Feel Good in your own Skin

“The best gift you can ever give yourself is the permission to feel safe in your own skin.  To feel worthy, and like you are enough!”

Feeling good in your own skin is so much more than being confident in how you look…it is more about who you are as a person and how you feel about that person.

We all came into this world the same way, but our experiences and our relationships in our lives shape us into who we are today. Sometimes those experiences can  cause us to feel insecure, lacking in confidence, or even make us feel like we are not good enough.  It can be hard to move through things that trigger us, or make us feel like this, but there are definitely steps we can take to help soften us and allow us to feel more worthy, more comfortable in our own skin and ultimately more confident.

I have found that the more I give myself grace for not being perfect, and the more I don’t compare myself or what I do to others, the better I feel about myself.  I can tell you that this getting older thing is not for the faint of heart.  I didn’t realize how much it affected me until I saw some pictures of me when I was younger, and noticed that I have laughter lines, I have wrinkles I had chosen not to notice before and that perhaps my muscles aren’t as toned as they once were.

 

 

So, as we go through life, how do we feel good about ourselves even as these things happen?

Here are a few things that help me – maybe they’ll help you too:

  1. Take care of yourself – for me this can be as simple as taking a bath at night, reading a good book or just having a small amount of time to be left with my thoughts.  I like to be unpredictable, so for me going on a bike ride in a different direction, walking the dog a different route or even driving home a different way allow me to feel free and let the stresses of the day go a little.  We don’t all have the same things that relax us or make us feel good, so whatever it is for you, that’s what you need to do.  It seems like the world is advertising to us all the time about what we should do, eat, wear, and like…but ultimately whatever it is that makes YOU feel good, well that’s what you need to do!
  2. Focus on the good – it’s easy to be critical about your flaws or what is wrong with you…so what if every time you saw something that you didn’t like about you, in turn you found something to appreciate about that thing.  For example, I always had a really flat stomach and that’s not the case anymore…but here’s the best part – I have 4 boys that I am immensely grateful for,  and I wouldn’t trade a little bit of a stomach for any of those kids.  Another could be the wrinkles around my eyes – but I appreciate that I have had plenty to laugh about in this life.
  3. Embrace your Uniqueness – we are all created to be different,  so why would we want to change who we are in order to fit in?  I am very lucky that my parents always encouraged me to embrace my unique, quirky and feisty personality, because I wouldn’t be who I am today if I hadn’t.  Society teaches about fitting in all the time, and social media only accentuates that need…but what if we considered that the world just wouldn’t be as it should without US and what unique traits we have to offer.
  4. Don’t be afraid to be alone – before I met Brandon I was a single mom for about 5 years, and during that time I really wanted to meet someone to settle down.  What I realized is that I wasn’t ready to meet him until I was 100% OK with being alone.  I love the time I spend by myself, not that I don’t love the company of my family or my friends, but I also need that time to make me the best I can be for all of them.  Taking time to be alone to read, to contemplate, meditate, or exercise are great ways for us to enjoy alone time.
  5. Do things that make you happy – as you have probably noticed by now, one of my biggest loves is travel.  I love to travel with Brandon, with my kids, my friends and even alone.  The thrill of exploring new places, enjoying sunshine, waterfalls, the ocean, the forest, and many, many other things is really the reason I work.  Even going out of town for business is a huge thrill for me because I usually get at least a little time to relax.  I love to shop (I know, shocker), I love to go to movies and dinner with my family, I love river rafting, hiking, biking and sunbathing.  By doing any of these things we are able to fill our cups to make us better for ourself and those around us.

 

Oh and if by wearing some funky boots, or a fabulous leather skirt makes you feel as good as it makes me feel…I’ve linked my boots and the rest of my outfit (or similar pieces) below…


The Beauty of Simplicity

 

Overthinking is a PRISON of your own cursed thoughts – it’s where you get tangled!”

