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Keys to Feeling Empowered

“You can find me somewhere in between inspiring others, working on myself, dodging negativity and slaying my goals!”

 

When we came into this world we all had the same amount of potential…

Circumstances, environment and attitude determine what we do with that potential.  No matter who you are, chances are you have had experiences and lived through circumstances that have essentially “rocked your world”.  It’s definitely easy to let our circumstances and our living conditions or environment get us down, but one thing is for sure…it is possible to change your outcome!

We watched a movie last night and it’s a silly, funny movie, but it made me think…The movie was “Joe Dirt” and if you are not familiar with the movie it is about an 8 year old boy that is “lost” by his parents at the Grand Canyon.  He spends the next 25 years searching for his family only to find out that they left him on purpose.  I know, sounds very silly, and obviously it is not very likely to be real, but it made me pause for a minute and think about my challenges.  The hard things that I have been through, the things that have essentially defined my path, are all opportunities to grow.  Trust me, it’s definitely not easy to look at my challenges and say “well…this is for my own good” when I am in pain, and sometimes in the deepest and darkest moments of my life.  But one thing I have learned as I have gone through some pretty serious challenges (like moving to the U.S. as a single mother, with no job and just praying things would figure themselves out because I needed a better life for my son), is that my strength has grown, my determination has become refined, and my confidence is much more solid than it has ever been.

So how do you become empowered to be who you are capable of being?  I truly believe that whether you believe in God, a higher power, guardian angels or just the universe, there is definitely something or someone out there rooting for you.  I have experienced this many, many times, when I didn’t think things would work out, and somehow they did.  I have realized that I can make decisions to make things happen, but the only way that truly works is that I TRUST and that I am not afraid.

I recently started Mountain Biking, and this morning Brandon and I went on a really scary trail that was about 8 miles to the top of a mountain with narrow switchbacks  I fell about 6 or 7 times, I cried, I got frustrated, I was angry, I was terrified, but obviously as I sit here writing this post, one thing is for sure, I made it.  The sense of accomplishment was amazing, even though I know I didn’t do it perfectly, at least I did it!

So, with all these things being said, how do you feel empowered?  Here are MY top 5 ways, you may have different ones that work for you…but these are the ones I use:

  1. Believe in myself – I absolutely 100% know that I can do anything I set my mind to.  It may not be smooth sailing, but I will figure out a way to make it happen!
  2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  Vulnerability and trust are things that are essential to make it through this life with someone by your side.  All relationships are based on these two things.
  3. Put in the work – I see a lot of books that talk about manifestations, but honestly without effort and action, it doesn’t matter how much you believe or think something will happen.
  4. Be patient – this is a really hard one for me – I want it and I want it now…but I am learning.
  5. Be there for someone else – this is a great way to remove the focus from you and help someone who needs you.  I have found that when I am serving or helping someone, because the energy is positive, it opens more and more doors for me.  I don’t do it with a focus on me, but that is definitely a side effect.

 

I hope as you head into this week, you find yourself believing in YOU and if you don’t already, starting to believe that you deserve great things!

Happy Monday!

Denim & Ruffles

“Either you run the day or the day runs you”

 

Do you ever have times when you are feeling run down or have very little energy?…You know, when you’re a mum, have a full time job, as well as write a blog the world doesn’t seem to turn just right if you can’t keep everything going.  Not that I kid myself enough to think that I am the only one capable of doing everything (at least not anymore), but I guess I just have a hard time letting myself take time off things I know need to be done…

So, my question to you is…what gives you the energy you need to accomplish the things you need to do? Have you ever noticed that some days when you get home at night you feel more tired or have a distinct lack of energy?  I notice that when I am focused on too many things at once, all it really does is sap my energy.  With that being said, I want to talk about multi-tasking, and how it could actually be hurting you!

