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Femininity in Denim

Everybody is born stylish. Then we start wanting to look like other people!

Where do you think femininity comes from?  Is it something you wear?  How you dress?  Your makeup?  Or just simply how you feel about yourself?

I have talked about femininity before and one of the key notes that I always come back to is that femininity is absolutely tied to how you feel about yourself  Femininity is in fact a feeling that is transferred from you to whoever you are around.  I know that no matter what it is that I am wearing if I feel amazingly confident and happy with myself that is what I project.  Now, if I am wearing something that makes me feel better about myself because I’ve looked in the mirror and really like what I see, then I am more likely to feel feminine or classy – and here’s the absolute best part, it is a strength and power if we learn how to harness it.

So, with that being said, is it possible to feel really feminine when you are dressed more casually say in jeans or something completely casual?  I say absolutely YES!  For me, when I find a fantastic pair of jeans that fits my curves, that are comfortable and also that look amazing, I am going add a fabulous top and make that whole outfit just rock! By adding a nice blouse like I am wearing in this post, it dresses up the jeans a little more, but still has a casual, fun vibe.

Shop some hot denim picks at the end of the post by clicking the links

I am always open to trying new styles and stores, so when I was sent this pair of jeans from Dress Barn and they even offered to customize them for me, I jumped at the chance to give them a try.  Here is my honest feedback and review on what I liked about them…

  1. I have been loving the boot cut style (bringing it back again) because they are different from what a lot of other people are wearing.
  2. The denim fabric is really soft, stretchy and comfortable, which means that even if you’re not a fan of regular denim that can sometimes be harsh on the skin and not very flexible for sitting, you will love how these jeans feel.
  3. They are very affordable, which means that you don’t have to limit yourself to just one pair that you might have to if you were buying some of the more expensive designer jeans.
  4. They have a variety of different cuts and colors, so you can find exactly the style and color that works best for you – all with the same great fit that accentuates all your greatest features.
  5. Even though they are boot cut they are fitted, and they allow me to feel sexy, feminine and dress them up or down depending on what I am doing.  I recently wore them when I was traveling with a pair of mid heel booties, and they were perfect. Just the right amount of stretch and comfort for long periods of sitting.

No matter where you decide to get your jeans from, make sure that they are comfortable. There is nothing worse than a pair of jeans that makes you look great but you can hardly breathe and you couldn’t even entertain the idea of eating at all. For summer there are so many more jean & denim options, so have fun. Try some, wear them with a nice blouse, add some cool shoes, dress them up or down and see how you feel. When you exude femininity, which is ultimately where real femininity comes from, what you’re wearing will never take away from that. So I do believe that you can absolutely feel and look amazingly feminine when you are dressed casually and in jeans!

Have you ever had a day when you have woken up and you don’t feel great, for some reason you have a lack of energy, and you just don’t want to dress up at all.  I usually have about one day every other week where I experience a little demotivation around putting forth an effort on my appearance, or I just don’t care.   I have found that on those days, when I really push myself to make an effort, at some point during the day my mood starts to match my effort.  I have always felt like as Women we should use our outfits to express how we feel about ourselves, and sometimes to help us feel on the inside how we look on the outside.

You’ll have to let me know if this has ever worked for you like it does for me!

I have linked some great jeans below – just click the links to shop!

Dressing up your Jeans

Can you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be?

This may not be as big a deal to some of you as it is to me…
For 20 years I have worked for companies that only allowed us to wear jeans as sales people on Fridays (and after a while, not at all!). Since I left last October I’m not going to lie I have actually had fun experimenting with my jeans, and guess what I found out – looking good AND professional and that “put together” doesn’t need to exclude jeans.

I realize that I’m not talking about anything ground breaking here, but it has actually been really freeing for me to be able to dress exactly how I want, because I am mature enough to figure out how to dress appropriately for what I am doing and who I am going to be seeing.

