Isn’t it Fascinating that we want to control the Weather?

 

“Anything you can’t control in life is teaching you how to let go!”

 

When I wake up on a cold, overcast, or rainy morning I have a hard time not letting myself feel a little down or even depressed.  While I consciously know that I most certainly don’t have the power to control the weather, it still sometimes leaves me feeling similar to Chicken Little where the sky is falling in!

 

It is almost an exercise in insanity to feel so down because of something so out of my control and scope of understanding, nevertheless, my body still feels this way.  I realize that not everyone feels like this about the weather, however, I am sure there are all times and things that make you feel inexplicably out of sorts. Knowing that the only solution to get through times like this is that you have to let go of control and realize that things are just happening for you, the key is to recognize when this is happening…

 

 

I still find myself sometimes worrying about things I shouldn’t, over-thinking, over-analyzing or even obsessing about things that clearly I have no way of influencing.  I am definitely starting to recognize when it happens more and more, and the more I become conscious of it, the more likely I am to be able to eliminate these habits.

 

Weather is just one example of something outside of our control, another huge cause of feeling frustrated is worrying about what other people are doing and how they are not doing things the way we want them to. As I sit here writing this post, my dog is outside and he’s barking at someone walking by or another dog out there, and I even found myself getting irritated and shouting at him.  Yes, I can shout at him and tell him to stop or bring him inside, but then he’s going to forget in a few minutes or he’s going to jump on the couch and start scratching at the door again.  Bottom line, I may be able to get him to stop for a while, but not until HE wants to!

 

I realized when I had kids that control is really just an illusion, but there are definitely times when I find myself jumping in and handling things for the boys when the best thing to do would be to let them figure it out themselves.  I am definitely not a mum that hovers enough to fall into the helicopter mom category, but I think that’s just because I work on catching myself when I have the urge to “fix” and force myself to take a step back a lot of the time.

 

Worrying about things outside your control is definitely one of the major stress causes in today’s world, so what if you could just allow yourself to let go and just enjoy the moment.

 

Today was a gloomy, rainy, cold day with some sleet and snow.  While I don’t like winter, I have to admit that I actually love how it looks with snow on the ground, blue skies and sunshines, even when it is cold. The real reason I don’t like winter is because it brings grey skies and in Utah we get an inversion in the valley – which I find ugly and dreary.  I did get through the day without too much frustration, but now I sit by a lovely warm fireplace with my feet up after eating a lovely fish and chips dinner.  I can feel all the stress that the gloom brought me just melting away…

 

If you can relate to any of these feelings or thoughts, and you are looking for a quick fix, i’ll let you into a trick that works for me…find something you love and move your focus away from the thing causing you frustration to that thing.  I love to spend time with friends, so sitting in a coffee shop with a great friend is a great remedy to the blues.  I also love to shop (I know, big surprise), so I sometimes take myself off to the mall and just wander around until I feel the thoughts just slip away – of course, if I see some great things while I’m there, I may have to buy them too!  Another great way to refocus is to sit by a lovely fire, curl up with a good book, watch a movie or spend time with your kids.

 

I am definitely a long way from being an enlightened being, but I feel that if I am constantly working on improving myself and my attitude, things will start to get easier and eventually I may even be strong enough to kick some habits!

 


A Woman Empowered…

“Nothing can dim the light that shines from within!”

Whether you know me personally or if you know me from reading my blog, Instagram, Facebook or Twitter posts, you probably already know by now that I am a very focused and driven woman.  I march to the beat of my own drum, I like to get my own way (and I don’t mean the kind of person that stomps their feet if they don’t get their own way, but someone that busts her butt until things work out how I want them or at least close to!), I make a goal and whether I get to that goal in a direct route or if I have to take a few detours, I ALWAYS get there!