I have always worn my ability to multi-talk like a banner and shouted to the world that I could do so many things all at once, and I had it all handled.  But over recent years (and it could be because I am becoming more mature – or at least older), I have noticed that I feel exhausted, overwhelmed and just down on myself for not being able to do all the many things that are on my list everyday.  I used to beat myself up about not being as productive as I want to be (and again, these are the expectations that I put on myself), but I don’t do that anymore.  I have learned that the best ways for me to accomplish the many things that I need to do are by making sure I follow these simple guidelines:

  1. Don’t over-promise and under-deliver – spreading yourself too thin is only going to cause you a ton of stress.  If you know you have a lot of your plate, DON’T take something else on!
  2. Shift focus – instead of trying to multi-task and split your focus between multiple tasks, set aside time for each task you need to do and focus 100% of your attention at that time on that ONE thing!
  3. Delegate – this is a huge one for me…I had a hard time letting go of control, and would almost rather ineffectively complete a task than allow someone else the opportunity to grow and help. Even my kids are delegated certain tasks that I used to take care of, and while they may not love the idea, it is teaching them and they are growing from it.
  4. Take breaks – taking a 10 minute break every few hours where you can do something that will rejuvenate your energy will allow you to make up much more time because you won’t be burned out.
  5. Smile – even when you’re frustrated.  Smiling can physiologically change your body and allow you to be more productive than you ever thought possible.

 

 

I have found that smiling is something I didn’t used to do too much, at least not when I was by myself…but I am working on implementing this into my life more.  I look for things to smile about, I imagine people I love, traveling, and many more things and it’s funny, somehow that smile just seems to happen.  If you haven’t already tried it…perhaps it could work for you too!

Of course, it’s much easier to smile when you feel good about how you look or what you’re wearing.  Even people I know that aren’t into fashion or don’t care too much about the latest trends, still like to make sure they look good.  Feeling good on the inside very often comes from what we perceive on the outside! Do you remember being a kid and getting a new pair of shoes, dress, or some article of clothing?  How did you feel when you wore it?  Did you think you were the “bees knees” – I know I did!  The same is true as we are older, but I think we may not be in tune with it as much because there are so many other things going on in our lives…

Even sickness and lack of energy is no excuse to not have something to smile about 🙂

This Yellow top and denim skirt definitely made me smile, especially because Yellow is such a happy color anyway…you can shop some similar pieces below

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Dress up your Jeans

“Successful women have their feet on the ground, they just have better shoes!”

If you have been reading my blog for a while you may notice a common theme – I really love to dress up.  In fact, dressing down is something that is still a style of dressing I am experimenting with, and learning…

Today’s post is really about how even when you dress down or go for a more casual look, you can still look put together and classy.

I found these jeans in the Zara sale – and since Zara is one of my favorite stores, and since the store in Utah isn’t yet open, I am always checking out their app (it’s a dangerous thing) for new styles, and most importantly, for things that you aren’t going to see many people wearing around town.  Embroidered jeans are a really cute way to dress up your jeans, but with the turn up, I liked these ones even more.

 

You may ask yourself why dressing up is important to me, so here’s my little secret:

I LOVE to dress up or add a little extra touch because it’s what makes ME feel good.  I like to know that when I walk out the door (unless I am going to workout, planning on just running errands, etc.) I am put together and that when I glance myself in a store window, or in a mirror that I am going to be happy with what I see.  It may sound vain, but the truth is that when I feel good about how I look it’s weird but I definitely act differently.  Because I feel good, I tend to project an air of self-confidence and even charisma that seems to make other people react differently to me.  So the little secret is that I dress for ME and only ME…not that it isn’t great to hear compliments, but for me to love me and how I look is the most important thing.  Obviously, I do like to do things that Brandon will appreciate too…but ultimately if he liked something that I didn’t like to see myself wearing, I couldn’t do it.  In fact, I have found that he likes the things I like because he is reacting to how I feel about myself.