Dressing for your audience is a huge deal – knowing what kind of a person they are, and making the right impression is important. I have always found that it’s better to err on the side of being over-dressed rather than being under-dressed! But jeans aren’t necessarily under-dressed, unless of course the person you will be meeting with is an ultra conservative person that never dresses down 😉

Skinny jeans can be really dressed up with a gorgeous sweater during these winter months and wide legged, high waisted jeans are one of my current favorites. They almost feel like you’re not wearing jeans at all. I added a fur jacket, high boots, big hoop earrings and voila…sass in jeans 😉 .

I have found that when I am happy in what I am wearing, it affects my mood for the whole day. I have learned to notice things that make me feel good, and I steer myself toward those things (whether it is who you hang out with, what you wear, the makeup you put on, you hair etc. they are all equally important if they make you feel good).

I have a challenge for you all…what if you came up with one style or piece of clothing that makes you feel good, and find ways to adapt it to make it UNIQUELY YOUR STYLE!

See how it makes you feel…
See if it affects your mood and ultimately your reaction to the day’s events…
See if it changes the results you get on that day…

I have found that the more conscious I am of myself, my surroundings, my feelings and my behavior the easier it is for me to not react or let things really get me down. When we’re not completely conscious that’s when we are in reaction mode, and I can tell you that’s not where I want to be because it causes me to react hastily and very often with anger.

Are you willing to take on this challenge?
I would love to hear your results…

You can shop my look & some similar styles by clicking the links below

Dress up your Jeans

“Successful women have their feet on the ground, they just have better shoes!”

If you have been reading my blog for a while you may notice a common theme – I really love to dress up.  In fact, dressing down is something that is still a style of dressing I am experimenting with, and learning…

Today’s post is really about how even when you dress down or go for a more casual look, you can still look put together and classy.

I found these jeans in the Zara sale – and since Zara is one of my favorite stores, and since the store in Utah isn’t yet open, I am always checking out their app (it’s a dangerous thing) for new styles, and most importantly, for things that you aren’t going to see many people wearing around town.  Embroidered jeans are a really cute way to dress up your jeans, but with the turn up, I liked these ones even more.

 

You may ask yourself why dressing up is important to me, so here’s my little secret:

I LOVE to dress up or add a little extra touch because it’s what makes ME feel good.  I like to know that when I walk out the door (unless I am going to workout, planning on just running errands, etc.) I am put together and that when I glance myself in a store window, or in a mirror that I am going to be happy with what I see.  It may sound vain, but the truth is that when I feel good about how I look it’s weird but I definitely act differently.  Because I feel good, I tend to project an air of self-confidence and even charisma that seems to make other people react differently to me.  So the little secret is that I dress for ME and only ME…not that it isn’t great to hear compliments, but for me to love me and how I look is the most important thing.  Obviously, I do like to do things that Brandon will appreciate too…but ultimately if he liked something that I didn’t like to see myself wearing, I couldn’t do it.  In fact, I have found that he likes the things I like because he is reacting to how I feel about myself.

Have you ever experienced this phenomenon?  Have you experimented to see if people react differently to you when you feel good about yourself and how you look?  You should really give it a try, I can promise you will notice a difference!  And let’s put it this way, what have you got to lose?  At the very worst, you will feel good about YOU and that’s the most important love you can nurture…because then you’ll just have so much more love to go around 🙂

It may sound cheesy, and I wouldn’t ever tell you to do something that I haven’t tried myself.

BTW – these jeans were on sale and they are all gone, so I have found some similar ones and linked them below…

Hope you have a great Friday…

 

 

 

Confessions of a Styleaholic

 

“The ultimate definition of bravery is not being afraid to be yourself!”

Have you ever noticed that one person who is so consumed with how they look that they never dress down?  Someone that could take hours and hours to get ready in the morning…or someone who has to make sure they are wearing makeup and their hair is done even if they are going to workout?

