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What does success mean to you?

Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules and build a life you’re proud to live!

There are so many definitions for success – for some it could mean being happy in whatever it is that you do.  For others it is tied to income or status, or even it could mean helping others.  Whatever your definition is, there is one thing that is absolutely vital in order to achieve your level of success.  You need to surround yourself and associate with people that think the same way as you do, because when you spend a lot of time with people, you start to emulate their characteristics – so pick the ones that think like you do, that have similar goals and most importantly, people that will lift you up rather tear you down or drain your energy!

As you know, I have changed the career that I had for 20 years, so things have definitely changed to say the least!

Here are some key things that I use in my life to stay motivated and feel successful:

  1. One thing that is a constant for me is that I get up every morning, get dressed (nicely) and go to my office. It’s not that I couldn’t work from our home office, but I have found for ME, I like the dressing up and going out part…
  2. I have found that the more passionate I am about something the more likely I am to put forth the most amount of effort into making it successful – so loving what I do every day is vital. Even when I am doing tasks I may not like, I tell myself I am doing it BECAUSE…and that because could be something as simple as “I want to feel proud of myself” or “I want to have the money to travel” etc…
  3. I am not afraid to try new things or take risks – it is sometimes easy to talk yourself out of something because it is not comfortable or scary.  You will not always get the results you want, but you certainly won’t grow unless you try new things and take risks. This is one that is very real for me right now – with the launch of my video podcast, things are definitely uncertain but HEY! I’m going with it 😉
  4. I have 100% confidence in myself that I will be successful.  If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody else will believe in you.  It doesn’t mean that every time you are going to get the result immediately that you want, but it does mean that sometimes you take a different path and find success in other ways.
  5. I always make sure that I take care of myself.  I have a busy life with a career, kids and volunteer work, but I always make sure that my cup is always at least partly full because if it isn’t, I can’t be there for anyone else. Self care and vacations are two very important things for me and, you can just ask anyone that knows me – especially about the vacations, I don’t ever sacrifice them!
  6. Finally, I take my relationships in business and my personal life very seriously – I am extremely grateful for everyone that I have and make myself available as much as possible to ensure that I continue to foster those relationships!

Mornings are hectic in my house as I am sure they are in yours, so taking the time on appearance, or spending time to make sure you are presenting yourself in the best way is something that can be neglected or at least not a priority.  I don’t think that I can say this enough – the better you feel about yourself, the better people are going to feel about you.  It doesn’t mean that you have to wear a ton of makeup, dress to the nines every day, but it does mean that you need to feel good about however you look.  Holding your head high when you walk into a room can change the entire dynamic of a situation…

Today’s outfit is one that makes me smile – makes me feel sassy (which I love to feel) and most importantly makes me hold my head high knowing that I feel good about myself…after all, when we love ourselves and feel good…that’s what others see!

Shop my look by clicking the links below…PS – I found the red pants and they’re ON SALE!!!

5 Tips to Help you Find your Unique Style

Be what you are…This is the first step to becoming better than you are!

One of the easiest ways to put together an outfit is to find unique pieces that express your style and personality. Take the outfit I am wearing, it is a simple skirt with a fun statement bow, a simple short sleeved sweater and some funky earrings. It’s simple, yet I feel like it is really noticeable because I chose a few statement pieces.

So the question is, how do you find things that match your personality? It can definitely be something that requires a little thought and inspiration if it’s not something you are comfortable with. Here are a few things that may help you figure out how to create your own unique style personality:

1. Find things that you are drawn to. If you love a certain color – then use that color to create your look. If you love a certain style and you find yourself drawn to it, why not try it on for size.

2. There are so many styles that I love, but I know from the experience of trying them on that they don’t all look good on me. So, I allow myself to try things, and see how they make me feel – obviously the goal is to feel good AND look good.

3. Remember that your size doesn’t have to determine that you have style. When you have confidence, everything else just seems to work out! When we walk with our heads held high, absolutely believing that we are worthy and strong, that’s what gives defines us. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in worrying what size something is, but honestly no one can see the size label on the inside of your clothes, so why worry about it?

