You may have noticed that I’ve been doing quite a bit of traveling recently…I don’t know about you, but I work so I can travel with my family as much as possible. Ever since I was young and my parents took us on some amazing trips, I have always been a big believer in making memories being the most important things we can do in our lives. In fact, I don’t even know if I could remember the many of the gifts I was given for birthdays or Christmas but I do remember the good times we had traveling with my parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles and cousins.
Traveling is something that is ingrained in my DNA…and my kids will tell you the same. It definitely does make it challenging to fit in all the work that I need so I can enjoy the vacation and not have to take time away from the family. Being organized writing my blog posts, planning what I am going to post and all the other elements that go into blogging and promoting it on social media are vital! Even taking vacation from my full time job is not always vacation because I like to make sure I am available if problems arise with my clients and see if there are things I need to take care of.
You may be asking yourself why I am talking about all the work that I have to do to be organized so I can travel…well, here’s the point – I love to travel and that isn’t going to change, but I also have goals & standards that mean I have to be really organized so I can enjoy my vacations. My goals aren’t going to go away just because I love to travel, but I definitely have to make sure that I plan ahead!
I have recently been working with my 16 year old who got a little behind with his school work because of our vacation to Hawaii and I told him that he needed to write a list of the things he was behind with and then make a plan for when he was going to complete each task. After a little push back he agreed to do it and once he had everything down he told me that it had really helped him because then he didn’t have to have all the things jumbled inside his head, giving him more to worry about. Once he had everything written down, he could check off each thing once completed and see that list become less and less overwhelming.
I follow a very similar style – I know what I need to do, and always write a list about EVERYTHING. Including whether I need to pack certain things, if I need to go to a store to pick something up etc. If I miss something when I am writing the list, I guarantee it’s something I will completely miss or even worse, I wake up in the middle of the night almost in a cold sweat with a list in my head again of things that I should have written down.
My goals are very important to me, I am always making new goals, and I never stop working towards them. I have found that every goal, whether big or small, requires consistent effort and nothing (not even a vacation) is going to stop me from putting in that consistent effort!
My goal when I started this blog was to inspire women to express their unique personality through their style, which would in turn grow their confidence. I have always felt that our biggest challenge as women is the belief in ourselves. Feeling great about yourself absolutely leads you to become more confident and hopefully that in turn leads to achieving whatever your goals are. I am not going to give up on my goal…and neither should you!
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As I looked in stores this week, and on my shopping trip to LA last weekend, I saw that a lot of the new styles and the colors of Easter Dresses for young girls, were more muted, pastel colors. Not that I don’t love pastels, but I think it’s also really fun to add in some really bright and bold colors along with those pastels.
The weather here in Utah this winter has been so weird, we almost had a spring in February and now it’s March we have seen quite a lot of snow. It’s hard to plan for the new spring season when we are still in the cold, snowy weather. For this shoot the outfit that I put together is a bold, Royal Blue skirt with a feminine, lacy White blouse and White pumps. To add a little “edge’ to the whole look (but also because it was freezing and the sun was starting to go down), I added my Black leather Moto jacket which is one of my favorites.
This Royal Blue is a color that actually works for any season, but for spring I toned down the boldness by adding the feminine White blouse and ankle strap pumps. Wearing bold colors doesn’t need to be just for bold, sassy personalities, in fact, when you pair a bold color with a more feminine or muted color it makes it much easier to wear, even if you are not one that likes to draw too much attention to yourself.
With the way fashion and styles are now, there really is something for everyone and with all the choices there are so many opportunities for us to express our unique personalities through our clothes. Sometimes shopping can be overwhelming, not knowing how something might work for you and your body type can be hard when you are just looking at things on hangers. That’s why I like to see what other styles people are wearing, see how they put together their outfits and then take those ideas to adapt to myself.
Not that I’m biased, but a great way to find some fun, unique ways of putting things together is by looking at blogs. There are so many bloggers out there and each one has its own fun way of dressing. I definitely get a lot of ideas from other bloggers and I am sure they do the same. We are all unique individuals but there are very few unique styles or fashions any more. It seems the older I get the more styles I see “recycled” from when I was younger – and not all of them are good. The key is knowing how they work for your body type, personality and most importantly, your age. While I do believe that most styles work for any age there are some that I would NEVER be found wearing because they are just not appropriate for me at my age.
