I believe that beauty comes from what is inside us, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t enhance what is on the outside as well. Taking care of ourselves is one of the most important things we can do…
We owe it to ourselves to enhance our inner beauty by making sure we are wearing the right makeup that suits our personality and our skin tone, that we follow the best beauty regimen for our skin so that we can continue to look and feel as young as we are at heart. Taking proper care of our hair is equally as important, because having a bad hair day can affect even the most confident of people. I remember about 15 years ago I decided to cut my hair pretty short and dyed it pretty dark brown. No sooner had I walked out of the salon I regretted it. The saddest part is that I was leaving town the next day and couldn’t get back in for 2 weeks 🙁 . I don’t tell you this so you won’t try new things, because there have been plenty of times that I have done funky and fun hair styles, but the brown, that just wasn’t me, and I felt kind of yucky and self conscious.
I love natural beauty, I believe in a little is just enough – unless it’s for a special occasion where you really want to make a statement. I make sure that my makeup suits me, I prefer to wear concealer over foundation, and I typically look pretty natural, with maybe just a light dusting of eyeshadow and liner. I never go without mascara (my lashes are so fair that I don’t look like I have any unless I wear it) and my favorite makeup item is always the lipstick…
Whether you love to wear more or less than me, it doesn’t matter because we are unique after all…
Staying true to who you are, but not being afraid to make the most of what you have, that’s why I am writing this blog post. We live in a world where we see what others do and think that it means we have to do that too. Not so…we should only do things we are comfortable with.
I have also see many people commenting or posting on social media about procedures, enhancements etc. that they don’t approve of, or that they would never do. Their opinions are fine – because they are just that…their opinions. It doesn’t matter what the topic is, there are always going to be people on either side of the fence when it comes to making the most of your beauty.
Your beauty is your beauty – no one else’s! If you want to wear some red lipstick, wear some fishnets to feel sexy – you go girl!! If you prefer to be more understated, that is totally fine too.
Just make sure whatever you are doing, you are doing it for YOU and not because someone else thinks you should or you’re worried what others might think.
Now we’ve got that out of the way…you can shop some fun makeup that I found, some things I love, and see if they work with whatever it is that makes you feel the best – especially check out the Stila glitter eyeshadow liquids…they’re so fun and amazing (click the links below).
I was going to write about this later in the month of December but after the events of my weekend, I knew I had to write it today!
Saturday night was pretty normal, I went to sleep around 12:30am, and at around 1:30am Brandon woke me up because he was having severe pains in his abdomen and chest. After I saw how panicked he was, and how much pain he was in we decided to head to the E.R. They were amazing and got us straight in…and immediately ruled out his heart as causing the pain – which was a huge relief!
We were taken back to a room where then took blood for some further testing, put him on monitors etc. etc. and kept checking in with us about every 1/2 hour. After they had ascertained that it wasn’t a heart issue, they ruled out gallbladder and gave him a G.I. cocktail. It is basically Lidocaine and Maalox, and after about 1 hour his pain was almost gone.
It took hours to get the labs back, and when they did they thought he could be suffering from pancreatitis, so to rule that out they had him eat some crackers. Because there was no pain from that, and the fact that the cocktail made him feel better, they thought it was very likely to be acid reflux with esophageal spasm.
OK, so I know that was a very detailed story, and the reason I wanted to share all of that with you was because that is kind of what kept me going. I immediately went into the role of helping him, being there for him and not even thinking about the fact that I hadn’t had any sleep.
As I contemplate my life with Brandon, I realize that I haven’t always been the most amazing wife, I sometimes let my needs be all consuming, and because of my past life and relationship experiences I have, at times, not allowed myself to be completely vulnerable and present with him. Going through something like we did on Saturday night, even though it turned out that it wasn’t life threatening, we didn’t know that when we were in it. It certainly made me pause to be grateful for having him in my life.
Do you ever find yourself being so caught up in living your life that you don’t have time to appreciate how amazing your life is? I was talking to a friend who also has kids that are getting older now, and we both agreed that having young kids was one of the best times in our lives…but when I was raising a house full of boys, the chaos, the mess, the tantrums, and the lack of freedom sometimes caused me to wish away those years to the day that I would be able to leave them at home alone! Now that my boys are getting older, I have less and less control, I hate that they are not the snuggly little boys that they used to be and I wish I could bring back all the wonder and excitement they had around learning new things.
Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love my life, and I love this stage of my kids too – I have definitely learned not to wish away the time, but I am also grateful for all the younger years too. The years that both they were and I was younger…the years that they were excited to go to the movies with their parents and hanging out with us was always a first choice 😉
There are so many things that I feel gratitude for, especially at this time of year, because I allow myself enough time to slow down and notice the things that are important in our lives. Having a family I love, working side by side with my husband helping people improve their lives, having a home I love, friends I couldn’t live without, sharing my experiences and hopefully helping others know that they are capable of anything they set their mind to via my blog and so much more.
