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Snow Days

In the depth of winter I found that there was in me an invincible summer!

I had visited Utah many times when I was younger, visiting family and eventually when I came over to go to school here.  Whenever I returned to England I always missed the mountains and their beauty.  It was a strange feeling to miss a place and feel so at home in a place that I had never lived.

It’s been over 20 years since I moved here now and even though I miss England I still consider Utah my home…I love summers especially and I do love the beauty of the snow.  I am not a huge fan of cold weather, there is no denying the beauty of the sunshine against the beautiful white mountains and blue skies.  

This weekend I am spending time with my youngest 2 boys up in Midway (a small town about 45 minutes outside of Salt Lake City), and as you can see the snow is bringing real beauty here. I took a moment to snap a few pictures of me playing with the snow and acting silly and I have to admit, it felt really good.  Sometimes we get so caught up in our day to day lives, and I know that I have a tendency to be a little too serious sometimes.  So I have to admit, when I allow myself to let it go and I am not the “fun sponge” like my kids have been known to call me, I actually have been known to have a little fun (even when I’m cold).

Don’t be surprised if you actually find some posts and pictures of me over the next few months in full winter gear, sledding and skiing.  I promised Brandon and the boys that I would do a little of each.  In fact, between Christmas and New Year we will be going to our family cabin in Star Valley Wyoming and pretty much all we will be doing is hibernating and a few winter activities.

When it’s a beautiful, sunny winter day, it’s the perfect time to add a little fur to your wardrobe and have fun with it.  I am wearing a cute black fur vest, I added a plum colored beanie and my great Sorel winter/rain booties.  Throw on a pair of faux leather leggings, and cozy winter sweater, your favorite sunnies and voila…the perfect winter look!
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Style Personality

 

“People may hate you for being different and not living by society’s standards, but deep down they wish they had the courage to do the same!”

You may have noticed a common theme on my social media and blog, and that is I talk about not being afraid to be yourself, be unique and express YOUR style personality…

Here’s another thought – do you just have to have one personality?  I don’t think so.

If you’re anything like me there are times when you want to be more edgy, there are times when you want to feel more feminine, and there are times when sophistication is the way you want to go.  These are just a few of my style personalities, because I have many…the reason I tell you this is that I think it’s important to not ever limit yourself or pigeon hole yourself into one style.  Today’s picture is a more feminine style, and that was what I was aiming for when I put it together.  I felt good about how I looked and even curled my hair used heated curlers (yes I still have some of those even though I haven’t used them for a couple of years).

I have heard many people talk about how a certain style is “them” and that they always gravitate to certain styles, colors, patterns and cuts…and that’s absolutely OK, especially if you open your mind to other options as well.

I have talked a lot about what I was like growing up and how I always had a very strong idea about how I wanted to look, what I wanted to do and how I wanted to do it, so for me having the ability to change how I look has been very important.  Being independent and strong willed, I never wanted to be limited or caged like a bird, for me freedom comes from knowing I can create whatever I want – even with style.

I do realize that not everyone has such a clear idea in their mind about how they might like to express their personality through their style, and certainly there are those of you that may not even think style or fashion is important.  If you are one of these people, let me pose a couple of questions to you…do you feel self conscious when you are around someone that has the appearance of being completely put together?  Do you compare yourself to others and how they look?  Do you feel insecure about yourself in any way?

If you answered yes to any one of these questions, then I will tell you that there is hope!   Self confidence comes from being comfortable with who you are, and more often than not, when you compare yourself to others it’s because you are judging yourself.  I have found that the more care I take with how I look, the more positive reactions I get from others, and more importantly the better I feel about ME.  Even if you don’t care about style or following the latest trends it doesn’t mean that you unican’t still rock your own style.

Here are some tips for finding your unique style:

  1. Don’t be afraid to try something on because it scares you because it’s different.
  2. Mix and match patterns, styles and colors – you never know what works together for you until you try it.
  3. Ask a friend – I have a few friends that text me pictures of outfits and ask my opinion.  I am always honest and you will want to find someone who will do the same for you.
  4. Dress for the occasion – there is nothing worse than being over or under dressed.  I always err on the side of dressing up more than down, and this has always worked for me.
  5. Whatever outfit you put together, if you’ve followed the steps above, wear it with your head held high and walk with confidence.
  6. Believe in YOU.  You are unique, your style will be unique – don’t be a cookie cutter.  Trying to be someone else is only going to cause more self consciousness.

I hope these tips help, but if you have questions, please email me and I will get back to you!