4. Make sure you have plenty of accessories. These are the things that can make or break an outfit…so make sure you have plenty to choose from.

5. I have always trusted myself. When I have a feeling that something is right for me, my instincts haven’t steered me wrong. When you have confidence and believe that you are amazing, listening to yourself becomes easier and easier the more you practice it.

The best thing about any style is that it is always a moving target. Your style isn’t going to remain the same forever, in fact, it changes all the time…

Sometimes finding your style and refining it can be intimidating, so the first thing to do is recognize that you want to make a change or you need help. Asking for help from a friend or seeking inspiration from magazines or blogs is not a shameful thing, in fact, everyone does it. I am always looking for new ideas, researching trends to see what I do and do not like, because I know I don’t know it all.

If you are looking to change your style completely or just seeking a few ideas, I hope that you found something useful in today’s post.

My amazing skirt was sold out, but I have linked some similar ones as well as the sweater and some earrings…just click the links below to shop my look.

What Makes you Feel Feminine

When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid!

No two people are exactly the same, we all like different things, we all enjoy spending time doing different things and different things make us feel good about ourselves.

In a world where as women we have long been known as the weaker sex, softer, less aggressive, more of a nurturer, etc., it doesn’t mean that we have to give up ourselves in order to look and feel feminine. I will admit that for the longest time I considered femininity to be a weakness, but what I have realized is that it is actually a power. Femininity is a tricky thing because it’s not something that you can just go after aggressively because that essentially kills the whole feminine vibe, it is something that you have to gently, softly and cautiously attract to yourself…so how do you do that?

I think that because we are all so different, there are different things that make us feel feminine, but there is also a good chance that how one person feels feminine may also carry a lot of weight with another person. Here are a few things that I use, what I call on when I want to feel feminine:

  1. First things first, I don’t allow myself to think of femininity as a negative thing. I call it my superpower and I allow myself to take on it’s persona.
  2. I am a very type A personality, I am driven and I am a boss lady, but when I want to feel feminine I don’t allow those of my traits to take over. I allow myself to feel vulnerable and let my empathy take over.
  3. Wearing certain clothes can definitely affect how I feel and there are certain things that make me feel more feminine than others. Such as, lace, velvet, floral patterns, and soft lines in the design of a piece. Take the blouse I am wearing in this post – it flows, it’s soft and it gives the impression of gentleness.
  4. There are certain hairstyles that scream femininity. I always feel feminine when I pull my hair back in a chignon, soft curls and waves can have the same effect.
  5. The most important thing that I remember when I want to feel feminine and not “scare” people by being a boss lady is that I don’t have to be right all the time. It is especially hard when I know that I know something and I want to tell people that what I know is right, or I want to correct people, or just push my opinion…I know that if I do any of those things, it will have the exact opposite effect!

Feeling and looking feminine isn’t just about what you wear, it’s so much more. When I see models in magazines and they look really feminine and soft, I often wonder if that is what they are really like. Femininity is about letting your inner sensitive self come out (unless of course you are just planning on taking a picture and not interacting with anyone all day). I have found that the best connections I have made in my life are those that are based not on me being pushy or bold, but more about me being gentle, listening and being there for someone else. It doesn’t mean that you can’t create amazing connections if you are strong or bold, it just means that you might turn people off that are not quite as strong as you if you don’t approach them in a more gentle way first.

I am a strong woman, I love being strong, I love challenges and I love taking on things that scare me, and one of the biggest challenges I have had in my life is to know when to be gently strong. I honestly didn’t think it was a real thing, but what I am finding is that in my strength I have found a whole new level of strength that comes from being empathetic and loving.

Of course it also doesn’t hurt to look feminine, because I’m not going to lie, Brandon does appreciate it the most when I am sensitive and vulnerable. In fact he has told me that he feels the closest connection to me when I am gentle – way more than when I am working on my sexy vibe. Crazy to think that he might not be looking for what society has taught us that men like the most. He wants me to be real, relatable, vulnerable, sensitive and loving – and if that’s what creates the best connection between us, then that is what I want to nurture more than anything!