 

A lot of you may or may not know what being a blogger entails.  Here’s how my life looks and how I am learning along the way…

  1. I am a mother of 4 amazing boys that bring me a lot of joy but also require that even when I’m home I’m “on my game!”
  2. I support all my boys in their sports and other activities, and show up to all their performances, games and events not because I HAVE to but because I wouldn’t miss them for the world.
  3. I work full time in a Sales Organization and have been a top performer for around 15 years, and it is a very demanding, self motivated and stressful career.
  4. I maintain friendships and relationships with people that are important to me, and they are most definitely a priority in my life.
  5. I am happily married and work on my relationship with my husband all the time (because let’s face it, in real life, marriage is hard but also soooo worth it!)
  6. I write a minimum of 5 blog posts each week, promote them through social media, and learn new ways to grow my following and provide value to people that are interested in what I have to say.
  7. I face daily challenges and obstacles that while they have helped me grow, I am determined to not them define me!

 

I know that my no means am I alone in what I have going on in my life, and I am certainly not super-human, but what I can tell you is that no matter what I do, I always give it 100%.  I love being successful and I am such a determined and motivated person that knows I am in control of my own life and that nothing or nobody else can decide how successful, happy and peaceful my life is!  I constantly strive to improve myself, and most importantly to not take myself too seriously.

 

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There are definitely things I wish I would have known in advance about writing a blog, and about social media, and of course I am still learning a lot of that stuff.  I didn’t even realize the things I didn’t know until I got in and started doing it, but here’s the key…even when I found out that I didn’t know a lot of stuff, I didn’t let it deter me, I just kept, trying new directions, shifting focus and most importantly…I DIDN’T STOP!!  Here’s my thought about anything in life – if you want it badly enough, you just find a way to get it done.  You don’t let setbacks, challenges, disappointments or other people prevent you from achieving your dream…

 

When I started my blog I started it with the plan to make it not just about fashion and style but more about helping other Women in particular see the value that comes from having confidence in themselves that can come from feeling good about how they look.  I definitely write about other things too (I see value in many other topics) but there is definitely an overall theme to what I write that should bring you back to feeling great about who you are…

 

As my blog has grown, I have definitely learned a lot of things, and I have definitely done some things wrong.  I don’t expect to be perfect, but what I do want to do is be improving and the only way to do that is to keep learning, trying new things and finally, by asking for feedback?  Who of you out there is willing to give me some feedback about if you have found value in what I have been doing and if there are some things you would like to see more of?

 

Whether you are someone just looking for style tips and ideas, or if you are reading this to find out about how you can boost your confidence and make the most of your appearance and use that to translate it to success, you are in the right place.  I may not wear something every day that has you thinking that you want to rush out and buy it – and that’s the point…I am ME, and you are you!  We all need to be who we are, but sometimes we just need a little inspiration.  There are very few original ideas in this world, but sometimes we don’t hear things or see things until we are ready to use those things.  For example, I have heard advice from people over the years, and it’s not until I am ready to take that advice that I really HEAR it…

 

Are YOU ready to hear advice or support that may help you?

 


Beautiful Fall Day

 

“Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or an event to control your emotions!”

 

While Summer is and will always be my favorite season (I absolutely love hot weather), there are so many reasons why Fall is a close second.

Firstly, Fall is the season where you can enjoy warm afternoons, and cooler mornings, meaning it gives us the opportunity to wear lightweight clothes with some fun jackets and layers  It is essentially the best of both worlds – I get to wear my favorite or new layering options for the season without having to give up some great lightweight favorites from my summer wardrobe.  It is a season where tights may or may not be worn, and layering is more for fun than absolute necessity.

Secondly, we get to enjoy some amazing colors that nature has to offer…the leaves turning tones of Red, Brown and Yellow, not to mention amazing sunsets and sunrises,

Finally, it is the season that prepares us for winter and the colder weather it brings.

 

 

I can’t believe that we are already only a few weeks away from Thanksgiving, and that 2017 is drawing to a close.  As I sit and contemplate what has happened in my life this year I can’t help but to feel grateful about the amazing blessings I have in my life, and the lessons I have learned.  We all have challenges and struggles in our life, but they are not what defines us…we are defined by how we react or handle those challenges.  I choose to feel gratitude for the struggles in my life because they have made me who I am…and I have to say, I kind of like ME!!

I constantly work on myself to choose to wake up every morning with love and gratitude in my heart, because I know when I do that, everything else in my life just seems to work itself out!  Have you ever gone through something and wondered why you went through it, only to find out the answer not long after?