 

 

Shop the pieces of my outfit or similar by clicking the links below…

 

 

 

Finding Joy in your Journey

“A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to it’s old dimensions!”

I believe that in life it is easy to be focused on an achievement or a goal rather than actually enjoying the journey of experience and beauty that it takes for you to get there…

That may sound a little cliche, so bear with me.  I understand the whole focused, driven, determined, passionate side of things, and I am definitely all of those things, but one thing that I am a little more focused on now more than ever is that I can actually ENJOY my days as I am striving to achieve my goals.  It used to be that I was so focused on the outcome that I was pretty much miserable on my way there.  Meaning that I missed out on so many experiences and most importantly time – especially with my family. I used to be so focused on my career that I wouldn’t want to take vacations in fear that I might not be as good or as successful.  I made a decision about 7 years ago that I would enjoy taking vacations, spending time with my family and let the rest of the stuff just work itself out…the crazy thing is that I found that I was actually MORE successful, AND happy!  I realized that in anything in life you attract good things to you when you’re happy, positive and loving life…and let me tell you, I am definitely loving life.

Don’t get me wrong there are definitely times when I cry because things are hard or things aren’t going my way, and sometimes I just cry (no, I’m not crazy, I’m just OK letting myself be vulnerable letting things go so I can move through them).

 

 

That’s another thing that I discovered – of course the hard way – that I beat myself up for not having everything together all the time…and that is self defeating because the more I fight it, the worse it gets!  So, I get in my car, or just take a “time out” at home, and spend time letting myself feel what I’m feeling, and not telling myself I am weak, I shouldn’t be doing it or even worse that I am stupid for feeling a certain way.  We are all emotional beings, and we all have feelings…the difference is that some of us bottle it up, some let it all out where everyone can see it (sometimes to have others help us solve our problems for us), and some just know how to “ride the wave”.  I am learning to ride that wave, but not only that, I am actually enjoying riding it!

This is one of things that we talk to our kids about all the time – you can either learn how to handle things when they are smaller and easier to deal with when you’re younger, or become an adult that doesn’t know how to problem solve.  I see it all the time and I am guessing you do too…people that are great until they come across a sticky situation and then they turn into mush. Here’s the kicker – they will keep having these situations until they learn how to handle them.  I know for me there is a certain type of person that keeps appearing in my life, teaching me, stretching me, and definitely making me a better person.  I haven’t figured out EXACTLY how to deal with them, but I am starting to recognize patterns, learn from them, and react differently.  It seems crazy to do the same things over and over and expect different results, but I have definitely been guilty of that!

 

So as you can see from this post, you can find joy wherever you are…whether you are doing something you used to do as a kid (like blowing on this dandelion clock that was definitely nostalgic for me), or even just looking for something good in the thing you are doing…it will change your whole experience.  I don’t know about you, but I definitely choose to find joy and beauty around me!

You can shop this super cute dress from DownEast Basics by clicking here

 

How to Show Gratitude

“The best way to love someone and show gratitude is by using a language they understand!”

Yesterday I posted on Instagram about how I had gone to the airport to see my 17year old son off on his Humanitarian trip, and how for 2 weeks there will be pretty much no contact because cell service in the Philippines is slim to none.  I hope I am one of those mothers that doesn’t worry so much that I stress my kids out, one that has so many fears that the lack of communication will lead me into frantic mode – especially when I know what he is doing is so worthwhile and good for him!

We actually did receive a phone call at 12:30am this morning from Canyon in the airport in Japan using wifi he managed to make a call.  It was so nice to know that he was at least part way to his destination (only 2 more plane rides and a boat ride until he was there).  In fact, I don’t know what happened, but he actually seemed humbled already and thanked Brandon and I for supporting him in his fundraising and his decision.

I don’t know about you but when I see a glimpse of my kids showing appreciation and gratitude, or even that they accomplish something, it makes all the sacrifice, arguments, disappointments and challenges almost disappear.

It made me wonder if I actually show enough appreciation to those people that have helped me along my path?  Do I recognize and show those I love how what they do for me means to me?  You may have heard of the book “The Five Love Languages”…I read this book quite a while ago and thought I had it figured out, but I am finding more and more each day how important it is to show a person how much they mean to you by using THEIR love language.  Mine is primarily acts of service – or basically put, I like it when someone shows me love by doing something for me.  It’s not that every time, because there are definitely times when I like to be told things, times when gifts are important to me, and so on – but my primary or most important love language is definitely acts of service.  If you haven’t read this book I highly recommend checking it out.  It works for spouses, kids, friends and family – pretty much it can be the thing that makes all the difference in any relationship you have!   I figure, whatever help I can get I am up for.

