Isn’t it Fascinating that we want to control the Weather?

 

“Anything you can’t control in life is teaching you how to let go!”

 

When I wake up on a cold, overcast, or rainy morning I have a hard time not letting myself feel a little down or even depressed.  While I consciously know that I most certainly don’t have the power to control the weather, it still sometimes leaves me feeling similar to Chicken Little where the sky is falling in!

 

It is almost an exercise in insanity to feel so down because of something so out of my control and scope of understanding, nevertheless, my body still feels this way.  I realize that not everyone feels like this about the weather, however, I am sure there are all times and things that make you feel inexplicably out of sorts. Knowing that the only solution to get through times like this is that you have to let go of control and realize that things are just happening for you, the key is to recognize when this is happening…

 

 

I still find myself sometimes worrying about things I shouldn’t, over-thinking, over-analyzing or even obsessing about things that clearly I have no way of influencing.  I am definitely starting to recognize when it happens more and more, and the more I become conscious of it, the more likely I am to be able to eliminate these habits.

 

Weather is just one example of something outside of our control, another huge cause of feeling frustrated is worrying about what other people are doing and how they are not doing things the way we want them to. As I sit here writing this post, my dog is outside and he’s barking at someone walking by or another dog out there, and I even found myself getting irritated and shouting at him.  Yes, I can shout at him and tell him to stop or bring him inside, but then he’s going to forget in a few minutes or he’s going to jump on the couch and start scratching at the door again.  Bottom line, I may be able to get him to stop for a while, but not until HE wants to!

 

I realized when I had kids that control is really just an illusion, but there are definitely times when I find myself jumping in and handling things for the boys when the best thing to do would be to let them figure it out themselves.  I am definitely not a mum that hovers enough to fall into the helicopter mom category, but I think that’s just because I work on catching myself when I have the urge to “fix” and force myself to take a step back a lot of the time.

 

Worrying about things outside your control is definitely one of the major stress causes in today’s world, so what if you could just allow yourself to let go and just enjoy the moment.

 

Today was a gloomy, rainy, cold day with some sleet and snow.  While I don’t like winter, I have to admit that I actually love how it looks with snow on the ground, blue skies and sunshines, even when it is cold. The real reason I don’t like winter is because it brings grey skies and in Utah we get an inversion in the valley – which I find ugly and dreary.  I did get through the day without too much frustration, but now I sit by a lovely warm fireplace with my feet up after eating a lovely fish and chips dinner.  I can feel all the stress that the gloom brought me just melting away…

 

If you can relate to any of these feelings or thoughts, and you are looking for a quick fix, i’ll let you into a trick that works for me…find something you love and move your focus away from the thing causing you frustration to that thing.  I love to spend time with friends, so sitting in a coffee shop with a great friend is a great remedy to the blues.  I also love to shop (I know, big surprise), so I sometimes take myself off to the mall and just wander around until I feel the thoughts just slip away – of course, if I see some great things while I’m there, I may have to buy them too!  Another great way to refocus is to sit by a lovely fire, curl up with a good book, watch a movie or spend time with your kids.

 

I am definitely a long way from being an enlightened being, but I feel that if I am constantly working on improving myself and my attitude, things will start to get easier and eventually I may even be strong enough to kick some habits!

 


Chunky and Comfy

 

“The secret to great style is to feel good in what you wear!”

 

I am always looking for new ways to express my style, so when I see someone wearing something I like, or I see something in a magazine, it immediately makes me think “could I wear that”…

 

I have found that while I like to explore lots of different styles and outfit combinations, not everything works for ME…and I don’t care who you are, there is always that is just going to look better on someone else.

 

The boots that I am wearing in this post are a pair that I saw a friend wearing and I fell in love with them – so I tried them and found that I like them too.  I find business or more dressy styles easier for me to express myself, so finding something that is perfect to add to my casual wardrobe, I’m all over it.  I grew up in England in the 80’s and Dr Marten’s were huge with “skin heads” and “mods” but they were never something I had liked myself.  I preferred more feminine styles, and I feel like Dr Marten’s got this style right!  They added a touch of femininity to target a whole different consumer – and I definitely fall into that new category of consumer.  Even though they are still chunky, I feel like the heel makes them more my style, yet they are still practical.