Growth from Change

Change is inevitable, growth is optional!

As I sit and contemplate all the things that have happened to me since I left my job back in October, there is one thing I can tell you that I have learned…very often we can’t control the change that happens to us, but we can definitely control the impact it has on our lives and whether or not we grow because of it! I made the choice to change my career path, it was definitely a scary thing for me because I had been doing the same thing for almost 20 years.

I knew that it was the right time for me to change, because I was too comfortable and needed to create some growth in my life by helping others…and that is exactly what I have been doing and it’s only going to get better. Making the choice to change and step outside of our comfort zones is not an easy one, and we will find ourselves second guessing our decision, doubting our abilities and even deciding not to do it, but it’s at those moments, the times when we feel overwhelmed that we know it’s exactly what we DO need to do!

Have you ever had an experience in your life where you faced an immense amount of opposition but you did it anyway? What was your experience? Did you regret your decision? More often than not, if we do work ourselves through the fear, when we reach the other side we find that it was the best thing we have ever done. If you were to sit and think about two or three of the most amazing experiences in your life what would they be? Would it be the birth of a child? Skydiving? Getting married? Swimming with sharks? Really think about it…

 The most amazing experiences in my life are the births of my children, marrying Brandon, having the guts to move to the US from England as a single Mum and creating a successful career. Do you know what all of these things have in common? They all required me to face a fear at some point and push my way through. The birth of children is one of the most scary yet amazing experiences anyone could ever have – and we don’t allow the fear of what might be or what could happen stop us from doing it…so why do we allow fears of other circumstances allow us to talk ourselves out of change and getting outside of our comfort zones?

Here’s another thing about change – sometimes we don’t get to choose whether it happens or not, but we do get to choose whether we learn and grow from it. We are going to face challenges, face things that we don’t always want to face, but how we face those things is entirely up to us. We can either do it with frustration because we didn’t want it to happen, or we can embrace it and learn as much as possible. Some of the hardest experiences in my life have actually turned out to be the things that I have learned the most from. Having Dalton and being a single mum for 5 years before I met Brandon was a challenge to say the least, but I can honestly say that had I not gone through that I wouldn’t be the Woman I am today.

I would not change one thing about it, I love Dalton, I love my relationship with him and I love the life we were able to create for ourselves before Brandon came along. It was such an empowering time in my life because it taught me that if I really want something I am not afraid to put in the work to make it happen!

Exciting News

Some Women are lost in the fire, some Women are built from it!

On my social media recently I have talked a little about how I was planning on launching a video podcast series…well, I am excited to let you know that the wait is finally over…My pilot episode is ready. It is all about empowerment, confidence building, a little bit of style and a sprinkle of laughs. Confidence grows as we grow, I have found that the more I share what I know, what I am learning and how I feel, the stronger and more confident I become. Empowered women empower other women – why not subscribe and join this ride?

You can view my very first Video Podcast by clicking the image below…

Click this picture to watch the Podcast 🙂

I will be posting a new one each week, and they will be focused on topics like:

“How to find true confidence”
“Your age or size doesn’t define who you are”
“Know your audience”
“I’m me, you are you – feeling comfortable with who YOU are”
and many more…

My goal with this Video Podcast is to make you feel great about yourself through confidence building, strength empowerment, and some incredible fashion tips that you can use for your everyday life. I want all you amazing women out there to be the best versions of yourselves and the ultimate goal is for you to love yourselves.

Over my years as a successful business woman, mother, wife and so much more, I have searched for and found amazing confidence building styles, fashions, and frames of mind.

Why don’t you join me in my journey and start following my podcast – which is currently available on iTunes by just clicking here or searching Stylequeenie. If you don’t have access to an Apple Device, just click the link above…

Stay tuned for when you can download directly from the FM100 app or at fm100.com.

I would love to hear what you think!