 

 

I always like to tie in fashion and style to my posts because I feel that the better we feel about ourselves the more likely we are going to be a better wife, mother, friend, daughter, etc.  It may sound shallow but I promise it’s a real thing.  Taking care about how you look is important not just for how others will see you but also for YOU.  Even if you say you don’t care about the latest trends, or if you don’t feel it’s worth your money to spend it on new styles, trust me on this.  I have worked with lots of Women that may not dress is the latest styles or even know what they are, and that is totally fine.

Taking care of yourself doesn’t necessarily mean that you are spending money all the time.  In fact, looking good and feeling good come from knowing that YOU are important and as such you want to show the world how you feel about yourself. Have you ever owned something that was a heirloom or something that was a gift that had a lot of sentimental value?  Did you shove that thing in a drawer or proudly display it and take care dusting around it?  My guess is that it’s the latter – that you were very careful about how you treated it, and where you displayed it.  I believe the same should be true of how we treat and care for ourselves. Don’t be your own afterthought, spend some time on yourself, and as you start to love and take pride in yourself, everything will change.  Others will see you the way you see yourself!

 

 

As I head into this weekend, I have determined that I am going to show myself some love by doing something for myself.  By showing appreciation to the many amazing people I have in my life, and just loving!

I hope your weekend is amazing…

Oh, and by the way, if you decide that a way to show love to yourself is by buying gifts or shopping- I have put some shoppable links of my outfit below 🙂

 

Laughter- the Best Medicine

“If you laugh a lot, when you get older, your wrinkles will be in the right places!”

As I was driving to work today I started thinking about my life, things I have done, people I have met and the things I am grateful for.  I contemplated my relationships and how much I treasure them and what it is that makes them special.  The one thing that I realized is that laughter is vital in my life.  For as long as I can remember I have always loved to make people laugh or smile and I gravitate to those people that do the same for me.  Not that I can’t be serious (because I am English you know and we do love to be reserved and serious) but laughter…that’s my favorite.

Because knowing facts about things is so important to me, I did a little research to find out why laughter might seem to cure so many things, and here’s what I found:

Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells which improves our ability to fight disease. It also triggers the release of endorphins which promote a sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain.

So, the expression “laughter is the best medicine” actually does have medical implications – I don’t know about you but I would much rather laugh than have to take medicine of any kind 😉

 

With all of this being said, laughter is only the start of the things that you can do for yourself that will help keep you vitalized and young.  Finding something else that you love will also help – especially if that thing is some kind of exercise…even if it’s just walking, you will find a huge difference in your outlook, energy and most importantly, you’ll be having fun!

So, how do you add more laughter and fun into your life, you ask…well, I have found that the more fun, spontaneous, sassy and interesting people that I surround myself with, the more I find laughter just appears in my life because I love spending time with them.  We all have different personality types, different sense of humors, and different life experiences, so who you associate with should be in tune with what you love or are looking to attract into your life.

Have you ever noticed that sometimes you may be in the mood to watch a movie and the only ones that appeal to you are comedies – I take that as a sign that my body needs some laughter, so I always like to make sure I an listening and I of course oblige 😉

However you choose to invite laughter into your life, remember – we don’t laugh because we’re happy, we’re happy because we laugh!

Have a wonderful weekend my friends!

Why not give yourself a smile by shopping my outfit by clicking the link below…

 

12 Years is a Long Time!

80 Turncroft Lane – where my Grandad lived 🙂

“That it will never come again is what makes life so sweet!!”

You may or may not know that I grew up in England, I still have an English accent and that I love just about everything about that time…except the rain!  But, what you may not know is that I haven’t actually been back there for 12 years.  I guess raising children, working and my life in the States has adjusted my priorities…and since all my family is over here with me now, I guess I haven’t felt the urgency to travel back. At least until last year when I flew to New York to go and meet two amazing friends for a long weekend. Since then I have been feeling an “itch” to go back there and spend a little time…

Last week I took a trip down memory lane and traveled to Manchester Airport, and back to Preston (my home town).

