Don’t lose sight of your Goals

“If you’re tired of starting over, stop giving up!”

You may have noticed that I’ve been doing quite a bit of traveling recently…I don’t know about you, but I work so I can travel with my family as much as possible.  Ever since I was young and my parents took us on some amazing trips, I have always been a big believer in making memories being the most important things we can do in our lives.  In fact, I don’t even know if I could remember the many of the gifts I was given for birthdays or Christmas but I do remember the good times we had traveling with my parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles and cousins.

Traveling is something that is ingrained in my DNA…and my kids will tell you the same.  It definitely does make it challenging to fit in all the work that I need so I can enjoy the vacation and not have to take time away from the family.  Being organized writing my blog posts, planning what I am going to post and all the other elements that go into blogging and promoting it on social media are vital!  Even taking vacation from my full time job is not always vacation because I like to make sure I am available if problems arise with my clients and see if there are things I need to take care of.

You may be asking yourself why I am talking about all the work that I have to do to be organized so I can travel…well, here’s the point – I love to travel and that isn’t going to change, but I also have goals & standards that mean I have to be really organized so I can enjoy my vacations.  My goals aren’t going to go away just because I love to travel, but I definitely have to make sure that I plan ahead!

I have recently been working with my 16 year old who got a little behind with his school work because of our vacation to Hawaii and I told him that he needed to write a list of the things he was behind with and then make a plan for when he was going to complete each task.  After a little push back he agreed to do it and once he had everything down he told me that it had really helped him because then he didn’t have to have all the things jumbled inside his head, giving him more to worry about.  Once he had everything written down, he could check off each thing once completed and see that list become less and less overwhelming.

I follow a very similar style – I know what I need to do, and always write a list about EVERYTHING.  Including whether I need to pack certain things, if I need to go to a store to pick something up etc.  If I miss something when I am writing the list, I guarantee it’s something I will completely miss or even worse, I wake up in the middle of the night almost in a cold sweat with a list in my head again of things that I should have written down.

My goals are very important to me, I am always making new goals, and I never stop working towards them. I have found that every goal, whether big or small, requires consistent effort and nothing (not even a vacation) is going to stop me from putting in that consistent effort!

My goal when I started this blog was to inspire women to express their unique personality through their style, which would in turn grow their confidence.  I have always felt that our biggest challenge as women is the belief in ourselves.  Feeling great about yourself absolutely leads you to become more confident and hopefully that in turn leads to achieving whatever your goals are.  I am not going to give up on my goal…and neither should you!

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Bold is Beautiful

“Look in the mirror and embrace what you see!”

As I looked in stores this week, and on my shopping trip to LA last weekend,  I saw that a lot of the new styles and the colors of Easter Dresses for young girls, were more muted, pastel colors.  Not that I don’t love pastels, but I think it’s also really fun to add in some really bright and bold colors along with those pastels.

The weather here in Utah this winter has been so weird, we almost had a spring in February and now it’s March we have seen quite a lot of snow.  It’s hard to plan for the new spring season when we are still in the cold, snowy weather.  For this shoot the outfit that I put together is a bold, Royal Blue skirt with a feminine, lacy White blouse and White pumps.  To add a little “edge’ to the whole look (but also because it was freezing and the sun was starting to go down), I added my Black leather Moto jacket which is one of my favorites.


This Royal Blue is a color that actually works for any season, but for spring I toned down the boldness by adding the feminine White blouse and ankle strap pumps.  Wearing bold colors doesn’t need to be just for bold, sassy personalities, in fact, when you pair a bold color with a more feminine or muted color it makes it much easier to wear, even if you are not one that likes to draw too much attention to yourself.


With the way fashion and styles are now, there really is something for everyone and with all the choices there are so many opportunities for us to express our unique personalities through our clothes.  Sometimes shopping can be overwhelming, not knowing how something might work for you and your body type can be hard when you are just looking at things on hangers.  That’s why I like to see what other styles people are wearing, see how they put together their outfits and then take those ideas to adapt to myself.

