That Vogue Feeling

“Life is a mirror – what you see from your outside comes from your inside!”

 

Whether you’re like I was when I started this blog and hate having your picture taken, or even if you don’t mind at all, there are definitely some pictures that you HATE and those that you LOVE!

Thankfully in this digital age and with fast shutter speeds a lot of the pictures I have taken manage to capture me without my eyes closed, and some even make me have that “Vogue” feeling – where I feel like I could actually be a model.  Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t ACTUALLY think I could be in Vogue magazine, but I have learned to appreciate my beauty and definitely love finding good pictures of me.

The reason I am telling you this is that it is so important for us to see our own beauty, and like the quote says, true beauty comes from being beautiful on the inside too.  I have known a lot of people in my life that may not have had the most attractive features but once I got to know them, I realized that they were the most beautiful of all people…because they radiated that inner beauty.  The same can be said for those people that have the perfect features, and are pleasing to the eye, if they are not beautiful on the inside, that will eventually show and they won’t be seen as beautiful people.  Do you remember that movie “Shallow Hal” with Jack Black and it had a cameo from Tony Robbins who actually taught him to see the inside and not just the outside.  Once he did that he started overlooking people’s outside flaws and saw them for who they really are.

OK, so I know that Tony Robbins is not going to actually do that for each of us, but here’s a great way we can start:  We can see ourselves as beautiful, recognize beauty in others (and not just appearance beauty but the real stuff) and the more that we look for it, the more we will see it (including in ourselves).  I know a lot of people that can truly see beauty in others but have a hard time seeing it in themselves.  For whatever reason they don’t like to look for it.  Here’s what I’ll tell you, just like the lack of inner beauty eventually shows, so does the real beauty and no matter what, even if you kid yourself that you aren’t actually beautiful or deserve love, guess what, it’s going to come out in the end.  You may as well see it for yourself because it’s not something that can be permanently hidden.

 

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Perhaps it’s a worthiness, where because of something in your past you don’t feel worthy of love or anyone’s praise?  Perhaps you have heard your entire life that you aren’t beautiful from someone you trusted or loved?  Or it could even be that you have faced some type of bullying or abuse?  The only way you can change your past is by changing your future.  If you’re still believing what someone told you, how you felt, and you’re ultimately agreeing with what they said or did, then you are still allowing that person or situation to control you.  Maybe i’m the only one that has a problem with control, but I can tell you, something like that wouldn’t sit well with me – I definitely wouldn’t want to feel that someone or something else had power over me.

Don’t get me wrong, there have been times in my life when I have felt “less than” because of someone’s behavior, because of not meeting unrealistic expectations I put on myself, and many more reasons.  So, when I did eventually come to my senses and realize that in order to move through something I had to just let go, that’s when everything changed.  I have been known to have a hard time letting things go, i’m not going to lie, so when I tell you that I did it, just know that it didn’t happen overnight.  In fact it took years, and during that time when I didn’t let go I was absolutely miserable.  I had this notion that everyone should know what an injustice had been done to me, that it just wasn’t fair, and honestly I thought I was fighting back, but what I realized is that what I was doing was perpetuating the situation.

So how do we move through something so that we can start to see our beauty (and not just the mirror reflection kind of beauty)?  The easy answer is just change your thoughts, but that’s easier said than done.  So honestly, here’s what it will take…repetition, telling ourself that we are beautiful, so that eventually we start to see what others see.  And here’s the best news, as you start to see beauty in yourself, the beauty around you becomes so much more pronounced and life just starts to seem rosier!

I don’t about you but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with looking at the world through rose colored glasses – who knows we might actually start to find things and people we didn’t even know existed.

Happy Wednesday – you’ve made it to the middle of the week, there’s definitely beauty in that!

 

 

 

 

Let your Inner Light Shine

 

“Aging is not lost youth, but a new stage of opportunity and strength!”