Have you ever experienced this phenomenon?  Have you experimented to see if people react differently to you when you feel good about yourself and how you look?  You should really give it a try, I can promise you will notice a difference!  And let’s put it this way, what have you got to lose?  At the very worst, you will feel good about YOU and that’s the most important love you can nurture…because then you’ll just have so much more love to go around 🙂

It may sound cheesy, and I wouldn’t ever tell you to do something that I haven’t tried myself.

BTW – these jeans were on sale and they are all gone, so I have found some similar ones and linked them below…

Hope you have a great Friday…

 

 

 

Planning for your Vacation

“Fill your life with adventures, not things.  Have stories to tell, not stuff to show!”

This time of year definitely has me wishing I was on a beach, relaxing and soaking up the sun.  Thank goodness I have a trip planned and I leave in exactly 2 weeks for Hawaii.  This time, we are going to the big island because I haven’t been there before.  February is the month of my birthday and it’s become a tradition that we go somewhere for my birthday but also so that I can replenish my Vitamin D so I can make it through the rest of the winter (although this winter so far has been really, really mild!)

Sunshine, beach and warm weather just seem to make me feel like smiling more 🙂

Now when I talk about relaxation, bear in mind that while I will relax, this time we are taking our kids, so the relaxing may take on a different perspective than when it’s just Brandon and I.  We have some really fun excursions planned:  Whale watching, snorkeling at night with Manta Rays, hiking to the volcano, and I really want to do some sea kayaking and paddle boarding.  I have a rule that I like to have a beach day after an activity day, just so I can read my book and just generally sit down and decompress.  I may be the only one in my family that likes to do that so I have to make sure we are keeping everyone happy (quite a task with 6 very different personalities).

 

 

So when I’m planning my trips, I have always been a little more “fly by the seat of your pants” kind of girl, but Brandon likes to have an idea of what we’re doing.  So, here’s the compromise, we plan around 4 activities that we know we’ll all want to do, leave a few days open for whatever, and then set aside my beach days.  That way, we are not scrambling with the Concierge trying to book things and end up missing out on some good stuff, and also I don’t feel like I am rushed and scheduled to the hilt (which is pretty much like work to me).

The most important things I consider when I am planning my trips and what I am going to take are:

  1. Packing list – before I travel I always write down the “essentials” that I know I don’t want to forget.  Have you ever arrived at the airport or your destination and almost broken out in a cold sweat about something you need but forgot.  I remember once when we were packing for the kids and turned up with extra pairs of shorts for the boys but only 1 T-shirt each.  Not the end of the world, but if money is tight or even if you don’t want the hassle of shopping, a packing list could have prevented this.  Or, even worse, if you’re traveling abroad, have you ever arrived without the necessary visas or your passport?  Talk about ruining a trip!
  2. The weather – not that any of us can control this (trust me I have fought with the weather before because I would get frustrated and upset when it wasn’t what I wanted it to be – I realize that is the craziest thing ever).  It’s better to be prepared than frustrated…I always take some things such as raincoat, sweaters and other layers just in case.
  3. Suitcase size – over the past few years I have organized my travel in such a way that I am able to take just a carry on suitcase and so has everyone else in my family.  The reason why I love this – because there’s no waiting when you get off the plane, everyone is responsible for their own stuff (I would say we started this when Reiken was 8, so kids can handle it too!)
  4. Toiletries – I use different beauty regimens and they don’t all come in the 3oz containers that you need to bring if you are not checking a bag (according to TSA guidelines).  So, I always make sure for essentials like my masks, toners, etc, I buy some of the bottles that they sell at Target and other stores where I can put in my own toiletries just for travel purposes.  That way I don’t have to risk taking something that is too large and having it confiscated.
  5. Planned activities – if we are going hiking (which is something I love to do anywhere I go), I always make sure that I have sneakers and I’m not just taking flip flops or sandals.  I hate to limit myself and my activities by not being prepared.
  6. Plans to eat out? – I have always been someone that likes to dress up when I go out to eat…so if we are planning on eating dinners out, I like to have something to change into that’s a little more dressy than a swimsuit and coverall.
  7. The right shoes – and we are not just talking sneakers here.  I have certain outfits that look best with certain shoes, so I like to make sure I have a variety of shoes to choose from.  I hate having a dress to wear or a great jumpsuit without the RIGHT pair of shoes.  I’m not looking for perfection but I do feel better when I feel good about my outfit and my shoes are major piece in that puzzle.
  8. Workout time? – I always have to squeeze in some workout time when I’m on vacation.  Not that I am running any marathons, but just a short run, long walk, gym time or even yoga are something I like to fit into the trip so I don’t have to feel guilty about eating all the amazing foods there are available.
  9. Beach/Pool time – I don’t like to wear the same swimsuit every day (even if I have a condo with a washing machine).  Swimsuits don’t take up much room, so it’s really easy to fit in quite a few to add some variety.
  10. Use a Tote – I think all airlines allow you to have 2 carry on items, and one of those items is your purse or bag.  I used to just take a smaller handbag but couldn’t quite fit everything I needed in it. Now, I pack a tote with my Nook, snacks, iPad, headphones,  a lightweight jacket in case I get cold, a pillow, etc. and leave a little extra room for my bag/purse so that if I get called out on having too many things as carry on, I can just slip the bag/purse into my tote.