I know that feeling good about things that are beyond our control can be very frustrating, but letting go of those things is so freeing.  I can manage my expectations about many things, but the weather is a constant battle for me.  I get headaches when it’s overcast or dull, and I want every day to have some sunshine and blue skies.  Unfortunately for us all that is never going to be a reality.  There will be rain, snow but there will also be sunshine.  I have seen more sunshine after moving to Utah from England and I absolutely love that, but I still find myself wishing or hoping that every day would be like that so I could feel “happier”. So, as the season with the least amount of sunshine rolls around, I find myself starting to feel a little down or depressed…so what do I do?  I choose to head into winter (my least favorite season) with an OPEN MIND and take the opportunity to become creative with my layering and sweaters…what a great time to start enjoying hot cocoa, cozy fires and snuggling under a blanket with one of my boys!

What if our least favorite thing had some positives too, and we chose to embrace those?  What would that do about your experience?  For me, I can’t wait to find out 🙂


Learning about Style

 

“The first step to being respected is to look respectable!”

 

From when we are five years old right up until, at the very minimum, we are eighteen, we go to school to learn…We learn some general subjects as well as those specialized to help us determine the career path we want to take in our life, but not only that, we learn how to interact with others, we learn how to be respectful all whilst we are growing and coming into ourselves.  So if we spend all this time learning and honing our interactional skills, learning capabilities and maturity, why would we not do the same when it comes to our appearance?  After all…in a world where judgements are rampant and our appearance is very often how people determine whether or not they want to do business with us, we should spend as much time if not more, learning and developing our presentation (and I mean personal appearance presentation) skills!

 

The challenge we face is that it is not as clear cut as school studies, relationship skills or even leadership skills.  So how do we grow our personal presentation capabilities?  Some people have innate skills, while others have to work a little harder, but the good news is that no matter how good we are, we can all learn more.

 

I will let you all into some of my secrets, which are pretty simple and I am sure you could figure them out even if I didn’t tell you (but just in case)…

  1. Don’t try to be something you are not.  I have talked about making sure you dress your age, but this goes even further than that.  Only choose styles that work for you, because wearing something just because it is “in” doesn’t necessarily mean it is going to look good on you.  I was just talking with some friends about how there are some styles that should NEVER come back in because they are not flattering, and I feel like mom jeans for me are one of those styles.  They do work for some people, but they are definitely one of the most flattering things for my body type.
  2. Dress for what you are doing.  Simply put – it is better to over dress for something than it is to turn up to an important meeting looking under-dressed or sloppy.
  3. Choose your colors wisely – again, just because a color is “in” doesn’t mean you should wear it.  Some colors can drain your color, while others are just a little too bold for what you are doing and who you are seeing.
  4. Notice how others are dressing, see how they wear belts, accessories, or shoes.  If you are wondering if a style of clothing would work for your body type, you can always google certain styles or check on Pinterest because there are always pictures of different body types.  Of course, nothing beats trying something on, but if you are looking to decide if something could work before you even get to the trying on stage, this is a great starting point.
  5. If you are unsure about how to put a whole outfit together, it is best to not get too carried away.  I do think it’s important to keep your style unique to you, but that doesn’t mean that you need to be so far out there that people remember you for the wrong reasons.
  6. Every store gets new styles, colors and fabrics throughout each season, so it is always good to check out the latest trends at Nordstrom, Macy’s and other department stores.  If you find a brand that you like that is great, but it doesn’t mean that everything they make is going to work for you.  Check out the styles, see how the mannequins are put together and use them as guidelines.

 

 

I love new seasons, and I especially love that we get all 4 seasons here in Utah because it gives me the chance to change my look every few months.  It keeps me feeling fresh and of course unique.

 

Even if you don’t remember anything else about this post, I want you to take this away with you…continue to learn about style.  Just like in anything else, it is not something where one day we can say we have learned all we can learn…things are always changing, new styles are coming out and old ones are being repurposed . That is why we need to keep it fresh.  Don’t be a follower or just stuck in your ways, find new ways to present yourself in the best way possible for your personality, body type and coloring.  I promise if you do this, you will feel more self-confidence and people will be attracted to that (whether it be business or personal relationships)…


Chunky and Comfy

 

“The secret to great style is to feel good in what you wear!”