Preston Town Center – Market Street  

 

For me, the trip was a chance to recharge my batteries (I was flying solo, and while I missed all my family, I know for sure that I needed this time for ME)…to visit friends, to relax, to shop, to eat some of the things I have really been missing, including some things that are really not good for me but I have to see if they are what I remember,  and finally, I had the amazing privilege to go and spread some of my Grandad’s ashes near his house in Stockport…

Across from 80 Turncroft Lane – where my Grandad used to watch the squirrels is where I spread his ashes

 

Have you ever got busy living your life that before you knew it had been 10+ years and you have no idea where the time went?  For my family it has always been important for us to travel, but I guess I had not realized that I had missed England as much as I have!  One of the most important lessons I have learned by this realization is that sometimes we need to sit or just be calm in order to recognize that we NEED to do certain things for ourselves.

Sharoe Green Hospital – where Dalton was born

 

My oldest son, Dalton, was born there, so I went to take a picture for him of the hospital where he was born (even though it’s closed down now).  One thing I definitely miss about England is the amazing architecture and history that we just don’t have here.  The buildings are amazing and definitely photograph worthy.

Manchester City Center – my view from outside Zara

 

As you probably all already know, one of my favorite things to do is shopping…I love finding unique things that I know will stand out, and of course I love a deal.  We shopped all around Preston, at Cheshire Oaks (an outlet Mall) and in Manchester.  I have always loved Manchester which is the closest large city to Preston because they have all the large retail stores, as well as designer stores and fabulous food.  We ate at a West Indian place in the Arndale Shopping center and the food was amazing.  I did find that a lot of what I was craving was as good as I remember, so perhaps it’s a good thing I am far away from the fish and chips that I had from the Happy Haddock, and also the 99 ice cream cone I had to get from the ice cream truck (for those of you that don’t know a 99 is an ice cream cone with a flake and raspberry sauce).

I had the most amazing time spending it with friends and enjoying the nostalgia that came from visiting some of my old haunts – I hope you enjoy some of the pictures in this post…

If you’re planning a trip over to England yourself, you are more than welcome to hit me up with some questions you might have or suggestions.  It is an amazing place and there are many, many things to do, especially if you travel to the large cities!

Prepare yourself for the Changing Seasons

“The best color in the whole world is one that looks good on you!”

Black has always been a color that pretty much everyone can embrace, but Navy can also be a color that works in any season, on any skin tone and most importantly, is versatile and can be worn with many other colors.  I know it’s easy to think of dark colors when Fall and Winter are coming, but there are also so many other alternatives that can add a little spice to your wardrobe.

I have been wearing a lot of short sleeved blouses, T shirts and such during the summer because the weather has been so hot and dry, so now as Fall quickly approaches (can you believe it’s Labor Day weekend this weekend?), adding some flowing, feminine long sleeved blouses is something I am really looking forward to.

I am not someone that is OK to wear the same things over and over (not that there’s anything wrong with that), I just like to express myself differently, and I really get bored with wearing clothes that are seasonal. That’s why, even though I don’t look forward to Winter or colder days, I do look forward to wearing layers, different styles, and different shoes or boots.  See, I’ve managed to find a silver lining in the fact that I don’t like cold weather 😉

What do you look forward to when the seasons change?  Just like every Monday it is an opportunity to look at the week and make a decision to make it go well…not that things can’t happen to derail even the best intentions.  Seasons can be just like Mondays!  I look forward to different activities, different fashions, different feelings that come from weather, environment and how warm I am.  I am very sensitive to weather and when I don’t see sunshine for long periods of time, it causes me to feel down and a little demotivated…which is why I moved from England to Salt Lake City which is essentially a desert.  Not that I don’t love England and its green rolling hills, but I crave sunshine, mountains and warmth.  So, for 3-4 months of the year I have to plan trips to warm climates (because winters here are definitely cold).    Even during the winters here I see the sunshine, which is the most important thing to me.

So as I start thinking about what I am going to wear during the Fall and Winter (yes, I know, it may be weird planning that far ahead, but I like to have an idea of what I already own and what new seasonal items I want to purchase this year, so that the outfits I put together can convey my own unique style), I check different stores online, I check out Nordstrom and their Anniversary Sale, I look on blogs, Pinterest, in magazines and I always check sites and watch people from Europe to see what they are wearing.  One of things I remember when I first moved here was that my styles were a little ahead of the styles in Utah, so I always like to makes sure I am keeping up with the newest styles which are often not from the US.

Are you always looking for new trends, styles and ways to express yourself like I am?  Do you have any routines or tricks that help you stay on top of your style?  I would love you to share them with me if you do!


What does Confidence Look Like?

“Too many days are spent comparing ourselves to others and wishing to be someone we aren’t!”

