Whether you’re like I was when I started this blog and hate having your picture taken, or even if you don’t mind at all, there are definitely some pictures that you HATE and those that you LOVE!
Thankfully in this digital age and with fast shutter speeds a lot of the pictures I have taken manage to capture me without my eyes closed, and some even make me have that “Vogue” feeling – where I feel like I could actually be a model. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t ACTUALLY think I could be in Vogue magazine, but I have learned to appreciate my beauty and definitely love finding good pictures of me.
The reason I am telling you this is that it is so important for us to see our own beauty, and like the quote says, true beauty comes from being beautiful on the inside too. I have known a lot of people in my life that may not have had the most attractive features but once I got to know them, I realized that they were the most beautiful of all people…because they radiated that inner beauty. The same can be said for those people that have the perfect features, and are pleasing to the eye, if they are not beautiful on the inside, that will eventually show and they won’t be seen as beautiful people. Do you remember that movie “Shallow Hal” with Jack Black and it had a cameo from Tony Robbins who actually taught him to see the inside and not just the outside. Once he did that he started overlooking people’s outside flaws and saw them for who they really are.
OK, so I know that Tony Robbins is not going to actually do that for each of us, but here’s a great way we can start: We can see ourselves as beautiful, recognize beauty in others (and not just appearance beauty but the real stuff) and the more that we look for it, the more we will see it (including in ourselves). I know a lot of people that can truly see beauty in others but have a hard time seeing it in themselves. For whatever reason they don’t like to look for it. Here’s what I’ll tell you, just like the lack of inner beauty eventually shows, so does the real beauty and no matter what, even if you kid yourself that you aren’t actually beautiful or deserve love, guess what, it’s going to come out in the end. You may as well see it for yourself because it’s not something that can be permanently hidden.
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Perhaps it’s a worthiness, where because of something in your past you don’t feel worthy of love or anyone’s praise? Perhaps you have heard your entire life that you aren’t beautiful from someone you trusted or loved? Or it could even be that you have faced some type of bullying or abuse? The only way you can change your past is by changing your future. If you’re still believing what someone told you, how you felt, and you’re ultimately agreeing with what they said or did, then you are still allowing that person or situation to control you. Maybe i’m the only one that has a problem with control, but I can tell you, something like that wouldn’t sit well with me – I definitely wouldn’t want to feel that someone or something else had power over me.
Don’t get me wrong, there have been times in my life when I have felt “less than” because of someone’s behavior, because of not meeting unrealistic expectations I put on myself, and many more reasons. So, when I did eventually come to my senses and realize that in order to move through something I had to just let go, that’s when everything changed. I have been known to have a hard time letting things go, i’m not going to lie, so when I tell you that I did it, just know that it didn’t happen overnight. In fact it took years, and during that time when I didn’t let go I was absolutely miserable. I had this notion that everyone should know what an injustice had been done to me, that it just wasn’t fair, and honestly I thought I was fighting back, but what I realized is that what I was doing was perpetuating the situation.
So how do we move through something so that we can start to see our beauty (and not just the mirror reflection kind of beauty)? The easy answer is just change your thoughts, but that’s easier said than done. So honestly, here’s what it will take…repetition, telling ourself that we are beautiful, so that eventually we start to see what others see. And here’s the best news, as you start to see beauty in yourself, the beauty around you becomes so much more pronounced and life just starts to seem rosier!
I don’t about you but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with looking at the world through rose colored glasses – who knows we might actually start to find things and people we didn’t even know existed.
Happy Wednesday – you’ve made it to the middle of the week, there’s definitely beauty in that!