Keys to Feeling Empowered

“You can find me somewhere in between inspiring others, working on myself, dodging negativity and slaying my goals!”

 

When we came into this world we all had the same amount of potential…

Circumstances, environment and attitude determine what we do with that potential.  No matter who you are, chances are you have had experiences and lived through circumstances that have essentially “rocked your world”.  It’s definitely easy to let our circumstances and our living conditions or environment get us down, but one thing is for sure…it is possible to change your outcome!

We watched a movie last night and it’s a silly, funny movie, but it made me think…The movie was “Joe Dirt” and if you are not familiar with the movie it is about an 8 year old boy that is “lost” by his parents at the Grand Canyon.  He spends the next 25 years searching for his family only to find out that they left him on purpose.  I know, sounds very silly, and obviously it is not very likely to be real, but it made me pause for a minute and think about my challenges.  The hard things that I have been through, the things that have essentially defined my path, are all opportunities to grow.  Trust me, it’s definitely not easy to look at my challenges and say “well…this is for my own good” when I am in pain, and sometimes in the deepest and darkest moments of my life.  But one thing I have learned as I have gone through some pretty serious challenges (like moving to the U.S. as a single mother, with no job and just praying things would figure themselves out because I needed a better life for my son), is that my strength has grown, my determination has become refined, and my confidence is much more solid than it has ever been.

So how do you become empowered to be who you are capable of being?  I truly believe that whether you believe in God, a higher power, guardian angels or just the universe, there is definitely something or someone out there rooting for you.  I have experienced this many, many times, when I didn’t think things would work out, and somehow they did.  I have realized that I can make decisions to make things happen, but the only way that truly works is that I TRUST and that I am not afraid.

I recently started Mountain Biking, and this morning Brandon and I went on a really scary trail that was about 8 miles to the top of a mountain with narrow switchbacks  I fell about 6 or 7 times, I cried, I got frustrated, I was angry, I was terrified, but obviously as I sit here writing this post, one thing is for sure, I made it.  The sense of accomplishment was amazing, even though I know I didn’t do it perfectly, at least I did it!

So, with all these things being said, how do you feel empowered?  Here are MY top 5 ways, you may have different ones that work for you…but these are the ones I use:

  1. Believe in myself – I absolutely 100% know that I can do anything I set my mind to.  It may not be smooth sailing, but I will figure out a way to make it happen!
  2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  Vulnerability and trust are things that are essential to make it through this life with someone by your side.  All relationships are based on these two things.
  3. Put in the work – I see a lot of books that talk about manifestations, but honestly without effort and action, it doesn’t matter how much you believe or think something will happen.
  4. Be patient – this is a really hard one for me – I want it and I want it now…but I am learning.
  5. Be there for someone else – this is a great way to remove the focus from you and help someone who needs you.  I have found that when I am serving or helping someone, because the energy is positive, it opens more and more doors for me.  I don’t do it with a focus on me, but that is definitely a side effect.

 

I hope as you head into this week, you find yourself believing in YOU and if you don’t already, starting to believe that you deserve great things!

Happy Monday!

Pearls with Purpose – Empowering Women

“Dream big, start small…but most of all START!”

There are some things that just speak to my heart…some things that I know I want to find ways to help tell their story…Pearls with Purpose is one of those things.

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while then you know that I believe very strongly in empowerment and I believe that most people when given an opportunity, a little bit of love, some faith and trust and some direction can become the amazing people they were always meant to be.

Pearls with Purpose is a non-profit organization that works with Women in the Philippines,Cambodia and India to create amazing hand made jewelry while at the same time teaching and providing Women with opportunities to make a good income for their families and become independent.  I don’t know about you but I love jewelry and I’m going to buy it anyway, so why not buy it from somewhere that is not just about the bottom line but also is in the business of making this world a better place!

 

 

The jewelry i’m wearing in this post was made in India…here’s a story of just one of the many women that PWP has helped…

Desi was in our second training group of leprosy-affected women. Her fingers were down to their knuckles and I worried she would not be able to create the jewelry pieces…but she was determined. In addition to her strong determination, Desi had a smile that lit the co-op up like a Christmas tree and she was happy to share it with one and all.