I have found that I may be a little bit of an over-thinker (for those of you that know me, not a shock I am sure!)  For some reason, and that reason is not logical, I seem to make things harder on myself by creating scenarios in my head, telling myself stories and just basically thinking about things that I have no need to think about.

I am sure you can imagine the problems something like this can cause…like, being worried about something that doesn’t even exist (except in my mind), causing my brain to be working overtime which creates exhaustion,  even when I am not aware that it is doing it.  I don’t know about you but logically I realize that this is reducing my productivity, creating stress, irritability and it can even cause lack of motivation.  Changing my thoughts or getting them under control is easier said than done, however, now that I am conscious that I do this, it makes it easier to recognize when things come up for me, so I can not let them take off running by themselves 😉

This thought process can also be something that we do when we think about how we dress and our style.  Have you ever found yourself worrying about what you are going to wear, overthinking it and then just throwing anything on because you don’t have the energy to worry about it.  It can definitely be a vicious cycle where we end up not feeling the best about ourselves because we are not allowing ourselves to take care of ourselves.  Even if you are not a follower of fashion or someone that cares about the latest trends, most of us still care what we look like and (whether we like it or not) it is important what others think about how we look.  So how do we create a space so that we can still look great, and not have to create drama or overthink it at the same time?

Keeping it simple is 100% the answer.  Once you start worrying about adding accessories, the shoes, the bag, whether you should wear a belt, the colors or patterns that suit you, and whether fabrics can be worn together or not it can become waaay too complicated and overwhelming.  So, here’s what I think:  stick to simple pieces, don’t worry about getting fancy, and don’t read too many fashion magazines that might make you feel like you are failing because you aren’t wearing the latest trends.

 

 

My outfit in this post is so simple, yet it’s still ME and classy.  A simple black dress (yes, the sleeves are little bit fancy, but it is just one piece to worry about), a pair of my style of booties,  and that is IT!  Nothing else to think about.

If you ever find yourself becoming overwhelmed by fashion, the first step is don’t try to be someone you are not.  The next step is to not give up, just try something that makes you feel good instead of just throwing in the towel.  Fashion is really there for us to take and make our own, not for us all to be walking around looking the same…because if it was, there would only ever be available one style, one color and one fabric.  Clothes are unique, and they are ours to mold into who WE are, not the other way around.

I honestly believe that the more confident we become in owning who we are, the easier style will come to us, and the better we will feel about ourselves.

My confidence comes from feeling good about how I look, what I accomplish, who I am but most importantly that I am a good person because it makes me feel good to help others.

 

Confidently be YOU

“When you step out of your comfort zone, you are stepping into your greatness!”

Even though I have always thought of myself as a confident person, there are definitely some things that still make me uncomfortable.  For example. when I first started this blog I was extremely uncomfortable about taking pictures in front of people, I felt self-conscious and I even thought I was being a conceited posting as many pictures of myself as I did.

What I found it that the more I take my pictures, the more open I am to just putting myself out there the easier it becomes.  There are still times when I have thoughts of self-doubt, and wonder if I am completely wasting my time writing this blog, but I realize that the whole point of my starting writing was so that I could let others know that stepping outside of a comfort zone is the only way to grow – and if we are not growing then we’re not living!

I trust myself to do things that are hard, and learn from my mistakes, and here’s the most important part – I am learning a huge lesson in grace.  I am learning that I need to cut myself some slack and not expect to get everything right the first time or to do it perfectly.  I know there are some of you out there that struggle with perfection issues, and wanting to do everything perfectly or not at all…so here’s to you, here’s to learning to do it at 70% and actually trying rather than not trying because you know you won’t be able to do it perfectly.

I made a promise to myself that I would do hard things to make myself better & to stretch myself, so that when I look back at this life, I could say that I didn’t waste any of it.  That I made mistakes, fell down and got up again, tried new things, taught others by example, and most importantly that I didn’t regret anything.

