A New Start

“You only ever get in life things that you have the courage to ask for!”

 

I’ve talked a little about my new beginnings over the past week or so…well, the day is finally here!

Have you ever started something new and found it a little challenging to switch your mind to the new things you will be focusing on?  This morning when I woke up I still had to get the kids ready and off for school, but the direction of my office, the things I need to accomplish, what I could wear, who I was going to meet with…all different.  After 15 years working in the same office, doing essentially the same job,  it had definitely become second nature..so what now?

Sometimes it’s easier to stay doing what we are familiar with rather than to take a risk, especially when you hear others around you questioning whether you can do it, or we may even start to question ourselves.  When I was in High School in England I remember going to parent teacher conferences/career night – I believe I was around 14 years old.  I met with my Biology teacher and my parents and at that time I had wanted to do something in the medical field.  I loved the sciences and they seemed to come easy to me.  As we sat there that teacher asked me what I was wanting to study in College and when I told her that I wanted to study Medicine or something like that she actually said to me “If I were you, I would set my sights lower”!

Wow!  Can you imagine the self esteem of a 14 year old at that point.  Well, here’s what happened, I decided to dig my heels in, I went to college, and worked my butt off to get my degree in Physiology with Microbiology.   As I was studying I found that I liked to meet new people, embraced challenges and love to develop long term relationships built on trust.  Consequently, when I was done with my degree I decided to apply for a job in Pharmaceutical sales.  In England in the early 90’s there weren’t many women doing that job and even though I had multiple interviews I found that it was a very sexist environment.   My self esteem took a beating again.  I was told by one interviewer that if I wanted a job where I was going to meet with Doctors I would need to wear short skirts.  The ironic thing about that is that the person telling me was actually a woman!  I am not someone that likes to be backed into a corner, and at that age I was a lot more naive, so I told her NO!  I would not do that.  Needless to say I didn’t get the job.

After a couple of years trying unsuccessfully to get a job in pharmaceutical sales, I decided to move over to the US – where I thought I would have an easier time as a woman in a career.  I got a job in Radio advertising sales so that I could gain some sales experience before I started applying for more sales jobs in the medical industry.  After a few years in radio, I moved into TV and then onto cable, where I have been working for the past 15 years.

 

 

Whilst working in cable advertising sales I found that I was experiencing very similar things to those I experienced when I was back in England.  I had to work twice as hard to get to the top, and I was the top.  I had to overcome men that were intimidated by strong women and people that were put in positions of management certainly not because of their experiences or qualifications to do the job, but rather because they were part of the “good old boys club” or had a friend that put them there.  What I realized is that I have NO control over what people say to me, how they treat me or whether things are “fair”.  What I do have control over is whether I let that define who I am.

I developed many amazing relationships while I was in the media industry and I am extremely grateful for those relationships.  I also refined my tenacity, my determination, my resilience and my confidence.  I learned that I could rise to the top no matter how someone treated me.  I learned that I am really good at what I do and now I have the opportunity to prove that to myself even more as I embark on a career that I get to control more.

I will be working with my husband that is a mindset and motivational coach, as well as working on my blog.  I feel like both work really well together, and I am excited for what our future holds.

I would not change anything that has happened to guide me on the path that I am on in my life.  I have learned a lot of what I am capable of and I have grown so much.  I have learned to love myself and not just because I look a certain way or I am successful in my career.  If I had placed too much emphasis on my career performance these past few years where I was challenged way more than anyone in a career should be, would have certainly diminished my self esteem.  Instead, it fired me up, it made me want to make more of my life!

Taking risks and starting new things are sometimes easier said than done.  It takes a lot of courage to walk away from something, but it can also be the most rewarding thing you have ever done.  I realized that I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life wondering “what if” or thinking that I had settled.  What about you?  What risks are you willing to take to grow?

 

 

Feel Good in your own Skin

“The best gift you can ever give yourself is the permission to feel safe in your own skin.  To feel worthy, and like you are enough!”

