When you were little and someone asked you who or what you wanted to be what did you tell them? I had a dream to be a Doctor and more specifically an OB Gyn, which changed to an Optometrist when I realized I could only handle births that had happy endings. I studied pre-med for my Associates Degree and then my Bachelors was in Physiology with Microbiology. Sounds like I was on track, right? Well, what I found out along the way was that I actually didn’t like to be tied down to something, have a rigid structure or simply that I really didn’t like to be told what to do. As you can imagine, that would never be the case with anything in the medical field, so I decided to look into sales instead.
My dad had been a very successful salesman for all of my life, and I had realized that he had enormous amounts of flexibility, make amazing money and had lots and lots of vacation. Obviously all three of those things were selling points for me, so that’s how I ended up where I am today.
I don’t feel like I gave up on any of my dreams, or at least I didn’t until a couple of years ago, and that is the time when I started working more with Brandon and started by blog. I knew I wanted to give back, I knew I wanted to help people, and I knew I loved fashion. For a long time I had no idea how those things could possibly tie together, but I am starting to figure that out now.
Dreams and goals are so important in our lives. In order to achieve the big goals we have to be willing to set smaller ones and work towards achieving them. At some point in our lives we have all achieved SOMETHING and the feeling that we get when we achieve something, well that’s what keeps us on track for bigger and better things. It doesn’t mean that fear doesn’t creep in or that we sometimes have to change our direction or tactics, but what it does mean is that a dream or goal is just that – something that we get to turn into reality by constant effort, drive, determination and resilience.
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Have you ever been told by someone that you wouldn’t be able to do something? I know I have. When I was in High School in England I had a teacher that didn’t like me and had no confidence in me. In fact she actually told me that I should set my sights lower than being a Doctor. I have to admit it was probably because I wasn’t the best student, but shhh! don’t tell my kids that. Regardless, that kind of negativity is bound to have an impact on even the most confident person. I am pretty tough, but I can tell you, for a while I actually started to believe that I wasn’t smart, that I wasn’t going to be able to do what I wanted to do and even worse, that I wasn’t good enough. Not believing in yourself is probably one of the worst things you can do to yourself. It is what depression is made of, it can create anxiety and even thoughts of suicide.
Having a dream is something that can create sunshine on even the darkest day, but only if you realize that in order to get what you’re dreaming of, you actually have to put in some effort. I know there has been a lot of information out there about “manifesting” your dreams, and don’t get me wrong, we absolutely attract to ourselves the things we focus on, but it still requires work, dedication and commitment – and when you combine those things with focusing on the dream, that’s when it becomes more attainable. I’m not saying that good things won’t ever happen to you without work, because I have had great things happen to me…but it is also not the norm. I used to have a boss that always told me “the harder you work, the luckier you are” and I believe that 100% because that is what I saw in my business.
No matter what you believe, remember that having a dream and pursuing that dream is not something you should ever give up!
Happy Wednesday – dream on!!