 

The Black distressed jeans are one of my favorite pair, mainly because the fabric is so soft, and they work with so many different outfit combinations.  The Blue sweater I found at H&M and just fell in love with the color…

 

I believe that even when I dress casually I like to keep that femininity in my outfits, and there are lots of ways to achieve that.  You can add a soft sweater (similar to this one), you could add a touch of lace, wear a soft brimmed had or cozy beanie, even just wearing feminine colors works too…such as dusky rose, or cream (which I think is more feminine than White even).

 

This fall and winter one of my goals is to expand my casual wardrobe and create some easy “go to” outfits that I can use when I just need to rip and run.  If you’re a working mum or just a busy professional, you know that sometimes the weekends can seem more busy than during the week and you just need to hurry and grab something quickly to wear…Wearing a hat or beanie can be a great way to save even more time if it’s not the day to wash your hair. During the week when I have appointments or I am dressing more professionally, I tend to style my hair differently than I do at the weekends.  Next week I am going to highlight some current quick and easy “up do’s” that I use when I am in a hurry for weekdays and also how I wear my hair on weekends.

 

When you are choosing your casual outfits, what is something that you won’t sacrifice?  Femininity is important to me…but I also like to choose styles that can be a little edgy by adding some leather and studs…


3 Ways of Becoming More Stylish Without Changing Your Outfit

 

“Style!  All who have it share one thing…originality.”

When it comes to style, almost every bit of advice you’ll ever find has to do with the type of outfit you should wear, or the sort of lipstick or foundation you should buy, or maybe the best accessories to really set off your look. You might even read something about how the right button extender is the key to style in 2017, and how it can make your clothes fit more comfortably!

 

While all of those things are obviously important, there are also a few things you can do to look more stylish which involve none of the conventional tips.

 

Intrigued? Check out the following tips…

 

Improve your posture

 

Have you ever noticed that catwalk models seem to be effortlessly stylish, almost regardless of what they’re wearing? Watch a runway show, and it’s all but guaranteed that you’ll see at least one outfit that you won’t like the look of, but still think that the model wearing it has a natural aura of style.

 

A big part of that sense of natural style is simply having good, confident posture. As humans we communicate a lot through our body language, and we naturally associate upright, confident posture with passionate, attractive people.

 

If you find that you have a tendency to slouch or round your shoulders, make a point of consciously working to improve your posture. Straighten up your back, push your chest out a bit, and meet the world head on.

 

Yoga and Pilates classes can also work wonders for correcting poor posture and helping you to maintain a stylish stance.

 

Cultivate a laid back attitude

”Cool” isn’t just a word for fashionable, it’s also a description for someone exceptionally chilled out and easygoing. It’s no accident that we, as a society, have absorbed the idea that laid back people are also fashionable and stylish. A huge part of how we perceive style has to do with the kind of subconscious signals it sends about someone’s personality and place in society.

 

Do you think that Marilyn Monroe would have become a style and sex symbol if she gave off the impression of being anxious and jittery? A major part of her secret was in the fact that she seemed calm, confident, and collected in every situation.

 

Have you ever had a dress that was so loud and sexy that you just didn’t feel confident enough to wear out, but that you still loved too much to let go? The simple truth is that the more relaxed and comfortable you seem to be, the better you’ll pull off any outfit.

 

Anything you can do to relax yourself and take life in your stride will make you seem effortlessly more stylish.

 

Get more sleep

Sleep is far more important, for far more reasons, than many people give it credit. By getting more sleep you improve your mood, you improve circulation and maintain a more youthful overall appearance — especially in the face. You also benefit from a healthy hormone balance, which keeps you calm, collected, and more likely to feel your best.

 

It’s almost possible to spot the people who get enough sleep on a regular basis by the glow they seem to give off. As much as possible, you want to be one of those people rather than one of the permanently sleep deprived.

 


The Do’s and Don’ts of Fall Style

“Each moment of the year has it’s own beauty.”

 

Fall is a great time to experiment with different styles, and try new things.  It is also a time when creativity is your friend, so finding new ways to put outfits together is something you can really have fun with!