Never a day would go by that Desi was not sitting in the circle, speaking rapidly in Tamil and engaging all around her in giggles and mirth. Her smiles warmed all our hearts!

On her first day of training I watched her as she dropped pearl after pearl. The small circular gemstone so difficult for her to grasp between her swollen knuckles. She would hold the wire in her mouth or between her toes to keep the ones she had laboriously strung from sliding off. Several times I noticed her friends sitting by her, offering to help. She would slap their hands and push them away exclaiming “NO, I DO”.
And I knew she would “DO” no matter how long it took.

Four hours later, she proudly came and showed me her finished piece. Tears welled in my eyes as I saw the pride beaming inside her as the necklace was thrust toward me with her fingerless hand.
Our eyes met, I said “Desi, it is PERFECT, you did a remarkable job!” I then stood to put the necklace around HER neck, asking if I could take a photo of her in her finished piece. She beamed with pride, and broke out her most engaging smile ever as I took the photo!

As we interviewed her weeks later, she said “My whole life I was told I was nothing…

I feel so humbled to think about so many women that have not been given the amazing opportunities that I have, so I felt compelled to help.  I don’t know about you but I can’t sit idly by – I have this tremendous need to help.  I want to meet these strong women, the empowerment they have received by working with PWP truly is inspirational and it gives me hope for an amazing world for my children.

You can shop their amazing jewelry (which includes genuine pearls, gold, silver, genuine gemstones, necklaces, earrings, bracelets and so much more by clicking this link – PEARLS WITH PURPOSE. Even if you’re not a big jewelry wearer they make great gifts…You can also find information about how you can volunteer or donate money for this amazing cause.

Empowering others is vital – “be the change you want to see in the world”

We All Need Inspiration

“No one ever injured their eyesight by looking on the bright side!”

Recently I had someone ask me if I have always wanted to write a blog…and it got me thinking.  What I realized is that even though I started by blog only a few years ago, I have kind of always loved style, fashion, walking to the beat of my own drum as well aDon’t compare…empower, use your style & fashion for confidence, seek inspiration helping others reach their potential.

It has always given me great satisfaction to be able to be there, to help and empower my friends & family – so when I started working on Stylequeenie I kept this in mind.  I think that in the world we live in there is so much negativity and that is perpetuated by social media and our perceptions of the lives that people lead based on what we see them doing on Instagram, Facebook etc.  I have heard stories of people shaming or bullying on social media and it breaks my heart.  I realize that it is easy because it can almost be hidden from the world…to shame another person really sets us back individually, and aren’t we here to grow?

There are times when I compare myself and what I do to others, but that is probably the most self-defeating thing that anyone can do.  Comparison is the thief of joy – it robs us from feeling good about ourselves, who we are and what we are capable of!

The world is definitely big enough for everyone, but it’s up to us to carve our own niche!  I know that there are people out there that know so much more than I do about blogging, empowerment, style and so on, but that’s OK with me…in fact I use it to my advantage.  Have you ever heard the expression that “success leaves clues”?  What that means is I can seek inspiration from others and use that to make me better.  When I first started my career in sales I made it my goal to surround myself with successful, powerful sales people that I could learn things from.  I took what they did and adapted it to create a style for myself…and because I know that technique worked for me in the past, that is what I do now with blogging and my social media.

I feel confident and happy in my own skin, I am learning to find more joy in my journey of life because I think it’s important to do so much more than just exist.  I know there are varying degrees of motivation, confidence and determination, but think about this…what if someone out there needs what you have to offer?  What if what you have is exactly what they need to save their life??

I believe in the philosophy of “pay it forward” for this very reason.  I believe that we are all pieces in a puzzle and the only way that puzzle can be complete is if we all believe in ourselves and work on reaching our potential!