 

I am always looking for new ways to express my style, so when I see someone wearing something I like, or I see something in a magazine, it immediately makes me think “could I wear that”…

 

I have found that while I like to explore lots of different styles and outfit combinations, not everything works for ME…and I don’t care who you are, there is always that is just going to look better on someone else.

 

The boots that I am wearing in this post are a pair that I saw a friend wearing and I fell in love with them – so I tried them and found that I like them too.  I find business or more dressy styles easier for me to express myself, so finding something that is perfect to add to my casual wardrobe, I’m all over it.  I grew up in England in the 80’s and Dr Marten’s were huge with “skin heads” and “mods” but they were never something I had liked myself.  I preferred more feminine styles, and I feel like Dr Marten’s got this style right!  They added a touch of femininity to target a whole different consumer – and I definitely fall into that new category of consumer.  Even though they are still chunky, I feel like the heel makes them more my style, yet they are still practical.

 

The Black distressed jeans are one of my favorite pair, mainly because the fabric is so soft, and they work with so many different outfit combinations.  The Blue sweater I found at H&M and just fell in love with the color…

 

I believe that even when I dress casually I like to keep that femininity in my outfits, and there are lots of ways to achieve that.  You can add a soft sweater (similar to this one), you could add a touch of lace, wear a soft brimmed had or cozy beanie, even just wearing feminine colors works too…such as dusky rose, or cream (which I think is more feminine than White even).

 

This fall and winter one of my goals is to expand my casual wardrobe and create some easy “go to” outfits that I can use when I just need to rip and run.  If you’re a working mum or just a busy professional, you know that sometimes the weekends can seem more busy than during the week and you just need to hurry and grab something quickly to wear…Wearing a hat or beanie can be a great way to save even more time if it’s not the day to wash your hair. During the week when I have appointments or I am dressing more professionally, I tend to style my hair differently than I do at the weekends.  Next week I am going to highlight some current quick and easy “up do’s” that I use when I am in a hurry for weekdays and also how I wear my hair on weekends.

 

When you are choosing your casual outfits, what is something that you won’t sacrifice?  Femininity is important to me…but I also like to choose styles that can be a little edgy by adding some leather and studs…


Dress Your Age, Not Your Shoe Size

 

“When you don’t dress like everyone else, you don’t have to think like everyone else!”

We all want to look a little younger than our actual age. Thanks to makeup and fashion, it is easy to do.  By wearing the right types of clothes and applying subtle makeup, you can easily shave a couple of years off your look. You’ll get plenty of great compliments from everyone if you get it right! However, if you get it wrong and go a bit over the top, you will find that you might start to look a bit too young. This might age you and could easily look far from flattering. So, even if you do want to try and look younger than what you are, it’s important that you dress your age and not your shoe size! Here are some tips that can help you stop yourself from dressing way too young for your age. They’ll help you look youthful but not too young.

 

Add Length To Your Hemline

Once we are in our thirties, it can be tricky wearing short skirts and dresses. If you continue to do so, you might find that you aren’t taken too seriously, especially if you wear short garments in the workplace. As a general rule of thumb, you shouldn’t wear anything that has a hemline that sits above the knees. Once you reach middle age, you should think about making your hemlines longer so that they pass the knee, just to be on the safe side.

 

Don’t Wear Childish Styles

There are some clothing styles, like frills on the bottom of a dress or spaghetti straps on tops, that are associated with children and teenagers. Even though they are heavily associated with such young trends, you will still find that some adult clothing incorporates them. But just because they are on women’s clothes means you should buy them. Ideally, stay away with anything that would also look good on a teenager, no matter how mature you think the garment looks!

 

 

Keep Things Current

Just because you reach a certain age doesn’t mean that you need to start wearing frumpy clothes. In fact, there are now lots of online clothing boutiques that offer very fashionable clothes suitable for every woman who is no longer a teenager. Just remember that you should wear the trends that you like, not the ones that you think you should be wearing.

