When you meet someone for the first time what is the first thing you notice about them? Do you notice what they’re wearing? Do you notice what they say? Do you notice how they stand? It’s a fact that the impression you get from someone the first time you meet them is most likely to stay with you because it’s based on your past experiences and it resonates most clearly with you.
How you see someone the first time you meet them could very much determine whether you want to see them again, want to do business with them, want to get to know them better or would rather just walk away. Because our first impressions are based on our past experiences, we are not all going to see things the same way. However, there are some things that you can do that will start you off with a great first impression and then you can allow your personality, style, confidence and your other unique factors shine though at a later date.
I thought long and hard before I wrote this post about things that draw me to others to get to know them more, check out some of my ideas of being a magnet below:
Don’t be stiff…relaxed is also an expression of confidence
As human beings we do so much better when we interact with others, so developing relationships whether personally or for business, it is absolutely vital that we are able to do it. Even the most independent person needs to know there are people in their corner when they need them.
Our bodies tell a story about us before we even speak, so the question is, what story do you want to be told about you? I know on the inside I have a really big heart, I am sensitive and loving, but based on past experiences I sometimes allow anger and frustration seep in and I build walls around my sensitive heart to protect myself – which can make me look rigid, unapproachable and intimidating. I know this is not the way to get people to know the REAL me, however, there have been times that I have been hurt, so it is a habit. If I want people to see me, I have to think before I act, I have to focus on how I present myself in public and in private, otherwise I will push people away, and I definitely don’t want to do that.
Do you have something you do that affects your body language? Comment below…I would love to hear!