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The Power of Positive Thinking

“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough”

 

We all have things that we want in this life, personal goals, professional goals and goals for our children or families.  The question is, how badly do we want to achieve these goals?  I have found that the more I want something, the more determined I am to get it, and the more effort I exert.  Of course, a huge part of achieving our goals is tied to our ability to be positive about it.

Have you ever wanted something but all you have done is focus on being upset because other people are doing better, getting frustrated because you haven’t achieved it yet, or even self-sabotaging your efforts because it’s easier to explain away why you didn’t really try to achieve something than it is to put forth the real effort.  In our own lives it can be hard to look introspectively and see where we might be going wrong, but it is absolutely necessary.  I watch my kids, and I notice when they want to quit something what emotions it brings out in me.  I have an easier time talking to them about how falling down or facing obstacles is not the same as failing, it is just a great opportunity for us to become stronger and better.  It’s not as easy when I face those challenges myself…

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Over the past few years I have faced many challenges in my personal life and in my career, but the amazing thing about all those things is that it has taught me so much and made me a much more empathetic and stronger woman.  Even though I am not where I want to be (and to be honest I’m not sure I ever will be exactly where I want), but I do feel like my thoughts are focused in a much more positive direction.  I wouldn’t say I am to the point where I welcome a challenge by saying “bring it on” but I am definitely able to allow myself to be open to the fact that I can learn something, and I am excited about growth opportunities.

 

So, how do you remain positive when all around you is filled with challenges and chaos?

 

Here are some of the ways I have found work for me:

  1. I focus on what good I can see in every situation.  When challenges come my way I always look for the silver lining (what I learned, how I became better at, or even who could I help with this).
  2. Visualization has always been something I have liked to do – not to the point where I am envisioning a house that I want and I have already moved in, but rather I could see myself there, what steps do I need to take to make it happen?
  3. When work is chaotic or overwhelming, I like to think about the things I can control – I like to spend more time doing things that replenish my energy rather than drain it, like spending time with my family.
  4. Finally, I love myself.  No matter what is going on, I focus on loving myself.  When you feel positive about yourself (not just how you look but who you are), other things no longer carry any power.  All is well in your inner world, so the outer world mirrors that!

 

The mind is a powerful thing, why not use it to your advantage?

 

“We can rewire the patterns in our brain with the cognitive behavioral affirmations. It is not just the fluff, woo-woo stuff. Positive thoughts change the way our brain is wired. It really has biochemical, neuro-chemical affects on our brain.”  – Louise Hay

 

 

Let’s be Thankful…

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  1. “Never let the things you want make you forget the things you already have!”

Today in the aftermath of the Election yesterday, I wanted to talk about things that I am thankful for.  There has been a lot of hate, name calling, people trying to force their opinions on others and just generally a division.  I don’t want to talk about who voted for who or what I think of the outcome of this election, but what I do want to talk about is how many things I am thankful for.

  1. I woke up this morning still married to the same amazing husband that I have.
  2. I am still the mother of 4 amazing sons.
  3. I am very fortunate to be successful in my career (even though I am a Woman).
  4. I live in a beautiful neighborhood surrounded by amazing friends & neighbors.
  5. I am healthy and happy.
  6. I get to travel a lot with my family and explore the world.
  7. I love how I get to spend my time (even though it can be challenging at times).
  8. I love this Country – moving here from England was still one of the best decisions I ever made.
  9. I appreciate and love all the friendships that I have.
  10. No matter what, I still love everyone that doesn’t share the same opinion as me.

These are just a few things I wanted to share with you, but the most important thing to remember is that we all have a right to have our own opinions and that if we choose to share those opinions it is probably best to do it in a way that is sensitive to others.  I have experienced life in another country and let me tell you that the US is still one amazing country and that even though the rest of the World is watching, we can still make good impressions because of the choices WE make and how we treat others!

I hope your Wednesday is great and that, no matter who you supported, you will feel empathy for those that do not share your opinions and respect them.

Photograph #1:  Midway, Utah – Thanksgiving 2016
Photograph #2:  Crouch, Idaho – River Rafting Trip July 2016 (minus Dalton)

An Easy Fall Look

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“Dress to impress and never let them see you frown, because there are people that would kill to see you down.”

The look today is one that is really easy to recreate.  Basically the outfit is built around two things:  A leather Biker Jacket and a great pair of statement booties.

Under the jacket is a simple loose fitting Black T-shirt and the pants are Khahi Chino’s with turn-ups so they work well with the Booties.  You’ve seen this jacket of mine quite a bit (it works with so many different outfit combinations and I love using it to take a boring outfit and transforming into something special).  The Booties were a new purchase and I just loved the Bling details on the back and heels – they really are unique and really comfortable.

For me casual is just simple, and very often it gives me the chance to wear shoes or boots that have heels that are not as high as I would wear normally.  I err on the side of being a little more dressed up that casual, but I do love a great pair of jogger sweat pants, and baggy T-shirt with a pair of Converse or other pumps.

There are hardly any stores right now that are not carrying Women’s biker leather jackets, and these Booties were from a very unexpected place – link to purchase is below.  The Chino’s I bought last year and you can find something similar if you click below.

I had a day that went from working, to Halloween Carnival and then on to sneaking off to a great French Bakery here in town because I need something sweet and yummy as I watched the World Series Baseball Game.  It was a hectic day, but I did get a lot accomplished, so I guess you could say it was successful!

I have had some challenges over the past year and one thing it has taught me is that my attitude and how I handle things ABSOLUTELY determines the outcome.  Sometimes it’s hard to remain positive when it seems that everything is against you, but I can attest to the fact that if you believe in yourself, in what you do and who you are, that is going to be what gets you through because the more you do that the more others will see that in you!

I hope you have a great weekend and that if you love sports as much as I do, that your teams win and you get to relax as well…

 

Pants:  find similar here     Jacket:  Zara        Booties:  buy here      T-shirt:  H&M