Feeling good in your own skin is so much more than being confident in how you look…it is more about who you are as a person and how you feel about that person.

We all came into this world the same way, but our experiences and our relationships in our lives shape us into who we are today. Sometimes those experiences can  cause us to feel insecure, lacking in confidence, or even make us feel like we are not good enough.  It can be hard to move through things that trigger us, or make us feel like this, but there are definitely steps we can take to help soften us and allow us to feel more worthy, more comfortable in our own skin and ultimately more confident.

I have found that the more I give myself grace for not being perfect, and the more I don’t compare myself or what I do to others, the better I feel about myself.  I can tell you that this getting older thing is not for the faint of heart.  I didn’t realize how much it affected me until I saw some pictures of me when I was younger, and noticed that I have laughter lines, I have wrinkles I had chosen not to notice before and that perhaps my muscles aren’t as toned as they once were.

 

 

So, as we go through life, how do we feel good about ourselves even as these things happen?

Here are a few things that help me – maybe they’ll help you too:

  1. Take care of yourself – for me this can be as simple as taking a bath at night, reading a good book or just having a small amount of time to be left with my thoughts.  I like to be unpredictable, so for me going on a bike ride in a different direction, walking the dog a different route or even driving home a different way allow me to feel free and let the stresses of the day go a little.  We don’t all have the same things that relax us or make us feel good, so whatever it is for you, that’s what you need to do.  It seems like the world is advertising to us all the time about what we should do, eat, wear, and like…but ultimately whatever it is that makes YOU feel good, well that’s what you need to do!
  2. Focus on the good – it’s easy to be critical about your flaws or what is wrong with you…so what if every time you saw something that you didn’t like about you, in turn you found something to appreciate about that thing.  For example, I always had a really flat stomach and that’s not the case anymore…but here’s the best part – I have 4 boys that I am immensely grateful for,  and I wouldn’t trade a little bit of a stomach for any of those kids.  Another could be the wrinkles around my eyes – but I appreciate that I have had plenty to laugh about in this life.
  3. Embrace your Uniqueness – we are all created to be different,  so why would we want to change who we are in order to fit in?  I am very lucky that my parents always encouraged me to embrace my unique, quirky and feisty personality, because I wouldn’t be who I am today if I hadn’t.  Society teaches about fitting in all the time, and social media only accentuates that need…but what if we considered that the world just wouldn’t be as it should without US and what unique traits we have to offer.
  4. Don’t be afraid to be alone – before I met Brandon I was a single mom for about 5 years, and during that time I really wanted to meet someone to settle down.  What I realized is that I wasn’t ready to meet him until I was 100% OK with being alone.  I love the time I spend by myself, not that I don’t love the company of my family or my friends, but I also need that time to make me the best I can be for all of them.  Taking time to be alone to read, to contemplate, meditate, or exercise are great ways for us to enjoy alone time.
  5. Do things that make you happy – as you have probably noticed by now, one of my biggest loves is travel.  I love to travel with Brandon, with my kids, my friends and even alone.  The thrill of exploring new places, enjoying sunshine, waterfalls, the ocean, the forest, and many, many other things is really the reason I work.  Even going out of town for business is a huge thrill for me because I usually get at least a little time to relax.  I love to shop (I know, shocker), I love to go to movies and dinner with my family, I love river rafting, hiking, biking and sunbathing.  By doing any of these things we are able to fill our cups to make us better for ourself and those around us.

 

Oh and if by wearing some funky boots, or a fabulous leather skirt makes you feel as good as it makes me feel…I’ve linked my boots and the rest of my outfit (or similar pieces) below…


The Beauty of Simplicity

 

Overthinking is a PRISON of your own cursed thoughts – it’s where you get tangled!”

I have found that I may be a little bit of an over-thinker (for those of you that know me, not a shock I am sure!)  For some reason, and that reason is not logical, I seem to make things harder on myself by creating scenarios in my head, telling myself stories and just basically thinking about things that I have no need to think about.