Here’s my confession…I have always been concerned about how I look that no matter what I am doing I always make sure I am dressed appropriately – even down to making sure I had the “cutest” golf outfit for our Annual work golf tournament even though I probably only make it to play golf once or twice a year…

Now, I don’t consider this as a problem unless it interferes with your wellbeing, or of those around you! It has never really taken me a long time to get ready – in fact I had a flight to catch last week and set my alarm for 6:30PM instead of AM – for some reason I woke up at 6:55AM and managed to make it out my front door ready to go by 7:08AM and I was through security by 7:30AM – but, there have been times when I have caused myself undue stress by over-thinking what I would wear for certain events or on certain days, so much so that I have not enjoyed things like I might had this not happened.

 

So, without changing who I am (because I am ALWAYS going to take care in dressing nicely), I have rethought how much pressure I put on myself.  Before I moved over the the US I hardly ever wore jeans, and I typically wore dress pants, skirt or a dress most days.  I have learned over the years to incorporate some more casual, non high maintenance outfits into my style repertoire.  In fact, I’ll admit that there are some days where wearing jeans is something I crave to do.  I love weekends where I can dress up a pair of jeans or dress them down depending on what I am doing.  I allow myself some days where I don’t have to plan ahead the night before what I am wearing, and I reserve this for days when I know I have more time in the morning or those days when I don’t have to be somewhere special.  Weekends are perfect for not over-thinking what I am wearing, and I take those days to relax more and not put pressure on myself.

I am a styleaholic – and I am kind of proud of it.  I love fashion, always have and always will.  I love taking
something to wear and making it my own by adding some unique accessories, pairing it with something unexpected (like mixing colors that not everyone is doing) or adding a funky pair of shoes.  I have realized that not everyone enjoys style and fashion as much as I do, and that’s OK.  We are all unique individuals and we don’t ever want to change that, so how can someone that is not interested in style or fashion change up their look?

Here are a few easy to follow steps to help you in your own fashion story:

  1. Identify your body type – figure out if you are pear shaped, round, apple shaped etc.  Once you know this, you can then determine the styles that will work for you:  Pear shapes look better when they wear things that aren’t fitted around the legs and butt.  In short – don’t accentuate areas where you are largest, find styles that balance your body.
  2. It seems like the easiest thing to do would be copy what someone else is wearing – but that is not always going to work.  You can certainly use someone else’s style and outfit as a guideline, but don’t try to duplicate it identically.  Everyone’s body type is different, so stick to styles that work for your body type.
  3. Pick out one thing in each outfit that is a statement piece – it can be a necklace, scarf, pair of shoes, skirt, dress, pants, blouse, jacket etc.  Whatever that item is, you can build around it – if you have a statement necklace or scarf, wearing a plain dress is a really simple way to put together an outfit that can work for any body type.  It could be a fitted dress, A-line, shift dress, or empire waist dress it doesn’t matter – the key is you have added something that will make your outfit stand out and be noticed.
  4. Make sure that your shoes are looking nice – they don’t have to be fancy, but always make sure that they are polished and well taken care of, otherwise you are going to draw attention to that and people will notice the wrong thing about you.
  5. Casual looks are just as important – wearing jeans doesn’t have to mean that you are not caring about how you look.  Even distressed jeans can look amazing and classy – especially if you wear them with the right things!  This amazing cross body bag with the tribal strap is a statement all in itself, but by adding a funky jacket and some awesome booties…the whole look is exactly what I was going for!
  6. Finally, make sure that your hair and makeup match your style…don’t wear too heavy makeup during the day if you are going for a more business like look!  While smoky eyes look amazing, there is a time and a place for that kind of look!

The final, most important piece of looking like you know style is having the confidence to rock your own style…wear it with pride, own it, flaunt it and feel good about yourself.  Remember – behind every strong woman is an amazing story!

For those of you who have been waiting…here are the shopping links to this outfit (for the cross body bag with the tribal strap – click here)

 


Can you still Feel Feminine in Jeans?

 

“Today I woke up with that purpose drive, warrior princess, save the world kind of vibe!”

What do you think determines how feminine you are?  Is it something you wear?  How you dress?  Your makeup?  Or just simply how you feel about yourself?

