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The Right Sunglasses

Style is an expression of individualism mixed with charisma!

Are you anything like me where you LOVE to have a wide variety of sunnies, for different outfits, occasions or moods?

Are you a little more conservative and stick to the same style all the time?

Or, are you not sure what style of sunglasses works for you so you just buy a pair and hope for the best?

No matter which of these categories you fall into, there’s something to be learned about sunnies, where to shop them, how to wear them or which ones will work for the shape of your face…so READ ON!

First, let me start by saying that I don’t believe that there is only one style of sunglasses that will work for any one person, in fact, with all the different styles, shapes and colors, we all have the ability to create a wide variety of looks…

I have a strong, square jaw…and an oval face which means I can wear larger frames. I love sunglasses that cover a lot of my face, I like to really stand out…but what works for you? The first thing I would say is don’t wear something that doesn’t make you feel great. But, if you want to explore sunglasses shapes and styles, here are a few ideas:

  1. I have found that Sunglasses Hut actually allows you to shop by the shape of your fact (just click here) – this is a great way to find out what you’re looking for before you go out and try on EVERY SINGLE PAIR 😉 – just click here
  2. I always check out Nordstrom Rack for Designer sale sunglasses (they seem to have new ones all the time and a big selection most times of the year) – that way I can get an amazing pair without having to pay full price (unless of course you want to pay full price).
  3. Even though I love larger shapes, there are definitely some that are TOO LARGE for me. A good rule of thumb is that if they are wider than your face, then they’re definitely too big.
  4. Create a contrast with the sunglasses for your face shape. If you have a round face, steer away from round sunglasses, and so on.
  5. Aviators work with most shapes of faces…and bonus – I have never known a time when you can’t buy a pair of Aviators because they are always “in”.
  6. Not sure what shape of face you have? That’s OK…take a friend with you to give feedback as you try on various pairs.

There are a few styles and shapes that I love to have, but that doesn’t mean I am not willing to try new ones when I see them in stores. I buy a wide range of expensive designer ones (which I like to find at a bargain) and then some cheaper pairs that usually end up getting hammered because I just throw them around…it’s perfect for those that you know you will get bored of, or they will go out of style.

For this summer, here are some styles I am wearing…you can click the link below each picture to shop:

What’s New for Spring

If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got!

Are you someone that embraces change? Do you like change in any area in your life? For many people change can feel like we are losing control and that loss of control can cause frustration and even fear.

Fashion and style is no exception – I see so many women particularly that are unwilling to try new styles. OK, so I’m not saying that when bootie shorts come out you should rush to the store and buy a pair, because we all have to accept our limitations and know boundaries of what is acceptable…and with me being a 50 year old woman I have no problem admitting that bootie shorts are waaay beyond what is acceptable for me – believe me, I’m doing everyone a favor 😉

However, each season there are new styles that are worth giving a try. I love to check out all the latest new trends, make a mental note of what areas of the body they accentuate, and then decide if they are something I want to try. If they fit in category of hitting areas I want to accentuate and those I would love to avoid (according to my body type), then I will take myself to a store and try a few things on. Well – I don’t actually try things on in stores very often but I will buy things I know will fit me and take them home to try on in front of my own mirror (in my own habitat so to speak).

Wide legged pants have been around, they’ve changed slightly over the years, but they are something that can work for just about any body type. I love them because even though I am 5’5” I feel like to need something to lengthen my legs. They do just that…they can hide a multitude of evils, such as muffin top, large upper legs and a stomach pooch.

They are a great addition to any spring wardrobe, but before you go out looking for your pair, consider this:

  1. Try them on – you can’t judge how they will look on you if you are just seeing them on the hanger.
  2. Steer clear of busy patterns, large pockets or other things that could distract from the pants themselves – you don’t need to add anything unnecessary to this look, the wide pants are enough of a statement.
  3. If you are not tall, wear high or chunky shoes to add even more length to your legs.
  4. Make sure they are not too tight…there is nothing worse than a pair of pants that are supposed to be loose, hitting in the wrong areas and accentuating things that you are actually trying to mask.

Now you should be ready to go shopping and see if you can find a pair that works for you…

I am highlighting a great pair of Palazzo pants that I purchased from Nordstrom Rack. I fell in love with the color. I wore them with a dressy blouse and chunky high heeled booties. Of course, as spring gets closer and I don’t have to worry about walking outside in the snow, I would add a pair of great platform sandals to finish off the look.

I think you will find if you try some of these pants on, you will be really happy with your look.

My pants & T Shirt are Zara – I’ve linked a similar pants here & shirt here
The shoes are an older pair of mine from Vince Camuto – I’ve linked a similar pair here
Sunglasses from Quay are linked here

Have fun with Accessories

Accessories are like the perfect spice. They compliment what is already there…

Yes – I do believe that shoes are the most important part of an outfit.
No – that doesn’t mean it’s the only thing you can think about!