Layers are your friend, sweaters are a must and boots make their reappearance after a summer hiatus.  So how do you know what is good for you to wear, and what is not?  The great news is that there are so many different styles, colors and options for outfits that there are many more opportunities for you to find what works for you.  Here are some do’s and don’ts that I follows, I believe they will help you too:

  1. Do wear different lengths of clothing – a long sweater over a pair of leggings or skinny jeans, and then add a box or moto jacket.
  2. Don’t wear colors that don’t suit you, even if it really jumps out in a store or you see someone else wearing it – stick to what works for you rather than following others.
  3. Do wear layers – it is better to be too warm and be able to peel off layers if you don’t need them.  Fall weather can be unpredictable, so planning for worst case scenario is always what I find to be the best.
  4. Don’t wear things that cause unnecessary muffin top.  A pair of skinny jeans or leggings that is too tight is just going to push everything up and cause an unflattering look.
  5. Do wear boots and booties with jeans or dresses and tights not just because they are more practical but also because they add a little funk.
  6. Don’t follow “rules” such as “don’t wear White after Labor Day” – this has always been something I have chosen to ignore, because I love wearing White and winter White during all the seasons, but I really do love how it can look in the fall and winter.
  7. Do invest in a great statement coat or jacket.  You are definitely going to need it, so you may as well make sure that while you’re wearing it you look fabulous.  It is the first thing that people see when you’re outside, so you may as well make sure that the first impression is a great one!
  8. Don’t keep your look inside a style bubble – step outside the lines and try something new (like perhaps a sweater dress with some knitted tights, or a pair of faux leather leggings and a long sweater).
  9. Do break out the tights – and get really creative with some new styles and colors for the season.  While I was in England last month I found some really unusual ones and have worn them already…

 

 

I am so excited for fall…there are so many possibilities and not just with our outfits…I hope you find these tips useful, and that if you haven’t already started planning your fall looks, that now you have some new ideas to help you!

You can shop some of my favorite fall colors and picks below…

 


Finding Joy Around You

“The secret to having it all is knowing you already do!”

The world seems to be seeking immediate gratification in everything,  what with all the social media it’s become almost impossible to live in the moment, and most importantly to live a “real” life.

I’m sure you’ve all seen those people that live amazing lives on social media, always seem to be happy and smiling and doing amazing things all the time.  It certainly would appear that their lives are the best ever, when in reality the real lives are not anything to write home about because they are just living to post.  Of course this isn’t true of everyone that you see, but beware to not get sucked into comparing yourself or your lives because you most certainly will fall short.

So how do we find what we see around us and just love our lives?  When I was younger I don’t think I really appreciated the beauty that was around me…I definitely missed out on a lot of things that I don’t allow myself to miss out on now!  Fall is an amazing time to start yourself on a journey of finding beauty all around, because of the colors and often beautiful sunshine.

Even if fall is not your favorite season, or you are  fair-weathered person, just like I am, there is still plenty to appreciate and enjoy.

This Fall break we are spending time with the boys up in Midway, Utah, and there aren’t many better places for enjoying the scenery and peace and quiet.  Even just driving up the Canyon on the way here, we have seen so many amazing colors, we played golf on Thursday, went on a Sleepy Hollow Haunted Wagon ride, and then Friday morning the wind blew so much that it brought snow in…
Now, I’m not a huge fan of really cold weather, but the boys and I went out for lunch, did a little shopping to buy some movies, and then came back to our house and made dinner in front of the fire so we could watch the movies.

Appreciation of what is around is the ONLY way we will get through this life as happy, fulfilled people. Enjoying the snow and the beauty it brings is a little harder for me, but it did give me the chance to sit by the fire with the boys and spend some great family time.

Sometimes it’s easier said than done to see beauty around you when you have hard things going on in your life, but I have noticed that whenever I can change my focus to those things that cause me to feel gratitude, or to help me to enjoy my life more, I definitely feel better about things.  Nature and the beauty of the world is a great place to start, but I always like to find beauty in people too…not always an easy feat, because I have found that as I get older there are some people that are just not nice, but I notice that if I try to find at least ONE thing that someone does that is nice, a talent they have, or that they dress nice, it helps me to not focus on negative thoughts or feelings.

