Share Your Color with Others

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“Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.”

I came across this quote and fell in love with it…how often are we given the chance to be that person for someone else that can be an inspiration, an example, a role model or just a friend?  I have always loved the idea of being there for others, in fact when I was younger my Grandparents gave me a book that was a “birthday” book, that had a different quote for each day of the year.  Then meaning was that the quote on your day said something about you…

Mine said “If you need me, call…I will always answer.”  I don’t know if it was at that point that I started taking my relationships seriously or I had already innately known that before, but it was something that certainly rang true for me.  I have always felt that we owe it to others, and ourselves, to give everything to our relationships.  If you ask anyone that knows me they’ll tell you that I am a fiercely loyal friend, and I will do anything for those that I love.

Life is definitely not meant to be spent alone, and the only way we will ever ensure that we have others in our lives is if we make sure that we are working on our relationships every day.  I can tell you that my biggest challenge so far in this life is raising kids (particularly teenagers), in fact I think it’s kind of like a white knuckle rollercoaster, where you know you’re going to survive but somehow your hair is going to be messed up, your head will be rattled around and you’re most definitely going to end up with a killer headache.  So those are probably the relationships that are going to require the most effort.

 

 

This Thanksgiving weekend our whole family, along with my parents, came up to our house in Midway (a small town about 45 minutes away from our home), to spend some quality time.  Thanksgiving day went pretty smoothly, which is great because being cooped in a house and not getting along is pretty painful.  Yesterday was a different story however, there was a fight surrounding playing the Xbox that belongs to one of the boys, that ended up in a real fight, lots of shouting and eventually Brandon having to work his coaching magic on the boys to get them to calm down.  Fortunately there was no bloodshed, and we managed to come together again long enough to make it to watch “Creed” as a family last night.

I have never been so emotionally exhausted as when my kids get into a fight with each other, or when I end up in a fight with one of them.  It’s way more draining than any physical exertion, and it feels a lot worse.  What this weekend has taught me a little is that we are not only responsible for our own energy but also the effect that energy has on others.  It’s a big responsibility to know that I can affect other’s feelings, but I can tell you, if I want my house to run smoothly, I have to make sure that I am balanced, not neglecting my own needs which makes me cranky, and I am definitely not pretending to be OK when I’m not.

I know I am not going to be OK all the time, so I have been known to put myself in “time out” to recharge, and make myself feel better.  Energy is such a powerful thing, there is no way to fake it, so when we are feeling negative or frustrated even if we think other people are not aware, chances are that our energy is giving us away regardless of what our words say.

Being conscious of our feelings is the first thing we need to do to be able to share the best of ourselves with others. We are definitely never going to be perfect, but by noticing how we are feeling, being in touch with that so we can act consciously, that will allow us to have a greater influence with anyone we interact with.  Knowing what I know now about raising teenagers and adult children, I know that there are definitely times when I have to check myself to make sure I am not influencing their feelings or behavior in a negative way.

My favorite color, the one that defines me the most accurately is Red which means excitement, love, strength, energy and passion.  When I wear Red I feel a lot of those things…

My goal in my life is to share my “color” and help as many people as possible!  Who would you most like to share your color with?

 

 

 

The Art of the Imperfect Selfie

 

“Making mistakes is better than faking perfection!”

 

We live in an age where the “selfie” is an art, where we judge ourselves more harshly than we would ever judge another human being, and we base our self worth on how many likes or comments we get on social media.  So how do we get back to the time when it was OK to not look “perfect” all the time or at least make people feel that we are looking “perfect”?

The Huffington Post wrote the following in an article and it’s probably one of the most scary things I have ever read:  “Social Media’s Impact on SelfEsteem.  Social media has been linked to higher levels of loneliness, envy, anxiety, depression, narcissism and decreased social skills. … However, what is shared across our social networks only broadcasts the positive aspects of our lives-the highlight reels.”

Even though we know what we are posting isn’t actually the reality of OUR lives for some reason it is not what we think when we see what other people post images and talk about their lives.

The reality is, no matter what, we are NEVER going to be perfect human beings.  In fact, when we strive for perfection all we bring into our lives is disappointment, insecurity and sadness.

I decided to write a post about the “imperfect selfie”, because we are not used to seeing them on social media.  Taking the selfie with the fish pout, with the fake smile, to capture a moment that would in fact have been more of a moment to remember if the camera hadn’t been out, are more and more what we see and consider to be the “norm” on social media.

