How Colors can Influence our Behavior

“Women sometimes go too far, it’s true, but it’s only when you go too far that others listen!”

We all have colors that somehow attract us to them and affect our mood…but can colors really influence our behavior?

Scientific America says that “Red is a powerful color. It’s the color of Cupid and the Devil, the color of love and hate. It brings to mind hot-blooded anger and Scarlet Lettershame. It means luck in China, where bridal wear is red, mourning in parts of Africa and sex in Amsterdam’s red-light district.”

There are also some biological reactions that showcase the color in varying shades, such as:  Getting red int he face when you are angry or embarrassed.  The color Red has also been known to cause Red car drivers to react more aggressively than drivers in another colored vehicle.

I think the most renowned example of Red used in an instinctual way is the Red cape of a matador, used to taunt a bull.  The bottom line is that Red is known as the most “powerful” of all the colors, so shouldn’t it be so that it can also evoke the most intense emotions?  Red has always been my favorite color, even at a young age I was drawn to it’s power and the frequency that it emitted.  It is the color I always turn to when I want to feel more confident, more powerful and last but not least, more sexy.

I know you have all felt things when you have worn certain colors…but my question is, have you ever used those “feelings” to your advantage?  Red can be intimidating to some people, so it is probably not a color you want to wear for an interview or as a Woman if you want to man to look at you and take you seriously as an intelligent peer.  Unfortunately we as Women still face having to manage the perceptions of Men and actually even other Women.  If you are someone that loves Red as much as I do and you want to wear it with pride, then you also have to be prepared for the reactions you are going to get.  The feelings of confidence and power that you emit when you are wearing Red is something that other people are going to feel too!


If you are looking for a cheat sheet about which colors you should and shouldn’t wear for certain times, here are few guidelines for you (remember, these are just general and definitely shouldn’t be taken too seriously, because we would never wear anything if we did!):

RED. Physical
Positive: Physical courage, strength, warmth, energy, basic survival, ‘fight or flight’, stimulation, masculinity, excitement.
Negative: Defiance, aggression, visual impact, strain.

BLUE. Intellectual.
Positive: Intelligence, communication, trust, efficiency, serenity, duty, logic, coolness, reflection, calm.
Negative: Coldness, aloofness, lack of emotion, unfriendliness.

YELLOW. Emotional
Positive: Optimism, confidence, self-esteem, extraversion, emotional strength, friendliness, creativity.
Negative: Irrationality, fear, emotional fragility, depression, anxiety, suicide.

GREEN. Balance
Positive: Harmony, balance, refreshment, universal love, rest, restoration, reassurance, environmental awareness, equilibrium, peace.
Negative: Boredom, stagnation, blandness, enervation.

VIOLET. Spiritual
Positive: Spiritual awareness, containment, vision, luxury, authenticity, truth, quality.
Negative: Introversion, decadence, suppression, inferiority.

Positive: Physical comfort, food, warmth, security, sensuality, passion, abundance, fun.
Negative: Deprivation, frustration, frivolity, immaturity.

Positive: Physical tranquillity, nurture, warmth, femininity, love, sexuality, survival of the species.
Negative: Inhibition, emotional claustrophobia, emasculation, physical weakness.

Positive: Psychological neutrality.
Negative: Lack of confidence, dampness, depression, hibernation, lack of energy.

Positive: Sophistication, glamour, security, emotional safety, efficiency, substance.
Negative: Oppression, coldness, menace, heaviness.

Positive: Hygiene, sterility, clarity, purity, cleanness, simplicity, sophistication, efficiency.
Negative: Sterility, coldness, barriers, unfriendliness, elitism.

Positive: Seriousness, warmth, Nature, earthiness, reliability, support.
Negative: Lack of humor, heaviness, lack of sophistication.


My goal for this weekend, wear as much Red as possible…what colors are you going to wear?

Confessions of a Styleaholic


“The ultimate definition of bravery is not being afraid to be yourself!”

Have you ever noticed that one person who is so consumed with how they look that they never dress down?  Someone that could take hours and hours to get ready in the morning…or someone who has to make sure they are wearing makeup and their hair is done even if they are going to workout?