Whether you have a trip already coming up on your horizon, all of these tips will prove useful, no matter where you’re going or what you’re doing.  I realize that not everyone goes on planes, and very often there are amazing road trips that create the best memories.  Our family road trips have been amazing (although I will admit they were probably easier when the kids were younger), put on a movie, give the kids some treats and they’re happy. As they grow to be teens, there are many more opinions, arguments and disagreements, but that journey and life’s journey is truly what we make it.   I no longer have expectations that everything will go smoothly…that the boys will always get a long – so I have found that if I don’t hold onto those expectations, I don’t have to feel frustrated when it doesn’t workout like I think it should (because you know it won’t 😉

Happy travels in 2018 and I hope you find my tips and tricks useful!

 


How to Make Sure the Holidays Don’t Stress You Out!

“If we don’t feel grateful with what we already have, what makes us think we will be happy with more?”

 

I was particularly happy with how this shoot turned out, Erin Wyness photography really captured some amazing looks.  Shop this outfit by clicking the links below…

 

There are many things that can detract from the true meaning of Thanksgiving, Christmas and many other Holidays, so how do we help ourselves from becoming too overwhelmed & stressed which can lead to feeling exhausted, shutting down and not being able to function and very often to even more stress?

While I certainly don’t believe I am so enlightened that I have everything figured out, after years of not really enjoying the holidays because I wanted it to look perfect, I have figured out a few things that have helped me along the way.  These may or may not apply or work for you, but even if you can take one thing and that helps make your holidays a more enjoyable experience, it’s got to be worth it, right?!  I know I would have had a hard time listening if someone else told me what does and doesn’t work and how I was allowing my perfection issues to ruin my holidays, I am pretty sure I would have shelved it or even worse, thought “they don’t know me” or “I don’t do that”…As I have become more mature (not just older), I have realized that perhaps (and yes you can quote me on this) I actually do need help sometimes and I am learning how to ask 🙂