I am sure you can imagine the problems something like this can cause…like, being worried about something that doesn’t even exist (except in my mind), causing my brain to be working overtime which creates exhaustion,  even when I am not aware that it is doing it.  I don’t know about you but logically I realize that this is reducing my productivity, creating stress, irritability and it can even cause lack of motivation.  Changing my thoughts or getting them under control is easier said than done, however, now that I am conscious that I do this, it makes it easier to recognize when things come up for me, so I can not let them take off running by themselves 😉

This thought process can also be something that we do when we think about how we dress and our style.  Have you ever found yourself worrying about what you are going to wear, overthinking it and then just throwing anything on because you don’t have the energy to worry about it.  It can definitely be a vicious cycle where we end up not feeling the best about ourselves because we are not allowing ourselves to take care of ourselves.  Even if you are not a follower of fashion or someone that cares about the latest trends, most of us still care what we look like and (whether we like it or not) it is important what others think about how we look.  So how do we create a space so that we can still look great, and not have to create drama or overthink it at the same time?

Keeping it simple is 100% the answer.  Once you start worrying about adding accessories, the shoes, the bag, whether you should wear a belt, the colors or patterns that suit you, and whether fabrics can be worn together or not it can become waaay too complicated and overwhelming.  So, here’s what I think:  stick to simple pieces, don’t worry about getting fancy, and don’t read too many fashion magazines that might make you feel like you are failing because you aren’t wearing the latest trends.

 

 

My outfit in this post is so simple, yet it’s still ME and classy.  A simple black dress (yes, the sleeves are little bit fancy, but it is just one piece to worry about), a pair of my style of booties,  and that is IT!  Nothing else to think about.

If you ever find yourself becoming overwhelmed by fashion, the first step is don’t try to be someone you are not.  The next step is to not give up, just try something that makes you feel good instead of just throwing in the towel.  Fashion is really there for us to take and make our own, not for us all to be walking around looking the same…because if it was, there would only ever be available one style, one color and one fabric.  Clothes are unique, and they are ours to mold into who WE are, not the other way around.

I honestly believe that the more confident we become in owning who we are, the easier style will come to us, and the better we will feel about ourselves.

My confidence comes from feeling good about how I look, what I accomplish, who I am but most importantly that I am a good person because it makes me feel good to help others.

 

Confidently be YOU

“When you step out of your comfort zone, you are stepping into your greatness!”

Even though I have always thought of myself as a confident person, there are definitely some things that still make me uncomfortable.  For example. when I first started this blog I was extremely uncomfortable about taking pictures in front of people, I felt self-conscious and I even thought I was being a conceited posting as many pictures of myself as I did.

What I found it that the more I take my pictures, the more open I am to just putting myself out there the easier it becomes.  There are still times when I have thoughts of self-doubt, and wonder if I am completely wasting my time writing this blog, but I realize that the whole point of my starting writing was so that I could let others know that stepping outside of a comfort zone is the only way to grow – and if we are not growing then we’re not living!

I trust myself to do things that are hard, and learn from my mistakes, and here’s the most important part – I am learning a huge lesson in grace.  I am learning that I need to cut myself some slack and not expect to get everything right the first time or to do it perfectly.  I know there are some of you out there that struggle with perfection issues, and wanting to do everything perfectly or not at all…so here’s to you, here’s to learning to do it at 70% and actually trying rather than not trying because you know you won’t be able to do it perfectly.

I made a promise to myself that I would do hard things to make myself better & to stretch myself, so that when I look back at this life, I could say that I didn’t waste any of it.  That I made mistakes, fell down and got up again, tried new things, taught others by example, and most importantly that I didn’t regret anything.

 

 

I still feel uncomfortable posting videos of myself, I don’t really like to see myself talking and I don’t really like the sound of my own voice.  As I write these words I realize how ridiculous they sound, so that’s why I am stepping even further out of my comfort zone with a project that I will be able to tell you about really soon!