I have talked about femininity before and one of the key notes that I always come back to is that femininity is absolutely tied to how you feel about yourself.  Femininity is in fact a feeling that is transferred from you to whoever you are around.  I know that no matter what it is that I am wearing if I feel amazingly confident and happy with myself that is what I project.  Now, if I am wearing something that makes me feel better about myself because I’ve looked in the mirror and really like what I see, then I am more likely to feel feminine or classy.

So, with that being said, is it possible to feel really feminine when you are dressed more casually say in jeans or some sweats?  I say absolutely YES!  For me, when I find a fantastic pair of jeans that fits my curves, that are comfortable and also that look amazing, I am going add a fabulous top and make that whole outfit just rock!

I am always open to trying new styles and stores, so whencI was sent this pair of jeans from Curve Appeal Jeans to see if I liked them, I jumped at the chance to give them a try.  Here is my honest feedback and review on what I liked about them…

  1. They are perfect for a Woman that has an hourglass shaped body, curvy hips or small waist because they just seem to cling to exactly the right places!
  2. The denim fabric is really soft, stretchy and comfortable, which means that even if you’re not a fan of regular denim that can sometimes be harsh on the skin and not very flexible for sitting, you will love how these jeans feel.
  3. They are very affordable, which means that you don’t have to limit yourself to just one pair that you might have to if you were buying some of the more expensive designer jeans.
  4. They have a variety of different cuts and colors, so you can find exactly the style and color that works best for you – all with the same great fit that accentuates all your greatest features.
  5. Because they are fitted, they allow me to feel sexy, feminine and dress them up or down depending on what I am doing.  I have worn them with flat booties, high pumps, but they would also look amazing with some knee high boots when the weather gets colder.

So, in answer to the Title of this post “Can you still feel feminine in Jeans”, is that I can confirm that you can indeed feel feminine when you’re wearing jeans.  Finding the right pair for your body type, adding a great complimentary top, shoes and accessories, is the best way to ensure that what you feel about yourself on the inside, is also displayed on the outside.

Have you ever had a day when you have woken up and you don’t feel great, for some reason you have a lack of energy, and you just don’t want to dress up at all.  I usually have about one day every other week where I experience a little demotivation around putting forth an effort on my appearance, or I just don’t care.   I have found that on those days, when I really push myself to make an effort, at some point during the day my mood starts to match my effort.  I have always felt like as Women we should use our outfits to express how we feel about ourselves, and sometimes to help us feel on the inside how we look on the outside.

You’ll have to let me know if this has ever worked for you like it does for me!

These jeans are not available yet but they’re coming soon…stay tuned for ordering details!


What does Confidence Look Like?

“Too many days are spent comparing ourselves to others and wishing to be someone we aren’t!”

One of the hardest things about confidence is that it is a feeling, a way of being, so how do we know if someone is or is not confident?  Actually, if you were to examine it, you would know a healthy self-confidence can be seen by how someone carries themselves, how they dress, how they allow others to treat them and how they treat others.  It is possible to be confident and not think or consider others at all, and that’s a whole different topic but typically, a self-assured and confident person genuinely cares about others and realizes that they have this innate ability to share what they know and the gifts they have been given.  Everyone is born into different circumstances, they have different childhoods and life experiences, and therefore the results are going to be really different.  With that being said, I truly believe that anyone that really wants something badly enough is able to achieve that in their lives.  But, it starts with believing you can do it and having the confidence to try…

One of the biggest reasons for not having a healthy self esteem is because you don’t live up to the standards you think you should.  We have expectations that are programmed into us by what we see on TV, in magazines, and the environment in which we live.  If you spend too much time watching TV and seeing celebrities and models on there you may create an unconscious expectation on yourself, which will only make you disappointed.

Be yourself because originals are worth more than a copy!