  1. Don’t set unrealistic expectations.  I have been known to bite off more than I can chew, perhaps making 5 sides dishes, 3 varieties of pies, etc., etc…when in reality, most of it ends up getting wasted and I would feel frustrated that my hard work wasn’t appreciated because nobody ate all the food.  I know, I know, crazy self-defeating behavior, but nevertheless, this was the way I did things.
  2. Delegate – there is no way you can handle everything.  I have made meals where I have done everything and just like in Tip #1, it’s biting off more than I could chew.  Now, I ask people to help me because what I have realized is that most people are willing to do it…it appears, and I’m not sure why, everyone was too afraid to ask before – LOL!
  3. Set your menu in advance, prepare things that can be done before the day as much as possible, so that you are not spending all day slaving over a stove and missing out on spending time with friends or family.
  4. This was a huge one for me – don’t worry about the dishes, they can wait until the morning.  If you’ve spent all day cooking, pause for a little while just to eat, only immediately to jump into cleaning dishes, you are going to miss out on even more.  I had a hard time with this one because I like to see my kitchen clean all the time, and it can cause frustration when it’s not.  I am still working on focusing on not letting the clutter get to me, so if you have a hard time with this one too…I feel ya!
  5. One of the ways I like to show love is by service and that includes cooking for my family.  What I have realized is that even though I am doing something for them, it really doesn’t focus on THEM but rather ME…so I constantly work on having my boys help me or at least spend time with me in the kitchen while I’m cooking – that way, I can enjoy their company and still get done what I need and want to.

 

 

Thanksgiving is not just a time for Turkey and pies, it is also a time for contemplation, gratitude and family. Every day of the year I force all my boys to hug me – it always seems to give me a little more energy to get through the day.  So whether we are at home, in Midway or on vacation somewhere else, I like to use that time to get in more snuggles and love time.  It can also mean that there are more disagreements because all my family has strong personalities, so it is also a great lesson in patience for me.  The goal this Holiday season is to be better about how I react to stress, family disagreements, getting under each other’s feet and getting on each other’s nerves by remembering what I love and appreciate about everyone.

Here goes!….

 

 


Wake up to Blue Skies…

“Look for something positive in each day, even if you have to look a little harder on some days!”

 

Yesterday I talked about how crazy it is that we get frustrated by things outside of our control, and how sometimes I feel down by the weather…

 

When I woke up this morning I loosed outside and while it is still chilly, I looked around and saw beautiful sunshine and blue skies.  What it made me realize is that no matter what challenges or struggles we have going on in our lives, there will always be a blue sky coming.  It can really be hard to keep a positive attitude when things aren’t great, but no matter how hard things can be, the only thing we really know for sure is that things always change.

 

This can be true for both positive and negative…I am sure you have experienced times when you have been really happy, finances are great, family is great, everything seems to be going the way you want it, and then suddenly something happens that derails you.  Or, you have been struggling, feeling really down, and then out of nowhere someone does something to help you or you find a light at the end of the tunnel.  It is not possible to be able to control everything happening in our lives, but we can certainly control how we reacts to it and how we feel about it.

 

So, as I woke up, saw the blue skies and sunshine, it gave me a sense of optimism that I can do and be anything I want to be.  I feel like I am able to see things more clearly when I feel that optimism and suddenly tasks that have been procrastinated are things I’m ready to take on – like organizing our storage room – YAY!  🙂

 

If you were able to let go of trying to control what could you accomplish?  Are you happy running on the hamster wheel over and over or are you ready to take back control of your life by controlling how you feel and how you choose to let things affect you?

 

I would much rather start off my weekend on a positive note…especially since when I am down it’s funny how it seems to affect all my boys.  They know that there is something going on with me and it makes them feel bad…which just proves that even if we think we are only affecting ourselves, our attitude and disposition affects others.

 

Remember…a negative mind will never give you a positive life!

 


Chunky and Comfy

 

“The secret to great style is to feel good in what you wear!”

 

I am always looking for new ways to express my style, so when I see someone wearing something I like, or I see something in a magazine, it immediately makes me think “could I wear that”…

 

I have found that while I like to explore lots of different styles and outfit combinations, not everything works for ME…and I don’t care who you are, there is always that is just going to look better on someone else.

 

The boots that I am wearing in this post are a pair that I saw a friend wearing and I fell in love with them – so I tried them and found that I like them too.  I find business or more dressy styles easier for me to express myself, so finding something that is perfect to add to my casual wardrobe, I’m all over it.  I grew up in England in the 80’s and Dr Marten’s were huge with “skin heads” and “mods” but they were never something I had liked myself.  I preferred more feminine styles, and I feel like Dr Marten’s got this style right!  They added a touch of femininity to target a whole different consumer – and I definitely fall into that new category of consumer.  Even though they are still chunky, I feel like the heel makes them more my style, yet they are still practical.