What does it mean to be confidently YOU?  What makes you feel uncomfortable or stretches your confidence a little?  I can promise if you are willing to do one thing each week that makes you feel a little uncomfortable your confidence will grow enormously and before you know it, you’ll be doing things you didn’t even think you were capable of.  Whenever I am afraid of doing something I think about my kids and what message I am sending them by not doing something.  I know that as parents we expect our kids to do what we say, but I can tell you 100% that as I look back to when my kids were little, they were so much more likely to do what I DID rather than what I SAID.

Setting an example is the best way to pay it forward to your kids, your friends, your family and pretty much anyone that you come into contact with.  It definitely wouldn’t look too good for me to be talking about how important confidence and belief in yourself is if I didn’t practice what I preached!

If you could set yourself one goal each week that would help you become stronger, more confident and grow your comfort zone, what would it be?

Comment – i would love to know!

 


Take on Change

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination!”

 

About 2 years ago I made a decision to start this blog.  Since then I have found out how many things I actually didn’t know about social media, writing a blog, WordPress, and many, many more things.  But the good news about finding out what you don’t know is that you can then learn from it.  I am a long way from being a professional but I have definitely found some things that work and the main thing, I am thoroughly enjoying my journey.

I started my blog because I realized that I needed some positivity in my life at a time when it was seriously lacking.  I was in a deep, dark, negative hole and for some reason I was having a hard time pulling myself out.  As I have written about fashion, travel, my family, finding joy in your journey and many other things, a funny thing has happened…my life has completely turned around.  I am in the place I want to be now, and I am definitely attracting more positive things into my life.

I have found that the more intentional I get about what I want to accomplish, the more I focus my energies there, the more likely I am to achieve what I want and need in my life.

There is no easy, quick fix, it all requires consistent effort, focus and positivity, and even more importantly it requires you to have someone in your life that will hold you accountable when you are not being nice to yourself or allowing yourself grace.

 

 

I had an emotional weekend – not sure if it was jet lag, changes happening in my life, or just that time of the month.  As I was going through this I realized that I have a lot of people in my life that love me and are rooting for me…I have a husband that teaches me something every day – he helps me to focus on the good in me, and stop beating myself up for when I can’t control everything and make it perfect.  He loves me more than I ever thought possible, and because we work on ourselves together, we are making our relationship rock solid.  I have friends that love me and I feel blessed to have so many amazing people in my life.

One thing I have realized is that I love change, I actually love to mix things up (even just simple things that rearranging furniture or driving a different way home).  Change for me is the opportunity to challenge myself, to prevent from becoming bored, and most importantly, for me to be able to grow and make myself better as a person.  Change is definitely something that takes you out of your comfort zone but in a good way.  It allows you to expand that comfort zone and take on new challenges that eventually just end up being routine things that are easy to handle.

Starting today – I am ready to adjust the sails of my life and see which direction my life takes me…

What’s in store for you this week?

Shop this cute Red and Black, not forgetting the fabulous shoes by clicking the links below…

 

Small Things Make all the Difference

“When you pay attention to the little things, the big picture will take care of itself!”

Planning ahead with my posting as I am leaving on vacation today and getting everything wrapped up before I leave.  This is not what I am wearing because when I travel (especially on a international flight) I love wear clothes that are extremely comfortable, without foregoing a little sass and style.  Stay tuned for my travel look and vacation pictures.

The outfit I am wearing in this post is one that I wore for work, but it is also perfect for date night, or pretty much any kind of daytime activity (at least for me because I always prefer to dress up a little more than most).

I don’t think I’m alone in thinking that sometimes the smallest things can make all the difference when planning an outfit.  Things like jewelry, a belt, a scarf, some kind of hair accessory, a bag or a pair of shoes can make an outfit look completely different.

I love finding fun things to transform my outfit – the earrings I am wearing in this post.  They were a gift a few years ago from a friend made by a local vendor…the colors and style worked so perfectly with my red top and black paper bag pants.  The studded belt added a little edge, and the bangle added a little boho.