It is hard to not compare ourselves to other people, especially when we are not feeling confident in ourselves.  The best remedy for this is to take control of yourself.  You decide how you feel and that very often can stem from how you look. Make the decision to LIKE how you look, don’t look at others and envy or want what they have (I am sure we’ve all done that at times), but if you just love yourself for your amazing gifts and talents then the confidence will follow…

The first step to being able to feel great about yourself and your life is to recognize areas that you could perhaps improve upon.  Do you find yourself thinking negative thoughts when you think you are not as good, pretty, rich, or thin as another person? If the answer to any of those questions is yes, then the first step is to realize that you are doing that and it is a destructive behavior…instead look for something you have, something you can do or someone you have in your life that you can truly be grateful for!

Another great way to feel great is to look great – you know when you hear a compliment from someone about how you look, even if you weren’t aware, that does something physical to your body – we are human, we crave that connection. Everyone’s looking good is going to be different, and that is what is the most important thing to remember.  Don’t try to be someone else, just be YOU.  One of the funnest ways to feel good is to go into a beauty store or department store and go to the Cosmetics Department – ask them to do a makeover on you…it’s free and you can then see if it’s something you really want to do and if it makes you feel good.

Finally…trying putting together a great outfit, rock it, own it and walk like you mean business –  your confidence will become contagious and others feel that!

If you need a little help with your shopping game, you can find similar pieces to what I am wearing by clicking the links below 🙂

 


 

Happiness is Always in Style!


“Happiness is a journey not a destination!”

I don’t know about you but for me, Monday’s can definitely be blah!   I had the most amazing weekend with my boys, relaxing and just regenerating, so when this morning rolled around I had every intention to make it a great day.  Somehow, by mid morning, my best laid plans had become derailed.  I was no longer in the great mood I was earlier, and my whole physiology changed.

So what happened?  Has this ever happened to you…I had a phone call that didn’t go the way I wanted or most importantly how I EXPECTED it would.  I found myself feeling frustration, anger, disappointment and honestly those feelings are still with me.  I know better – I know that I shouldn’t have expectations about anything or anyone, but sometimes, when I let my guard down, something sneaks in and I am left to face the consequences.

So, how do I handle it?  Well, the first thing is realize that those feelings can be chased away as easily as they arrived…easier said than done.  I have to tell you that it doesn’t hurt that I have a Life Coach as a husband, and it also doesn’t hurt that I have so many things to feel grateful for, so that’s what I do…I focus on the things I have, the things I CAN control and I stop sitting there worrying about something that I can’t change.

Style is not just about wearing great clothes, having a healthy, fit body, or even about whether you are buying the latest trends, it is something that comes from inside.  If you are having one of those days where everything seems disappointing, overwhelming or just plain crappy, the only thing you can do to make yourself feel better is chip away at the symptoms.  I realize that it’s not easy to just let things go, so I have found that distracting myself, finding another focus, or even doing something for someone else always helps me from becoming so self-absorbed that things are harder than they need to be!

Surrounding yourself with those that lift you up rather than keep you down is something that I have become so much conscious of as I am now older, because life is so short I would much rather be happy, and I don’t apologize for not wanting to surround myself with negativity.

Happiness is contagious, so when you spend time with those that are generally happy you will probably notice that suddenly you feel happy and you’re no longer dwelling on things you can’t control.

So…to make a long story short – this Monday has not started how I wanted it to, but guess what, I am so much stronger than anything that can be thrown my way.  I have endured much, I have overcome even more, and the best part – world, I’m ready for you!!

Wearing a casual, flowing outfit that makes me feel good.  This is something to be worn for dinner with your partner, movie night, a concert, fun daytime activities or just hanging around, but I loved how feminine it made me feel. It’s always a good thing when your outfit makes you smile 🙂


Weekend Street Style

“It is not what you are that holds you back, it is what you think you are not!”

I don’t always dress down, but when I do…a flowing top and some “holy” jeans take me to my happy place!

