Spring Colors

Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be!

One of my favorite things about a changing season is all the new colors that are around. Spring is such a great time to start wearing bright, bold colors and mixing and matching.

Yellow is such a pretty, happy and bright color. I love finding out the meaning behind each color and wearing that color when I need to feel a certain way or I want to create a certain energy. Spiritually Yellow is the color for freshness, happiness, positivity, clarity and joy amongst other feelings.

Today’s outfit includes chambray joggers, white mules and a fabulous top – all of which work perfectly for spring and certainly made me feel positive and happy standing amongst the spring flowers taking these pictures.

Joggers – linked to shop here
Studded slides – linked to shop here
Yellow eyelet top – linked to shop here
Sunglasses – linked to shop here

Do you have certain colors that make you feel a certain way?

We all have certain colors that we are more drawn to than others, so what do we do when we see new styles or trends that tell us to wear something that is not exactly in tune with what we like?  It seems like everyone is telling what we should and shouldn’t like…so how do we decide what is best for US?  Do we just wear what the fashion magazines and stores tell us?

I don’t think anyone should do something that is something that doesn’t make them feel the best possible way about themselves…so here are my top 5 reasons you should wear colors that make you feel good:

  1. We may not realize, but our energy (both positive and negative) can be directly correlated to what colors we like.  If our favorite color is Red for example, then we are going to feel great when we are wearing Red!   So it stands to reason that if you want to feel positive about life, yourself, and what is happening around you, then you should wear the colors that evoke a positive response within you!
  2. It is also true that while colors can cause certain feelings and experiences within you, they can also do the same in others.  Red is a very strong, confident color…but it can also be intimidating to others.  So while it is important to wear those colors you are in tune with, you also need to consider different shades within your favorite colors, so as not to cause adverse reactions in others.  Essentially, know your audience – and if you are dealing with someone that is not going to like you to be too bold or overbearing, then you shouldn’t wear a color similar to the Red dress in this post (darker or more muted Red tones are more appropriate in this case).
  3. It is important to get feedback from others when you try new styles or colors, but bear in mind their opinions may be more in tune with what they like than what is going to make you feel good.  You may have one friend that loves Green so when you try something Green she is going to think it’s amazing, but it may not feel the same way to you.
  4. For each season you are going to see different shades of colors, so if you want to feel like you are still “in style” for the current season, you can try different shades of your favorite colors.  Yellow is a great example, for summer and spring it is bright and bold but for fall and winter, you will see more mustard colors…they are still Yellow but they work differently at different times of the year.
  5. Finally, fall in love with your favorite colors.  Red is absolutely my favorite color, and whenever I am shopping I am innately drawn to that color.  After wearing it, I recognize that it is my power color and I pull it out when I need to feel strong and confident.  I am in tune with what works for me and makes me feel good…so fall in love with what you love and you can use that to help you feel amazing and confident when you are wearing something you love too!

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Have fun with Accessories

Accessories are like the perfect spice. They compliment what is already there…

Yes – I do believe that shoes are the most important part of an outfit.
No – that doesn’t mean it’s the only thing you can think about!

I love spending time finding great accessories that can help make an outfit pop – in fact, aside from changing a pair of shoes, accessories are the easiest and most noticeable ways to affect how you look. By adding a great pair of earrings you can achieve an immediate style pop. A bag can be the thing that draws the eye and even easier, now that spring is here and summer around the corner, add a fabulous pair of sunnies.

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I always have so much fun shopping for accessories (OK, I admit it, I pretty much have fun shopping for ANYTHING)…but for accessories, it’s an easy one, you can just buy whatever and then find things to go with it. Earrings are a personal favorite of mine – I definitely love statement earrings, especially when I am wearing my hair up.

If you are looking for a way to “up” your style game, accessories are the perfect way to do it. Buy a fabulous pair of earrings or necklace (find some of my top picks at the end of this post that you can shop, a pair of fun sunnies (shop mine right here), or even a set of bead bracelets or bangles for your summer styling (see the end of the post to shop more of my picks).

Snow Days

In the depth of winter I found that there was in me an invincible summer!

