Where do you think femininity comes from? Is it something you wear? How you dress? Your makeup? Or just simply how you feel about yourself?
I have talked about femininity before and one of the key notes that I always come back to is that femininity is absolutely tied to how you feel about yourself Femininity is in fact a feeling that is transferred from you to whoever you are around. I know that no matter what it is that I am wearing if I feel amazingly confident and happy with myself that is what I project. Now, if I am wearing something that makes me feel better about myself because I’ve looked in the mirror and really like what I see, then I am more likely to feel feminine or classy – and here’s the absolute best part, it is a strength and power if we learn how to harness it.
So, with that being said, is it possible to feel really feminine when you are dressed more casually say in jeans or something completely casual? I say absolutely YES! For me, when I find a fantastic pair of jeans that fits my curves, that are comfortable and also that look amazing, I am going add a fabulous top and make that whole outfit just rock! By adding a nice blouse like I am wearing in this post, it dresses up the jeans a little more, but still has a casual, fun vibe.
I am always open to trying new styles and stores, so when I was sent this pair of jeans from Dress Barn and they even offered to customize them for me, I jumped at the chance to give them a try. Here is my honest feedback and review on what I liked about them…
No matter where you decide to get your jeans from, make sure that they are comfortable. There is nothing worse than a pair of jeans that makes you look great but you can hardly breathe and you couldn’t even entertain the idea of eating at all. For summer there are so many more jean & denim options, so have fun. Try some, wear them with a nice blouse, add some cool shoes, dress them up or down and see how you feel. When you exude femininity, which is ultimately where real femininity comes from, what you’re wearing will never take away from that. So I do believe that you can absolutely feel and look amazingly feminine when you are dressed casually and in jeans!
Have you ever had a day when you have woken up and you don’t feel great, for some reason you have a lack of energy, and you just don’t want to dress up at all. I usually have about one day every other week where I experience a little demotivation around putting forth an effort on my appearance, or I just don’t care. I have found that on those days, when I really push myself to make an effort, at some point during the day my mood starts to match my effort. I have always felt like as Women we should use our outfits to express how we feel about ourselves, and sometimes to help us feel on the inside how we look on the outside.
You’ll have to let me know if this has ever worked for you like it does for me!
I have linked some great jeans below – just click the links to shop!
I have always enjoyed the challenge of finding a deal, bargain shopping and feeling like I have accomplished something. Do you get excited at the prospect of “saving” money, even if you didn’t need something?
Buying things that are on sale is not always easy, there are a lot of things that I have bought in the past that have sat in my closet, tags still on, and never worn because I only bought them because they were a “deal”. If this sounds like you, then you definitely need to read on!
Have you ever heard yourself say “look how much money I saved” when you bought something? I have to admit that I have told Brandon that many times and he just laughs because he knows that in order to SAVE that money, it means I had to spend money 😉
If you’re interested in saving yourself some money without stressing yourself out, and having fun – read on…
Take Your Time
One of the biggest reasons that some people might be more effective at bargain shopping is that they allow themselves time. I know it sounds simple, but if you’ve ever been into a store like TJ Maxx, Nordstrom Rack or Ross you know that if you want to find anything you really have to dig. You have to be able to rummage, to pull things out, and to check everywhere because things are crammed onto racks and not everything is where it should be. I have been told that stores like this are an anxiety catalyst, meaning that it makes them break out into a sweat even just thinking about going into them, so it makes sense that if you don’t want to experience that feeling as intensely, you probably want to avoid peak times (weekends or lunchtimes).
Know What You’re Looking For
I have found my bargain shopping success comes more often when I have a specific color, style or fabric I am searching for. Of course that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t jump at amazing deals just because they are outside your search criteria (unless they fall into the category of buying it ONLY because it’s on sale), it just means you have at least a goal in mind. Knowing styles that work for your body is also helpful so that when you find something in your size you have an idea of whether it will work even before you try it on.
Give Yourself a Limit
This is definitely an area where I struggle a little because I don’t like to take anything off the table. If I find something I like to be able to buy it, but there have definitely been times that I have told myself I would only spend a certain amount and I have always been able to find multiple things that have kept me under that budget. One thing I like to remind myself of is that something is only a bargain if you can afford it…if you have the means. I absolutely love a lot of designer shoes and I would love to have my closet filled with Louboutins, Jimmy Choos or Manolo Blahnik’s, but it’s also not something I want to spend all my money on!
Take a Friend
I am definitely a highly efficient solo shopper (anyone who knows me will attest), however, the most fun I have is when I have a friend – you know that person that will tell you “NO! don’t buy it just because it’s cheap!” Another rule of bargain shopping is that a bargain is not a bargain unless it’s something you will really wear! Like I mentioned before, the number of times I have bought something that was a “deal” only for it to sit in my closet for ages until I spring clean and send it to goodwill!