I always tie in style and fashion with my blog posts because I do believe that when you feel good about yourself, when you tell yourself that you like who you are and how you look, that is what is going to be seen by the outside world.  I have always considered style to be a way to express your unique personality, and as such, something that EVERYONE should pay attention to.  I realize that not everyone is as enamored by style and fashion as I am, and for some it seems harder…but just like I said about following the clues of those that are successful, you can do the same with style and fashion.  Sometimes all you need to do is seek a little inspiration and adapt it to yourself!  You can shop similar looks to those I am wearing in this post by clicking the links below!

I hope this Wednesday that you will realize how important & how beautiful you are – and that no matter whether anyone says otherwise, you are ENOUGH!!

HAPPY WEDNESDAY…

 

 

What is Empowerment?

“You are the most influential person you will speak to all day!”

I feel like empowerment has been such a buzz word and it lead to me to thinking…does anyone really know what it is or what the person talking about it really means?

I started by blog with the intention of “empowering” others to believe in themselves, to not be afraid to be unique and not accept things as they are but as they can be.  To me empowerment means lifting others up, helping them to see the true value in themselves!  It most definitely is more about listening than talking – which can be very hard to do with a blog or social media.  As a woman in business whether we like it or not we are NOT viewed equally to men, but I also feel like it hasn’t held me back in fact, sometimes it can work in our favor.

We live in a society where we have been fighting the sterotype that Women were made to be mothers and stay at home (and regardless of where you live or how far you have made it in the business world, there are times when you will be overlooked as a candidate for a position or promotion because you aren’t the “primary bread winner”).  Things have improved from our parents generation but there have definitely been times in my career when things have happened and it has been explained to me that they were because the other person “had a family to support”.  Rather than let that dictate my future, I chose to work my way through the adversity and succeed regardless of someone else’s prejudice (because ultimately that is what it is!)

With all of this being said, I do believe that empowerment is all about encouraging others to believe in themselves, because even if you are faced with similar challenges, you are in control of how you react to them and how much you let them dictate your future.  It’s about having the confidence to create the life you want because you BELIEVE you deserve it and you are more than willing to put forth the effort to build it.

I have friends that have believed in me and encouraged me – even when they had no idea what I was thinking when I started this blog – because they know me!  They know that I am determined, confident, hard working and willing to sacrifice in the name of growth.

I have been guilty in the past of looking at others and wondering how they got there or why they are so successful, but that didn’t help me.  I realized that my focus needs to be on what I can do rather than what others are doing.

There are communities of Women all over the world that love and support each other, because they believe that a community of strong Women is so much greater than each individual Woman.  With social media being as it is and us viewing what we perceive about someone from their pictures, there is less and less of that support and more and more judgement.  The one thing I can say is 100% true is that you CAN NOT be empowering anyone if you are judging them.  Life can be very competitive but that doesn’t mean we should tear others down to feel or look better ourselves.   In fact, if you are someone that is worried about someone judging you, then chances are it is because you are someone that actually judges others…just a thought.

To summarize, empowerment is about making others feel good about themselves regardless of what is in if for you.  It’s about not judging, actually caring and being there, and helping that person become stronger and more confident!  Its about service – about doing something for someone else without needing something in return…

Confidence comes through knowing you are beautiful, strong, capable and loved – and it comes much faster when you have someone that cares enough about you to help reinforce these things for you!  It is also a great opportunity to pay it forward…

As you head into the weekend think about how you can help others and see what happens 🙂

 

Top 10 Things you need in your Closet this Holiday Season

 

“Life is short, wear your party pants!”

Before I start, I wanted to let you know that it’s definitely not to late to start planning your holiday styles, party wear, and recovery wear (yes, after all the chaos we are going to need a little recovery time!)