I love spending time finding great accessories that can help make an outfit pop – in fact, aside from changing a pair of shoes, accessories are the easiest and most noticeable ways to affect how you look. By adding a great pair of earrings you can achieve an immediate style pop. A bag can be the thing that draws the eye and even easier, now that spring is here and summer around the corner, add a fabulous pair of sunnies.

You can shop a similar bag to the cute backpack I’m wearing by clicking here

I always have so much fun shopping for accessories (OK, I admit it, I pretty much have fun shopping for ANYTHING)…but for accessories, it’s an easy one, you can just buy whatever and then find things to go with it. Earrings are a personal favorite of mine – I definitely love statement earrings, especially when I am wearing my hair up.

If you are looking for a way to “up” your style game, accessories are the perfect way to do it. Buy a fabulous pair of earrings or necklace (find some of my top picks at the end of this post that you can shop, a pair of fun sunnies (shop mine right here), or even a set of bead bracelets or bangles for your summer styling (see the end of the post to shop more of my picks).

Conditional Confidence

“Work on being in love with the person in the mirror who has been through so much but is still standing!”

Have you ever put conditions on your confidence or self-esteem?  Let me explain…

I have been in sales for 20 years now and have experienced huge successes which has afforded me the opportunity to travel and create amazing memories with my family.  Because I have worked really hard at it and become successful, a lot of my self confidence came from that success.  So, when I decided to start writing this blog I didn’t have the same amount of confidence in myself or my abilities.  In fact, I started to wonder if anyone would even be interested in what I might have to say, or if it could provide any value. I started to shy away from interacting with other bloggers and almost hid behind the computer rather than putting myself “out there” and being confident and bold.

I had put conditions on my confidence – I only felt good if I got a certain number of comments or likes on my social media and I started to feel a little insecure about my abilities.  It took me a while but I realized that this was a self-defeatist mindset and it was actually getting it the way of my happiness and success.  So here’s what I started to do – I pushed myself to do as many things that made me feel uncomfortable as possible so that I could grow and become stronger.  I started to accept my value even on those days where the engagement of my blog or social media was low, so that my confidence or happiness was no longer dependent on my success (or at least my perceived success!)

After going through these things I started to realize that this has been a pattern in my life – when things were going well I felt really good about myself, but if I had a bad sales month (or year) or I had a client cancel etc., etc. it made me feel like I wasn’t any good at what I was doing.  Now this is a double edged sword – it created a huge amount of drive in my career and life, BUT it also meant that no matter what, at some point, I was going to let a situation or a person determine how confident I felt in myself.  Obviously not the best way to live my life.

Do you find yourself putting conditions on how you feel about yourself?  Is your self-worth or confidence DEPENDENT on something?  It is a really common thought process in a lot of people, but if you can master the art of shining no matter what is going on in your life, and not allowing things or people determine how you feel about yourself, everything else just seems to work itself out – and not because everything is going to always go your way, but because you can handle it when it doesn’t!

If you have experienced in the past or if you currently find yourself thinking that you worth is conditional on certain things, I wanted to share with you a concept…

What if you just considered yourself as a unique, irreplaceable person, that is valued unconditionally, and that when you see yourself as this person, you will be able to connect and create stronger relationships in your life, the relationships that you deserve.  Would it be worth thinking this way instead of letting thoughts of shame, negativity, insecurity or judgement  camp out in your mind?  I can tell you that it worked for me, and that I work every day on focusing on the good in me…

 

 

Have an amazing weekend – I would love to hear what you think about this concept…Comment below!

 

You can shop my look by clicking the links below

Skirt:  from Downeast Basics – click here

 

 

Keys to Feeling Empowered

“You can find me somewhere in between inspiring others, working on myself, dodging negativity and slaying my goals!”

 

When we came into this world we all had the same amount of potential…

Circumstances, environment and attitude determine what we do with that potential.  No matter who you are, chances are you have had experiences and lived through circumstances that have essentially “rocked your world”.  It’s definitely easy to let our circumstances and our living conditions or environment get us down, but one thing is for sure…it is possible to change your outcome!

We watched a movie last night and it’s a silly, funny movie, but it made me think…The movie was “Joe Dirt” and if you are not familiar with the movie it is about an 8 year old boy that is “lost” by his parents at the Grand Canyon.  He spends the next 25 years searching for his family only to find out that they left him on purpose.  I know, sounds very silly, and obviously it is not very likely to be real, but it made me pause for a minute and think about my challenges.  The hard things that I have been through, the things that have essentially defined my path, are all opportunities to grow.  Trust me, it’s definitely not easy to look at my challenges and say “well…this is for my own good” when I am in pain, and sometimes in the deepest and darkest moments of my life.  But one thing I have learned as I have gone through some pretty serious challenges (like moving to the U.S. as a single mother, with no job and just praying things would figure themselves out because I needed a better life for my son), is that my strength has grown, my determination has become refined, and my confidence is much more solid than it has ever been.