 

 

When I pay attention to the details and feel like my outfit is totally put together and rocking it, I have an air of confidence, which translates to me walking differently, having a little sass in just knowing that I feel good about myself and how I look.

What gives you confidence in yourself and how you look?  Do you dress for yourself or to please others?  The more confidence I develop in myself and in wearing my own unique style, the more I am able to become more daring, more bold and ultimately happier.  I don’t think it’s shallow to put value on how you look, in fact, I think we owe it to ourselves to make the most of ourselves.

I hope your Sunday is fabulous, I know mine will be!

You can shop similar to this look by clicking the links below…

 

 

 

How to Transition into a New Season

 

“Replace fear of the unknown with curiosity!”

When the seasons change, no matter where you live, there is at least in some part a change in the weather (even if it’s only the slightest change).  So, what is the best way to transition your closet to a new season?  The fashion magazines tell us the latest styles, trends, fabrics and colors, but how do you fit those to YOUR unique style?

Sometimes, expanding your sights to new things can seem overwhelming, expensive and very challenging.  I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be…

I have many pieces of clothing that I continue to wear across seasons, things I pull out year after year and colors that can be adapted to my style.  I don’t ever buy a completely new wardrobe every season, that would be too expensive and impractical.  What I do is add a few new pieces and pair them with things I already own.  I love creating my own looks using new and old styles, colors and fabrics combined.

There are some fabrics that work better during cooler seasons, and some during warmer seasons, as well as patterns that you associate more with one season over another.  That doesn’t mean that you can’t cross over or color outside the lines a little, all it takes is a little imagination and experimentation.  Here are some styles, patterns or fabrics that you can transition into fall:

 

Leather – although leather is definitely a warmer fabric, I wear this every season of the year and love adapting my looks accordingly.  In spring pairing leather with florals is a great way to go, and in the fall adding a chunky sweater or an earth toned contrasting piece along with some boots is a great way to wear it.

 

 

 

Red is a color for any season – for fall try wearing your red (warm or cool red works) with tan, some form of animal print or just black.  Red is such a strong color that makes a statement all by itself, so by adding this to your fall look, you are going to make any outfit stand out.

 

 

Unexpected – I love adding colors that are a little more unexpected.  I love wearing a bright pair of shoes or boots that are unusual.  Not necessarily the color of the season but one that can be a contrast to the look of your outfit.  I have a pair of green satin booties that I love to wear in fall even though they are not a traditional fall color.  This is where the coloring outside the lines comes in 😉

 

 

Velvet is a great warmer fabric, so tends to be more traditionally worn in cooler seasons.  However, if you wear a velvet top with a satin or cotton skirt or pair of pants, it is versatile enough to be worn in spring.  By wearing these velvet shorts with a pair of tights and boots, I could transition the look into fall and winter…the possibilities are endless!

 

 

 

Tights are a great way to change your summer dress to a fall outfit.  A little summer dress paired with a funky pair of tights, and a duster or cardigan is a great way to get the most out of your summer look.

 

 

I am always looking for new things to try, new ideas, something that will make me stand out, that’s the only way anyone can grow.  So maybe your style isn’t to stand out or maybe you don’t like to be bold, that is OK, but in order to grow in anything in life, you have to try something different.  However you transition into the fall season, what if you tried something you haven’t tried before.  What if you found that thing was your new favorite thing?  I am always telling my kids that if they don’t try new foods how will they ever really know what they like?  Even a new accessory, a pair of sunglasses, a new color…trying something new expands our comfort zone and the more we do that the more confidence we get and the happier we become.  Baby steps work just fine 😉

 

Seasons Change – Adapt your Style

“If you look good you feel good, and if you feel good, you do good!”

 

Labor Day is just the beginning for me starting to incorporate more Fall patterns, colors and styles into my daily style.  One of the hardest and the best things about changing seasons is the fact that not everything works in every season, but there are definitely some exceptions to that rule!