One of the hardest things about confidence is that it is a feeling, a way of being, so how do we know if someone is or is not confident?  Actually, if you were to examine it, you would know a healthy self-confidence can be seen by how someone carries themselves, how they dress, how they allow others to treat them and how they treat others.  It is possible to be confident and not think or consider others at all, and that’s a whole different topic but typically, a self-assured and confident person genuinely cares about others and realizes that they have this innate ability to share what they know and the gifts they have been given.  Everyone is born into different circumstances, they have different childhoods and life experiences, and therefore the results are going to be really different.  With that being said, I truly believe that anyone that really wants something badly enough is able to achieve that in their lives.  But, it starts with believing you can do it and having the confidence to try…

One of the biggest reasons for not having a healthy self esteem is because you don’t live up to the standards you think you should.  We have expectations that are programmed into us by what we see on TV, in magazines, and the environment in which we live.  If you spend too much time watching TV and seeing celebrities and models on there you may create an unconscious expectation on yourself, which will only make you disappointed.

Be yourself because originals are worth more than a copy!

It is hard to not compare ourselves to other people, especially when we are not feeling confident in ourselves.  The best remedy for this is to take control of yourself.  You decide how you feel and that very often can stem from how you look. Make the decision to LIKE how you look, don’t look at others and envy or want what they have (I am sure we’ve all done that at times), but if you just love yourself for your amazing gifts and talents then the confidence will follow…

The first step to being able to feel great about yourself and your life is to recognize areas that you could perhaps improve upon.  Do you find yourself thinking negative thoughts when you think you are not as good, pretty, rich, or thin as another person? If the answer to any of those questions is yes, then the first step is to realize that you are doing that and it is a destructive behavior…instead look for something you have, something you can do or someone you have in your life that you can truly be grateful for!

Another great way to feel great is to look great – you know when you hear a compliment from someone about how you look, even if you weren’t aware, that does something physical to your body – we are human, we crave that connection. Everyone’s looking good is going to be different, and that is what is the most important thing to remember.  Don’t try to be someone else, just be YOU.  One of the funnest ways to feel good is to go into a beauty store or department store and go to the Cosmetics Department – ask them to do a makeover on you…it’s free and you can then see if it’s something you really want to do and if it makes you feel good.

Finally…trying putting together a great outfit, rock it, own it and walk like you mean business –  your confidence will become contagious and others feel that!

If you need a little help with your shopping game, you can find similar pieces to what I am wearing by clicking the links below 🙂

 


 

Happiness is Always in Style!


“Happiness is a journey not a destination!”

I don’t know about you but for me, Monday’s can definitely be blah!   I had the most amazing weekend with my boys, relaxing and just regenerating, so when this morning rolled around I had every intention to make it a great day.  Somehow, by mid morning, my best laid plans had become derailed.  I was no longer in the great mood I was earlier, and my whole physiology changed.

So what happened?  Has this ever happened to you…I had a phone call that didn’t go the way I wanted or most importantly how I EXPECTED it would.  I found myself feeling frustration, anger, disappointment and honestly those feelings are still with me.  I know better – I know that I shouldn’t have expectations about anything or anyone, but sometimes, when I let my guard down, something sneaks in and I am left to face the consequences.

So, how do I handle it?  Well, the first thing is realize that those feelings can be chased away as easily as they arrived…easier said than done.  I have to tell you that it doesn’t hurt that I have a Life Coach as a husband, and it also doesn’t hurt that I have so many things to feel grateful for, so that’s what I do…I focus on the things I have, the things I CAN control and I stop sitting there worrying about something that I can’t change.

Style is not just about wearing great clothes, having a healthy, fit body, or even about whether you are buying the latest trends, it is something that comes from inside.  If you are having one of those days where everything seems disappointing, overwhelming or just plain crappy, the only thing you can do to make yourself feel better is chip away at the symptoms.  I realize that it’s not easy to just let things go, so I have found that distracting myself, finding another focus, or even doing something for someone else always helps me from becoming so self-absorbed that things are harder than they need to be!

Surrounding yourself with those that lift you up rather than keep you down is something that I have become so much conscious of as I am now older, because life is so short I would much rather be happy, and I don’t apologize for not wanting to surround myself with negativity.

Happiness is contagious, so when you spend time with those that are generally happy you will probably notice that suddenly you feel happy and you’re no longer dwelling on things you can’t control.

So…to make a long story short – this Monday has not started how I wanted it to, but guess what, I am so much stronger than anything that can be thrown my way.  I have endured much, I have overcome even more, and the best part – world, I’m ready for you!!