All the pieces in my outfit (or similar ones) are linked below…
One of the biggest challenges I have in my life are managing my expectations. I quite often find myself imagining how a scenario will go, how something is going to turn out and even worse, expecting people to react in a certain way. It wasn’t until the past few years that I even recognized that I was doing this and noticed what effect it was having on my life or the happiness I was unable to experience because of it.
I have always been someone that has demanded REALLY high standards from myself, and also from others that I work with, interact with and live with. As you can imagine, having expectations about how one of your kids or your spouse is going to react is pretty much insanity…because we have absolutely no control over that and we more often than not end up disappointed.
Even this past weekend I had so much fun traveling and shopping and one of my favorite things to do is to buy gifts for people. What I found is that my excitement for the gifts wasn’t exactly felt by those I had bought the gifts for. After speaking with Brandon about how it made me feel sad that someone wasn’t excited about what I bought them, he helped me understand that it wasn’t about the gift at all but rather what I “expected” they would react like when I gave the gift to them. I know I’m not crazy and I know I am not the only one that has done or does this…in fact, my guess is it is pretty common (whether you may be conscious of it or not).
Expectations can be our worst enemy. They can take a positive thing (like giving a gift) and turn it into frustration, disappointment and sadness…
Unfortunately there is not a “quick fix” because I have had these habits for longer than I would care to admit, but what I do know is that now that I recognize what I am doing, it is easier to spot it, and even if I initially feel the disappointment, or frustration, I can tell myself that I am slipping into old patterns and nip the expectations in the bud.
Just as most things in life, a want to and most definitely a huge effort is what is needed to change any direction in your life, and more often than not, that effort is at times going to seem overwhelming.
Expectations can manifest themselves in so many ways, it can be expectations of ourselves, of others and also of situations. I have to admit that when I first started my blog I had HUGE expectations about how long it would take me to learn all I need to know, what kinds of reactions I would have to my content, how many followers I would get, etc. I can tell you that I soon realized that it was going to look nothing like my initial expectation and that’s when I started to become frustrated, impatient and even discouraged. What I realized is that the main reason I started my blog was to help people (particularly women) recognize their worth, gain confidence through feeling good about how they look, and have the courage to take on their lives…so how could I put a timeframe on that? Great things take time and I am willing to take that time to help as many people as possible! I made a decision to trade the expectations of how I thought my blog should look for an appreciation of what it has taught me, how much I’ve grown and just the fact that I am able to help people 🙂
With that being said, if you can think of anything topic I could cover that would help you personally, shoot me an email…I would love to know!!
One final thought…”No one can make you feel inferior without your consent!”
I honestly thought that when my kids were little was so challenging, but as they grow older, what i’m finding is that I spend so much more energy now running kids all over the place, worrying about what they’re doing – because I just seem to have so much less control.
Working full time, writing a blog, managing my family relationships, client relationships and friendships all require energy as well, and while I wouldn’t change any of it…I do sometimes need to recharge. My idea of recharging may not be the same as yours – I kind of like spending a weekend just shopping, walking, exploring and eating – to me, that’s how I recharge. In the picture above we are having ourselves a little treat of a cookie shot filled with Tahitian vanilla milk – ridiculously amazing!
Spending time with friends for me gives me energy too…having that time to laugh, talk things through, seek advice and just share stories really makes me feel like I can make it – in the midst of mini catastrophes (if you’re a mum you know what I mean)!
I spent this last weekend in L.A. doing just that. We found some amazing restaurants on Yelp! and a couple in particular stood out: Broken Mouth (Hawaiian Homestyle cooking) which is close to the Fashion District downtown and Faith & Flower, again downtown. It’s a good thing we did plenty of walking because we certainly ate plenty because the food was so good.
It can be hard to find time to take a trip away like I did, so here are some other ideas to help you recharge and renew:
Whenever I return from a trip I am always ready to plan my next one…so stay tuned for what we’re going to be doing over spring break 😉
One of the reasons I love to have my hair longer or at least mid length is because I can experiment with different ways of wearing it up and down. I love to try new things, I love to look different and not have my look “predictable” every day – which may be partly because I couldn’t get it to look the same even if I tried – LOL!