Not that I’m biased, but a great way to find some fun, unique ways of putting things together is by looking at blogs.  There are so many bloggers out there and each one has its own fun way of dressing.  I definitely get a lot of ideas from other bloggers and I am sure they do the same.  We are all unique individuals but there are very few unique styles or fashions any more.  It seems the older I get the more styles I see “recycled” from when I was younger – and not all of them are good.  The key is knowing how they work for your body type, personality and most importantly, your age.  While I do believe that most styles work for any age there are some that I would NEVER be found wearing because they are just not appropriate for me at my age.

All the pieces in my outfit (or similar ones) are linked below…



Recharge and Have Fun

“I have found that if you love life, life will love you right back!”

I honestly thought that when my kids were little was so challenging, but as they grow older, what i’m finding is that I spend so much more energy now running kids all over the place, worrying about what they’re doing – because I just seem to have so much less control.

Working full time, writing a blog, managing my family relationships, client relationships and friendships all require energy as well, and while I wouldn’t change any of it…I do sometimes need to recharge.  My idea of recharging may not be the same as yours – I kind of like spending a weekend just shopping, walking, exploring and eating – to me, that’s how I recharge.  In the picture above we are having ourselves a little treat of a cookie shot filled with Tahitian vanilla milk – ridiculously amazing!

Spending time with friends for me gives me energy too…having that time to laugh, talk things through, seek advice and just share stories really makes me feel like I can make it – in the midst of mini catastrophes (if you’re a mum you know what I mean)!


I spent this last weekend in L.A. doing just that.  We found some amazing restaurants on Yelp! and a couple in particular stood out:  Broken Mouth (Hawaiian Homestyle cooking) which is close to the Fashion District downtown and Faith & Flower, again downtown.  It’s a good thing we did plenty of walking because we certainly ate plenty because the food was so good.

It can be hard to find time to take a trip away like I did, so here are some other ideas to help you recharge and renew:

  1. Dinner of coffee with a great friend…laughter really can be the best medicine, but even just the company of someone that knows you and what you’re going through is huge.
  2. Soaking in a hot bath – at the end of every day this is my ritual.  It almost helps me to wash away the day and forget about whatever has been ailing me.
  3. Read a good book – it’s easy to over-think things that are happening in your life so distracting yourself with something that causes you to concentrate on something else is good.  That’s why books tend to be so much more relaxing that watching TV which requires little or no imagination at all.
  4. Get a massage or facial – I have found that one of the only times I actually meditate is when my eyes are forced to be closed when I’m having a massage or facial.  It helps me to really “zone out” and not think.
  5. A hug – sounds corny, but some days I force my boys (including Brandon) to hug me (for a minimum of 20 seconds) and I can feel the energy flowing right back into me.  It really does work like a charm.

Whenever I return from a trip I am always ready to plan my next one…so stay tuned for what we’re going to be doing over spring break 😉


Adding a Pop of Color

“Boldly be a pop of color in a Black and White world!”

I have spoken extensively with many friends and people I know and one of the topics I wanted to expand upon is how easy it is to add a little spice to an outfit by adding a pop of color.

Not everyone is adventurous when it comes to styles, fabrics or even colors, in fact, I see a lot of people that stick to neutrals or just Black and most of their wardrobe comprises of these colors.  It’s hard to change what you have always done, what you are comfortable with, or what you already own completely…so here’s what I always suggest:  Add a pop of color…

Adding color doesn’t have to be over-thought, it doesn’t need to be expensive but most importantly it should not make you feel uncomfortable!