 

 

Trust me, for each selfie or picture that’s taken of me that I consider worthy to post, there are 100’s of others where I have my eyes closed (see for yourself – in fact, for the eyes closed, I would say there are probably at least 40% of the pictures where my eyes are closed).  Then there are some where I have to edit the lighting, create a patch over something in the background that I want to cover up, and so on and so on.

I recently took a social media class and in that class one of the lessons was to know which angle to use to show the most flattering angle of your face, and which programs to use for editing and how to optimize your features.  I do realize that social media, especially Instagram is a very visual platform and that if you want to use it for a business, you are going to have to post things that are visually appealing, but that doesn’t mean that at some times it’s OK to not look “perfect” in a picture.

I took this selfie of myself today sitting in my office, the camera wasn’t at the angle that would take the most flattering picture, but I posted it anyway to prove a point.  As I sit and look at this picture I could tear myself down with thoughts like “my nose looks crooked”, “I can see the fine lines and wrinkles on my face” or even “my lips are too narrow”, but instead I decided to look for what I love about what I see.  Instead of the crooked nose, I feel thankful that I am able to be able to smell pumpkin spices, and much more at this time of year.  Instead of the fact that I have fine lines and wrinkles, I love that I have lived a life that has allowed me to develop laughter lines and experience life.  Instead of the fact that my lips are too thin, I love the fact that I am able to kiss my husband and my kids.

To summarize my self esteem is not rocked because I am not “perfect” and I am OK with people seeing a side of me that is not my best side because I want people to see the real, authentic and loving ME!  I am not afraid to say when I am sad, I very often react with anger when I become frustrated and anyone that knows me knows that I am can be a force for good or bad (just depends on how I am treated), and guess what, I am not ashamed of that either.  I am fiercely loyal and love the fact that my friends KNOW they can always count on me.

So, what does a “perfect selfie” mean anyway?  Is there really such a thing?  The thing about authenticity is that only people that don’t know you are going to be able to be taken in by fake pictures, and over-editing.  Those that know you, already know your flaws, and love you in spite of them.  Only those that don’t know you might judge you if you don’t look perfect in a picture, but those that already know you that there’s no such thing as a perfect picture and they love you anyway.

I don’t know about you, but I want my life to be filled with real relationships and that is why I put myself out there.  Why I tell stories about myself making stupid mistakes, in the hope that people can get to know me and relate on a deeper level than the superficiality of a picture.  Don’t misunderstand me, Instagram and social media are still a place to show some pretty fabulous pictures and that is what captures someone’s attention initially, but if you really want people to stick around…well, that is done with relationships and letting people get to know you.

I hope as you consider taking your next selfie, before you throw out a picture that you don’t think shows your best side, all is ask is that you ask yourself “what do other see when they see me?”  My guess is that then the picture will become so much more than just a pretty face smiling back, because seeing ourself through another’e eyes is the way we need to see ourselves – PERIOD.

Stay fabulous my friends 🙂

 


A New Start

“You only ever get in life things that you have the courage to ask for!”

 

I’ve talked a little about my new beginnings over the past week or so…well, the day is finally here!

Have you ever started something new and found it a little challenging to switch your mind to the new things you will be focusing on?  This morning when I woke up I still had to get the kids ready and off for school, but the direction of my office, the things I need to accomplish, what I could wear, who I was going to meet with…all different.  After 15 years working in the same office, doing essentially the same job,  it had definitely become second nature..so what now?

Sometimes it’s easier to stay doing what we are familiar with rather than to take a risk, especially when you hear others around you questioning whether you can do it, or we may even start to question ourselves.  When I was in High School in England I remember going to parent teacher conferences/career night – I believe I was around 14 years old.  I met with my Biology teacher and my parents and at that time I had wanted to do something in the medical field.  I loved the sciences and they seemed to come easy to me.  As we sat there that teacher asked me what I was wanting to study in College and when I told her that I wanted to study Medicine or something like that she actually said to me “If I were you, I would set my sights lower”!

Wow!  Can you imagine the self esteem of a 14 year old at that point.  Well, here’s what happened, I decided to dig my heels in, I went to college, and worked my butt off to get my degree in Physiology with Microbiology.   As I was studying I found that I liked to meet new people, embraced challenges and love to develop long term relationships built on trust.  Consequently, when I was done with my degree I decided to apply for a job in Pharmaceutical sales.  In England in the early 90’s there weren’t many women doing that job and even though I had multiple interviews I found that it was a very sexist environment.   My self esteem took a beating again.  I was told by one interviewer that if I wanted a job where I was going to meet with Doctors I would need to wear short skirts.  The ironic thing about that is that the person telling me was actually a woman!  I am not someone that likes to be backed into a corner, and at that age I was a lot more naive, so I told her NO!  I would not do that.  Needless to say I didn’t get the job.