I choose to pause and feel gratitude every day so that when I contemplate what I have in my life I don’t have any regrets…and that I am able to share my appreciation and love with others!
What would you answer if you asked yourself every day “what do I have to be thankful for RIGHT NOW”…even when things are going wrong, there is always something to feel gratitude for!
I recently came across this concept and I absolutely fell in love with it…
It’s the concept of creating your own day. What I mean is, other than your birthday, what day do you use to celebrate YOU? I have found that my birthday, as enjoyable as it is, is never really just about me – not in a bad way, but it involves celebrations, dinners, and very often I have to work. So when I came across this concept I immediately latched onto it.
Here’s the thought…Make a day your own. Create a celebration of you and spend time doing whatever it is that sets your soul on fire. If it’s being alone, then do that, if you prefer to be with friends or family, do that. Ultimately the goal is to take a day to reflect on where you are in your life, what you’ve accomplished, how you feel about yourself, what you are grateful for and so on. My theory (I haven’t actually tried it yet) is that I will feel rejuvenated, I will find it easier to handle stresses, challenges, disappointments and it will reaffirm why I love my life. I know, no matter what, there are always things that aren’t the best that are happening in our lives, but when you start to look at how things are happening FOR you and not TO you, it can change your perspective.
I haven’t decided the date I am going to celebrate my day, but I’ll give you some ideas of what I love to do so that maybe you can come up with some of your own or use some of mine:
It may seem silly, but if there is something I can do to help in the self care department or something that will help me remember that I am important and that ME taking care of ME doesn’t have to mean neglecting anyone else. in fact, it is necessary to take care of me, so that I CAN take care of others.
What do you think about this concept? Are you on board?
My birthday is February and I hate that I can’t do a lot of the things I love because the weather is usually cold, so I will probably plan MICHELLE DAY for a day in the spring or summer…stay tuned! I’ll post some pics 🙂
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You’ve probably heard me talk about how I have 4 boys…but I’m not sure if I mentioned that when we bought my dog my ONLY request (because I really didn’t want a dog) was that it would be a female. I am sure you can guess where this is going – my dog’s name is Rooney (after Wayne Rooney who used to play for Manchester United my favorite football/soccer team) and he is a male dog.
I live in a house where there is more testosterone than most people would know how to handle, but let me explain why I am equipped. I grew up the oldest of 3 kids, and you’ve guessed it, I have 2 younger brothers – no sisters. I have never known the likes of the drama that can come from living in a home with girls, nor have I ever had the pleasure to have a sister to share my deepest thoughts and secrets with. I know this is why I take my friendships so seriously – they are an escape for me from my current environment and I consider them the sisters I chose.
Even though I live surrounded by all this masculinity, I have never lost my love for my feminine side, in fact, I think I am able to embrace it even more because of what I see around me. I love sports, I love cars, I am not a pushover (and those of you that know me, know this is quite an understatement), I am handy and love to do home projects and fix things, but I also love to shop, cook and make the most of how I look. I don’t think I am an anomaly, I just think I am not afraid to be who I want to be without worrying about what I think I SHOULD be.
Unfortunately we still live in a time where, as a woman, we have to prove ourselves over and over, where we are not always given opportunities to rise to the top in careers, and sometimes we are even blatantly discriminated against. Guess what, however someone else treats us doesn’t have to determine how successful we are. Rising to top in anything requires tenacity, persistence, patience as well as confidence, and these things only come when we are not bitter, resentful or frustrated. Believe me, in my career I tried pretty much every angle to achieve my goals and quite honestly the only thing that did work for me was just being ME and not giving up no matter what. I found that when I embraced my femininity and inner confidence that I felt when I did that, I was able to attract more positivity to my life which also brought more success, fulfillment and happiness.
I found that when I became too aggressive (which I know I have a tendency to do) I intimidated people, which actually gave me negative results. At the time I didn’t realize that my aggression and frustration was causing people to want to move away from me, which included clients, my husband, my kids, my friends, and so on. It’s a weird thing when you feel that people don’t want to be around you, especially when you sit down and think about why that might be and take accountability for your actions in the whole equation.
Life is filled with things we can’t change, and the only way we can work through those things is if we accept that we have no control over them. Letting go is the most freeing feeling, but it requires practice. It doesn’t mean that you are always going to like it, but it means you are able to move on despite how you feel.
I love the fact that I get to be the only girl in my house – sometimes the smells, the disorganization, the untidiness, the laziness, and the constant meal making can be a little much, but quite honestly, I wouldn’t change it for anything. I feel blessed that I can come home and one or more of the “boys” in my house will give me a 20 second hug which is exactly what I need to ease away the stress from my workday.