Here are some simple ways of adding a pop of color – and to make it even more interesting, at the bottom of this post you can shop some of my top picks by clicking the shop direct links:

  1. A pair of shoes/boots…I listed this one first because that is exactly what I am wearing in this post. The outfit is simple denim with a White blouse, and a pale Grey jacket making the outfit very muted so…I added this fabulous pair of satin embroidered booties in kelly Green.  Another amazing sale purchase from Zara, but you can find some similar picks below…
  2. Jewelry – this is by far the simplest and least obtrusive.  In fact, even by just adding a bright pair if earrings you can add a little funk to an ordinary outfit, but to take it even further, add bold necklaces, or bracelets to continue with the bold theme.
  3. Bags – There are so many different styles, colors and brands of bags that it’s easy to see how this could really become hard to figure out what works the best.  It’s also difficult to change purses regularly unless you have an insert in your bag making it easy to switch.  I like to switch my bag at least once a month, anything more than that for me is just a pain because I always end up forgetting something and then needing it only to find it’s in a bag I had used LAST!  With all of that said, having a bold and bright bag is a great way to really take your outfit to another level.
  4. A scarf or hat – I am not really a big hat wearer, but I do love adding a cool scarf in leopard, Red or even Pink just to add some sass to my outfit style.
  5. Sunglasses or glasses – let’s talk about sunglasses first.  Accessorizing with sunglasses is only something that works on a nice day and not so much at night…but adding a really funky pair of cat eye shades or bright, big frames sunnies is going change your whole look.  I have an amazing pair of Alexander McQueen Red shades and I love wearing them because they are so bright and noticeable. Reading glasses or regular glasses are now being made in such funky, bright styles that you can also use these to add some color.  I have a friend that wears their reading glasses around their neck on a chain and they are such a great accessory to their outfit.


Simple ideas to add a pop of color, yet I know there are many, many people that just stick to what they have always done because they are afraid to try something new and bold.  I am in no way saying that if you are happy with everything about your look and your confidence that you need to change it…these suggestions are only to give you ideas that you can incorporate if you are trying to find new looks or try new things.

Finally, don’t mistake wearing a pop of color to mean that you need to become a color explosion…I always say that at least when you are starting out trying new things…LESS IS MORE!!

Happy Monday…here’s to time moving more quickly during the week 😉


Dress up your Jeans

“Successful women have their feet on the ground, they just have better shoes!”

If you have been reading my blog for a while you may notice a common theme – I really love to dress up.  In fact, dressing down is something that is still a style of dressing I am experimenting with, and learning…

Today’s post is really about how even when you dress down or go for a more casual look, you can still look put together and classy.

I found these jeans in the Zara sale – and since Zara is one of my favorite stores, and since the store in Utah isn’t yet open, I am always checking out their app (it’s a dangerous thing) for new styles, and most importantly, for things that you aren’t going to see many people wearing around town.  Embroidered jeans are a really cute way to dress up your jeans, but with the turn up, I liked these ones even more.


You may ask yourself why dressing up is important to me, so here’s my little secret:

I LOVE to dress up or add a little extra touch because it’s what makes ME feel good.  I like to know that when I walk out the door (unless I am going to workout, planning on just running errands, etc.) I am put together and that when I glance myself in a store window, or in a mirror that I am going to be happy with what I see.  It may sound vain, but the truth is that when I feel good about how I look it’s weird but I definitely act differently.  Because I feel good, I tend to project an air of self-confidence and even charisma that seems to make other people react differently to me.  So the little secret is that I dress for ME and only ME…not that it isn’t great to hear compliments, but for me to love me and how I look is the most important thing.  Obviously, I do like to do things that Brandon will appreciate too…but ultimately if he liked something that I didn’t like to see myself wearing, I couldn’t do it.  In fact, I have found that he likes the things I like because he is reacting to how I feel about myself.

Have you ever experienced this phenomenon?  Have you experimented to see if people react differently to you when you feel good about yourself and how you look?  You should really give it a try, I can promise you will notice a difference!  And let’s put it this way, what have you got to lose?  At the very worst, you will feel good about YOU and that’s the most important love you can nurture…because then you’ll just have so much more love to go around 🙂

It may sound cheesy, and I wouldn’t ever tell you to do something that I haven’t tried myself.