This weekend didn’t start off as good as I would have liked, I got up really early to watch Manchester United play soccer, and they lost…but, here’s where I know I am learning to find joy in the journey, I realize that it’s just one game and that it means they will re-evaluate and come out better than ever (ok, so I have no control over what they do, but I can think good thoughts because it makes me feel better 🙂 )

I hope you find beauty around you this weekend…


Pick the Shoes First

“The strongest people are not those that show strength around us, but those that win battles none of us know anything about!”

How many of you out there build your outfit around a pair of shoes?  If you’re anything like me approx. 75% of the time the outfit I wear starts with me deciding which of my shoes or boots I want to wear…

As you can imagine, building an outfit around a pair of shoes kind of requires that the shoes are very often unique or at least make a statement (just like the ones in this post). I have always enjoyed finding shoes that are different, funky, unique and most importantly, when I travel I like to buy shoes because very often I won’t see other people wearing them.

So how do you build an outfit around a pair of shoes or boots?  A lot of what I do is based on my personal preferences, so it definitely could be different for you, but here are 5 guidelines I follow:

  1. The shoes or boots that I pick is always dependent on what I will be doing that day.  I don’t wear stiletto pumps if I know I will be doing a lot of walking, especially if that walking will be on uneven ground.  Conversely, I don’t wear clumpy boots if I know I will be meeting with clients or I want to look a little more polished.
  2. Once I have picked out the style of type of shoes or boots I want to wear, I decide the entire “look” I’m going for.  For example, do I want casual, formal or just every day wear…because a lot of shoes or boots are versatile enough that they can cross function.
  3. I check the weather, and determine if I need tights, a sweater or pants and build from there.  A pair of shoes and boots that is not really bold can be made that way by adding a pair of funky tights or by wearing boots over a pair of bright and colorful leggings or skinny jeans.
  4. I make sure that the clothes I pick out match the “style” of the shoes.  It really stands out, and not in a good way, if you wear a pair of shoes or boots that are not feminine or they are clumpy, but you are wearing a lace or silky dress.
  5. I finish off the whole look by adding a jacket, cardigan, or accessory that will tie in the whole look.  In the summer the cherry on top of my outfit very often comes from jewelry, or even hair accessories, whereas in cooler months I use jackets, coats, layers, or scarves to achieve the look I am going for.

 

 

If you are not someone that loves shoes as much as I do, that’s fine, you definitely don’t have to build your whole outfit around a pair of shoes, but it is definitely important to make sure that you are wearing the “right” shoes.  One of my pet peeves is when I see an amazing outfit on someone, and they have not paid close enough attention to finishing off the outfit with the shoes.  They may be the wrong style, scuffed, or even worse, just dirty.  If you take the time to put together an amazing outfit, the shoes should be part of that, not an afterthought as you walk out the door.

I have to admit, all my boys have been trained from a very young age that shoes are very important, and I would hate to have to go and count how many pairs of shoes they each have, because then I would have to confess that I may have created a family of shoe-a-holics LOL!

Fall is a great time to add some amazing boots, booties and casual sneakers to your closet, so enjoy the cooler weather and find your own unique way to express your style!

Here are some of my top Fall shoe picks (click the links below)…

 


Layering in Style

“A Real Woman smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection!”

A topic that is very appropriate for Fall and Winter is how to layer in style….

What I mean by layering in style is finding jackets, sweaters, cardigans and coats that become a continuation of your outfit.  I have always found it just as important to wear the right jacket as it is to wear the right clothes underneath.  In Utah we have quite a lot of snow in the winter, so obviously it can become very cold.  Utah is also known for many amazing ski resorts, which require the best (usually expensive) ski attire and equipment.  I see a lot of people wearing a ski jacket with a business outfit and I think that is something that could definitely be improved upon.  While I love ski jackets or down jackets and such, I feel like there is a more appropriate way to wear them – and that is when you are going for a more casual look and not trying to convey professionalism or femininity.

I definitely own some of these jackets and coats and I do pull them out for the right occasion, but I definitely own many other jackets and coats that can work better when I am going to work, a function, church or trying to look classy.

Here are some examples of ways to wear jackets or coats, which obviously don’t exclude wearing down or ski jackets:

 

A long, fluffy cardigan is perfect for enjoying days that are not too cold…it can work over a business outfit (like this one) or a more casual outfit.  I love cardigans, they are not too heavy and add that extra insurance layer “just in case”!