Break it up
If you are making a day of shopping, break it up by grabbing lunch or coffee, just to allow yourself to recoup even if just for a little while. As you know I often go out of town on shopping trips and while I do spend 99% of the time shopping, I definitely take time to smell the roses, enjoy the food and company! If you are not a “shopper” by nature, then you will definitely want to make sure that wherever you’re going, you don’t plan on spending more time than necessary there. Even though I do love to shop, I definitely don’t like to spend too long in any store – I like to scan, and then leave.
Do it Online
Bargain shopping is by no means something that needs to be done in person. Most stores have mailing lists that you can sign up for and will receive sale offers, there are also many sites that offer discounts, and daily deals, so there is honestly no reason that you can’t find a deal from the comfort of your couch. The key with online clothes shopping is knowing the styles that work for YOU and reading the sizing guide because every store has different sizing). Some of the best deals I have came from online sites, which I especially love because I am less likely to see someone else wearing the same thing! Some of my favorite online shopping stores are: ASOS.com, BOOHOO.com, HAUTELOOK.com and of course some websites like Zulily that offers daily deals, and Brads Deals. Amazon has really “upped” their game too – so if I am looking for something specific or want to see some fun, less expensive styles, I always search their inventory too!
If you are one of the many that likes the idea of bargain shopping but it causes anxiety just thinking about it, I hope these tricks or tips have helped! I would love to hear if you have any ideas that I may have missed…hit me up 🙂
You can check out some amazing deals by viewing some shopping links I have put together for you – my latest favorite bargains…and these SALE items even have a bigger discount, just click the picture links below…
Have you ever owned a dress that is just so perfect it can be dressed up or dressed down?
If you want to keep your wardrobe as simple as possible, adding a versatile dress that works for both business or casual is a great way to do it.
This simple Grey dress I am wearing is perfect for a more casual look with sport sandals. I wore it this way for my son’s baseball tournament in St George, because it was cool, comfortable but still stylish. It can even be dressed up with some heels/booties, and I added a little edge to my look by wearing my Moto biker leather jacket.
I love simplicity, but only when it is also stylish and this dress is exactly that. I have found that I am most happy when I feel good about how I look, and that even includes when I am just going to a baseball game. I have always lived by the philosophy that when I feel good about how I look, I act nicer, and I am more confident.
Confidence to me comes from knowing that I am taking care and time into looking my best for ME. I dress how I dress because I love to do it. I don’t do it for compliments (although I’m not going to lie a compliment always feels good), I do it because it makes me feel good about myself.
Have you ever noticed that when you are not in a good mood, you’re not happy or you’re going through something in your life, that you find it harder to decide what to wear? Last week was a rough time for our family with something going on at my youngest’s school, so I found myself standing for ages in my closet at a loss to what I could wear. I sat there staring, I picked out LOTS of different things & tried on things before I decided on an outfit that would normally have taken me only minutes to pick out. It made me realize that because I didn’t feel good inside, it was hard to want to feel good on the outside! Crazy I know…but once I did dress up and feel good about what I was wearing, it helped me to feel a little stronger, more confident and even more prepared to handle what was thrown at me that day.
Have a great day!!
I am still learning this concept. For the longest time I had the notion that in order to dress casual it meant that I couldn’t dress up. And since I LOVE to dress up, I would very often have a hard time styling my casual outfits!
I am learning more and more every day, in fact, I would say that I am even starting top feel comfortable dressing down a little more than I ever have. I think for me the biggest challenge was that in corporate America I had to dress for business every day, and even on Friday’s it was a rule that we couldn’t wear jeans. That doesn’t mean I didn’t break the rule and wear different colors of jeans, jackets & skirts, but it definitely limited my creativity. Now I don’t have the same restrictions so I am starting to grow and have even more fun with my casual style.
Denim is such a versatile fabric, but I think it had a bad reputation for so long. I used to argue with my bosses that I would spend more money on my jeans than my business clothes, but somehow it didn’t change anything. I think the reason was that for most people, wearing jeans meant that they were in their “scruffs” and they would REALLY dress down the outfit to the point of just looking sloppy. Of course that wasn’t the norm, but it was what everyone seemed to remember unfortunately!
Hence, today’s post about denim…about how versatile, classy and professional it can still be!
Of course, I am not saying that anyone should not follow the guidelines of where they work, but what I mean is that if you have any leeway or any other times you can put together some denim outfits, then why not have fun with it 😉
Chambray – this is probably one of my favorite fabrics right now. It’s denim, but much softer. It is also not typical and could probably allow you to sneak by undetected in a company that has a rule of no jeans. It is feminine, it flows, and most importantly, it is cool for summer days whereas regular denim really isn’t!
