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The Importance of Contemplation and Gratitude

“Gratitude is not a passive response to something we have been given, gratitude arises from paying attention, from being awake in the presence of everything that lives within and without us!”

I was going to write about this later in the month of December but after the events of my weekend, I knew I had to write it today!  

Saturday night was pretty normal, I went to sleep around 12:30am, and at around 1:30am Brandon woke me up because he was having severe pains in his abdomen and chest.  After I saw how panicked he was, and how much pain he was in we decided to head to the E.R.  They were amazing and got us straight in…and immediately ruled out his heart as causing the pain – which was a huge relief!

We were taken back to a room where then took blood for some further testing, put him on monitors etc. etc. and kept checking in with us about every 1/2 hour.  After they had ascertained that it wasn’t a heart issue, they ruled out gallbladder and gave him a G.I. cocktail.  It is basically Lidocaine and Maalox, and after about 1 hour his pain was almost gone.  

It took hours to get the labs back, and when they did they thought he could be suffering from pancreatitis, so to rule that out they had him eat some crackers.  Because there was no pain from that, and the fact that the cocktail made him feel better, they thought it was very likely to be acid reflux with esophageal spasm.  

OK, so I know that was a very detailed story, and the reason I wanted to share all of that with you was because that is kind of what kept me going.  I immediately went into the role of helping him, being there for him and not even thinking about the fact that I hadn’t had any sleep.  

As I contemplate my life with Brandon, I realize that I haven’t always been the most amazing wife, I sometimes let my needs be all consuming, and because of my past life and relationship experiences I have, at times, not allowed myself to be completely vulnerable and present with him.  Going through something like we did on Saturday night, even though it turned out that it wasn’t life threatening, we didn’t know that when we were in it.  It certainly made me pause to be grateful for having him in my life.

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Do you ever find yourself being so caught up in living your life that you don’t have time to appreciate how amazing your life is?  I was talking to a friend who also has kids that are getting older now, and we both agreed that having young kids was one of the best times in our lives…but when I was raising a house full of boys, the chaos, the mess, the tantrums, and the lack of freedom sometimes caused me to wish away those years to the day that I would be able to leave them at home alone!  Now that my boys are getting older, I have less and less control, I hate that they are not the snuggly little boys that they used to be and I wish I could bring back all the wonder and excitement they had around learning new things.

Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love my life, and I love this stage of my kids too – I have definitely learned not to wish away the time, but I am also grateful for all the younger years too.  The years that both they were and I was younger…the years that they were excited to go to the movies with their parents and hanging out with us was always a first choice 😉

There are so many things that I feel gratitude for, especially at this time of year, because I allow myself enough time to slow down and notice the things that are important in our lives.  Having a family I love, working side by side with my husband helping people improve their lives, having a home I love, friends I couldn’t live without, sharing my experiences and hopefully helping others know that they are capable of anything they set their mind to via my blog and so much more.

I choose to pause and feel gratitude every day so that when I contemplate what I have in my life I don’t have any regrets…and that I am able to share my appreciation and love with others!

What would you answer if you asked yourself every day “what do I have to be thankful for RIGHT NOW”…even when things are going wrong, there is always something to feel gratitude for!

Finding the Beauty Around Us

 

“I choose to listen to my inner voice not the random opinions of others!”

No matter where you live, there is always something around you that can give you cause to contemplate the beauty and feel gratitude for something.  At my darkest moments, or when I feel the most depleted, I find myself turning to my kids, my husband, my dog, my friends, my family or the beauty in my garden…and that is without even thinking about anything material.

I have shared on my Instastories a little about some mountain biking that I have been doing because Brandon and the kids bought me an E-bike for Mother’s Day.  For those of you that don’t know what that is, it’s a mountain bike that is also electric.  I have never been a mountain biker, in fact I had never even done a trail on a bike before…but what I have found is that I love it.  It is partly because I love to exercise, it is partly because I am liking the thrill of riding up and down trails not knowing exactly what is going to come my way next, but it is mainly because I feel so blessed that I can ride right from my house and in about a mile I am in the mountains on a trail, and as I ride to the top of the trail, the views of the entire Salt Lake valley are absolutely breath taking!  I have hiked around the trails many times, but somehow being on a bike allows me to do it almost every day and get better and better.  I have to admit I have a few war wounds from falling – but the key for me is getting back up again and working on not falling the next time.

I think that contemplation, finding a quiet, peaceful spot to think about your many blessings in this life is so important.  Sometimes just a place where you can quiet the noise and focus on only the good stuff is enough.

Today’s pictures were taken in “the gully” which is just around the corner from my house, it has a walking trail, a stream, some great greenery and flowers, and it just such a place.  Yes, I was taking pictures, but as I was in the midst of the shoot I found my thoughts drifting to those things…

Do you have a place where you like to go?  It doesn’t need to be outside, but the key is a place where you won’t be disturbed.  Meditation is a great way to clear your mind, but if you are not familiar with meditation, just allowing your thoughts to go to appreciations and gratitude will allow you to focus on the good things in your life.  I try to take a small amount of time every day to focus on this, but sometimes busy schedules don’t allow every day, so at the very least, every other day works for me!

I often like to walk my dog and as I walk through my neighborhood, as I admire the beautiful homes, the trees and plants, the sunshine or whatever the weather, I find myself sometimes becoming emotional about all the amazing people and things in my life.  My thoughts run rampant as I am walking, and sometimes the most random things come up…I reminisce about my childhood, my family, the things that have shaped my life so far, and as I start to think these things, more and more gratitude comes to my mind.

Even if you feel depressed, like things are not great for you, I promise if you find at least 1 thing per day to be grateful for, you’ll find as you think about that thing more and more things will come to mind.  Whatever we focus on we get more of, so I would much rather focus on what I do have rather than what I don’t…what about you?

 

 

My contemplation outfit was not exactly the walking through the gully type of outfit, however, it’s very feminine and by adding the long strand of pearls, it is also classy!  (more to follow on the pearls…)

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