I had visited Utah many times when I was younger, visiting family and eventually when I came over to go to school here.  Whenever I returned to England I always missed the mountains and their beauty.  It was a strange feeling to miss a place and feel so at home in a place that I had never lived.

It’s been over 20 years since I moved here now and even though I miss England I still consider Utah my home…I love summers especially and I do love the beauty of the snow.  I am not a huge fan of cold weather, there is no denying the beauty of the sunshine against the beautiful white mountains and blue skies.  

This weekend I am spending time with my youngest 2 boys up in Midway (a small town about 45 minutes outside of Salt Lake City), and as you can see the snow is bringing real beauty here. I took a moment to snap a few pictures of me playing with the snow and acting silly and I have to admit, it felt really good.  Sometimes we get so caught up in our day to day lives, and I know that I have a tendency to be a little too serious sometimes.  So I have to admit, when I allow myself to let it go and I am not the “fun sponge” like my kids have been known to call me, I actually have been known to have a little fun (even when I’m cold).

Don’t be surprised if you actually find some posts and pictures of me over the next few months in full winter gear, sledding and skiing.  I promised Brandon and the boys that I would do a little of each.  In fact, between Christmas and New Year we will be going to our family cabin in Star Valley Wyoming and pretty much all we will be doing is hibernating and a few winter activities.

When it’s a beautiful, sunny winter day, it’s the perfect time to add a little fur to your wardrobe and have fun with it.  I am wearing a cute black fur vest, I added a plum colored beanie and my great Sorel winter/rain booties.  Throw on a pair of faux leather leggings, and cozy winter sweater, your favorite sunnies and voila…the perfect winter look!
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That Vogue Feeling

“Life is a mirror – what you see from your outside comes from your inside!”

 

Whether you’re like I was when I started this blog and hate having your picture taken, or even if you don’t mind at all, there are definitely some pictures that you HATE and those that you LOVE!

Thankfully in this digital age and with fast shutter speeds a lot of the pictures I have taken manage to capture me without my eyes closed, and some even make me have that “Vogue” feeling – where I feel like I could actually be a model.  Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t ACTUALLY think I could be in Vogue magazine, but I have learned to appreciate my beauty and definitely love finding good pictures of me.

The reason I am telling you this is that it is so important for us to see our own beauty, and like the quote says, true beauty comes from being beautiful on the inside too.  I have known a lot of people in my life that may not have had the most attractive features but once I got to know them, I realized that they were the most beautiful of all people…because they radiated that inner beauty.  The same can be said for those people that have the perfect features, and are pleasing to the eye, if they are not beautiful on the inside, that will eventually show and they won’t be seen as beautiful people.  Do you remember that movie “Shallow Hal” with Jack Black and it had a cameo from Tony Robbins who actually taught him to see the inside and not just the outside.  Once he did that he started overlooking people’s outside flaws and saw them for who they really are.

OK, so I know that Tony Robbins is not going to actually do that for each of us, but here’s a great way we can start:  We can see ourselves as beautiful, recognize beauty in others (and not just appearance beauty but the real stuff) and the more that we look for it, the more we will see it (including in ourselves).  I know a lot of people that can truly see beauty in others but have a hard time seeing it in themselves.  For whatever reason they don’t like to look for it.  Here’s what I’ll tell you, just like the lack of inner beauty eventually shows, so does the real beauty and no matter what, even if you kid yourself that you aren’t actually beautiful or deserve love, guess what, it’s going to come out in the end.  You may as well see it for yourself because it’s not something that can be permanently hidden.

 

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Perhaps it’s a worthiness, where because of something in your past you don’t feel worthy of love or anyone’s praise?  Perhaps you have heard your entire life that you aren’t beautiful from someone you trusted or loved?  Or it could even be that you have faced some type of bullying or abuse?  The only way you can change your past is by changing your future.  If you’re still believing what someone told you, how you felt, and you’re ultimately agreeing with what they said or did, then you are still allowing that person or situation to control you.  Maybe i’m the only one that has a problem with control, but I can tell you, something like that wouldn’t sit well with me – I definitely wouldn’t want to feel that someone or something else had power over me.