 

Accessorize Well

You don’t always have to wear glamorous and overstated clothes to look good. In actual fact, one great tip for women is to wear plain outfits but then jazz them up with some amazing accessories. For example, a bling statement necklace and elegant handbag could add a lot of sophistication and class to an otherwise plain black dress. It’s a good idea to pick up your accessories while you are out and about. That way, you will find pieces that can help you tell your life story through your outfit!

 

Think you’ve been dressing your shoe size lately? These tips can help you reverse that in no time at all!

How Colors can Influence our Behavior

“Women sometimes go too far, it’s true, but it’s only when you go too far that others listen!”

We all have colors that somehow attract us to them and affect our mood…but can colors really influence our behavior?

Scientific America says that “Red is a powerful color. It’s the color of Cupid and the Devil, the color of love and hate. It brings to mind hot-blooded anger and Scarlet Lettershame. It means luck in China, where bridal wear is red, mourning in parts of Africa and sex in Amsterdam’s red-light district.”

There are also some biological reactions that showcase the color in varying shades, such as:  Getting red int he face when you are angry or embarrassed.  The color Red has also been known to cause Red car drivers to react more aggressively than drivers in another colored vehicle.

I think the most renowned example of Red used in an instinctual way is the Red cape of a matador, used to taunt a bull.  The bottom line is that Red is known as the most “powerful” of all the colors, so shouldn’t it be so that it can also evoke the most intense emotions?  Red has always been my favorite color, even at a young age I was drawn to it’s power and the frequency that it emitted.  It is the color I always turn to when I want to feel more confident, more powerful and last but not least, more sexy.

I know you have all felt things when you have worn certain colors…but my question is, have you ever used those “feelings” to your advantage?  Red can be intimidating to some people, so it is probably not a color you want to wear for an interview or as a Woman if you want to man to look at you and take you seriously as an intelligent peer.  Unfortunately we as Women still face having to manage the perceptions of Men and actually even other Women.  If you are someone that loves Red as much as I do and you want to wear it with pride, then you also have to be prepared for the reactions you are going to get.  The feelings of confidence and power that you emit when you are wearing Red is something that other people are going to feel too!

 

If you are looking for a cheat sheet about which colors you should and shouldn’t wear for certain times, here are few guidelines for you (remember, these are just general and definitely shouldn’t be taken too seriously, because we would never wear anything if we did!):

RED. Physical
Positive: Physical courage, strength, warmth, energy, basic survival, ‘fight or flight’, stimulation, masculinity, excitement.
Negative: Defiance, aggression, visual impact, strain.

BLUE. Intellectual.
Positive: Intelligence, communication, trust, efficiency, serenity, duty, logic, coolness, reflection, calm.
Negative: Coldness, aloofness, lack of emotion, unfriendliness.

YELLOW. Emotional
Positive: Optimism, confidence, self-esteem, extraversion, emotional strength, friendliness, creativity.
Negative: Irrationality, fear, emotional fragility, depression, anxiety, suicide.

GREEN. Balance
Positive: Harmony, balance, refreshment, universal love, rest, restoration, reassurance, environmental awareness, equilibrium, peace.
Negative: Boredom, stagnation, blandness, enervation.

VIOLET. Spiritual
Positive: Spiritual awareness, containment, vision, luxury, authenticity, truth, quality.
Negative: Introversion, decadence, suppression, inferiority.

ORANGE.
Positive: Physical comfort, food, warmth, security, sensuality, passion, abundance, fun.
Negative: Deprivation, frustration, frivolity, immaturity.

PINK.
Positive: Physical tranquillity, nurture, warmth, femininity, love, sexuality, survival of the species.
Negative: Inhibition, emotional claustrophobia, emasculation, physical weakness.

GREY.
Positive: Psychological neutrality.
Negative: Lack of confidence, dampness, depression, hibernation, lack of energy.

BLACK.
Positive: Sophistication, glamour, security, emotional safety, efficiency, substance.
Negative: Oppression, coldness, menace, heaviness.

WHITE.
Positive: Hygiene, sterility, clarity, purity, cleanness, simplicity, sophistication, efficiency.
Negative: Sterility, coldness, barriers, unfriendliness, elitism.