Here’s my confession…I have always been concerned about how I look that no matter what I am doing I always make sure I am dressed appropriately – even down to making sure I had the “cutest” golf outfit for our Annual work golf tournament even though I probably only make it to play golf once or twice a year…

Now, I don’t consider this as a problem unless it interferes with your wellbeing, or of those around you! It has never really taken me a long time to get ready – in fact I had a flight to catch last week and set my alarm for 6:30PM instead of AM – for some reason I woke up at 6:55AM and managed to make it out my front door ready to go by 7:08AM and I was through security by 7:30AM – but, there have been times when I have caused myself undue stress by over-thinking what I would wear for certain events or on certain days, so much so that I have not enjoyed things like I might had this not happened.


So, without changing who I am (because I am ALWAYS going to take care in dressing nicely), I have rethought how much pressure I put on myself.  Before I moved over the the US I hardly ever wore jeans, and I typically wore dress pants, skirt or a dress most days.  I have learned over the years to incorporate some more casual, non high maintenance outfits into my style repertoire.  In fact, I’ll admit that there are some days where wearing jeans is something I crave to do.  I love weekends where I can dress up a pair of jeans or dress them down depending on what I am doing.  I allow myself some days where I don’t have to plan ahead the night before what I am wearing, and I reserve this for days when I know I have more time in the morning or those days when I don’t have to be somewhere special.  Weekends are perfect for not over-thinking what I am wearing, and I take those days to relax more and not put pressure on myself.

I am a styleaholic – and I am kind of proud of it.  I love fashion, always have and always will.  I love taking
something to wear and making it my own by adding some unique accessories, pairing it with something unexpected (like mixing colors that not everyone is doing) or adding a funky pair of shoes.  I have realized that not everyone enjoys style and fashion as much as I do, and that’s OK.  We are all unique individuals and we don’t ever want to change that, so how can someone that is not interested in style or fashion change up their look?

Here are a few easy to follow steps to help you in your own fashion story:

  1. Identify your body type – figure out if you are pear shaped, round, apple shaped etc.  Once you know this, you can then determine the styles that will work for you:  Pear shapes look better when they wear things that aren’t fitted around the legs and butt.  In short – don’t accentuate areas where you are largest, find styles that balance your body.
  2. It seems like the easiest thing to do would be copy what someone else is wearing – but that is not always going to work.  You can certainly use someone else’s style and outfit as a guideline, but don’t try to duplicate it identically.  Everyone’s body type is different, so stick to styles that work for your body type.
  3. Pick out one thing in each outfit that is a statement piece – it can be a necklace, scarf, pair of shoes, skirt, dress, pants, blouse, jacket etc.  Whatever that item is, you can build around it – if you have a statement necklace or scarf, wearing a plain dress is a really simple way to put together an outfit that can work for any body type.  It could be a fitted dress, A-line, shift dress, or empire waist dress it doesn’t matter – the key is you have added something that will make your outfit stand out and be noticed.
  4. Make sure that your shoes are looking nice – they don’t have to be fancy, but always make sure that they are polished and well taken care of, otherwise you are going to draw attention to that and people will notice the wrong thing about you.
  5. Casual looks are just as important – wearing jeans doesn’t have to mean that you are not caring about how you look.  Even distressed jeans can look amazing and classy – especially if you wear them with the right things!  This amazing cross body bag with the tribal strap is a statement all in itself, but by adding a funky jacket and some awesome booties…the whole look is exactly what I was going for!
  6. Finally, make sure that your hair and makeup match your style…don’t wear too heavy makeup during the day if you are going for a more business like look!  While smoky eyes look amazing, there is a time and a place for that kind of look!

The final, most important piece of looking like you know style is having the confidence to rock your own style…wear it with pride, own it, flaunt it and feel good about yourself.  Remember – behind every strong woman is an amazing story!

For those of you who have been waiting…here are the shopping links to this outfit (for the cross body bag with the tribal strap – click here)


Things You Didn’t Know, You Didn’t Know about Confidence

“It’s not about fashion, it’s not about the label, it’s about putting something on that leaves you ready to confidently face the world.”

Following on from yesterday’s post, how do really show you’re confident – both to yourself and to others? (click here if you didn’t see yesterday’s post)

I know I have said this before, but it is so true….when you have confidence you can look amazing in just about any outfit.

I have found in the business that I do, it is perpetuating…the more confidence I feel, the more clients want to do business with me, the more success I have, and the more confident I feel…inhale confidence, exhale doubt!