BTW – these jeans were on sale and they are all gone, so I have found some similar ones and linked them below…

Hope you have a great Friday…




Does your Style Match your Personality?

“Style is a reflection of your attitude and personality.”

After watching all the snow in Utah these last few days, it made me start to think about snowflakes and how there is not one that is the same.  It made me realize that the same can be said about everyone on this earth.  Even identical twins have many similarities but they are not absolutely identical.  You might be wondering where this is going, so let me fill you in…

Now we have established that we are all have unique personalities, opinions and more, shouldn’t that also mean that our styles also be unique.  I do realize that it is all too easy to just throw on an outfit without really giving it much thought, just following what you see someone else doing, or even worse, seeing the latest trend and wearing it because a fashion magazine or store tells you its the new “hot” thing.  But, what if, just what if, you had the confidence to wear an outfit or rock a style that fits YOU and YOUR unique personality?  I’m not saying that you can’t copy other cute outfits that you see others wearing, but I have always found it’s better to adapt those styles to your unique personality rather than trying to stick a round peg into a square hole!


Fact:  Balancing in heels on a curb is actually really difficult…


For some this may sound to be a lot of work and even overwhelming…so here are a few tips to get you started thinking about how you can really show your personality just by how you dress:

  1. Colors are a great way of communicating.  I am definitely a Red girl, and I feel like Red says a lot about me and my personality – bold, confident, sassy etc.  What colors best describe your personality?  My guess is that if you know this, those are the colors that are going to make you feel the most at ease and comfortable in what you are wearing.
  2. Fabrics just like colors can say a lot about the person wearing them.  Some fabrics are luxurious, some are sexy, some are durable, versatile, etc…the list goes on.  Think of a way you would describe your personality, and think of a fabric that fits that characteristic…for example, if you’re shy a simple cotton might  work great, if you’re very confident in yourself, you might wear satin or silk to express yourself.
  3. Don’t forget the shoes – wearing an outfit that fits your personality but forgetting about the shoes is almost the same as not considering the outfit.  I am definitely a stiletto heel kind of girl, so when I am really looking to express my personality and let people know who I am, I tend to wear some pumps or heel that make me feel more like myself.
  4. Don’t be afraid of who you are – what I mean is, don’t let the fear of trying something new prevent you from really being yourself.  You haven’t always thought the same way, worn the same things, or had the same opinions, so your style shouldn’t be any different.   In every area of your life growth is necessary and whether we choose to or not, we are always growing one way or another!
  5. There truly are so many styles and even adaptations on styles that there is no reason for you to be wearing something that doesn’t make you feel great about yourself.  I’m talking about dressing the way that makes YOU have those days when you really have a spring in your step because you know you look good.  

Most of the people in our lives are there because there was something about not just our looks but also our personality that attracted them.  What if we could sync both together, what if we could match our style with who we are?  I have found this to be a game changer in my life – it helps me let people know, at least in part, what they can expect from me even before I speak…

I have found that people tend to take others more seriously when they are not afraid of being themselves – whoever that is – because when we are ourselves we are most content and more likely to attract others to want to be around us.  Most people can pick up on whether someone is genuine or not, and when you are as authentic in your style as you are when you act and speak, it definitely makes a difference.

Just in case you are interested, you can shop items similar to my outfit by shopping below (so if you are a too a Red girl, snag a blouse here) – This post contains affiliate links which means that at no additional cost to you I may earn a small commission if you purchase something in this post using a link.


Are Electronics Ruining our Relationships?

“Technology is a useful servant but a dangerous master!”


As you know, I have 4 boys and just when I thought I had this whole parenting thing “down” along came another, completely different boy, with his own challenges.  Not to mention, everything changes and the challenges become even more real.