I posted on my story today that I am not a rule follower and I have seen a few other people talk about the old rule that you shouldn’t wear white after Labor Day…well, those days are gone.  There are so many new styles for Fall, Winter and beyond that incorporate white, winter white and other variations that look amazing.

When you are not saying goodbye to something that you really love, it opens up a whole other realm of possibilities for you to create your own unique styles.  By incorporating the new season’s colors, styles and textures, you will be able to really grow your style comfort zone like I talked about the other day.

I honestly believe that the whole point of style is that you should never limit yourself, put yourself in a box, but be open to creating your own way of doing things.  If you love something,  it accentuates your best features and is flattering to you,  find a way to wear it no matter what.

 

 

Here are some tips for incorporating summer styles into fall outfits:

  1. Burgundy or wine colors look fabulous with white, so try a great pair of white distressed jeans or skinny jeans with a wine colored blouse, T shirt or sweater and add a pair of leopard shoes or booties.
  2. Pull out one of your summer blouses (a boho style would work really well), pair with a pair of jeans or skinny pants and add a long cardigan in a seasonal color such as rust, mustard yellow or a metallic.
  3. Leopard is good for any season, but it especially works well in the fall with the warmer tones.  Pair a leopard blouse or T shirt with a pair of red or black pants.
  4. White shoes are not just for summer – add a great pair of white pumps with pretty much any outfit to add a pop of your own style.
  5. Snake print is also hot right now, so why not wear a jumpsuit in any color with a pair of snakeprint shoes and a belt?
  6. Add a pair of funky tights with a summer shift dress and add a denim or leather jacket.
  7. Pair a summer blouse with a leather skirt and a pair of funky shoes.

These are some simple styles for you to try for yourself, or even adapt to your own way of doing things.  I have found that the more I consciously think through what I am going to wear, the more likely I am to be happy with how I look.  I dress for me, but I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that it feels good when I get compliments for my outfits.  Because, no matter who you are…the better you feel about yourself, the more confidence you will have.

Have a fabulous weekend…

 

 

 

Expand your Style Comfort Zone

“A comfort zone is a beautiful place but nothing ever grows there!”

Have you ever heard that your confidence grows in direct proportion to how much change or discomfort you are willing to face.

This is true of everything in life…for example.  When Brandon bought my mountain bike for me (it’s an electric bike that when you pedal has a little or a big kick of power depending on what you turn it to), I had NEVER mountain biked before.  I had always wanted to try it but was too scared to do it, so the first day I rode myself to the foothills of the mountains near my house where I knew there were some good, wide trails.  I rode up the hills great but became very nervous going downhill with the fear that I would fall over the handlebars, the rocks would make me fall off, and oh there was that one time where there was a snake across the trail!  He bought me the bike back in May for Mother’s Day and ever since then there has not been a week where I haven’t gone on at least 4 or 5 eight mile rides since then.

I am by no means a pro, but I am going faster and doing things that scared me to death now!  At the very least, I am confident enough in my ability to control the bike, to know what I can and can’t do, and most importantly, I am eager to try new trails and go new places.

You may be asking what this has to do with anything…well, here’s what I think.  Because this concept works with everything, it also translates to fashion and style.   Expanding your style repertoire can take baby steps, or a bold leap, depending on the level of change you are willing to face at any one time.

There are some styles that I would never wear…mainly because just because something comes in my size doesn’t mean it is appropriate OR cute for me to wear.  I do however, love to incorporate new things into my style, and when I do I have found that I have loved most of them.  Expanding your style comfort zone is something we can all do, but in our own way…so what is your way?

Each season there are new colors, new styles, patterns and fabrics – expanding your style could be simply just wearing a new color or fabric.  In today’s post the suit I am wearing is from a shopping trip to L.A., and the blouse is Zara.  I loved the luxurious color of the blouse along with the tweed of the suit because you are going to see a lot of tweed this fall and it is always a classic look.  If you were into the Gingham trend that has been around, tweed is a great alternative to switch things up.

