock it, own it and walk like you mean business –  your confidence will become contagious and others feel that!

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