We have noticed that our kids like to come home, excuse themselves to their rooms and hibernate by playing video games online with their friends.  It’s hard to not think that the art of conversation is gone because communicating comes mainly in the way of texting and Snapchat or other such apps.  Now, I could despair, but I prefer to take action…

Our number one priority each year as we plan what trips we want to take and the activities we want to involve our kids in, is a was we can keep the boys busy and make fabulous memories!  In fact, as I write this, we are headed on one of our planned vacations this year, to beaches, and a tropical paradise.  Not that while we are on the beach phones can’t be used, but the electronic distractions are definitely less than at home.

Taking action doesn’t just mean traveling or entertaining the kids 24-7.  And, as sad as it is, it doesn’t just mean that our kids are the only ones that are distracted because there are definitely times when I am sitting with Brandon and neither one of us is paying attention to the other.  I don’t want my relationships to suffer so I am always looking for ideas and ways to shake things up a little.


I came across a great idea – it’s called Rehab Gaming – and they specialize in creating simple card games that ask some fun questions that can really get some interesting conversations going.  They have games for families, for couples and for groups of friends, each has specialized questions that focus on the perfect topics to get you thinking and talking with those that are important in your life.

The best part – no long term contract, no high priced ticket and each deck of cards only costs $11.95. You can click here to get one for yourself, for your family or even as a gift!

Velvet and Winter Tights


“Bravery is being the only one that knows you are afraid!”

Have you ever seen one of those styles around and you haven’t quite committed whether you think it would work for you or not?  Today’s post is about one of those pieces of clothing for me…

I have always loved the look of wearing shorts in winter with some fun tights and booties.  I decided to give it a go, with Black velvet shorts, a fitted Black sweater, Black booties and some fun Gold winter tights.  I have to admit at first I was a little undecided about how I felt about it, but after wearing it for a few minutes and looking back at some of the shots…I decided I do indeed like this look on me.

It’s easy to wear the same things over and over, whether that’s the same styles or the same colors – either way, I think it’s fun and sometimes a little scary to put yourself out there enough to know people are going to notice, what are they going to think?  What am I going to think?  etc.

I think we all have a tendency to worry about how others view us, but it’s when that worrying causes us to not be who we truly are that the problems start.  I look at it like this, if we don’t want to be judged or not viewed the way we really are, then we should probably not judge others or ourselves.  I was very fortunate growing up that my parents encouraged me to embrace my uniqueness as essentially march to the beat of my own drum!  But, there have still been times when I have felt less than confident, or even just nervous about being myself.  It truly wasn’t until I realized that how I feel about myself really has nothing to do with anyone else – it’s my choice!

If you had a thing, that one thing that you have been afraid to wear, to try, to experiment with?  If you weren’t worried about what someone else might think about you, would you be brave enough to do it?

After all…you are confined only by the walls you build yourself!!!

You can shop some similar styles by clicking the ready to shop links below

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Don’t be Afraid to Sparkle

“You mustn’t be afraid to sparkle a little brighter darling!”

Ever since I could remember I have always loved standing out from the crowd and not blending in.  To me it has always been important to not be wearing the same thing as other people, or at the very least, not wearing it in the same way!

When I find something that really catches my eye, just like this Silver dress with the knee high Navy satin boots, I knew it was going to be a “shoot worthy” outfit.



Standing out isn’t going to mean the same thing to all of us…but if you are wondering, here are the Top 5 things I consider when looking for a really eye catching outfit:

  1. Color – this is probably the most important thing to me.  I like bold, bright, shiny – in fact, the more different or funky the better.
  2. Shoes – it always comes down to the shoes.  When I saw these Navy satin boots, I loved them because of the color but also because you don’t very often see satin boots like this – at least no knee high ones.
  3. Fabric – you can stand out even if you are wearing a T shirt if it is made from something bold or bright.  For example, a Red satin or velvet T shirt is definitely going to get you noticed.
  4. Accessories – sometimes just adding a statement necklace or scarf is enough to transform your look from ordinary to extraordinary in a heartbeat!
  5. Style – some styles look a little more of a statement.  I think that some of the most modest styles can make a statement.  For example – wearing a full length or maxi skirt that is full or one that has unusual features is going to be more funky than just choosing a knee high skirt that you normally stick to.  As you pick the style, make sure you consider your height and body shape – long skirts don’t work as well if you are really short or have a thicker waist.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think you should be walking around every day wearing a Silver dress and knee high boots, but there are definitely going to be some times that you are going to want to make a splash – and now you have a formula (if you choose to follow mine) or you can create your own based on your own unique style preferences!

You can shop similar pieces to those in my outfit by checking out the ready to shop links below (and the best part, this dress is almost free 🙂 …

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Strut with Confidence into the Weekend!


“I am confident because I can admit who I am, what I’ve done and love myself for who I’ve become!”


When you hear the word strut what does it make you think about?  It reminds me of what models do on a runway, or what a really confident person does instead of just walking…

Of course to model on a catwalk or runway you have to feel pretty self-assured and confident, so where do you get that confidence from?

We all come from different backgrounds, we all look different, we all have different personalities and we all like different things…so what makes one person more confident than another?  After having 4 boys I can tell you that a certain amount of that confidence is something you’re born with (because although all my boys are self-assured, some have it more than others), but a lot of your confidence comes from what you are told when you are young – either your parents or people you interact with tell you things that you can choose to believe or not.  I have a brother that is one of the most loving, caring, amazing people I know, but for some reason a lot of his life he hasn’t really believed that himself.  It could be that he had some experiences early on in his adulthood that shaped him, or it could also just be that sometimes we don’t feel worthy or good enough to love ourselves to the extent we need to so that we feel good about himself.  I can tell you that he is good looking, very fit, very intelligent and would do anything for anyone, believes and encourages those around him, but for some reason he hasn’t for a long time believed that he could be or do anything he set his mind to.  I feel like know he is coming out the other side of that lack of confidence, but it caused me to wonder where confidence really does come from.

We were raised in the same home (although some might say being a girl and boy in the same home isn’t the same), we were loved the same (at least I think so), and we were given the same chances and opportunities. The biggest thing I can see on the surface is that he is more sensitive than I am and got hurt a lot easier than I did…Being caring and sensitive is obviously a wonderful thing, but I have this part in me that when someone does something to me, says something to me, or tries to hurt me…it kind of fuels me even more. In the fight, flight or freeze scenario I am a fighter, I will come out swinging…

Because I love my brother so much I have always been amazed at how he couldn’t see himself how I and everyone else around him saw him…which is an amazing, talented, loving and caring man.



So, as I contemplated where confidence truly comes from, I came to the conclusion that it is a choice.  It truly is a decision to fight for yourself, believe in yourself, trust yourself, and most importantly love yourself.  If we don’t do these things for ourselves then why would anyone else want to do them for us. Essentially we teach people how to treat us – and that comes from how we treat ourselves.

It’s almost a cycle, the more confident you feel, the more great things you attract to yourself, which in turn gives you more confidence.  So how do you make that choice to feel confident?  There have definitely been times in my life when things have happened to me where it has caused me to doubt my value, and honestly the only thing that has helped me is focusing on one or two things that I truly can appreciate and love about myself and feel grateful for.

I can promise you, no matter where you want to go, what you want to accomplish and who you truly want to become, if you start by loving and appreciating yourself and all the amazing unique things you bring to this life, the more likely you are going to be to accomplish them.

So if you want to make this really simple, if you have a hard time finding something you can appreciate about yourself, you can start with taking care, and pride in how you look.  It doesn’t mean you have to go out and spend a ton of money on makeup, beauty products, clothes, shoes or bags, it just means making the most of what YOU have!  As I get ready in the morning, I am always conscious about making sure I like what I see in the mirror (not because I am vain and love looking at myself), but because when I know I have made an effort I can strut and walk more confidently…

Give it a try…I think you’ll like what you see 🙂