 

There are a lot of things to plan, so does this seem like one more thing that you just don’t want to have to deal with?  I know there have been times when I have gone in my closet and just walked right out again because I haven’t known where to start…so here are some tips, ideas and styles that are really easy to duplicate to take some of the stress out of the holidays for you:

  1. Make sure you plan ahead…this doesn’t necessarily mean going shopping to get new things, but what it does mean is that sometimes if you lay out a few things on your bed to see how they look together, it’s going to help you decide what combinations you like the best.  I never try to plan an outfit for a special occasion when I am in a rush – even if I haven’t pulled out my clothes to look at, I have at least put them together in my mind (I know, I may or may not love thinking about clothes 😉 )
  2. Don’t try to wear something that is not comfortable for you to wear.  For example, if you are not comfortable wearing high heels, then don’t try to do it.  All that will happen is that you will feel awkward all night and want to take off your shoes.  Instead, find a pair of kitten heels (still feminine) or block heels that are easier to wear for longer periods of time.
  3. Make sure that what you are wearing expresses YOUR personality NOT someone you know or someone else you have seen wearing something that’s “really cute”…as you know, we are all unique, so when you are trying to be someone else not only will you feel like a fraud, but when people see you they are not going to know who you are.

 

With all of that being said, there are a few things that you are going to want to add to your closet this holiday season.  Don’t get me wrong I’m not necessarily encouraging you to go out shopping for yourself when you are still Christmas shopping (although sometimes it’s necessary to do that), but maybe you can put some things on your Christmas list or drop hints.  Even after Christmas there are lots of get-togethers and parties for the New Year, so even if you don’t have them in time for a Christmas party, it won’t be a bust!

 

 

Here are my Top 10 MUST HAVES for 2017:

  1. Something leopard print – whatever you choose (because not everyone is comfortable with a coat, a dress or shoes), make sure you that you rock it.  I have seen so many leopard tights, scarves, blouses, sweaters and purses plus many, many more things.  Pick one and have fun with it.
  2. Something sparkly – I love all the metallics, and they can be used in many different ways.  For example, I just bought some metallic liquid eyeshadow by Stila (from Sephora)…it is amazing and lasts all day.  It’s a great way to add sparkle without having to go over the top.  A great silver or gold top, pants, or shoes are great ways to add metallic into your wardrobe.
  3. Sock booties are my new favorite thing – I love how they fit to your legs and work with a skirt/dress, with jeans, or even under pants.  Versatility is key here, and they come in a variety of different styles and patterns.
  4. A great faux fur or fluffy coat – the reason why is that even if you are wearing something plain, by adding a really funky coat, you are going to make your whole outfit stand out.  Who doesn’t love the idea of being simple and still finding a way to be stylish?
  5. Sequins – what more needs to be said here?  Sequin earrings, sequin hair accessories, sequin leggings, or even sequin boots.  Find something again that expresses your personality, don’t wear the boots if you are more of an understated earrings kind of girl 😉
  6. A long kimono or thin cardigan -I love using these over pants, dresses or skirts.  They can just pull a whole outfit together and make it really funky.
  7. Velvet is still so huge.  It is such a comfortable and warm fabric, not to mention chic, so why not incorporate it into some of your outfits?
  8. Funky tights or fishnets.  Wearing a pair of unique tights with a dress or skirt this winter is not only necessary (at least here in Utah), but it is also a great way to make a statement.  I am always on the lookout for unique styles of tights, and love to incorporate them into my business and party style!
  9. A pair of chunky boots – there are definitely going to be those days that you are going to want to be able to walk and not have to worry about slipping, falling or just hating life because of your stiletto boots.  At the weekends or evenings, I love to wear a pair of comfy boots, but also look stylish, so find a pair that can be both for you.
  10. A great beanie or winter hat – I have never been a big hat person, but I am definitely learning to love beanies especially during the winter months.  I love how feminine some of the styles are now, and if you wear one with some accent jewels, patterns or even a pom pom it is going to look a little dressier!

 

So there you have it…my Top 10 of things everyone should have.  I have always been one of those practice what you preach kind of girls, so I wouldn’t tell you to do something that I didn’t do, so just know that all of these things I have tried and tested, and they work for me!

I don’t by any means expect anyone to be something they are not, so if don’t like or want to try any of these things, then you need to follow your gut.

Happy Holidays and more importantly – Happy Shopping!

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