BROWN.
Positive: Seriousness, warmth, Nature, earthiness, reliability, support.
Negative: Lack of humor, heaviness, lack of sophistication.

Source:  Colour-effects.co.uk

My goal for this weekend, wear as much Red as possible…what colors are you going to wear?

Autumn & Winter Bucket List

“Fall is like nature’s Grand Finale for the year – the time when everything bursts it’s last beauty!”

Fall is the time for enjoying the outdoors without having to wear thermals, and sometimes in the afternoon we can enjoy not even wearing a jacket!  I love days where I get enjoy lightweight clothes and just add the extra layer of a jacket or cardigan in the morning.  It gives me the opportunity to really enjoy the beautiful days and not have to worry about not going outside (that’s going to be here all too quickly!)

Now that Halloween is over, the end of the year is drawing closer and our time in 2017 is becoming shorter and shorter!  It always freaks me out when we get to this time of year because it’s kind of a mad dash to planning Thanksgiving and Christmas as well as deciding what things we had resolved to do this year but they are still on the “to do” list!

With that in mind, I thought I would talk about some great things to do in the Autumn and Winter…because once you say them out loud, it means you have to do them, right?!

We don’t all have the same interests, but here are some things high on my bucket list:

  1.  Rake leaves with the kids and join in as they jump into the piles and spread the leaves all over the yard again.  I’m not big on this kind of stuff, but I am working on not being so serious all the time, I think this would shock the boys and make them laugh, which is the ultimate goal!
  2. Purge things I don’t wear anymore from my closet and organize what I am keeping.  I didn’t realize how many pairs of shoes I bought in England and when I went to Arizona recently until I tried to put them away…
  3. As a second piece to number 2, I would like to find someone that could REALLY benefit from my recycled clothes – I know Goodwill is easy to donate to, but I find it means more if you know someone that could really use them 🙂
  4. Plan a service project with my kids so as the holiday season comes around they are not focused 100% on themselves.  We have done this in years past and taking the boys to deliver gifts or do service for those in need certainly helps put things in perspective (even for them).
  5. Working full time it has sometimes been hard for me to plan meals and sometimes, unfortunately, our dinners consist of take out or quick fix meals.  I try to eat as healthy as possible and help my kids to do the same, so planning a weekly meal schedule with dinner ideas and shopping around that has been a goal of mine for a long time (I feel like the cooler weather will be a good time to start because I prefer staying in evenings when it’s cooler).
  6. This is one more for winter, but I have always wanted to take my kids to an outdoor ice skating rink and we’ve never done it.  This year is going to be the year!  Whenever I see a movie on TV and they are skating in Central Park, New York, it always looks so amazing…I’m sure it’s not cold at all, right?!

I know not all of these activities fall into a typical “bucket list” category, but I know whenever I accomplish something I have been meaning to do for a long time it always makes me feel less stressed – which is a constant goal of mine!

Being a Mum and Working or even if you’re a stay at home Mum (which is probably the hardest job of all), can be very taxing, so I always believe in taking care of yourself too!  Even if it is something simple like taking a bath, reading a book, watching your favorite movie or TV show, taking that time to recharge is so necessary.  It is easier to feel a sense of accomplishment when you take time to contemplate yourself and how amazing you are.  Give yourselves a virtual pat on the back and make a goal to enjoy this fall and winter – what’s on your bucket list?!

What if there were NO Rules?

“Courage is being yourself everyday in a world that tells you to be someone else!”

 

If you woke up one day and found out that there were no hard and fast fashion rules that you need to follow…how would that make you feel?

Well, here’s what I would like to tell you – with all the different styles of fashion around, with people taking greater care of themselves and with the different lifestyles everyone leads, there truly are no rules.  We all have different interests, we all love to spend time doing different things, and finally we are all different on the inside as well as on the outside.  Shouldn’t we express ourselves in a way that is true to who we are both on the inside and outside?

Now you know you are free to do whatever you want with your style, I did want to mention that although there aren’t any rules, there are definitely mistakes we can make that may cause us to not look our best, and even worse, things that can age us!