 

 

I still feel uncomfortable posting videos of myself, I don’t really like to see myself talking and I don’t really like the sound of my own voice.  As I write these words I realize how ridiculous they sound, so that’s why I am stepping even further out of my comfort zone with a project that I will be able to tell you about really soon!

What does it mean to be confidently YOU?  What makes you feel uncomfortable or stretches your confidence a little?  I can promise if you are willing to do one thing each week that makes you feel a little uncomfortable your confidence will grow enormously and before you know it, you’ll be doing things you didn’t even think you were capable of.  Whenever I am afraid of doing something I think about my kids and what message I am sending them by not doing something.  I know that as parents we expect our kids to do what we say, but I can tell you 100% that as I look back to when my kids were little, they were so much more likely to do what I DID rather than what I SAID.

Setting an example is the best way to pay it forward to your kids, your friends, your family and pretty much anyone that you come into contact with.  It definitely wouldn’t look too good for me to be talking about how important confidence and belief in yourself is if I didn’t practice what I preached!

If you could set yourself one goal each week that would help you become stronger, more confident and grow your comfort zone, what would it be?

Comment – i would love to know!

 


Take on Change

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination!”

 

About 2 years ago I made a decision to start this blog.  Since then I have found out how many things I actually didn’t know about social media, writing a blog, WordPress, and many, many more things.  But the good news about finding out what you don’t know is that you can then learn from it.  I am a long way from being a professional but I have definitely found some things that work and the main thing, I am thoroughly enjoying my journey.

I started my blog because I realized that I needed some positivity in my life at a time when it was seriously lacking.  I was in a deep, dark, negative hole and for some reason I was having a hard time pulling myself out.  As I have written about fashion, travel, my family, finding joy in your journey and many other things, a funny thing has happened…my life has completely turned around.  I am in the place I want to be now, and I am definitely attracting more positive things into my life.

I have found that the more intentional I get about what I want to accomplish, the more I focus my energies there, the more likely I am to achieve what I want and need in my life.

There is no easy, quick fix, it all requires consistent effort, focus and positivity, and even more importantly it requires you to have someone in your life that will hold you accountable when you are not being nice to yourself or allowing yourself grace.

 

 

I had an emotional weekend – not sure if it was jet lag, changes happening in my life, or just that time of the month.  As I was going through this I realized that I have a lot of people in my life that love me and are rooting for me…I have a husband that teaches me something every day – he helps me to focus on the good in me, and stop beating myself up for when I can’t control everything and make it perfect.  He loves me more than I ever thought possible, and because we work on ourselves together, we are making our relationship rock solid.  I have friends that love me and I feel blessed to have so many amazing people in my life.

One thing I have realized is that I love change, I actually love to mix things up (even just simple things that rearranging furniture or driving a different way home).  Change for me is the opportunity to challenge myself, to prevent from becoming bored, and most importantly, for me to be able to grow and make myself better as a person.  Change is definitely something that takes you out of your comfort zone but in a good way.  It allows you to expand that comfort zone and take on new challenges that eventually just end up being routine things that are easy to handle.

Starting today – I am ready to adjust the sails of my life and see which direction my life takes me…

What’s in store for you this week?

Shop this cute Red and Black, not forgetting the fabulous shoes by clicking the links below…

 

The Effect of Positivity

“Change your thoughts and you change your world!”

Are you someone that notices the energy of people or picks up on “vibes” in certain situations?

I am a firm believer in positivity and what that can do for you.  Basically, whatever energy you surround yourself with, positive or negative, that is the energy you are going to see more of.  It can also be said about our thoughts and what we are thinking.  Have you ever noticed that when you are feeling good, happy or not worried about something that more good things just seem to happen?  Or conversely that when something doesn’t go the way you want it to, and the more you focus on that bad thing, the more similar things seem to happen?