 

The Black distressed jeans are one of my favorite pair, mainly because the fabric is so soft, and they work with so many different outfit combinations.  The Blue sweater I found at H&M and just fell in love with the color…

 

I believe that even when I dress casually I like to keep that femininity in my outfits, and there are lots of ways to achieve that.  You can add a soft sweater (similar to this one), you could add a touch of lace, wear a soft brimmed had or cozy beanie, even just wearing feminine colors works too…such as dusky rose, or cream (which I think is more feminine than White even).

 

This fall and winter one of my goals is to expand my casual wardrobe and create some easy “go to” outfits that I can use when I just need to rip and run.  If you’re a working mum or just a busy professional, you know that sometimes the weekends can seem more busy than during the week and you just need to hurry and grab something quickly to wear…Wearing a hat or beanie can be a great way to save even more time if it’s not the day to wash your hair. During the week when I have appointments or I am dressing more professionally, I tend to style my hair differently than I do at the weekends.  Next week I am going to highlight some current quick and easy “up do’s” that I use when I am in a hurry for weekdays and also how I wear my hair on weekends.

 

When you are choosing your casual outfits, what is something that you won’t sacrifice?  Femininity is important to me…but I also like to choose styles that can be a little edgy by adding some leather and studs…


Happiness is Always in Style!


“Happiness is a journey not a destination!”

I don’t know about you but for me, Monday’s can definitely be blah!   I had the most amazing weekend with my boys, relaxing and just regenerating, so when this morning rolled around I had every intention to make it a great day.  Somehow, by mid morning, my best laid plans had become derailed.  I was no longer in the great mood I was earlier, and my whole physiology changed.

So what happened?  Has this ever happened to you…I had a phone call that didn’t go the way I wanted or most importantly how I EXPECTED it would.  I found myself feeling frustration, anger, disappointment and honestly those feelings are still with me.  I know better – I know that I shouldn’t have expectations about anything or anyone, but sometimes, when I let my guard down, something sneaks in and I am left to face the consequences.

So, how do I handle it?  Well, the first thing is realize that those feelings can be chased away as easily as they arrived…easier said than done.  I have to tell you that it doesn’t hurt that I have a Life Coach as a husband, and it also doesn’t hurt that I have so many things to feel grateful for, so that’s what I do…I focus on the things I have, the things I CAN control and I stop sitting there worrying about something that I can’t change.

Style is not just about wearing great clothes, having a healthy, fit body, or even about whether you are buying the latest trends, it is something that comes from inside.  If you are having one of those days where everything seems disappointing, overwhelming or just plain crappy, the only thing you can do to make yourself feel better is chip away at the symptoms.  I realize that it’s not easy to just let things go, so I have found that distracting myself, finding another focus, or even doing something for someone else always helps me from becoming so self-absorbed that things are harder than they need to be!

Surrounding yourself with those that lift you up rather than keep you down is something that I have become so much conscious of as I am now older, because life is so short I would much rather be happy, and I don’t apologize for not wanting to surround myself with negativity.

Happiness is contagious, so when you spend time with those that are generally happy you will probably notice that suddenly you feel happy and you’re no longer dwelling on things you can’t control.

So…to make a long story short – this Monday has not started how I wanted it to, but guess what, I am so much stronger than anything that can be thrown my way.  I have endured much, I have overcome even more, and the best part – world, I’m ready for you!!

Wearing a casual, flowing outfit that makes me feel good.  This is something to be worn for dinner with your partner, movie night, a concert, fun daytime activities or just hanging around, but I loved how feminine it made me feel. It’s always a good thing when your outfit makes you smile 🙂


Family Weekend

I know they are going to kill me for posting this…but how cute are they?