I follow various hair boards on Pinterest, I follow other bloggers and when I am reading magazines or watching TV shows I am always checking out people’s hair to see if it is something I could myself. Wearing my hair up really makes me feel extra confident and feminine…and who couldn’t use a little of that sometimes?
Because I have such fine hair I like to practice some styles before I wear them out because they don’t all work with my hair type…
The style I have in today’s pictures is a cross between a french pleat and a bun – a french pleat is a hairstyle that reminds me of Audrey Hepburn, very classy, whereas a bun can have so many variations, some of which are messy and others are sleek. I like to keep mine a little looser with my hair swept behind my ears and some loose tendrils. I use a strong elastic to put my hair into a ponytail first and then create the bun from there.
If you’re looking for some hair inspiration you can follow my “Hair Style” Board on Pinterest @stylequeenie. I think that tutorials are helpful (some of which are on my board) and pictures most definitely speak a thousand words.
My final tip is that, just like I do, practice will only make you feel more comfortable when you want to use some styles for special occasions or just to feel more feminine. Seeing a picture and being able to recreate a look on yourself is sometimes a little harder than you would think. I know a lot of people that can braid hair, but yet they can’t seem to master braiding their own hair. There may also be some Women out there that are able to just pull their hair back effortlessly and looking like a Million Dollars…but I can tell you I’m not one of them – which is why practice has always been key for me.
As the weekend draws near, that would be a great time to try some new hair techniques…get crazy and have fun!
I don’t know what it is but for some reason the older I get, the less makeup I want to wear and the less time I want to spend getting ready each day.
As I was growing up in the 80’s I had a wide variety of eye shadows, liners and foundation that I applied very liberally, in fact the more hard lines in the shadow the better. I almost cringe to think about what I must have looked like with my lovely permed hair and Red, Blue and Green eyeshadow – LOL!
Nowadays things are much different – I don’t wear foundation and I typically only take about 25-30 minutes to get ready each morning, which includes waking the kids up, showering, getting dressed, drying my hair and makeup. However, I am always looking for ways to create a more natural and sustainable look…
I have tried various things to help me save time while still keeping a natural look, but none have turned out as well as the one want to talk about today. In fact, I have tried lashes that you apply yourself and home and while they look amazing I could never quite get both sides to look the same and I actually glued my eye shut once – ouch!
Last week I had the opportunity to have lash extensions, and I have to admit I was very nervous. I wanted to maintain a look of not being over-done, and I have to tell you – as soon as I saw the finish product I was VERY happy! My lashes looked full, but yet natural. And want to know the best part…I went for 2 full days wearing no make up at all, and after that all I did was add a slight dusting of a pale eyeshadow to prevent some shine. It didn’t feel like I was naked, in fact, I am much more in love with my new look. You can choose to natural like I did, or try one of their other options: Gorgeous, Sexy or Cute.
I had lashes a few years ago and my biggest concern was that it took too long and I don’t sit still very well! I didn’t feel like that at Amazing Lash Studio because I felt so relaxed being in my own private room – so much so that I have to confess I may have even taken a quick nap!
So, if you’re looking for convenient ways to look beautiful. If you are busy, on the go, or just don’t want to deal with the morning beauty routine. I’ve got an answer for you…
Go to the Lash Studio that I went to which is conveniently located in Sugarhouse at 1202 Wilmington Avenue. And even better…it’s their Grand Opening this week and they are offering an awesome Introductory Offer of only $79.99 for a Full set of lashes (that’s less than half price!) They recommend a fill every 2-4 weeks, but since they are able to apply a full set or a fill in about HALF the time other studios do, I can definitely make the time work for my busy schedule!
If you’re like me and looking for a way to have your lashes look even better looking than your natural lashes WITH mascara, then you really need to give them a call. During this Grand Opening week they are also giving away a free lash wand or Maintain the Lash kit (while supplies last)…so don’t wait too long to call them. You can call to schedule an appointment during the Grand Opening week at 801-456-2500 or click here to schedule online.
I can’t wait to hear if you love them as much as I do! And just to make things a little more interesting – head over to my Instagram @stylequeeniee to enter to win your very own full set of lashes – winners will be drawn on Friday 9th March!!
It’s funny, I find myself batting my eyelashes a little more than usual…it’s given me an added confidence, you can have that too! 😉
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