What is your casual style?  Do you have one or do you prefer to just throw on some sweats and call it good.  I am a firm believer that whether you are dressing for business or just for hanging out, you should always make the most of yourself (I say as I sit here writing this blog wearing a “very sexy” workout outfit because I haven’t managed to get ready after my exercise this morning.  Now don’t get me wrong – I actually have a little mascara (of course some lipstick), but most importantly I checked the mirror before I headed out to my office.

Casual style can be interpreted in so many ways, and it is also something that is very adaptable for what you are doing.  For example, when I go on my shopping trip to New York, I throw on a comfy pair of jeans or leggings, my trainers/sneakers, pull my hair back, add a touch of eyeliner, apply my lipstick and walk out the door.  I can tell you that even though I am not spending hours putting myself together (not that I ever spend hours), I still look attractive but ready for the day ahead of me.

When I dress casually like in these pictures, because it was more about going to dinner, just a little bit of shopping or even having a “casual” work day…I spend a little more time styling my hair, applying a little more makeup and thinking more about the finished product of the outfit I am  putting together.  Do you do that?  As you put together your outfit, do you think…”this is what I want my outfit to look like”? Or, do you just think “these pieces match, we’re good”?  There are definitely times when I am not at my best, but most of the time, I consider it vital that we make sure no matter what we’re doing, we look the best we can!  YOUR best, not what you see someone else looking like on a blog or in a magazine…work with what you have, enhance your features and dress for your body type.

Have confidence in yourself and the possibilities of what you can look like!  Enjoy yourself more when you see a finished product that looks great – I think it’s important to appreciate ourselves, admire ourselves, respect ourselves and most importantly, love ourselves.

It is a long weekend here in Utah, so as I start of this long weekend, here’s to ME and to being who and what I know I am capable of being…Make sure that when you speak to yourself you say only good things, because we are the only ones we know for sure listen to what we say!

 

Feminine Curls

“Being feminine in the way you dress doesn’t have to compromise who you are as a Woman or your career!”

I don’t always wear my hair curly, so when the stylist for this shoot gave me these loose waves it was a nice change, especially since I didn’t have to do it.  I don’t know about you but I can never seem to make my waves with a flat iron as good as when a stylist does it…perhaps I need a little more practice 🙂

The makeup that included some great lashes (so I didn’t have to spend ages trying to get the left and right eyes to match), the great Pink lipstick from MAC that I showed you the other day, some neutral colors, and just a little concealer.  I really enjoy feeling feminine, even when I’m wearing casual clothes, so this blouse that is simple paired with the striped, distressed jeans just added that feminine touch to the holy jeans…

The bracelet added a pop of color and the Mule shoes, just a little sass.

If you’re looking for a casual, feminine look, adding a blouse like this is a great and easy way to do that.  You are not taking away from anything, just adding a little more depth.  I like to combine styles like this – wearing something a little more edgy with something flowing or feminine to keep people guessing 🙂

You can shop some similar pieces to those I am wearing by clicking the links below…

I hope your Sunday is going as well as mine – Brandon just got back in town with Canyon (my 16 year old) – my family is complete again ♥

 

Summer Lovin’…

“A time to relax is when you don’t have time for it!”

Sitting still and relaxing without feeling guilty for not doing yard work, cleaning the house or grocery shopping is a rare occurance!

I love evenings when I am not in any hurry to go anywhere, I can just relax and hang out in my yard, take my dog for a walk or just go for a casual dinner with friends or my family.

Enjoying downtime is something I really love, but I don’t get to do it very often.  When I do, I absolutely take advantage of the beautiful neighborhood that I live in and the amazing friends and family that I have.  My outfit today is simple, casual, comfortable, and most importantly with the addition of the funky shoes…unique!!

Casual styles are so open to interpretation, there are so many choices and different styles that you can truly create any look you like!  My outfit is perfect for dinner and a movie or pretty much anything.  Finding an outfit that is so versatile is almost like finding the holy grail because you can pull it out whenever you need a “go to” look 🙂

Jeans, a printed T shirt and some funky booties or sandals is something you can probably put together with things that are already in your closet!

As the Holiday weekend draws near, I hope this gives you a little casual style inspiration.