Denim jacket – everyone needs one! Whether you are wearing it just to carry for those nights when you’re not quite sure how the weather will be, or you’re looking to dress down a more formal look…a denim jacket is such a versatile piece that I always recommend everyone has at least one (and I say at least one, because there are so many styles, that I would feel a little unprepared if I didn’t have a few different ones 😉 )
Denim skirt – especially one with a sexy slit is something that can be worn, look classy as well as a little sassy. I love a fitted denim skirt but there are so many styles out there, that there is one that will suit your body type and confidence level! Choose the style that best fits your unique style and dress it up with a nice blouse and some heels, or go for a more casual look with some summer wedge sandals and a T shirt!
I did a little research and found some great denim styles and I have linked them to shop below – just click the links…
From when we are five years old right up until, at the very minimum, we are eighteen, we go to school to learn…We learn some general subjects as well as those specialized to help us determine the career path we want to take in our life, but not only that, we learn how to interact with others, we learn how to be respectful all whilst we are growing and coming into ourselves. So if we spend all this time learning and honing our interactional skills, learning capabilities and maturity, why would we not do the same when it comes to our appearance? After all…in a world where judgements are rampant and our appearance is very often how people determine whether or not they want to do business with us, we should spend as much time if not more, learning and developing our presentation (and I mean personal appearance presentation) skills!
The challenge we face is that it is not as clear cut as school studies, relationship skills or even leadership skills. So how do we grow our personal presentation capabilities? Some people have innate skills, while others have to work a little harder, but the good news is that no matter how good we are, we can all learn more.
I will let you all into some of my secrets, which are pretty simple and I am sure you could figure them out even if I didn’t tell you (but just in case)…
I love new seasons, and I especially love that we get all 4 seasons here in Utah because it gives me the chance to change my look every few months (although I must say that I am sooo ready for this rain to top and for hot days right now)! Changing seasons allows me to keep my look fresh, change it up and adapt…
Even if you don’t remember anything else about this post, I want you to take this away with you…continue to learn about style. Just like in anything else, it is not something where one day we can say we have learned all we can learn…things are always changing, new styles are coming out and old ones are being repurposed . That is why we need to keep it fresh. Don’t be a follower or just stuck in your ways, find new ways to present yourself in the best way possible for your personality, body type and coloring. I promise if you do this, you will feel more self-confidence and people will be attracted to that (whether it be business or personal relationships)…
Happy Hump Day!
Are you someone that likes to try new style trends or do you like to stick to those that make you feel comfortable?
One of my favorite trends right now is the Palazzo pants trend. I love it because it’s like wearing pants and a skirt at the same time. So for those of you out there that prefer pants – we got you! Or, for those of you out there that prefer to stick to skirts – we got you too!!
I have found such a wide variety in some higher end stores, and those stores that are a little less expensive. The pair I’m wearing in this post I was so excited about because I found them on clearance, and they were such a great deal (am I the only one that loves it when I can tell my husband that I have SAVED us so much money 😉 ? ) – similar pair linked here
I may not have talked about this but my 2nd oldest son is graduating High School this year and we just had his Senior pictures taken. As he was deciding what to wear for the pictures (he is very particular about how he looks, but he kind of got stuck in black and white thinking), he had a really hard time trying to decide on an outfit. He wanted to do two outfits, one more casual and one in church clothes, but for the church clothes he was having a hard time. I had recently bought him a pair of light blue pants, and a vest that was a darker blue color. He wasn’t convinced that the two went together, so was trying to explain to him that a contrast is sometimes even more classic than trying to match too closely. He begrudgingly wore it and the pictures looked really great.
He was having such a hard time because he believed that in order for the outfit to look good, that it had to match completely. I tried to explain that the new rules are that we create our own rules and not everything needs to “match” (it’s actually way more fun to NOT match!)
Speaking of that concept, I had some fun mixing the floral with the pinstripe, but had I been stuck in an older, more traditional way of thinking, I don’t think I would have even tried it.
Here are some ways that I decide my outfits – I have found that when I am unsure about something I seek a little guidance from others that are already doing what I want to try…here are a few of mine, just in case you need a little inspiration:
The key is that no matter how you dress, the styles you like and how you are wanting to be remembered, you make sure that YOU feel comfortable. Dressing for yourself is so important because it allows us to take the focus to how we act and what we accomplish rather than how we look.
I believe in starting off the week great – so be the energy that you want to attract! HAPPY MONDAY.
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