Don’t get me wrong, there have been times in my life when I have felt “less than” because of someone’s behavior, because of not meeting unrealistic expectations I put on myself, and many more reasons.  So, when I did eventually come to my senses and realize that in order to move through something I had to just let go, that’s when everything changed.  I have been known to have a hard time letting things go, i’m not going to lie, so when I tell you that I did it, just know that it didn’t happen overnight.  In fact it took years, and during that time when I didn’t let go I was absolutely miserable.  I had this notion that everyone should know what an injustice had been done to me, that it just wasn’t fair, and honestly I thought I was fighting back, but what I realized is that what I was doing was perpetuating the situation.

So how do we move through something so that we can start to see our beauty (and not just the mirror reflection kind of beauty)?  The easy answer is just change your thoughts, but that’s easier said than done.  So honestly, here’s what it will take…repetition, telling ourself that we are beautiful, so that eventually we start to see what others see.  And here’s the best news, as you start to see beauty in yourself, the beauty around you becomes so much more pronounced and life just starts to seem rosier!

I don’t about you but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with looking at the world through rose colored glasses – who knows we might actually start to find things and people we didn’t even know existed.

Happy Wednesday – you’ve made it to the middle of the week, there’s definitely beauty in that!

 

 

 

 

Small Things Make all the Difference

“When you pay attention to the little things, the big picture will take care of itself!”

Planning ahead with my posting as I am leaving on vacation today and getting everything wrapped up before I leave.  This is not what I am wearing because when I travel (especially on a international flight) I love wear clothes that are extremely comfortable, without foregoing a little sass and style.  Stay tuned for my travel look and vacation pictures.

The outfit I am wearing in this post is one that I wore for work, but it is also perfect for date night, or pretty much any kind of daytime activity (at least for me because I always prefer to dress up a little more than most).

I don’t think I’m alone in thinking that sometimes the smallest things can make all the difference when planning an outfit.  Things like jewelry, a belt, a scarf, some kind of hair accessory, a bag or a pair of shoes can make an outfit look completely different.

I love finding fun things to transform my outfit – the earrings I am wearing in this post.  They were a gift a few years ago from a friend made by a local vendor…the colors and style worked so perfectly with my red top and black paper bag pants.  The studded belt added a little edge, and the bangle added a little boho.

 

 

When I pay attention to the details and feel like my outfit is totally put together and rocking it, I have an air of confidence, which translates to me walking differently, having a little sass in just knowing that I feel good about myself and how I look.

What gives you confidence in yourself and how you look?  Do you dress for yourself or to please others?  The more confidence I develop in myself and in wearing my own unique style, the more I am able to become more daring, more bold and ultimately happier.  I don’t think it’s shallow to put value on how you look, in fact, I think we owe it to ourselves to make the most of ourselves.

I hope your Sunday is fabulous, I know mine will be!

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It’s Easy to feel Happy When Things are Going Your Way!

 

“There is no path to happiness.  Happiness is the path!”

Have you ever noticed that feeling happy tends to come easier when things are going your way?  I feel like I can handle anything when the kids are doing well in school, when my relationship with Brandon is solid, when sales at work are going the way I think they should, when I feel good about my hair, my outfit and my body…etc, etc.  The list can really go on, because I have definitely been guilty of putting conditions on my happiness and only allowing myself to feel happy when I feel like things are going well.

As I started to think about this, I realized that this is pretty common in today’s age, the age of comparison because as I have talked about before, we compare, and then sometimes our happiness can be dependent on whether we reach or are able to enjoy certain criteria – like the money to do and buy what we want, freedom to travel, kids that achieve perfect or at least excellent grades and never give us ANY trouble (isn’t that what everyone else’s kids are doing?), or a fairytale romance.

Have you ever sat and thought about whether or not you place conditions on your happiness?  What I mean by that is “I will feel happy when…” whatever that might be, or “things will be great if only…”  One thing I do know is that our lives are already complicated and very often challenging through nothing we are doing but because of outside influences or situations beyond our control, so why would we ourselves put conditions on our happiness which only makes it even more complicated?

