I am sure you have all heard that the eyes are the window to the soul…well, I can tell you that by looking into someone’s eyes, and I mean REALLY looking, you can actually tell a lot about a person!
In fact, if you really do take the time to sit and notice someone, look at them and connect with them you can feel their energy and start to learn things about them. I have always been someone that has had a hard time hiding my emotions, in fact if you ever really want to know how I am feeling about something, you just need to look at my face and definitely my eyes.
The reason I am telling you about this, is that the greatest thing we can do for ourselves and others in this live is to truly connect. So, if you really want to connect with someone, take the time to notice things about them, pay attention to their eye movement, whether they look you in the eye, and the sparkle or lack of sparkle in their eyes.
Does this seem crazy or are you open to this concept? After over 20 years in sales, I can attest to the importance of stepping into someone else’s world rather than pushing your own agenda. Even if you think you are not in sales so this doesn’t apply to you…think again. We are ALL in sales in one form or another. Whether you are starting a new relationship, interviewing for a new position, developing friendships or wanting to make the relationship with your spouse or children better, you are in sales. The goal is to let the other person really see what you are about, what a good person you are, and how much you care – all sales.
So, if you could just take the time to notice someone instead of carrying on your own agenda, how much do you think that could change your life? I know in my life, when I truly want to connect with someone, I don’t spend all the time talking about ME, I listen, I notice, I watch, and I learn…remembering important details in another person’s life and connecting with them on that level is vital to establishing and maintaining amazing relationships. I always tell my kids that if you want to HAVE a friend, you have to BE a friend – in that order!
Here’s the part where I have struggled in my life – I love to be the most loyal and trustworthy friend, but there have only been a select few that I have allowed to become that close to me. I have been reluctant to be completely vulnerable because of times in the past where people have taken advantage of that vulnerability. Only those that truly notice me are the ones that I have let in completely. While my actions were there to help protect me, what they actually have done in the past have ultimately made me more lonely and isolated. I am finally to a place in my life, where I know the REAL people that I want in it, I let those people in and I allow myself the grace to not be perfect and share that with those closest to me 🙂
Have you ever looked into someone’s eyes and just KNOWN what they are thinking or how they are feeling? I can tell you that this has made a huge difference in my life…it has allowed me to have amazing relationships and I feel very blessed because of them.
Could using this tool do anything in your life? As you look into my eyes what do you see?