Amazing scenery on our way up to the top of the slide

It’s hard when the sun in shining in your eyes and your mum tells you to look at her to take a picture 😉

Getting ready to jump on the slide 🙂

 

“There’s only one thing more precious than our time, and that’s who we spend it with!”

We are still up in Midway after spending a relaxing few days,  but now we are getting ready to head back down later this afternoon. Still have a little time left to hang by the pool before we start cleaning up the house.

My Sunday best is not exactly what it would normally be, so here are a few shots from our fun-filled weekend up here. We missed having Dalton with us, but we did get to spend some fun, quality time together.

What is your favorite thing to do on a Sunday?  Do you prefer to just relax after a long week, or are you determined to fit in some fun things that you normally don’t have time for?  I have to admit, I like to do a little of both.  I love hiking or doing some other fun activity with my family, but I also love just sitting and reading, perhaps watching a little TV (preferably when one of my sports teams is on), but ultimately my goal is to recharge my batteries for the upcoming week.

This upcoming week we have another fun trip planned to Up State New York for a baseball tournament for my 3rd son, Jack…we have done this tournament before with my 16 year old, Canyon, so we know how amazingly fun it is.  Stay tuned for details and lots and lots of baseball 🙂

Riding the Alpine slide last night and having dinner at the Ski Resort was so fun…my only complaint is that you wait for so long to ride the slide and then it’s over before you know it.  Of course, I do have a love for speed, so I went as fast as I could and some of the turns were a little hairy LOL!

What are some family activities that you love to do? We opted to ride the slide last night instead of going to a movie because it was such a wonderful night and we wanted to enjoy being outdoors and loving the scenery.

I am headed out to spend time with my family again – have a wonderful Sunday…

 

Planning your Outfit…

 

“A girl knows her limits, but a wise girls knows she has none!”

Today’s outfit shows the versatility of denim.  I love finding different ways to wear denim – in fact, I actually have a business suit that is made of denim fabric and it looks fabulous.   These denim culottes are comfortable, classy, stylish and unique.  When you think of denim it is not very often that people think of culottes, and that is why I like them.  Spring and summer are great times to add some denim into your closet…

Over the years I have developed a plan that helps me put together my outfits.  If you are a “fly by the seat of your pants” kind of girl…then you need to read this:

  • I have always been a planner when it comes to what I am going to wear for an occasion, but what about when the weekend flys by and before you know it Monday is here and you have no idea what you are going to wear?  There are definitely occasions where this could happen, which is why I like to take about 5 minutes at night picking out what I am going to wear the following day.  I partly do this because I would much rather have 5 more minutes in bed than pick out an outfit in the morning, but also because I think much more clearly than when I am having to creep around inside my closet because Brandon is still sleeping 🙂  Choosing what you are going to wear is a very important decision, so planning is absolutely necessary unless you are never in a hurry or don’t ever have anywhere important to go!
  • Another important consideration when putting together an outfit is where you are going and who you will be seeing.  If you are on the fence about whether you should wear something casual or dressy, it is better to err on the side of caution and dress up a little more.  You are less likely to draw attention to yourself as being overdressed than you are if you are under-dressed.
  • Invest in some basics or staples that fit you really well.  You can build an outfit using these and it will always look put togehter because of the time and consideration you have put into buying quality basics that work for your body type.  For example, if you have a great fitting pair of jeans you can add just about anything to that outfit and it will look amazing…\
  • Always have at least one item that really stands out.  Whether it is a great purse or bag that makes people notice, or a pair of shoes that cause stares, every woman should have that one piece that draws attention!

If you implement even just one of these ideas, you will notice that your style choices and outfits will come together much more smoothly.  I’m not saying that you need to spend hours considering what you are going to wear the next day, but believe me when I tell you that people notice when someone has taken the time to choose their outfit versus someone who just threw it together.  Question is, how do you want to be remembered?  I know my answer…