Even though I believe in attracting good things, I don’t mean in a way that it requires no action.  I just mean it in a way that if you want good or positive things to happen, then it is in your best interest to focus on more positive things.  It’s easy to think that because our thoughts are essentially invisible that nobody knows and they can’t do any harm, but that simply isn’t true.  In fact, I have most definitely learned the hard way that I need to focus on the things that I am grateful for rather than worrying about the things I don’t have.

If any of you out there have kids you will probably know this is true – tell a kid to NOT jump on the furniture, what they more often than not hear is the “jump on the furniture part”…

Positivity attracts more positivity, and so on!

 

It’s definitely easier to be positive or happy IF or WHEN something happens than it is even when things aren’t going the way you want them to.  I may or may not have mentioned this before, but I absolutely hate rain.  On my recent trip to Norway and Scotland, we definitely experienced some rain, wind, colder temperatures and things that might have totally put a damper on our whole trip.  So you may be thinking “how could I possibly feel anything but amazing being on vacation in this places and seeing the amazing scenery that I did”…well, it is definitely possible.  In fact, at one point in my life, I would have been so focused on how much I hated the rain, how cold it was or that things weren’t going EXACTLY the way I wanted them to…

I constantly battle with triggers & learning to change my response to them.  What I have found is that even though certain things do still trigger me, I am getting better at my response.  I am not letting the negativity or my sometimes unrealistic expectations control me!  I enjoyed every moment of my trip, rain, cold and all.  I traded my expectations for appreciations and let me tell you, I much prefer that kind of experience.

Even returning back to work after being gone for 10 days was not a chore for me…that has to be a WIN all in itself, right?

Happy Thursday – as the weekend approaches focus on positive self talk, and positive thoughts…let me know if you notice a difference 🙂

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Small Things Make all the Difference

“When you pay attention to the little things, the big picture will take care of itself!”

Planning ahead with my posting as I am leaving on vacation today and getting everything wrapped up before I leave.  This is not what I am wearing because when I travel (especially on a international flight) I love wear clothes that are extremely comfortable, without foregoing a little sass and style.  Stay tuned for my travel look and vacation pictures.

The outfit I am wearing in this post is one that I wore for work, but it is also perfect for date night, or pretty much any kind of daytime activity (at least for me because I always prefer to dress up a little more than most).

I don’t think I’m alone in thinking that sometimes the smallest things can make all the difference when planning an outfit.  Things like jewelry, a belt, a scarf, some kind of hair accessory, a bag or a pair of shoes can make an outfit look completely different.

I love finding fun things to transform my outfit – the earrings I am wearing in this post.  They were a gift a few years ago from a friend made by a local vendor…the colors and style worked so perfectly with my red top and black paper bag pants.  The studded belt added a little edge, and the bangle added a little boho.

 

 

When I pay attention to the details and feel like my outfit is totally put together and rocking it, I have an air of confidence, which translates to me walking differently, having a little sass in just knowing that I feel good about myself and how I look.

What gives you confidence in yourself and how you look?  Do you dress for yourself or to please others?  The more confidence I develop in myself and in wearing my own unique style, the more I am able to become more daring, more bold and ultimately happier.  I don’t think it’s shallow to put value on how you look, in fact, I think we owe it to ourselves to make the most of ourselves.

I hope your Sunday is fabulous, I know mine will be!

You can shop similar to this look by clicking the links below…

 

 

 

How to Transition into a New Season

 

“Replace fear of the unknown with curiosity!”

When the seasons change, no matter where you live, there is at least in some part a change in the weather (even if it’s only the slightest change).  So, what is the best way to transition your closet to a new season?  The fashion magazines tell us the latest styles, trends, fabrics and colors, but how do you fit those to YOUR unique style?

Sometimes, expanding your sights to new things can seem overwhelming, expensive and very challenging.  I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be…

I have many pieces of clothing that I continue to wear across seasons, things I pull out year after year and colors that can be adapted to my style.  I don’t ever buy a completely new wardrobe every season, that would be too expensive and impractical.  What I do is add a few new pieces and pair them with things I already own.  I love creating my own looks using new and old styles, colors and fabrics combined.

There are some fabrics that work better during cooler seasons, and some during warmer seasons, as well as patterns that you associate more with one season over another.  That doesn’t mean that you can’t cross over or color outside the lines a little, all it takes is a little imagination and experimentation.  Here are some styles, patterns or fabrics that you can transition into fall:

 

Leather – although leather is definitely a warmer fabric, I wear this every season of the year and love adapting my looks accordingly.  In spring pairing leather with florals is a great way to go, and in the fall adding a chunky sweater or an earth toned contrasting piece along with some boots is a great way to wear it.

 

 

 

Red is a color for any season – for fall try wearing your red (warm or cool red works) with tan, some form of animal print or just black.  Red is such a strong color that makes a statement all by itself, so by adding this to your fall look, you are going to make any outfit stand out.

 

 

Unexpected – I love adding colors that are a little more unexpected.  I love wearing a bright pair of shoes or boots that are unusual.  Not necessarily the color of the season but one that can be a contrast to the look of your outfit.  I have a pair of green satin booties that I love to wear in fall even though they are not a traditional fall color.  This is where the coloring outside the lines comes in 😉

 

 

Velvet is a great warmer fabric, so tends to be more traditionally worn in cooler seasons.  However, if you wear a velvet top with a satin or cotton skirt or pair of pants, it is versatile enough to be worn in spring.  By wearing these velvet shorts with a pair of tights and boots, I could transition the look into fall and winter…the possibilities are endless!

 

 

 

Tights are a great way to change your summer dress to a fall outfit.  A little summer dress paired with a funky pair of tights, and a duster or cardigan is a great way to get the most out of your summer look.

 

 

I am always looking for new things to try, new ideas, something that will make me stand out, that’s the only way anyone can grow.  So maybe your style isn’t to stand out or maybe you don’t like to be bold, that is OK, but in order to grow in anything in life, you have to try something different.  However you transition into the fall season, what if you tried something you haven’t tried before.  What if you found that thing was your new favorite thing?  I am always telling my kids that if they don’t try new foods how will they ever really know what they like?  Even a new accessory, a pair of sunglasses, a new color…trying something new expands our comfort zone and the more we do that the more confidence we get and the happier we become.  Baby steps work just fine 😉

 

Walk in Style

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail!”

I realize that not everyone loves shoes as much as I do, but one thing I can tell you is that if you don’t pay attention to the shoes you are wearing, it can mean the difference between making a good first impression and not!

Shoes are the icing on the cake, the last piece of the jigsaw puzzle that is your outfit, and if you wear a pair that doesn’t match, is scuffed or scruffy, isn’t the right style for the outfit you are wearing, what it does is draw attention from the best parts of you to something that is wrong.  It may seem shallow, but here’s the fact…people notice the shoes you are wearing and they will make assumptions about you (whether they are correct or not, and whether they should be doing it or not doesn’t matter).  You have the control to make sure that their assumptions of your are the ones that YOU want them to make.

Strange to think that something as small as a pair of shoes could control someone’s opinion of you or have them form a great first impression.  I have talked before that quite often I will pick out the shoes before anything else, but that isn’t always the case, and I realize that is not something that everyone may feel comfortable with, so…here are some simple rules of thumb when picking out your shoes/boots for an outfit:

  1. Only wear a pair of shoes or boots that you are comfortable wearing – no matter how cute a pair of shoes is, if it’s too high, too pointy or just plain uncomfortable it’s going to have the opposite effect than you were going for.  You will have a harder time walking and draw attention to that rather than the shoes.
  2. Wear shoes that won’t get lost in the outfit – for example if you are wearing a wide pair of pants, your shoes are pretty much going to be hidden, so the need to wear something really fancy isn’t there.  What you won’t want to do is have the pants trailing on the ground, so wear shoes that will show as you walk and prevent the pants from dragging.
  3. In business, I have always preferred wearing at least a small or kitten heel.  It doesn’t mean that you can’t wear flats, but take care when you do to wear a pair that is a little more structured rather than so soft that your foot looks like it’s falling out the sides.  The key here is to look more polished, because believe me, people WILL notice!
  4. When wearing jeans, skinny jeans work with so many different styles giving you so many more options.  I like to mix things up depending on the season or the occasion, and when I am going somewhere special I sometimes add a little sass.
  5. Bold patterns, fabrics and colors are a great way add a little spice to a normally bland or conservative outfit.  For example, these booties in this post with the skinny jeans add an extra little pop to a pair of black skinny jeans.

Shoes should definitely not be the last consideration when choosing your outfit, in fact, when you take a little care when choosing your shoes I know first hand that you will reap the rewards.  Who doesn’t love a compliment or a little attention that wearing an awesome pair of shoes can bring.  After all, the right pair of shoes can speak louder than words!

I don’t know about you but I am walking into this Monday in a sassy pair of shoes 🙂

 

 

Expand your Style Comfort Zone

“A comfort zone is a beautiful place but nothing ever grows there!”

Have you ever heard that your confidence grows in direct proportion to how much change or discomfort you are willing to face.

This is true of everything in life…for example.  When Brandon bought my mountain bike for me (it’s an electric bike that when you pedal has a little or a big kick of power depending on what you turn it to), I had NEVER mountain biked before.  I had always wanted to try it but was too scared to do it, so the first day I rode myself to the foothills of the mountains near my house where I knew there were some good, wide trails.  I rode up the hills great but became very nervous going downhill with the fear that I would fall over the handlebars, the rocks would make me fall off, and oh there was that one time where there was a snake across the trail!  He bought me the bike back in May for Mother’s Day and ever since then there has not been a week where I haven’t gone on at least 4 or 5 eight mile rides since then.

I am by no means a pro, but I am going faster and doing things that scared me to death now!  At the very least, I am confident enough in my ability to control the bike, to know what I can and can’t do, and most importantly, I am eager to try new trails and go new places.

You may be asking what this has to do with anything…well, here’s what I think.  Because this concept works with everything, it also translates to fashion and style.   Expanding your style repertoire can take baby steps, or a bold leap, depending on the level of change you are willing to face at any one time.

There are some styles that I would never wear…mainly because just because something comes in my size doesn’t mean it is appropriate OR cute for me to wear.  I do however, love to incorporate new things into my style, and when I do I have found that I have loved most of them.  Expanding your style comfort zone is something we can all do, but in our own way…so what is your way?

Each season there are new colors, new styles, patterns and fabrics – expanding your style could be simply just wearing a new color or fabric.  In today’s post the suit I am wearing is from a shopping trip to L.A., and the blouse is Zara.  I loved the luxurious color of the blouse along with the tweed of the suit because you are going to see a lot of tweed this fall and it is always a classic look.  If you were into the Gingham trend that has been around, tweed is a great alternative to switch things up.

The reason it is called a comfort zone is because it’s comfortable – which means it is easier NOT to change what you’re doing, but it is always not as fulfilling.  I have found that it is always a challenge to me to come up with new looks, new styles that work just for me, and put my own stamp onto styles of the season.

Here are some easy ways to expand your style comfort zone for the upcoming season:

  1. Add a scarf of a different color or fabric to mix things up
  2. Find your “go to” style and find it in velvet, satin or even leather
  3. Find a pair of funky, statement shoes or boots to make any outfit pop
  4. Wear a pair of funky, patterned or colored tights
  5. Wear a bold, bright pair of earrings (perhaps one with tassels) in a contrasting color
  6. Add glitter or sequins – they’ll definitely get you noticed
  7. Metallics are a great way to add spice, you can wear either shoes, scarf, bag, top or if you’re really bold, a pair of pants or a skirt
  8. Wear a color that is bright, bold and really noticeable
  9. Wear a pop of red or pink on your lips
  10. Fur – there’s never a bad time to add some fur

I hope you find some food for thought, and if you do, I would love to hear…

 

How to Feel Good about Yourself

 

“Feelings are much like waves.  We can’t stop them from coming but we can choose which ones to surf!”

 

I have been speaking a lot over the past week about confidence, self love and appreciation, so I though I would tie it all together…and when it is tied together, all the pieces work together to help us feel good about ourselves.

We are all so unique, the things that make us unique are our strengths.  For example, have you ever met a child that is really quirky, funny, sassy, or cheeky and that is what you love about them?  I have always been drawn to strong personalities, because those are the people that are not afraid to embrace their uniqueness.  For some reason, very often those children that are that way start to conform to “fit in” rather than continue marching to the beat of their own drum.  I find this really sad, and that’s why I wanted to talk about this topic today.

Here are my top 10 ways to help you to learn to feel good about yourself:

  1. Take pride in your strengths.  If you are caring, happy, loving, sharp, easygoing or fun…appreciating your qualities is the best way to feel good about yourself.  Have you ever noticed that your strengths are not someone else’s which means that you are the perfect person to be there for someone that needs a caring person when they’re feeling down or a fun person when they need lifting up?
  2. Don’t expect every day to be perfect or rosy.  You are going to have bad days and that’s OK!  It was so funny the other night I hadn’t had great sleep the night before, I was definitely irritable and I could feel a storm brewing. I had to take Jack, my 13 year old to his baseball game, but when I pulled up there was no one else there.  I immediately felt irritated, and said “of course, no one else is here…” and here’s Jack’s response to me – which made me stop in my tracks.  “Mum, not everything is going to go your way all the time, but your first reaction can’t be to become angry!”  Wow!  he definitely showed me, I felt at that moment that I wasn’t the parent anymore because he was 100% right!
  3. Work on developing a positive attitude.  I really do believe that we can train our brain to do anything we want it to.  Why not train it to think more positively?
  4. Know that you are worthy.  There is someone in this world that needs YOU and what you have to offer.
  5. Make a list of all the things you are thankful for.  When you write something down, your body remembers, and it is a great thing to refer back to when things aren’t going your way.
  6. Don’t tie all your confidence and self esteem to how you look.  Focusing on physical attributes rather than strengths or self worth will only open you up for more frustration and negativity.  This doesn’t mean don’t take care in your appearance, but rather allow yourself to recognize your other qualities.  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and when you have a positive attitude and feel good about yourself that is what you will see when you look in the mirror and what others will see too!
  7. Don’t worry about what others think.  Thing is, we can’t control what they think and more often than not how they feel about you has less to do with you and more to do with them!
  8. Focus on growing your self love by stopping comparison and focusing on your strengths.
  9. Work on developing your confidence.  This can come in so many ways, but a great way is to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable and grow your abilities and therefore your confidence.  The most confident people in this world aren’t the ones that sit at home in a safe place and do nothing, they are the ones that are changing the world by trying new things.
  10. Recognize that you may have insecurities but that they don’t have to define you.  Feeling like you are not great at something doesn’t make it so…they are just negative feelings and we can circumvent them by focusing on the previous 9 steps.

I can tell you that most of the time I feel confident, most of the time I know who I am and what my strengths are, but just like the other day, there are days when I don’t react the best way, when I feel down and don’t have energy, but there is always a new day, a new thought process and always a choice.

I whole heartedly believe that we get to choose how happy, how confident and how positive we are, and that we can retrain ourselves to think these thoughts.

It truly is that simple!

 

My appearance isn’t the only thing that makes me feel good about me, however, when I have a great shoot like the one in this post, I am definitely feeling good.  I have the pleasure of working with a great company that has some really cute pieces and one I am loving right now is this cute Kimono – you can shop this kimono and some of their other pieces by going to Poppy and Company (click link) and use the code STYLE15 for an exclusive 15% discount.  You’re welcome 🙂

Happy Weekend…