For the longest time I didn’t even realize that I was doing this.  I just thought that when things would happen that went against my “master plan” that it was normal for me to feel a little paralyzed or unable to take action.  In fact, what happens is that my reality at that moment doesn’t match up with the happiness conditions I have so all the wheels seem to fall off.  As I started to become more conscious about what I was doing and why I was feeling that way, I started to realize that I was actually sabotaging my own happiness and success.  In fact, it started to happen so much that it even affected my family.  I don’t know about you, but in my home, when mum is not feeling her best, acting happy or just feeling a little down, all the cogs seem to stop turning and things become even worse.  I guess it’s a compliment to think that I am such a strong influence in my home, but it is also a huge responsibility because it sometimes doesn’t allow me to feel down.

 

 

So, when consciousness takes over, and my actions are no longer automatic, it becomes a little easier to focus on happiness, and not the happiness that is dependent on something or someone else.  I have started noticing the beauty in the world (I don’t think I ever remember paying so much attention to nature, to the sky, to the mountains), I have started feeling gratitude for the people I have in my life, and not taking any relationship for granted.  I have started appreciating everything about ME, flaws and all, and realizing what value I bring, and not just by what I do but by who I am.  I have been riding my mountain bike a lot, and I have learned to love doing it by myself, taking that time to thing, ponder and appreciate that I am physically able, and that I have beautiful mountains almost outside my back door.

Do you allow certain conditions to determine your happiness?  If you are someone that is extremely successful at your job, one easy pitfall is to place your happiness on your success.  I have experienced this in my career, where I feel fantastic when things are going well, but suddenly, when things are not (through no fault of my own) I suddenly feel like an imposter.  I feel like I am not able to do my job well anymore, that I really don’t know what I am doing and my self confidence has plummeted because a lot of my self worth was coming from my success.

Happiness is something you decide consciously, which means YOU decide if you want to feel that way.  Yes, there are times when things will be really sad, and things won’t go your way, but again, we can still make a choice – and I choose happiness.  I practice this every day, and I know that my practicing it, I am becoming better!

Happy Monday – what better way to start off a new week by making a choice to feel happy without strings attached 🙂

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T Shirt – @ginapotter
Pants – DownEast Basics *ON SALE*
Similar Bag – J Crew
Sunglasses – Quay Australia
Lipstick – NYX

 

Style Personality

 

“People may hate you for being different and not living by society’s standards, but deep down they wish they had the courage to do the same!”

You may have noticed a common theme on my social media and blog, and that is I talk about not being afraid to be yourself, be unique and express YOUR style personality…

Here’s another thought – do you just have to have one personality?  I don’t think so.

If you’re anything like me there are times when you want to be more edgy, there are times when you want to feel more feminine, and there are times when sophistication is the way you want to go.  These are just a few of my style personalities, because I have many…the reason I tell you this is that I think it’s important to not ever limit yourself or pigeon hole yourself into one style.  Today’s picture is a more feminine style, and that was what I was aiming for when I put it together.  I felt good about how I looked and even curled my hair used heated curlers (yes I still have some of those even though I haven’t used them for a couple of years).

I have heard many people talk about how a certain style is “them” and that they always gravitate to certain styles, colors, patterns and cuts…and that’s absolutely OK, especially if you open your mind to other options as well.

I have talked a lot about what I was like growing up and how I always had a very strong idea about how I wanted to look, what I wanted to do and how I wanted to do it, so for me having the ability to change how I look has been very important.  Being independent and strong willed, I never wanted to be limited or caged like a bird, for me freedom comes from knowing I can create whatever I want – even with style.

I do realize that not everyone has such a clear idea in their mind about how they might like to express their personality through their style, and certainly there are those of you that may not even think style or fashion is important.  If you are one of these people, let me pose a couple of questions to you…do you feel self conscious when you are around someone that has the appearance of being completely put together?  Do you compare yourself to others and how they look?  Do you feel insecure about yourself in any way?

If you answered yes to any one of these questions, then I will tell you that there is hope!   Self confidence comes from being comfortable with who you are, and more often than not, when you compare yourself to others it’s because you are judging yourself.  I have found that the more care I take with how I look, the more positive reactions I get from others, and more importantly the better I feel about ME.  Even if you don’t care about style or following the latest trends it doesn’t mean that you unican’t still rock your own style.

Here are some tips for finding your unique style:

  1. Don’t be afraid to try something on because it scares you because it’s different.
  2. Mix and match patterns, styles and colors – you never know what works together for you until you try it.
  3. Ask a friend – I have a few friends that text me pictures of outfits and ask my opinion.  I am always honest and you will want to find someone who will do the same for you.
  4. Dress for the occasion – there is nothing worse than being over or under dressed.  I always err on the side of dressing up more than down, and this has always worked for me.
  5. Whatever outfit you put together, if you’ve followed the steps above, wear it with your head held high and walk with confidence.
  6. Believe in YOU.  You are unique, your style will be unique – don’t be a cookie cutter.  Trying to be someone else is only going to cause more self consciousness.

I hope these tips help, but if you have questions, please email me and I will get back to you!

 

 

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Angels in Disguise

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“I’ve always loved the idea of not being what people expect me to be.”

As we have been traveling on a road trip with 3 of my boys, and have had the pleasure of spending time with my brother and his family up in the Seattle area, it has given me the opportunity to contemplate how I got to this place in my life.

I started out as a feisty and determined “little madam” and I can assure you none of that has changed.  I love to challenge myself, to grow and to help whoever I can along the way.  I feel like the world needs people that are not just “followers” but those that are not afraid to be bold enough to stand out and almost be controversial.  That is how amazing things happen!

So, as I think about me and what is important in this life, I realize that I am where I am because of the people I have in my life.  Not everyone in my life is easy, and those are the ones that I am most grateful for.  Having a child, a spouse, a coworker, a friend or an acquaintance that pushes every limit of our patience and understanding…those are the ones that help us grow into the person we are destined to be.  They are our Angels in Disguise.

For some reason (and I am sure because I must have had some serious lessons to learn), I have had plenty of Angels in Disguise in my life, in fact, sometimes I keep having the same type of person in my life because obviously I haven’t learned what I need to yet 🙁

Have you ever thought about people in your life that are particularly challenging and perhaps considered that they may be really helping you?  That they could be YOUR Angel in Disguise?  I know when I think about people that really challenge me in this perspective it actually changes my reaction, helps me become a little less triggered and amazingly enough, to grow and become better at dealing with things.  So what if…you thought of the most challenging people in your life as the ones that are really helping you to grow?  Does that change anything for you?  I would love to know!  Comment below

Maybe some of this positive thinking is enough to get you through hump day!! Happy Wednesday my friends…

 

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Conditional Confidence

“Work on being in love with the person in the mirror who has been through so much but is still standing!”

Have you ever put conditions on your confidence or self-esteem?  Let me explain…

I have been in sales for 20 years now and have experienced huge successes which has afforded me the opportunity to travel and create amazing memories with my family.  Because I have worked really hard at it and become successful, a lot of my self confidence came from that success.  So, when I decided to start writing this blog I didn’t have the same amount of confidence in myself or my abilities.  In fact, I started to wonder if anyone would even be interested in what I might have to say, or if it could provide any value. I started to shy away from interacting with other bloggers and almost hid behind the computer rather than putting myself “out there” and being confident and bold.

I had put conditions on my confidence – I only felt good if I got a certain number of comments or likes on my social media and I started to feel a little insecure about my abilities.  It took me a while but I realized that this was a self-defeatist mindset and it was actually getting it the way of my happiness and success.  So here’s what I started to do – I pushed myself to do as many things that made me feel uncomfortable as possible so that I could grow and become stronger.  I started to accept my value even on those days where the engagement of my blog or social media was low, so that my confidence or happiness was no longer dependent on my success (or at least my perceived success!)

After going through these things I started to realize that this has been a pattern in my life – when things were going well I felt really good about myself, but if I had a bad sales month (or year) or I had a client cancel etc., etc. it made me feel like I wasn’t any good at what I was doing.  Now this is a double edged sword – it created a huge amount of drive in my career and life, BUT it also meant that no matter what, at some point, I was going to let a situation or a person determine how confident I felt in myself.  Obviously not the best way to live my life.