After a couple of years trying unsuccessfully to get a job in pharmaceutical sales, I decided to move over to the US – where I thought I would have an easier time as a woman in a career.  I got a job in Radio advertising sales so that I could gain some sales experience before I started applying for more sales jobs in the medical industry.  After a few years in radio, I moved into TV and then onto cable, where I have been working for the past 15 years.

 

 

Whilst working in cable advertising sales I found that I was experiencing very similar things to those I experienced when I was back in England.  I had to work twice as hard to get to the top, and I was the top.  I had to overcome men that were intimidated by strong women and people that were put in positions of management certainly not because of their experiences or qualifications to do the job, but rather because they were part of the “good old boys club” or had a friend that put them there.  What I realized is that I have NO control over what people say to me, how they treat me or whether things are “fair”.  What I do have control over is whether I let that define who I am.

I developed many amazing relationships while I was in the media industry and I am extremely grateful for those relationships.  I also refined my tenacity, my determination, my resilience and my confidence.  I learned that I could rise to the top no matter how someone treated me.  I learned that I am really good at what I do and now I have the opportunity to prove that to myself even more as I embark on a career that I get to control more.

I will be working with my husband that is a mindset and motivational coach, as well as working on my blog.  I feel like both work really well together, and I am excited for what our future holds.

I would not change anything that has happened to guide me on the path that I am on in my life.  I have learned a lot of what I am capable of and I have grown so much.  I have learned to love myself and not just because I look a certain way or I am successful in my career.  If I had placed too much emphasis on my career performance these past few years where I was challenged way more than anyone in a career should be, would have certainly diminished my self esteem.  Instead, it fired me up, it made me want to make more of my life!

Taking risks and starting new things are sometimes easier said than done.  It takes a lot of courage to walk away from something, but it can also be the most rewarding thing you have ever done.  I realized that I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life wondering “what if” or thinking that I had settled.  What about you?  What risks are you willing to take to grow?

 

 

The Effect of Positivity

“Change your thoughts and you change your world!”

Are you someone that notices the energy of people or picks up on “vibes” in certain situations?

I am a firm believer in positivity and what that can do for you.  Basically, whatever energy you surround yourself with, positive or negative, that is the energy you are going to see more of.  It can also be said about our thoughts and what we are thinking.  Have you ever noticed that when you are feeling good, happy or not worried about something that more good things just seem to happen?  Or conversely that when something doesn’t go the way you want it to, and the more you focus on that bad thing, the more similar things seem to happen?

Even though I believe in attracting good things, I don’t mean in a way that it requires no action.  I just mean it in a way that if you want good or positive things to happen, then it is in your best interest to focus on more positive things.  It’s easy to think that because our thoughts are essentially invisible that nobody knows and they can’t do any harm, but that simply isn’t true.  In fact, I have most definitely learned the hard way that I need to focus on the things that I am grateful for rather than worrying about the things I don’t have.

If any of you out there have kids you will probably know this is true – tell a kid to NOT jump on the furniture, what they more often than not hear is the “jump on the furniture part”…

Positivity attracts more positivity, and so on!

 

It’s definitely easier to be positive or happy IF or WHEN something happens than it is even when things aren’t going the way you want them to.  I may or may not have mentioned this before, but I absolutely hate rain.  On my recent trip to Norway and Scotland, we definitely experienced some rain, wind, colder temperatures and things that might have totally put a damper on our whole trip.  So you may be thinking “how could I possibly feel anything but amazing being on vacation in this places and seeing the amazing scenery that I did”…well, it is definitely possible.  In fact, at one point in my life, I would have been so focused on how much I hated the rain, how cold it was or that things weren’t going EXACTLY the way I wanted them to…

I constantly battle with triggers & learning to change my response to them.  What I have found is that even though certain things do still trigger me, I am getting better at my response.  I am not letting the negativity or my sometimes unrealistic expectations control me!  I enjoyed every moment of my trip, rain, cold and all.  I traded my expectations for appreciations and let me tell you, I much prefer that kind of experience.

Even returning back to work after being gone for 10 days was not a chore for me…that has to be a WIN all in itself, right?

Happy Thursday – as the weekend approaches focus on positive self talk, and positive thoughts…let me know if you notice a difference 🙂

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A Few Facts About Me

“Happiness always looks small when you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn how big and precious it is!”

 

I love it when I get the opportunity to talk a little about myself, because there are probably some things that a lot of you may not know about me…

I was challenged by a friend on Instagram @the_thread_edit to provide some facts about me…so here goes:

  1. I am ashamedly afraid of heights.  I freak out when my kids get too close to the edge of something high, it causes a reaction in me that I can’t even explain.  I took them on the ferris wheel at Lagoon (a local amusement park).  It was about 5 years ago and my youngest was about 6 years old.  The older boys thought it would be funny to rock the carriage when we were stopped at the top.  Let’s just say that I didn’t find it funny and by the time I was back on the ground I almost kissed it.

  2. I love football (soccer) so much that I get up early for every Manchester United game (even if they are at 5am).  I love it so much and take it so seriously that I have been known to fight with men who decided that it would be funny to think I didn’t know what I was talking about when it came to football.  Needless to say they KNEW by the end of the fight that I DID 😉

  3. I have 4 boys, no girls.  I have had a kid attending our local elementary school for 18 years (my oldest is 23 and my youngest is 11).

  4. I am an avid reader – I find it really relaxing.  I love how my imagination is piqued.  I typically read about crime and murder – in fact I read as much as possible about serial killers and how their minds work.  I find the human mind so interesting and love to find out what makes them tick.
  5. I believe in a fairytale romance.  Not the kind that Disney movies are made of, but more the kind where you love the other person so much that you work really hard no matter how many bumps in the road you get.  I love how Brandon has taught me the art of romance (he is way more romantic than I am, but I am learning).

 

 

 

I think we all have an amazing story, we come from different backgrounds, lifestyles and families.  I have found that I love to learn about people, understand them because it makes people become more relatable…which is why I was excited to tell you a little about me.

This is only scratching the surface, but hopefully this might make me seem more real and normal and hopefully you will want to read more and more about me.

 

 

 

Positive Talk

“Why compare yourself to others?  No one else in the world can do a better job of being you, than you!”

Have you ever had a picture taken of yourself and thought “that isn’t my best angle” or “that wasn’t a good one”?  Well, the pictures that I’m posting today were some that as I was taking them the whole time I was thinking these thoughts…

What it made me do is really think about how much we tell ourselves things in our lives that are not the things we need to hear.  For example, do you ever think to yourself that you don’t look good in something, you can’t do something or do it well, you are not going to be able to make something happen or even worse, that you are not good enough?  I know this is a common theme in today’s age, which is heightened because of social media.  We can very often find ourselves comparing to others and very often competing with others, when really what we should be doing is being focused only on how we can make ourselves better than we were the day before!

 

 

I don’t know about you, but I am certainly going to respond much better to hearing something nice rather than something critical, even if it is just from myself.  In fact, hearing praise and confidence come from yourself is probably one of the most motivating and inspiring things you can do for yourself.

There was a study that was done on water, and more specifically in speaking to water.  I know, sounds a little hokey, but there was a scientific study that looked at the response when water was talked to negatively…what it created was cloudy, murky, dark water.  Whereas when the water experienced only positive talk, the most beautiful crystals were formed.  Now you may be thinking what on earth could this have to do with anything to do with not comparing yourself to others, or confidence building?  Well, aren’t we as human beings made up of 60% water?  So what if, when we listen to negativity, surround ourselves with negativity or tell ourselves negative things about ourselves, our abilities our appearance, what do you think will happen to us?

The moral of this story…speak to yourself the words you need to hear.  Only tell yourself things that will lift you up.  Don’t let yourself believe the worst about yourself, replace criticism for gratitude and create an environment where you can grow and become better every day.

On this Sunday what better time to make a commitment to yourself to speak kindly to yourself, to love yourself and to allow yourself some grace for not being perfect.

Have a wonderful Sunday!

How to feel more Confident

“We won’t be distracted by comparison if we are captivated with purpose!”

 

Confidence is not something you suddenly just have, you don’t necessarily wake up with it…it can take consistent effort & positive thoughts.

I can recall being a young girl, and having a really distinct taste in fashion, and how my parents encouraged me to be me.  As I became older people started to notice that I dressed a little differently, that I liked different things and that I kind of liked not fitting in the mold.  The thing about being different is that it scares people, they see it as a threat to themselves because they are not truly confident in themselves, so because I liked to stand out, I was teased a little, criticized and sometimes laughed at.  I had a choice at that point…listen to what people were saying, change who I was or be ME.  I chose to be me, and a funny thing happened…I remember having a pair of Red Mary Jane shoes, and within about a month I noticed other girls wearing the exact same pair of shoes.  I took that as a compliment, not because they were wearing my shoes, but because I realized that I had it right…I had the confidence thing right.  I wasn’t afraid to be me and those girls learned something – they started to do that themselves.

I am not saying that I am the most stylish person in the world, I don’t always get it right, but one thing I can say is that no matter what, I wear what I want, I do what I want and I am who I am – no excuses, in fact, I LOVE WHO I AM!!!

 

I realize that not everyone is as stubborn in my confidence or as bold as I can be…so here are some easy steps to help you with your confidence:

  1. Stop comparing yourself to others – stay focused on you.
  2. Don’t stress things you can’t control.  Talk about setting yourself up to fail, stressing about little things and things you can’t control is a sure way to bring disappointment, frustration and stress.
  3. Love yourself.  There is no one like you – you are gift to this world.  The world needs you and don’t ever forget it!
  4. Seek positivity – find the good in every situation.  Positivity reaps positivity.
  5. Do what you love – and you will love what you do.  Life is way too short to be stuck doing something that you don’t love.
  6. Trust yourself – don’t try to be something or someone that you are not.  Our instincts very often tell us whether something feels right…we should trust that instinct.  Being in tune with who we are in a great gauge for confidently being happy.
  7. Believe you are worthy – when we believe in ourselves, the world is our oyster.
  8. Don’t be afraid of being wrong – confidence doesn’t always mean you will be right, it means you don’t tie your self worth to it – which means you are not afraid to be wrong about something.
  9. Don’t allow jealousy or hatred to seep in – confidence doesn’t need to feel hatred or jealousy because it knows the world needs all kinds of people and one persons success is not dependent on another’s failure!
  10. Step outside of your comfort zone – self confidence grows by learning and growing.  We start out when we are babies using this concept by learning to talk and walk, but for some reason we forget it as we become older and sometimes stay stuck, not growing, inside our comfort zone.  There is no great self confidence booster than accomplishing something new.

I don’t know about you, but I wish that someone would have given me some steps when I was a little girl, almost a road map showing me how I could become more self confident.  All of these steps are what I use…I know they are not all the things we can do to help our confidence, however, even by implementing one of these that you weren’t using before, it’s only going to help put you further down the path to self confidence.

Remember – self confidence isn’t something that is taught or learned, it is something that comes from surpassing your own self-limitations!

Being Fierce

“And one day she discovered that she was fierce, and strong and full of fire, and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears!”

What does being fierce mean to you?

Today was my Grandma’s birthday and since she was one of the most fierce women I know, I thought it would be a great tribute to her to write about this topic…

If you think about in nature the animals that are known as being fierce as the ones that are feared or at the very least revered…so as I contemplated what being fierce meant to me, these beasts are what came to mind.

To me, being fierce means being unshakeable in the determination to achieve my goals, regardless of bumps in the road, or even detours.  Having the belief that no matter what, I can do whatever I set my mind to…

My life has definitely not been an exercise in things being simple, but I can tell you this, there is not ONE THING I would change about my past or present because they are the amazing things that have defined who I am today.  I am pretty proud of who I am today, because the person I am may be strong and unwilling to give up her goals, but I am also a girl that takes my relationships and friendships very seriously.  I am fiercely loyal, and know this, when I am in your corner, you will have my 100% support.

So, how do you take your experiences and use those hard things you have gone through to make you stronger as well as being more vulnerable on the other side?  The answer is simple – you don’t be afraid to trust someone else, you open yourself to someone and allow them to help you.  When I first moved over to the US I had an amazing cousin that let me live with her until I had my own place to live.  She asked nothing in return, and has continued to be there for me.  I have made amazing friends along the way that I know will have my back no matter what, and I continue to develop more and more relationships built on loyalty and trust.  Being a fierce woman in this life doesn’t mean you have to step on others to achieve your goals, in fact, it is because of the others in our life that we are able to become our true fierce selves.

 

 

I grew up in a home with 2 brothers, I have 4 sons.  Living in a testosterone rich environment has made me realize how important femininity is to strength and how I can use my gifts to achieve my goals. It has made me realize that strength does not need to be aggressive or angry (the technique I used to use to protect myself), nor does it have to manipulate.  True strength is not afraid to lean on others, not afraid to be there for others, not afraid to be vulnerable, not afraid to surrender to those things we can’t control, and not afraid to recognize that control is only an illusion.

Because I have never known what it has been like to have a sister, my girlfriends are like the sisters I have never had.  I honestly know that my strength comes from them in some part, and I only hope that I can pay it forward and be doing the same for them and others as well.

Monday’s are a great day to start focusing on how you can achieve your goals…

Happy Monday!

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Angels in Disguise

 

“I’ve always loved the idea of not being what people expect me to be.”

As we have been traveling on a road trip with 3 of my boys, and have had the pleasure of spending time with my brother and his family up in the Seattle area, it has given me the opportunity to contemplate how I got to this place in my life.

I started out as a feisty and determined “little madam” and I can assure you none of that has changed.  I love to challenge myself, to grow and to help whoever I can along the way.  I feel like the world needs people that are not just “followers” but those that are not afraid to be bold enough to stand out and almost be controversial.  That is how amazing things happen!

So, as I think about me and what is important in this life, I realize that I am where I am because of the people I have in my life.  Not everyone in my life is easy, and those are the ones that I am most grateful for.  Having a child, a spouse, a coworker, a friend or an acquaintance that pushes every limit of our patience and understanding…those are the ones that help us grow into the person we are destined to be.  They are our Angels in Disguise.

For some reason (and I am sure because I must have had some serious lessons to learn), I have had plenty of Angels in Disguise in my life, in fact, sometimes I keep having the same type of person in my life because obviously I haven’t learned what I need to yet 🙁

Have you ever thought about people in your life that are particularly challenging and perhaps considered that they may be really helping you?  That they could be YOUR Angel in Disguise?  I know when I think about people that really challenge me in this perspective it actually changes my reaction, helps me become a little less triggered and amazingly enough, to grow and become better at dealing with things.  So what if…you thought of the most challenging people in your life as the ones that are really helping you to grow?  Does that change anything for you?  I would love to know!  Comment below

Maybe some of this positive thinking is enough to get you through hump day!! Happy Wednesday my friends…

 

Contagious Energy

“Take responsibility for the energy you bring into this space!”

Have you ever heard the concept that your energy introduces you even before you speak?  Well, after working 20 years in sales I have been a student of human behavior and the impact it has on success.  One thing I realized very early on that energy is contagious and that not only includes positive energy.  I learned that when I walk into a room (or strut, because that’s my preferred method of getting from A to B), people notice what energy you are bringing.  Obviously strutting by itself is going to introduce you in a confident manner, but that only works for the first few seconds because then you need to speak…

So, how do you make sure that you show people that you meet the very best version of you?  I have found that I have had the most success transferring positive energy when I focus on how I can help someone overcome a problem, rather than focus on what is in it for me.  I realize that is not how most sales people view their process, and I am open to other ways, but I think just like anything in life, you take what clues others leave you and adapt them to suit your style and personality.

Not in sales (or are you)?  Well, I don’t care if you sell for a living or you’re a stay at home mom, there are going to be times when you are going to need to walk confidently or strut, hold your head up and find ways to make the most of a situation and achieve a result.  I have found ways to use my sales training even when dealing with my kids school teachers, returning something to a store, developing a stronger relationship with my kids or husband, or even just making friends.

Truth is, no matter what you do, putting yourself into someone else’s shoes, viewing a situation from someone else’s perspective, and not just focusing on what you want to happen is going to only help you have a happier and more fulfilled life.  People are drawn to confidence, empathy and understanding and by focusing on how to make yourself better, only improves other areas of your life.  I have found over the past few years when I have struggled at work or home, being in a space where I focused on myself rather than considering why people make the decisions they do, were actually some of the darkest times of my life.  I actually reached the point where I didn’t even want to hear what I had to say because most of what I said was complaining and negative.  It wasn’t until I started shifting my thinking to “how can I learn from this” did I actually start coming through the other side.  I actually found that my friends and clients weren’t quite as eager to spend time with me…

It is easy to get down by things in your life, the key is not to stay down.  By bringing your own sunshine or positive energy to a situation is only going to help.

 

 

I have found that I like to challenge myself to do things that are uncomfortable for me, and sometimes feeling positive when there is chaos or negativity around is really hard…but that just means it’s more important.  If you are open to a challenge, I would love for you to try focusing on someone else and what you can do to help them and see what happens.  How does it make you feel?  Is it contagious?  And if you’re really brave, email me and let me know how it went 🙂

This is not school and this is not an assignment, I just know it’s worked for me to do this…

Hope you have a wonderful Wednesday!

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Pants:  Zara
Top:  Zara (no longer available)