I remember being a teenager and feeling frustrated that I couldn’t do things that adults could and that I had rules that I felt were unnecessary!  It’s so weird, that I was wishing my life away and wanting to grow up so quickly.  Now that I am well into my forties my only regret is that I hadn’t spent my time wishing my years away.  Now I value my time, every minute, and I love who I am today.

I no longer focus too much on things that are going to happen, but rather I like to enjoy exactly what is going on in the here and now.  I realize how valuable time is and that every wrinkle and smile line is there because of the many experiences and the journey I have been on.

Aging is not for the faint of heart though – it is definitely something that is hard as a woman.  I still feel like I am 20 years old, and I want to be able to do all the things I used to be able to do.  That’s why staying healthy, staying in shape, taking care of my skin, my body and my mind are vital to me so that on the day that my kids decide to make me a Grandma, I can be the active, cool Grandma 🙂

 

 

I look in the mirror sometimes and don’t recognize the person I see.  Sometimes I notice more of my flaws and the signs of aging and other times, I truly see what is underneath and recognize my value.  As I already said, this getting older thing is something that needs quite a bit of faith and self love.

There are definitely some things about aging that we can’t control, but there are still some things we can do to ensure that we look the best as we’re doing it!  I am all in favor of doing things that make you feel good – whether that is great skin care, eating healthy, exercising, relaxation or anything else that tickles your fancy!

Above everything else, no matter what, I know that feeling good about myself makes my inner light shine and that is the best anti-aging thing anyone can do!

Have a blessed Sunday!

What your Eyes say about You

“Eyes are captivatingly beautiful.  Not because of the color but because of the words they hold within them!”

I am sure you have all heard that the eyes are the window to the soul…well, I can tell you that by looking into someone’s eyes, and I mean REALLY looking, you can actually tell a lot about a person!

In fact, if you really do take the time to sit and notice someone, look at them and connect with them you can feel their energy and start to learn things about them.  I have always been someone that has had a hard time hiding my emotions, in fact if you ever really want to know how I am feeling about something, you just need to look at my face and definitely my eyes.

The reason I am telling you about this, is that the greatest thing we can do for ourselves and others in this live is to truly connect.  So, if you really want to connect with someone, take the time to notice things about them, pay attention to their eye movement, whether they look you in the eye, and the sparkle or lack of sparkle in their eyes.

Does this seem crazy or are you open to this concept?  After over 20 years in sales, I can attest to the importance of stepping into someone else’s world rather than pushing your own agenda.  Even if you think you are not in sales so this doesn’t apply to you…think again.  We are ALL in sales in one form or another.  Whether you are starting a new relationship, interviewing for a new position, developing friendships or wanting to make the relationship with your spouse or children better, you are in sales.  The goal is to let the other person really see what you are about, what a good person you are, and how much you care – all sales.

So, if you could just take the time to notice someone instead of carrying on your own agenda, how much do you think that could change your life?  I know in my life, when I truly want to connect with someone, I don’t spend all the time talking about ME, I listen, I notice, I watch, and I learn…remembering important details in another person’s life and connecting with them on that level is vital to establishing and maintaining amazing relationships.  I always tell my kids that if you want to HAVE a friend, you have to BE a friend – in that order!

Here’s the part where I have struggled in my life – I love to be the most loyal and trustworthy friend, but there have only been a select few that I have allowed to become that close to me.  I have been reluctant to be completely vulnerable because of times in the past where people have taken advantage of that vulnerability.  Only those that truly notice me are the ones that I have let in completely.   While my actions were there to help protect me, what they actually have done in the past have ultimately made me more lonely and isolated.  I am finally to a place in my life, where I know the REAL people that I want in it, I let those people in and I allow myself the grace to not be perfect and share that with those closest to me 🙂

Have you ever looked into someone’s eyes and just KNOWN what they are thinking or how they are feeling?  I can tell you that this has made a huge difference in my life…it has allowed me to have amazing relationships and I feel very blessed because of them.

Could using this tool do anything in your life?  As you look into my eyes what do you see?

 

Appreciate Your Beauty

“Make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those that don’t value you or know your worth!”

 

When you look at yourself in the mirror what do you see?  Do you notice your flaws or appreciate your beauty?

I think it is so easy to look ourselves and see only what is wrong and not notice the good things.  We all have a voice in our head telling us things and sometimes it is not telling us good things.  Sometimes it lets us believe that we are not good enough, it may even tell us to worry about what others may think of us or how they could view us.  If we don’t have and unshakeable confidence in ourselves it is easy to see how some of these thoughts could make those moments in the front of the mirror less than fun.

A simple but effective technique I have found to work for me when I start feeling negative or self-defeating thoughts about myself or a situation is for every negative or bad thing I see, I make myself find 3 things that are good.  So, for example, if I look at myself and think “I don’t like how fine my hair is” I then find 3 things that I love about myself as I am looking in the mirror.  Maybe, I love the color of my eyes, I like my dimples and I love how it doesn’t take me long to style my hair because it’s fine.

I know, it may sound like a simplistic approach but I can promise that it works.

 

 

Another way I can appreciate myself more is by paying attention to myself.  By taking care of how I look, spending time nurturing my need for alone time, checking in with myself to recognize when negative or sabotaging thoughts come into my mind.

I have found that the greater thought I take with my appearance, not for the benefit of others, always makes me feel better about myself.  Whether you are someone that is interested in fashion or style, or if you prefer to not stand out doesn’t matter, because taking care of your appearance is really about you making the most of YOU for the benefit of YOU.  My only hope is that more and more Women will confidence in being themselves and expressing themselves in their own unique way.  When you feel great about how you look it changes everything.  I even changes how others see you because people are drawn more to self confidence.

I hope this Friday as you head into the weekend you are able to focus more on the amazing things about you rather than what you perceive are your flaws.  But, if you are still seeing what is wrong, take time to also notice what is great!

Happy weekend…

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Style Personality

 

“People may hate you for being different and not living by society’s standards, but deep down they wish they had the courage to do the same!”

You may have noticed a common theme on my social media and blog, and that is I talk about not being afraid to be yourself, be unique and express YOUR style personality…

Here’s another thought – do you just have to have one personality?  I don’t think so.

If you’re anything like me there are times when you want to be more edgy, there are times when you want to feel more feminine, and there are times when sophistication is the way you want to go.  These are just a few of my style personalities, because I have many…the reason I tell you this is that I think it’s important to not ever limit yourself or pigeon hole yourself into one style.  Today’s picture is a more feminine style, and that was what I was aiming for when I put it together.  I felt good about how I looked and even curled my hair used heated curlers (yes I still have some of those even though I haven’t used them for a couple of years).

I have heard many people talk about how a certain style is “them” and that they always gravitate to certain styles, colors, patterns and cuts…and that’s absolutely OK, especially if you open your mind to other options as well.

I have talked a lot about what I was like growing up and how I always had a very strong idea about how I wanted to look, what I wanted to do and how I wanted to do it, so for me having the ability to change how I look has been very important.  Being independent and strong willed, I never wanted to be limited or caged like a bird, for me freedom comes from knowing I can create whatever I want – even with style.

I do realize that not everyone has such a clear idea in their mind about how they might like to express their personality through their style, and certainly there are those of you that may not even think style or fashion is important.  If you are one of these people, let me pose a couple of questions to you…do you feel self conscious when you are around someone that has the appearance of being completely put together?  Do you compare yourself to others and how they look?  Do you feel insecure about yourself in any way?

If you answered yes to any one of these questions, then I will tell you that there is hope!   Self confidence comes from being comfortable with who you are, and more often than not, when you compare yourself to others it’s because you are judging yourself.  I have found that the more care I take with how I look, the more positive reactions I get from others, and more importantly the better I feel about ME.  Even if you don’t care about style or following the latest trends it doesn’t mean that you unican’t still rock your own style.

Here are some tips for finding your unique style:

  1. Don’t be afraid to try something on because it scares you because it’s different.
  2. Mix and match patterns, styles and colors – you never know what works together for you until you try it.
  3. Ask a friend – I have a few friends that text me pictures of outfits and ask my opinion.  I am always honest and you will want to find someone who will do the same for you.
  4. Dress for the occasion – there is nothing worse than being over or under dressed.  I always err on the side of dressing up more than down, and this has always worked for me.
  5. Whatever outfit you put together, if you’ve followed the steps above, wear it with your head held high and walk with confidence.
  6. Believe in YOU.  You are unique, your style will be unique – don’t be a cookie cutter.  Trying to be someone else is only going to cause more self consciousness.

I hope these tips help, but if you have questions, please email me and I will get back to you!

 

 

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Femininity is Your Secret Weapon

“Femininity is the ultimate form of sophistication.”

Femininity is actual a super power that very few women realize is what they should be tapping into. Femininity is not weak and it should never be taken lightly.  In fact, in my humble opinion, when I am at my most feminine and vulnerable, those are the times that I am the most confident, successful and happy.

 

Lace, strappy sandals and fun accessories to achieve femininity

There are definitely times when femininity is not the role you play, because there are times when you need to be get a little down and dirty…For example, as I was growing up I was always a Tom Boy! Instead of a baby-doll I had a Go Cart, I liked to climb trees and play with Lego.  My mum bought me pretty dresses and I opted for more functional clothes and shied away from the lacy, flowery types of outfits.

Now that I am grown up I still love cars, and because I have 4 boys, I pretty much go to their sports and still help them with Lego projects. However, that doesn’t mean that I don’t love to look and feel feminine. Putting together an outfit that is soft, and flirty is always fun.  But, here’s the best part, femininity doesn’t always have to look the same way…in fact, it’s better if it doesn’t.  Because femininity is something that starts inside you, the outfit is really just a reflection of that feeling you have.  I believe that you could wear all leather and still be feminine, it doesn’t require lace, and it has a lot of room for you to interpret the way that is the best way for YOU to express YOUR personality.

 

Embroidery detail, soft pastel colors and metallic shoes for femininity with a twist

As Women in business we have so much more power than we know. I have found that sometimes people are intimidated by me and my energy. One way to ease that intimidation is by acting softer, and dressing in clothes that are not so edgy but are more feminine. When I dress in a more feminine way, it is a great way for me to feel and adopt a softer persona.  But since that energy starts inside me, I have to make sure that my tone when I speak with people is a little softer (yes, I’ve been known to be a little overpowering, but that doesn’t mean I can’t change that perception).

As Women we have an inner strength that we need to harness and dressing in a way that helps us feel good about ourselves whilst also setting those we meet at ease, will help us achieve our goals and make us look and feel more successful.   There are definitely times when a more “business” look is required, but that doesn’t mean that femininity needs to be forgotten.  You will see a few examples of outfits that I felt feminine in, while at the same time feeling confident, strong and powerful.

 

Soft curls or waves, with a feminine top and natural makeup for ultimate femininity

Finding that right mix for you is important, so if you have any questions or would like me to make any suggestions of styles or outfits that can help you achieve your ultimate powerful, confident, feminine look, please email me and let’s chat!

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Finding the Beauty Around Us

 

“I choose to listen to my inner voice not the random opinions of others!”

No matter where you live, there is always something around you that can give you cause to contemplate the beauty and feel gratitude for something.  At my darkest moments, or when I feel the most depleted, I find myself turning to my kids, my husband, my dog, my friends, my family or the beauty in my garden…and that is without even thinking about anything material.

I have shared on my Instastories a little about some mountain biking that I have been doing because Brandon and the kids bought me an E-bike for Mother’s Day.  For those of you that don’t know what that is, it’s a mountain bike that is also electric.  I have never been a mountain biker, in fact I had never even done a trail on a bike before…but what I have found is that I love it.  It is partly because I love to exercise, it is partly because I am liking the thrill of riding up and down trails not knowing exactly what is going to come my way next, but it is mainly because I feel so blessed that I can ride right from my house and in about a mile I am in the mountains on a trail, and as I ride to the top of the trail, the views of the entire Salt Lake valley are absolutely breath taking!  I have hiked around the trails many times, but somehow being on a bike allows me to do it almost every day and get better and better.  I have to admit I have a few war wounds from falling – but the key for me is getting back up again and working on not falling the next time.

I think that contemplation, finding a quiet, peaceful spot to think about your many blessings in this life is so important.  Sometimes just a place where you can quiet the noise and focus on only the good stuff is enough.

Today’s pictures were taken in “the gully” which is just around the corner from my house, it has a walking trail, a stream, some great greenery and flowers, and it just such a place.  Yes, I was taking pictures, but as I was in the midst of the shoot I found my thoughts drifting to those things…

Do you have a place where you like to go?  It doesn’t need to be outside, but the key is a place where you won’t be disturbed.  Meditation is a great way to clear your mind, but if you are not familiar with meditation, just allowing your thoughts to go to appreciations and gratitude will allow you to focus on the good things in your life.  I try to take a small amount of time every day to focus on this, but sometimes busy schedules don’t allow every day, so at the very least, every other day works for me!

I often like to walk my dog and as I walk through my neighborhood, as I admire the beautiful homes, the trees and plants, the sunshine or whatever the weather, I find myself sometimes becoming emotional about all the amazing people and things in my life.  My thoughts run rampant as I am walking, and sometimes the most random things come up…I reminisce about my childhood, my family, the things that have shaped my life so far, and as I start to think these things, more and more gratitude comes to my mind.

Even if you feel depressed, like things are not great for you, I promise if you find at least 1 thing per day to be grateful for, you’ll find as you think about that thing more and more things will come to mind.  Whatever we focus on we get more of, so I would much rather focus on what I do have rather than what I don’t…what about you?

 

 

My contemplation outfit was not exactly the walking through the gully type of outfit, however, it’s very feminine and by adding the long strand of pearls, it is also classy!  (more to follow on the pearls…)

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How to Get Motivated

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal:  It is the courage to continue that counts!”

I decided to write today’s post because it is something I dealt with this weekend and it felt fresh to me.  As a wife, mother, friend and business professional I am sure you can imagine how many things need to be accomplished on a daily basis.  I’m not complaining, it’s just busy.

Yesterday in Salt Lake was a gorgeous, hot day, and for some reason after I had made lunch I didn’t feel like doing anything else.  Dishes needed to be done, I had bought some string lights for my patio that needed putting up, I needed to clean my closet to get rid of some clothes that I didn’t wear anymore, and the list goes on.  So here’s what happened, after I had made the lunch I sat down and felt so mentally exhausted that I didn’t even pick up my phone and check social media – I started to wonder if I was coming down with something.  As I talked to Brandon I realized a few things:

  1. I feel guilty if I am not doing something.
  2. I beat myself up for being “lazy” rather than allowing myself to relax.
  3. I sometimes create things to do just so I am busy.
  4. Even when I’m not actually physically doing something I am thinking about or creating a list of the things I can do next.
  5. I don’t allow myself to take time for myself, or even if I do I feel like I have to explain or justify why even to myself!
  6. I want so badly to be the best at so many things that I end up not finishing things and spreading myself too thin.
  7. When I see other people not doing things it makes me think they are lazy because everyone should be moving, right?!
  8. I want so badly to be better every time I do something that I sometimes over-think and don’t end up taking any action.

I know this may seem like a crazy list, definitely not logical AND counter productive, but I wanted to share it with you for a couple of reasons.  Firstly, because I have found that when I put something out there, I can no longer hide from it and I have to face it.  Secondly, because I bet I am not the only one that experiences these things, and perhaps knowing that you’re not crazy and someone else has similar struggles to you can make it easier to work on.

I have found in my life that when I am open, vulnerable and not afraid to let people know about my struggles or weaknesses, I very often find that others can relate and that has helped me overcome many things.

So, when you don’t feel motivated or feel mentally exhausted, how is the best way to handle it?  Here’s what I did…I went on a bike ride to get my energy going (exercise always helps me), and then after a little discussion with my amazing coach of a husband, I realized that it’s OK to sit down and just chill for a little bit.  I allowed myself some time to just sit there with my thoughts, and not the creating a list kind of thoughts, but just appreciations, gratitude and peaceful thoughts…and here’s the most important part – I didn’t let myself feel guilty for not doing something!  I allocated a small amount of time to just be there, and then I resolved to take a small action rather than creating a huge list that was overwhelming and trying to undertake that.

There are definitely going to be days where motivation doesn’t come naturally, even if you are an over-achiever there will be days where you are just not in the right frame of mind or you feel exhausted or sick.  With that being said, it doesn’t mean that you can’t still accomplish what you need to do, because motivation can be created.  If you look at athletes, I am sure every one of them has an “off day”, but whether they like it or not, they have to show up and play.  It’s also like that as a mother – you don’t get to take a day off…your kids need you, and quite honestly you need them.

I have found for me the first thing you need to create motivation is a ROUTINE – having a certain way that I do things, or just scheduling the time to do it.  I love sitting in my office because I have created an environment that I love to be in, and work just seems to flow.  My routine has me get up and get dressed – it’s that simple.  I have always admired those that have home offices and work in their PJ’s because I know that wouldn’t do it for me.  I have to be dressed and feeling/looking professional.  Whatever your routine is it just needs to start with something simple, something so easy to do that you can’t talk yourself out of it.  It could be something as simple as sitting grabbing some water before you start any task – that way, the water will lead you to think that productivity is the next natural step.

The next step is to take a physical action or become engaged – mine is leaving the house.  Going to my office and getting moving.  I noticed yesterday when I wasn’t feeling motivated my body language was very lax…I was laying on the couch, I was moving slowly and it most definitely wasn’t an action mindset or engaged mindsetGet motivated

The final step is to use the same pattern every time.  Again, your pattern is your pattern, so create something that is recognizable for you.  Use it every time you take the action…so that when you need the motivation, the actions just flow and the motivation will come because you are doing what you always do!

My routine this morning was definitely different than yesterday and I am already noticing that my motivation is back – mainly because I used my same routine, I took action and I did I like I always do!

Monday has traditionally been a hard day for motivation – I hear lots of people talking about how they hate Mondays and that it sucks to go back to work…so this Monday, why not look at it from another perspective. Why not recognize the amazing things you have in this life and feel grateful for the opportunity to be doing what you’re doing – things can change in an instant!

Happy Monday…

 

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~AFTER~

“Gorgeous hair is the best revenge!”

Is your Mum as good a sport as mine is – let me tell you a story and you’ll know what I mean!

When I was 18 I came over to the U.S. to go to college, and I obviously didn’t have my family around.  As time grew closer to graduating, my Mum came over to stay with me for about a month – we took graduation pictures, hung out and had fun.  During that time I didn’t have much money and I was living in a very small town that had few, if any, hair salons.  I decided it would be a good idea to color my Mum’s hair for my graduation, to spice things up a little 😉  Let me preface this with the fact that I am in no way experienced and I had NEVER done anything with hair like this before (especially not on myself)!

We bought a color kit from the local supermarket, and I set to work coloring her hair.  All was going well until I realized that I hadn’t tested an area to see how the color would take, and suffice it to say that by the time I was done my Mum’s hair wasn’t blonde but RED.  Now all I can say is that she is much, much nicer than I am because she didn’t melt down, in fact her only response was “it’ll grow out.”

So when I called her this week and wanted to try a new product on her I was very surprised to hear that she was 100% OK with me doing it.  It’s not because I have suddenly become a pro at hair styling, because I haven’t!

 

 

Thank goodness for AGEbeautiful Topcoat Toners which I just discovered…The thing is, just like my hair, my Mum’s pulls warm, brassy tones whenever she dyes it…and I noticed that there were some more brassy blonde tones in her hair and I wanted to “cool” them down for her.

 

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I discovered this amazing new product at Sally Beauty and I have to admit I was cautious about using it on myself because I am not as patient as my mum is, and I’m pretty sure if it damaged my hair or it didn’t turn out right, I might have had a mini meltdown myself ;).

I am happy to report that these toners are the real deal.  For those of you out there who have ever gone to a hair salon and come home feeling less than satisfied because your hair is too yellow, gold or brassy…this is the answer you have been waiting for.

It is really easy to use, it only takes up to 10 minutes, you can do it yourself and you can see the amazing results.

I know, it’s not exactly like me taking her to a spa, but how she felt when I was done was definitely worth it!
AGEbeautiful Topcoat Toners are anti-brass toners that neutralize unwanted warmth to keep blonde shades looking cool. They deposit rich color & shine on pre-lightened or highlighted blonde hair, and because they contain Vitamin E they moisturize your scalp rather than drying it out – We used the Pearl Blonde – for reference!

You can click the link above to shop one yourself online, or just visit any Sally Beauty near you – go to www.sallybeauty.com to find your nearest location.

We All Need Inspiration

“No one ever injured their eyesight by looking on the bright side!”

Recently I had someone ask me if I have always wanted to write a blog…and it got me thinking.  What I realized is that even though I started by blog only a few years ago, I have kind of always loved style, fashion, walking to the beat of my own drum as well aDon’t compare…empower, use your style & fashion for confidence, seek inspiration helping others reach their potential.

It has always given me great satisfaction to be able to be there, to help and empower my friends & family – so when I started working on Stylequeenie I kept this in mind.  I think that in the world we live in there is so much negativity and that is perpetuated by social media and our perceptions of the lives that people lead based on what we see them doing on Instagram, Facebook etc.  I have heard stories of people shaming or bullying on social media and it breaks my heart.  I realize that it is easy because it can almost be hidden from the world…to shame another person really sets us back individually, and aren’t we here to grow?

There are times when I compare myself and what I do to others, but that is probably the most self-defeating thing that anyone can do.  Comparison is the thief of joy – it robs us from feeling good about ourselves, who we are and what we are capable of!

The world is definitely big enough for everyone, but it’s up to us to carve our own niche!  I know that there are people out there that know so much more than I do about blogging, empowerment, style and so on, but that’s OK with me…in fact I use it to my advantage.  Have you ever heard the expression that “success leaves clues”?  What that means is I can seek inspiration from others and use that to make me better.  When I first started my career in sales I made it my goal to surround myself with successful, powerful sales people that I could learn things from.  I took what they did and adapted it to create a style for myself…and because I know that technique worked for me in the past, that is what I do now with blogging and my social media.

I feel confident and happy in my own skin, I am learning to find more joy in my journey of life because I think it’s important to do so much more than just exist.  I know there are varying degrees of motivation, confidence and determination, but think about this…what if someone out there needs what you have to offer?  What if what you have is exactly what they need to save their life??

I believe in the philosophy of “pay it forward” for this very reason.  I believe that we are all pieces in a puzzle and the only way that puzzle can be complete is if we all believe in ourselves and work on reaching our potential!

I always tie in style and fashion with my blog posts because I do believe that when you feel good about yourself, when you tell yourself that you like who you are and how you look, that is what is going to be seen by the outside world.  I have always considered style to be a way to express your unique personality, and as such, something that EVERYONE should pay attention to.  I realize that not everyone is as enamored by style and fashion as I am, and for some it seems harder…but just like I said about following the clues of those that are successful, you can do the same with style and fashion.  Sometimes all you need to do is seek a little inspiration and adapt it to yourself!  You can shop similar looks to those I am wearing in this post by clicking the links below!

I hope this Wednesday that you will realize how important & how beautiful you are – and that no matter whether anyone says otherwise, you are ENOUGH!!

HAPPY WEDNESDAY…