Wearing a casual, flowing outfit that makes me feel good.  This is something to be worn for dinner with your partner, movie night, a concert, fun daytime activities or just hanging around, but I loved how feminine it made me feel. It’s always a good thing when your outfit makes you smile 🙂


Casual Fashion Friday

Fashion Details:  Dressed in Zara, Cotton On and Quay Australia sunnies

The most important Fashion Tip of all time: …you have to be able to laugh at yourself 🙂

Sometimes a half-smile is the perfect smile!

“My theory is, if you are confident you can pull off anything – even if you have no clue what you’re doing!”

Thank goodness the weekend is finally here…

I am excited to be headed to Midway to spend time with a couple of my boys and Brandon.  We haven’t been up there since spring and I am looking forward to just a little time to relax.

The T shirt and flat sandals in today’s post are some things I picked up when I was on my cruise in the port of Cozumel…I always manage to find something that I love wherever I go, and I would much rather buy some clothes or shoes than a souvenir 🙂   We took the ferry to Playa Del Carmen and I already knew there was a Zara there, so of course I had to see what wonderful things they had.  Zara is one of my favorite stores and because they are not in Utah I have to stick to either ordering using my Zara app or going into a store when I visit another city.

Ruffles have been a great addition to the Women’s fashion repertoire this year, but when you add ruffles to a bold color like this Kelly Green, it makes even more of a statement.  The burnt Orange flats are feminine with the bow, especially since I feel like sometimes flats are not feminine (at least for me).

Make your Fashion Statement

As you can see, even when you’re wearing jeans and a T shirt with flats you can still make a statement!  I have never been afraid to be bold and draw attention to myself, but I do know some people that prefer to stay in the background a little more. Whether you are bold like me, of prefer the background, I can tell you that no matter what, people are going to notice you.  The key is to get them to notice you for a good reason.  People look, it is human nature to be curious about those around us, so thinking that you don’t want to draw attention to yourself is not going to get you out of it unfortunately.  Can I be honest with you, I love it when I see someone, no matter their size, that absolutely loves themselves and it shows because they walk with almost a swagger, and they wear funky clothes, color their hair bold colors or use bold makeup and lipstick.

In my opinion the most important accessory any person can have is confidence.  I teach all of my kids that it’s OK to dress how they like – even if that means we are going to the grocery store with someone wearing the most bizarre mix of patterns, clashing colors and even mis matched socks.  I think it’s important for people to learn, at a young age if possible, that they can show people who they really are.  My youngest, Reiken, is still at the age where I have to tell him that a floral shirt doesn’t look great with plaid or something like that, but I always let him choose if he wears it.  There are definitely some fashion rules and suggestions that can help us hone our styling skills, and then there are some people that can pretty much get away with anything because they are just that confident.

I believe that fashion and style are something that are always a work in progress – we sometimes get derailed by new trends that emerge and our want to fit in.  Fashion is something that you see in the stores and onTV, but style, that is something that comes from within you.  Your style is just that – there are really no rules…if it looks great, then it’s not wrong!

Transform a fashion into YOUR style, here are just a few tips:

  1. Don’t just wear something because it’s “in fashion”
  2. Know colors and styles that suit your body type, coloring and confidence level
  3. Don’t be afraid to experiment, but always do a “double take” in the mirror before you leave the house
  4. Recognize that just because someone else is wearing something doesn’t mean it will work for you
  5. Don’t buy something just because it comes in your size – there are still some things that I would NEVER be caught dead wearing because they are not appropriate or flattering for me

One final point, remember that what you are comfortable with is most important.  If you have ever watched shows like “What not to Wear” and others like it, then you know that they have you throw all your clothes away and start over (with the exception of maybe 1 or 2 pieces).  I don’t think something like that is necessary – in fact, my guess is that more often than not after someone has been “styled” so drastically they tend to revert back to their old ways because that is where they are most comfortable.  Now that doesn’t mean that changing your style and incorporating new fashions into your wardrobe isn’t going to be out of your comfort zone for some of you.  But, what it does mean is that if it so far out of your fashion comfort zone that you can’t really hold your head up as you walk, or you are conscious all the time of what other people are thinking or saying about you, or every time you glance in the mirror you want to run home and change, you probably ought to take things a little bit slower.

Fashion is something that is constantly changing, so don’t worry if you see some things that you know you will never wear – I am still amazed, like I said in my post yesterday, that some trends and fashions even come back into style…they were always ugly and a Fashion “faux pas!”

After all, Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak!