I think one of the biggest challenges we face when trying to figure out what our style is or how to dress is the fact that there are so many options and styles available. There is a huge problem in society where we tend to overthink things, or even talk ourselves out of things because we are worried what others might think, or we are just not confident enough to trust our instincts.
Confidence in today’s world is word that is thrown around all the time, but what does it really mean? Around the age of 9 we start focusing more on what other people think and tend to shape ourselves more after the reactions we get from people rather than by what actually makes us feel good. The good news, just as we chose to mold our thought process after what others think, we can change that same thought process and make it more into what we want it to be.
The only way to do that is just to jump in and start dressing for YOU without any thought (or at least not giving in to the fear that you might not be accepted) and just go for it. Starting small, keeping it simple is the best way to start. Because there are so many style options out there, the best way to create your own unique style and do it for YOU is to start by finding colors that you love. Once you have your favorite color (one that looks good against your skin tone), then you start looking for styles that flatter your body type (of course, only ones that you like and not what you think others will like).
The pictures in today’s post are a couple of years old because I wanted to demonstrate that simple can also be timeless. A simple pair of faux leather leggings, a peplum top (flattering when you are looking to accentuate a smaller waist or give the appearance of a small waist) and a leather jacket. Simple – classy and comfortable. When you dress using simple pieces like these, a great way to add a little funk is by adding some fun accessories and shoes. A pair of fun drop earrings, a chunky pearl bracelet and some bold pumps.
The key is to not let the fear, over thinking or lack of confidence dictate what you wear or how you feel. I know that may sound easier said than done, but honestly the only way to grow your confidence is to expand your comfort zone and try new things. Loving to dress for YOU is the start of having an amazing relationship with yourself. If we don’t love and treat ourselves the way we deserve to be treated, other’s won’t know that’s how they should be treating us.
Confidence is like love, the more you have the more you get…the hardest part is just latching on to that little bit that is already inside you. I believe that everyone in this world has at least one thing they can own and be proud of. That one thing that makes you know how amazing you are. It could be something like being a good cook, having creativity and using that to make your house into a home, being exceptionally patient with your kids to name just a few. There is always something, and that feeling you get when you feel satisfaction after accomplishment or showing love, that is the feeling you will want to latch onto. Use that to help you gain confidence in any other area of your life…trust me, I have used this so many times in my life and it works.
I hope you have a blessed weekend, and if you feel like sharing something that you did to help you gain more confidence, I would love to hear!