 

Mixing textures when you’re wearing a shorter jacket is something that can be really fun to do.  I paired this cute little velvet jacket with some faux Leather capri’s for a cooler day or evening (when it’s still important enough to want to look a little funky or edgy!)

 

The trusted down jacket – adding an accent scarf, and wearing it on a more casual day – this is the perfect jacket.  If you are a ski jacket or down jacket person no matter what, wearing a scarf, finding a jacket with some fur accents, or even just a contrasting shiny and matte look (like the one I have) is a great way to keep it unique and yet still look stylish.

 

Finally – a Leather jacket can work for just about any outfit.  It can add a little sass to your business attire, it can add some class to a pair of jeans and sweater, and it can even dress down a ball gown…
Leather has and will always be my “go to”, so I believe that every girl should own at least one Leather jacket…especially since you can even pick up some faux Leather now that you can’t even tell is not the real deal…

As you head into this fall and winter, firstly make sure you are going to be warm enough and secondly make sure you are doing it in style!!

You can shop some of the top jackets on my fall shopping list by clicking the links below

 


The Key to Wearing a Leather Skirt

“The enemy is fear.  We think it’s hate, but it’s fear!”

What immediately comes to mind when you think about wearing Leather?  I think it always used to be associated with bikers, and perhaps an outfit for wearing to a club at night.  I’ve never really liked being pigeon-holed, or told what I should and shouldn’t do when it comes to fashion…so I say, gone are the days when wearing Leather is no longer versatile.  In fact, I think Leather (or faux Leather) can be worn and look professional in a business environment, look classy with a nice blouse or lace top, and it can even be used to add a little “edge” to a normally conservative outfit.

Today, the focus is on the versatility of wearing a Leather skirt.  I fell in love with this skirt while I was shopping on my recent trip to England.  I was in Manchester and exploring what was in the Zara store and I came across this Olive Green skirt.  With Zara being one of my favorite stores, it stands to reason that I would love just about everything they had in there, but this skirt definitely caught my eye.

Leather skirts can cost a little more, but now with the quality of faux Leather as it is, you really can get away with looking as good (if not better) when you’re wearing faux Leather – let me explain.  While Leather is absolutely one of the most durable and long-lasting materials you can buy, there are definitely some drawbacks and the main one that I see is the lack of “give”.  Leather is not known for it’s stretch, and that is where faux Leather comes in.  Buying a faux Leather skirt is better if you’re looking for a more fitted look, and one that will move with you.  The skirt in this post is faux Leather and I love how it fits me really well, it allows me to walk and sit freely, and finally it also costs a lot less.  Not that I am opposed to buying Leather clothing (I definitely own some skirts, and jackets), but sometimes, especially with new trends and colors, it is safer to go the faux Leather way.

The outfit I put together is one that could be worn in a professional environment, for a date, as casual wear, or pretty much any reason you could find – and that is what I love about it.  The blouse brings a certain level of femininity and the chignon in my hair accentuates that look too, while the mules with their unique heel bring a little “funk” to the whole look.

Fall and winter are the perfect time to wear Leather – It can be a very hot fabric so it’s a little harder to wear on hot summer days, so the cooler months are just right.

Here are a few other ways you could wear a Leather skirt, because let’s face it, we don’t all want to dress the same way 😉

  1. Wear a mid length skirt with a loose sweater and booties
  2. Wear a knee length skirt with some funky tights and a blazer.
  3. Wear a skater skirt with some over the knee boots, a fitted sweater and a velvet jacket.
  4. Try a pleated skirt to mix things up a little, and wear it with a blouse or fitted sweater.
  5. Wear an A-line midi skirt with some stiletto pumps and a fitted top.

 

If you are looking to add a Leather skirt to your fall or winter wardrobe, you can shop some of my top picks below…

 

 


 

Is Your Wardrobe Ready for Fall and Winter?

 

“Don’t change to fit the fashion, change the fashion to fit YOU!”

If you live in the northern hemisphere, then brace yourself, because chilly temperatures are on their way. Rather than lament the passing of those summer days, you should see this as an opportunity to revamp your wardrobe so that it’s more appropriate for the cooler period of the year. And good news: this can be a seriously fun exercise, one where you can rid yourself of those old and tatty pieces, get creative with your outfits, and all-around make sure you’re ready whatever the weather. Below, you can read my top ten ways you can transform your wardrobe for good; or at least, until spring returns.