So how do you become empowered to be who you are capable of being?  I truly believe that whether you believe in God, a higher power, guardian angels or just the universe, there is definitely something or someone out there rooting for you.  I have experienced this many, many times, when I didn’t think things would work out, and somehow they did.  I have realized that I can make decisions to make things happen, but the only way that truly works is that I TRUST and that I am not afraid.

I recently started Mountain Biking, and this morning Brandon and I went on a really scary trail that was about 8 miles to the top of a mountain with narrow switchbacks  I fell about 6 or 7 times, I cried, I got frustrated, I was angry, I was terrified, but obviously as I sit here writing this post, one thing is for sure, I made it.  The sense of accomplishment was amazing, even though I know I didn’t do it perfectly, at least I did it!

So, with all these things being said, how do you feel empowered?  Here are MY top 5 ways, you may have different ones that work for you…but these are the ones I use:

  1. Believe in myself – I absolutely 100% know that I can do anything I set my mind to.  It may not be smooth sailing, but I will figure out a way to make it happen!
  2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  Vulnerability and trust are things that are essential to make it through this life with someone by your side.  All relationships are based on these two things.
  3. Put in the work – I see a lot of books that talk about manifestations, but honestly without effort and action, it doesn’t matter how much you believe or think something will happen.
  4. Be patient – this is a really hard one for me – I want it and I want it now…but I am learning.
  5. Be there for someone else – this is a great way to remove the focus from you and help someone who needs you.  I have found that when I am serving or helping someone, because the energy is positive, it opens more and more doors for me.  I don’t do it with a focus on me, but that is definitely a side effect.

 

I hope as you head into this week, you find yourself believing in YOU and if you don’t already, starting to believe that you deserve great things!

Happy Monday!

Rock Your Own Style

“Be a voice not an echo!”

No matter who you are, where you’re from, your style says a lot about you.  Whether you use your style to stand out or you use it to blend in, somehow your personality seems to shine through in what you’re wearing.

Style is not something that is as exciting to some as it is to others, but even if you don’t care about all the latest trends or styles, my guess that there is still some piece of you that wants to look great and make the most of yourself (even if you don’t know how to do that).

 

With anything there are always going to be some that seem to have an affinity to be more stylish than others, but it doesn’t mean that because it doesn’t come naturally to you that you can’t learn it and become better at it.

Just the fact that you are reading this blog tells me that you do care…so how do you translate that into taking some action?  Looking at how others style things (whether that’s in a magazine, in a blog, on Instagram or Pinterest or on TV doesn’t matter), just seeing the realm of possibilities when it comes to style, knowing where you can buy things, and how to piece together an outfit will become easier and easier over time.

I have known people over the years that buy certain designers because they think that if they are buying that designer means they are being stylish – the problem with that is that I have found that not everything a certain designer works for any one person.  They are catering to the masses and therefore some styles are not going to suit your body type, coloring or personality.  Also seeing a mannequin in a store wearing a full outfit again doesn’t mean that the full outfit is going to work for you.  The key to styling any outfit is to know beforehand what your body type is, figure out which styles work for you so that you kind of have an idea what will and won’t work for you.  Then comes the fun part, you can start looking at different colors, patterns, adaptions on the styles that work for you and finally accessories & shoes (or if you’re like me, the shoes usually come first).

I do like to check out certain stores, follow their latest released styles and see which ones will work for me. I do know what I love, and have an idea how I want to put a piece together into an outfit before I buy anything.  Knowing what you have in your closet is always helpful because then you don’t get home and realize you already have something similar to what you just bought.  I have been loving that mustard yellow color recently and after I went on a recent shopping trip, when I got home I realized I had pretty much just been buying things I already had (no wonder I loved them so much 😉  )

 

 

My outfit today features a custom made T shirt from a fellow blogger in the UK (don’t you just love it), some amazingly comfortable and chic palazzo pants that I recently got from DownEast Basics (one store I love to check out because they have affordable, modest and stylish pieces), a cute little cross body bag that I picked up in NY and some sandals from last year.

You can shop the pants by clicking here
You can find the blogger and shop the Tee by clicking here
You can find a similar cross body bag by clicking here
You can find some similar sandals by clicking here
You can shop some similar sunglasses by clicking here

Whatever your personality, don’t be afraid to express it through your style.  Your comfort zone didn’t start out as it is now, at some point in your life you weren’t afraid to try something new…what have you got to lose?  Be You!  Be Unique!  Be Bold!

Happy Humpday – hope your week is fabulous!