Do you find yourself putting conditions on how you feel about yourself?  Is your self-worth or confidence DEPENDENT on something?  It is a really common thought process in a lot of people, but if you can master the art of shining no matter what is going on in your life, and not allowing things or people determine how you feel about yourself, everything else just seems to work itself out – and not because everything is going to always go your way, but because you can handle it when it doesn’t!

If you have experienced in the past or if you currently find yourself thinking that you worth is conditional on certain things, I wanted to share with you a concept…

What if you just considered yourself as a unique, irreplaceable person, that is valued unconditionally, and that when you see yourself as this person, you will be able to connect and create stronger relationships in your life, the relationships that you deserve.  Would it be worth thinking this way instead of letting thoughts of shame, negativity, insecurity or judgement  camp out in your mind?  I can tell you that it worked for me, and that I work every day on focusing on the good in me…

 

 

Have an amazing weekend – I would love to hear what you think about this concept…Comment below!

 

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Keys to Feeling Empowered

“You can find me somewhere in between inspiring others, working on myself, dodging negativity and slaying my goals!”

 

When we came into this world we all had the same amount of potential…

Circumstances, environment and attitude determine what we do with that potential.  No matter who you are, chances are you have had experiences and lived through circumstances that have essentially “rocked your world”.  It’s definitely easy to let our circumstances and our living conditions or environment get us down, but one thing is for sure…it is possible to change your outcome!

We watched a movie last night and it’s a silly, funny movie, but it made me think…The movie was “Joe Dirt” and if you are not familiar with the movie it is about an 8 year old boy that is “lost” by his parents at the Grand Canyon.  He spends the next 25 years searching for his family only to find out that they left him on purpose.  I know, sounds very silly, and obviously it is not very likely to be real, but it made me pause for a minute and think about my challenges.  The hard things that I have been through, the things that have essentially defined my path, are all opportunities to grow.  Trust me, it’s definitely not easy to look at my challenges and say “well…this is for my own good” when I am in pain, and sometimes in the deepest and darkest moments of my life.  But one thing I have learned as I have gone through some pretty serious challenges (like moving to the U.S. as a single mother, with no job and just praying things would figure themselves out because I needed a better life for my son), is that my strength has grown, my determination has become refined, and my confidence is much more solid than it has ever been.

So how do you become empowered to be who you are capable of being?  I truly believe that whether you believe in God, a higher power, guardian angels or just the universe, there is definitely something or someone out there rooting for you.  I have experienced this many, many times, when I didn’t think things would work out, and somehow they did.  I have realized that I can make decisions to make things happen, but the only way that truly works is that I TRUST and that I am not afraid.

I recently started Mountain Biking, and this morning Brandon and I went on a really scary trail that was about 8 miles to the top of a mountain with narrow switchbacks  I fell about 6 or 7 times, I cried, I got frustrated, I was angry, I was terrified, but obviously as I sit here writing this post, one thing is for sure, I made it.  The sense of accomplishment was amazing, even though I know I didn’t do it perfectly, at least I did it!

So, with all these things being said, how do you feel empowered?  Here are MY top 5 ways, you may have different ones that work for you…but these are the ones I use:

  1. Believe in myself – I absolutely 100% know that I can do anything I set my mind to.  It may not be smooth sailing, but I will figure out a way to make it happen!
  2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  Vulnerability and trust are things that are essential to make it through this life with someone by your side.  All relationships are based on these two things.
  3. Put in the work – I see a lot of books that talk about manifestations, but honestly without effort and action, it doesn’t matter how much you believe or think something will happen.
  4. Be patient – this is a really hard one for me – I want it and I want it now…but I am learning.
  5. Be there for someone else – this is a great way to remove the focus from you and help someone who needs you.  I have found that when I am serving or helping someone, because the energy is positive, it opens more and more doors for me.  I don’t do it with a focus on me, but that is definitely a side effect.

 

I hope as you head into this week, you find yourself believing in YOU and if you don’t already, starting to believe that you deserve great things!

Happy Monday!