 

Clearing Away The Leaves

The leaves will be falling outside, and you’ll be clearing them away, so why not also go through your wardrobe and have a clean up of any debris that’s taking up valuable hanger space? If you’ve not had a clear out in a while, you might find pieces that range from ‘wow, I would never wear that again’ to ‘this would be a fantastic piece…if it were 2014’. Once you’ve collected all the items you’re no longer so certain about, move onto the next step….

 

Discard, Swap, Amend

And now, what exactly do you do with these pieces that you’ll no longer be wearing? You have three options. You can discard them, which should mean giving them away to a charity shop (unless they’re damaged beyond hope, that is). You can also see if you have any friends that might have items you could swap your old clothes for; remember, one person’s junk is another person’s treasure! Finally, you could always get out the old sewing and crafts kit and see if you can amend the item so that it looks like new. It’s surprisingly easy to breathe new life into old clothes!

 

Plan Your Style

Now that you’ve got some space in the old closet let’s have a think about which look you want to don during the upcoming months. Remember, there is no such thing as fashion rules, so take a look at the styles that are catching your eye and try to work them into your wardrobe. A new style can be achieved can adding a few essential pieces, such as boots, or a stylish overcoat. These are the things that you’ll be wearing most, so give them the most attention.

 

What’s Missing?

But let’s not get too carried away with finding new styles; there is, after all, some cold weather to navigate, and as such you’ll want to do a headcount to make sure that all the essential items are present. If in doubt, load up on thick sweaters: there’ll always be space to put on a thick top and head out into the brisk air. In the absence of anything more glamorous to wear, they’ll be your go-to during the upcoming seasons.

 

Physically Ready

And should things get a little bit chillier than expected, remember that it’s always handy to have some extra cold gear in the locker just in case you have to brave some seriously cool temperatures. Layers will see off the worst of the cold, but it’ll be your warm winter jacket that really saves your bacon should you need to go outside when you’d much rather be curled up in bed!

 

Planning for Exercise

Just because we don’t have to be ready for the beach doesn’t mean we should be excused from exercising! Even though it won’t be at the top of your priorities, it’s important that you have some cool weather workout clothes so that you can head outdoors to get fit and healthy even if the temperatures aren’t playing ball. The good news is that you don’t just to have to buy things that are only functional. If you buy high-quality leggings, you’ll also be able to wear them with long sweaters and boots to create a cute fall day outfit. So even if you don’t quite make it to the gym, you’ll still be getting some stylish wear out of your new purchase.

 

What are the Fashions?

We’re all for celebrating individual style, but we’re also for celebrating collective style – that is, fashion – too. Why not take a look at some of this year’s fall fashions, and add something eye-catching to your wardrobe for when you want to make a splash at the classy events you’ll be making an appearance at in the coming months?     

 

Replace the Essentials

It’s all good and well topping up your fashion items, but what about the nuts and bolts of your wardrobe? And more specifically, the things that never – unless something goes wrong – see the light of day? An incoming chill is a perfect time to get rid of your old pajamas and replace them with some cozy new ones, because your body will always thank you if you take the time to invest in new socks and underwear. While these are enjoyable at any time, you’ll be extra thankful for your decision to buy thick socks when it’s cold outside!

 

Hitting the Stores

Now that you’ve got a game plan in place, it’s time to do some shopping. But hold right there, because first you’ll need to figure out a budget for your shopping spree, and then make sure that you stick to it. It’s all too easy to go all shopaholic when you hit the stores, especially after you’ve convinced yourself that you need to replace your entire wardrobe, but trust us: you’ll be thanking us for slowing you down once your credit card bill comes in. Once you’ve made a list of all the items that you need to buy, stick with that!

 

Have Fun

Transitioning between seasons isn’t meant to be stressful; it’s supposed to be fun! Don’t let your big switch out cause you any unnecessary headaches. Make a day of it, and get your friends involved if they’re fashion friendly. So long as you stick to a budget, you’ll come away with a new wardrobe that is practical, stylish, ready for the chilly months, and oh so you. Enjoy!

You can shop the outfits that I am wearing in this post by clicking the links below…

 


Confessions of a Styleaholic

 

“The ultimate definition of bravery is not being afraid to be yourself!”

Have you ever noticed that one person who is so consumed with how they look that they never dress down?  Someone that could take hours and hours to get ready in the morning…or someone who has to make sure they are wearing makeup and their hair is done even if they are going to workout?

Here’s my confession…I have always been concerned about how I look that no matter what I am doing I always make sure I am dressed appropriately – even down to making sure I had the “cutest” golf outfit for our Annual work golf tournament even though I probably only make it to play golf once or twice a year…

Now, I don’t consider this as a problem unless it interferes with your wellbeing, or of those around you! It has never really taken me a long time to get ready – in fact I had a flight to catch last week and set my alarm for 6:30PM instead of AM – for some reason I woke up at 6:55AM and managed to make it out my front door ready to go by 7:08AM and I was through security by 7:30AM – but, there have been times when I have caused myself undue stress by over-thinking what I would wear for certain events or on certain days, so much so that I have not enjoyed things like I might had this not happened.

 

So, without changing who I am (because I am ALWAYS going to take care in dressing nicely), I have rethought how much pressure I put on myself.  Before I moved over the the US I hardly ever wore jeans, and I typically wore dress pants, skirt or a dress most days.  I have learned over the years to incorporate some more casual, non high maintenance outfits into my style repertoire.  In fact, I’ll admit that there are some days where wearing jeans is something I crave to do.  I love weekends where I can dress up a pair of jeans or dress them down depending on what I am doing.  I allow myself some days where I don’t have to plan ahead the night before what I am wearing, and I reserve this for days when I know I have more time in the morning or those days when I don’t have to be somewhere special.  Weekends are perfect for not over-thinking what I am wearing, and I take those days to relax more and not put pressure on myself.

I am a styleaholic – and I am kind of proud of it.  I love fashion, always have and always will.  I love taking
something to wear and making it my own by adding some unique accessories, pairing it with something unexpected (like mixing colors that not everyone is doing) or adding a funky pair of shoes.  I have realized that not everyone enjoys style and fashion as much as I do, and that’s OK.  We are all unique individuals and we don’t ever want to change that, so how can someone that is not interested in style or fashion change up their look?

Here are a few easy to follow steps to help you in your own fashion story:

  1. Identify your body type – figure out if you are pear shaped, round, apple shaped etc.  Once you know this, you can then determine the styles that will work for you:  Pear shapes look better when they wear things that aren’t fitted around the legs and butt.  In short – don’t accentuate areas where you are largest, find styles that balance your body.
  2. It seems like the easiest thing to do would be copy what someone else is wearing – but that is not always going to work.  You can certainly use someone else’s style and outfit as a guideline, but don’t try to duplicate it identically.  Everyone’s body type is different, so stick to styles that work for your body type.
  3. Pick out one thing in each outfit that is a statement piece – it can be a necklace, scarf, pair of shoes, skirt, dress, pants, blouse, jacket etc.  Whatever that item is, you can build around it – if you have a statement necklace or scarf, wearing a plain dress is a really simple way to put together an outfit that can work for any body type.  It could be a fitted dress, A-line, shift dress, or empire waist dress it doesn’t matter – the key is you have added something that will make your outfit stand out and be noticed.
  4. Make sure that your shoes are looking nice – they don’t have to be fancy, but always make sure that they are polished and well taken care of, otherwise you are going to draw attention to that and people will notice the wrong thing about you.
  5. Casual looks are just as important – wearing jeans doesn’t have to mean that you are not caring about how you look.  Even distressed jeans can look amazing and classy – especially if you wear them with the right things!  This amazing cross body bag with the tribal strap is a statement all in itself, but by adding a funky jacket and some awesome booties…the whole look is exactly what I was going for!
  6. Finally, make sure that your hair and makeup match your style…don’t wear too heavy makeup during the day if you are going for a more business like look!  While smoky eyes look amazing, there is a time and a place for that kind of look!

The final, most important piece of looking like you know style is having the confidence to rock your own style…wear it with pride, own it, flaunt it and feel good about yourself.  Remember – behind every strong woman is an amazing story!

For those of you who have been waiting…here are the shopping links to this outfit (for the cross body bag with the tribal strap – click here)