Here are some things you can do that will minimize the aging process and allow us to look amazing even into our later years in life:

  1. Now we’re in fall and winter is around the corner, tights can be our best friend…however, be careful the styles and colors you pick.  Just wearing opaque black with every outfit or wearing nudes are definitely more likely to age you.  Instead, try a pair of patterned, fishnets, different colors or finer opaques to mix things up a little and add a little sass to your look.
  2. Make sure that you dress appropriately for your body type. I always say that just because something comes in your size doesn’t mean that you should wear it.  Wearing clothes that cling in the wrong places, clothes that make you look boxy or even worse something that is too short, is a sure fire way to ensure that you actually look older than you are.
  3. One of the worst things you can do is go shopping and buy an entire outfit that you see on a mannequin.  I have found that it is better to be more subtle with your styling and pick a couple of things that are new and in style rather than going for everything you see.  Remember, the goal is to do what is right for you not what everyone else is doing or what the stores are telling you to do.
  4. Never, never, never get too carried away with accessories.  Just think “less is more” when accessorizing and just in case that isn’t clear, follow the direction of Coco Chanel “When accessorizing always take off the last thing you put on”.
  5. If you are big believer in all things that are Black, don’t despair, you can still do that, but try to add at least a little pop of color to brighten up your complexion.  I always try to add a bright or bold lipstick to my Black outfits…you could also add a cute purse or bag, a contrasting pair of shoes or even a few accessories.

The ultimate goal should always be YOU…

“Be yourself, no one can ever tell you you’re doing it wrong!”


3 Ways of Becoming More Stylish Without Changing Your Outfit

 

“Style!  All who have it share one thing…originality.”

When it comes to style, almost every bit of advice you’ll ever find has to do with the type of outfit you should wear, or the sort of lipstick or foundation you should buy, or maybe the best accessories to really set off your look. You might even read something about how the right button extender is the key to style in 2017, and how it can make your clothes fit more comfortably!

 

While all of those things are obviously important, there are also a few things you can do to look more stylish which involve none of the conventional tips.

 

Intrigued? Check out the following tips…

 

Improve your posture

 

Have you ever noticed that catwalk models seem to be effortlessly stylish, almost regardless of what they’re wearing? Watch a runway show, and it’s all but guaranteed that you’ll see at least one outfit that you won’t like the look of, but still think that the model wearing it has a natural aura of style.

 

A big part of that sense of natural style is simply having good, confident posture. As humans we communicate a lot through our body language, and we naturally associate upright, confident posture with passionate, attractive people.

 

If you find that you have a tendency to slouch or round your shoulders, make a point of consciously working to improve your posture. Straighten up your back, push your chest out a bit, and meet the world head on.

 

Yoga and Pilates classes can also work wonders for correcting poor posture and helping you to maintain a stylish stance.

 

Cultivate a laid back attitude

”Cool” isn’t just a word for fashionable, it’s also a description for someone exceptionally chilled out and easygoing. It’s no accident that we, as a society, have absorbed the idea that laid back people are also fashionable and stylish. A huge part of how we perceive style has to do with the kind of subconscious signals it sends about someone’s personality and place in society.

 

Do you think that Marilyn Monroe would have become a style and sex symbol if she gave off the impression of being anxious and jittery? A major part of her secret was in the fact that she seemed calm, confident, and collected in every situation.

 

Have you ever had a dress that was so loud and sexy that you just didn’t feel confident enough to wear out, but that you still loved too much to let go? The simple truth is that the more relaxed and comfortable you seem to be, the better you’ll pull off any outfit.

 

Anything you can do to relax yourself and take life in your stride will make you seem effortlessly more stylish.

 

Get more sleep

Sleep is far more important, for far more reasons, than many people give it credit. By getting more sleep you improve your mood, you improve circulation and maintain a more youthful overall appearance — especially in the face. You also benefit from a healthy hormone balance, which keeps you calm, collected, and more likely to feel your best.

 

It’s almost possible to spot the people who get enough sleep on a regular basis by the glow they seem to give off. As much as possible, you want to be one of those people rather than one of the permanently sleep deprived.