The reason it is called a comfort zone is because it’s comfortable – which means it is easier NOT to change what you’re doing, but it is always not as fulfilling.  I have found that it is always a challenge to me to come up with new looks, new styles that work just for me, and put my own stamp onto styles of the season.

Here are some easy ways to expand your style comfort zone for the upcoming season:

  1. Add a scarf of a different color or fabric to mix things up
  2. Find your “go to” style and find it in velvet, satin or even leather
  3. Find a pair of funky, statement shoes or boots to make any outfit pop
  4. Wear a pair of funky, patterned or colored tights
  5. Wear a bold, bright pair of earrings (perhaps one with tassels) in a contrasting color
  6. Add glitter or sequins – they’ll definitely get you noticed
  7. Metallics are a great way to add spice, you can wear either shoes, scarf, bag, top or if you’re really bold, a pair of pants or a skirt
  8. Wear a color that is bright, bold and really noticeable
  9. Wear a pop of red or pink on your lips
  10. Fur – there’s never a bad time to add some fur

I hope you find some food for thought, and if you do, I would love to hear…

 

See Yourself Through the Eyes

 

“Sometimes you can’t see yourself clearly until you see yourself through the eyes of others!”

This thought provoking quote was how I wanted to start today’s blog post.  I thought it was so poignant because how others view us really can have a lot to do with how we view ourselves.

I 100% believe that how I am feeling about myself, how I am acting and more importantly how I am treating myself can all lead to how others treat us.  There have been times in my life where I have been in a dark, negative place and consequently I tended to show a lot more anger, frustration and impatience, and surprise, surprise, guess what I got in return.

So, the most obvious question is why would we treat ourself in any other way than how we would like others to treat us?  Why would we want to let other people know that it is OK to treat us that way, and more importantly, why would we do that to ourselves.  The answer is simple, more often than not, when we are in a cycle like this, we are completely unaware that we are doing it.  Have you ever wondered why sometimes you act a certain way and have no idea why you do it?  I definitely have, and when I am conscious enough to start to think about it, the only thing that comes to mind is that old habits and bad advice from past experiences are rearing their ugly heads.

The more conscious we are about what we are feeling and how we are acting the more likely we are going to be able to build a happy life.

 

 

It is also important to be conscious about how we treat other people, because I have seen it time and time again, the more patient you are with someone the more you are going to get the same treatment in return (unless of course we’re talking about kids which is a whole other topic!) . I have noticed that I can definitely make assumptions about someone based on their appearance, but guess what, my assumption is very often not correct, and more importantly, the more I do that with others, the more likely that people are going to do the same to me.  However we act based on what we feel, that is exactly the kind of thing we are going to attract to ourselves.  Feel and act negatively – that’s exactly what you’re going to get.  Feel happy – you are going to attract happiness and happy people into your life.

I used to think that a lot of the self help programs were very “woo woo” and that how is it possible to “attract” something to me by acting a certain way?  Well, I am a scientist, I love to know the facts, I love to think things through from start to finish and what my thought process has taught me is that our bodies are basically a big ball of energy, so why would it not be possible to attract certain energies based on the energy we give off?  I have volunteered in my kid’s school for their “Hands on Science” and I love it, I love re-learning the fundamentals about how energy works.  How our cells are made up and how all of these theories may be actually fact.  Seeing the kid’s eyes light up when you show them how the energy works is fascinating and I love to see their excitement.  I wish we as adults got excited about things even half as much as kids do!

It is important when you look at yourself through the eyes of others to be open minded.  It will allow us to improve upon ourselves and shift people’s opinion if they are not viewing us in a favorable way, and it will also allow us to recognize that we are worthy to have people love and respect us if that is what they are seeing in us.  I honestly believe that our families and our closest friends really do know us and how they treat us, act when they are around us and whether they trust us or not are great gauges to find out how someone feels.

I am hoping that this topic will give you pause to think and allow you to start off your week in the most positive way possible 🙂

HAPPY MONDAY