But – where does that start?  You truly have to believe in yourself and it’s so much more than just picking out the right clothes.  Being a woman in business, it’s almost as though you need a chip on your shoulder and sheer determination to make yourself successful.  So, how does what you wear help you control that?  Well, in my experience when I truly make an effort to look professional and classy when I meet with a client, the more successful that meeting is.  The client perceives that you think they are important, and therefore they respond much better to you.  You then, in turn, feel more confidence with your success and so the cycle continues.

The key to finding the style that makes you feel the most confident is to steer away from wearing things that make you feel uncomfortable – even if fashion magazines are telling you to wear something it doesn’t automatically mean it will be right for you.  Experiment with styles, colors and textures, but don’t do something that is not YOU because if you don’t feel great, that will overpower any feeling of confidence.  If you’re looking for some styling tips click here for “How to put together an outfit in 3 easy steps”.

Confidence is something that needs to be nurtured, so you need to make sure that your cup is full – if you are struggling at home, at work, or in any aspect of your life, you need to find a way to re-fill your cup so that you are grounded and don’t feel frustration or doubt.  Once those feelings start to creep into your life, you will notice that you confidence in yourself will start to diminish.

I firmly believe that confidence is something that can affect every area of our lives, so it is something I work on every day.  Starting this blog was something that was way outside my comfort zone, I have learned more things than I thought possible, and I did it so I could challenge myself to grow and also to help others.  I am still a long way from being the Woman and Blogger that I know I can be, but what I can tell you is that I am 100% confident in myself and even though I face challenges (which of course we all do), I am not going to stop learning, studying, growing and challenging myself.  We need to experience both highs and lows otherwise we are flat lining – which means we’re dead!

If confidence is something that comes from choice, I choose confidence…what do you choose?



Sunday Styling


“Style is a simple way of saying complicated things!”

For a perfect Sunday look, today I started with accessories and the perfect hair. What I wore was built around how I styled my hair and which accessories I wanted to wear. I chose to wear a necklace that one of my boys bought me for Christmas that has long and shorter lengths, so I was looking for a top that would allow me to show those off. This Taupe cowl neck top was the perfect pick, and I added plain Black T-shirt underneath.

Feminity was the focus of this look and I think with the subtle creases of the top, the french pleat up-do along with the fine Gold chained accessories I accomplished what I was aiming for!

Shopping for the perfect feminine outfit can sometimes be a little daunting, so why not check out StyleWe to see some amazing styles created by some great new designers!  Living in Utah where there is not the opportunity to find as many unique styles, I often find myself looking online when I want something different.  StyleWe is offering Free shipping right now, so you don’t have anything to lose, especially since there is a great Sale going on right now too!

I am a firm believer in the fact that if you want to look great on the outside you need to start with the inside which is why I stopped at Vive Juicery here in Salt Lake to grab myself a little fresh pressed juice, exactly what my body was needing.  Being happy, healthy and beautiful are all things that go hand in hand, and if you want people to see you as beautiful you first need to start seeing yourself that way.  When you see yourself as beautiful you treat yourself in such a way that takes care of everything about you…by eating healthy, balanced foods and by exercising regularly.  I also believe that a beauty regimen is important, and it’s better to start as young as possible.  I know when I was much younger I didn’t think it was as important to take care of my skin and health as I realize it is now!

Sunday’s are a great way to recuperate after a long work-week, and give your body and mind the opportunity to recharge.  I love my Sunday’s and how much more energy I feel on a Monday morning after I have had a day to relax.

Happy Sunday – I hope you feel ready for the amazing things this week can hold for you!


Bold Colors

“Enjoy being bold, and if that is scary at first, marvel at your ability to walk through fear!”

While putting together the outfit in this post it occurred to me that sometimes bold Colors can be something that are a little overwhelming and sometimes avoided.  I have always been drawn to things that are bold and bright – just like me 😉 , but I realize that is not true with everyone else.

If you are someone that is intimidated by standing out too much perhaps wearing pants this bold isn’t for you, but the good news is that there are many other options!  You could try wearing bold accessories (necklace, bracelets, earrings or scarves), or a bright blouse/top or even adding a bold pair of shoes can be less scary.  Wearing  bold pants, a bold skirt or dress is much more noticeable than wearing a blouse, accessories or shoes.  The greater the area covered the more scary it can be.

As spring is quickly approaching add some colors into your wardrobe and walk with confidence!