Staying feminine when all around you is masculine is an art, its a habit, and it is a path to success in business. In any relationship (whether personal or professional) there needs to be a masculine and feminine energy, and most men like to take the masculine lead. If they take that lead the best way for you to have success and create a connection in that relationship is by being the feminine you. I feel very fortunate as a woman to be able to be strong and confident and I don’t have to give up my femininity to do it.
Yesterday was a snow day in Salt Lake, it snowed pretty much the entire day, which made Christmas tree shopping last night chilly, but also beautiful. The boys raced around the lot, hiding, throwing snowballs and having fun. It was exactly what I needed to fill my cup!
As we have been spending time with our boys this week we have been asking for them to tell us what they each want for Christmas. With only one boy that still believes in Santa we are almost to the point where we don’t need to hide anything anymore, which is kind of sad as well as relief. It seems like I have been doing this for a long time – well, I guess I have because Dalton is 24! It’s so funny that they don’t seem to have a hard time telling us what THEY want, but when it comes to giving gifts themselves it’s a little harder.
It’s a hard thing to teach kids to know that giving is so much more important than receiving gifts – in fact I believe that the only way they truly learn is by watching what we do. I remember there was one Christmas when I was really naughty and I went searching for what my parents had bought me. I was old enough to know better…but still I found the closet that my mum had hidden the gifts. I saw what they had bought and I felt so guilty that it pretty much ruined my Christmas. Since then, I have always loved more giving than receiving. Not to the point where I don’t love getting gifts, I just absolutely LOVE finding unique, meaningful and personal gifts for people and watching their faces when they open the gift.
Christmas can be such a hard time to spend time on things like this, because it becomes a mad frenzy of finding the “right” thing – I swear that toy companies and some other stores only produce a limited amount of things to feed this frenzy and make the season so overwhelming. If you have every been that parent that couldn’t find that ONE THING on your child’s Christmas list because the stores were all sold out, then you know the level of disappointment that comes with it. I remember one year one of the boys wanted a remote controlled car which we bought but what we didn’t realize was that it needed a special battery that it didn’t come with. We were out at Walgreens at 11pm on Christmas eve trying to find one, but of course we couldn’t/. Even though we had bought the gift, the fact that he wasn’t going to be able to play with it until we went to Toys R Us the day after Christmas was enough to cause mass disappointment 🙁
One thing I have really been guilty of is neglecting myself and running around like a crazy person, so when Christmas morning comes and the kids are so excited to get up and open gifts, I am totally exhausted and partly checked out. Seems kind of crazy to do this to myself, especially when Christmas morning is the reward for all the hard work…but it has definitely been done by this girl!
This year I have resolved to get this more organized, but most importantly to take care of myself while I am taking care of others. Any of you guilty of this? You know when the flight attendants tell you to put on YOUR oxygen mask BEFORE helping anyone else…well that applies. In fact, Brandon was talking to a pilot who told him that if you don’t put on the mask first, there is a really good chance that you will pass out and unless someone puts a mask on you, then you’ll probably die. Crazy – I know this is a metaphor, but this goes way beyond self care. It can be so detrimental to our wellbeing to not take care of ourselves because we are too busy taking care of others.
Over recent years I have become much better at this, and I am able to set boundaries for certain things so that I am not neglecting myself. I started small, just picking one thing that was a “non-negotiable” thing that I was going to do. What I mean by that is, I found one thing that was so important to me, that no matter what, I was going to make sure that I did it. The one thing that I do almost every day is take a relaxing soak in my bath. It probably only takes around 20 minutes, but after those 20 minutes, I feel different. I feel important, I feel loved (by myself) and I am able to tackle so much more. Meditation could be your thing, it could be having lunch with a friend…whatever it is, I promise if you find something and start small, you will enjoy the holidays so much more!
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I had to post today’s quote because it reminds me that I have that whole other level inside me that kicks in when I really want to accomplish something.
Do you know what I mean when I say that? Do you have that smolder inside you that lies dormant until someone tells you that you can’t do something or tries to stop you from achieving your goals. I didn’t realize how strong mine was until I really sat and thought about what I wanted to be when I grow up. I know, seems kind of crazy, but you could call it mid-life crisis or just a heightened awareness, but I definitely reached the point in my life where I didn’t feel fulfilled or happy with what I was doing.
I am sure some of you can relate to this in some way. Is there an area of your life where you are not feeling fulfilled? It could be your job, it could be your home life, it could be school…there are many ways to feel unfulfilled. So what do you do when you find yourself in this place? The simple answer is to change it…but that’s not always feasible.
I found myself in this place a few years ago, so I knew that I had to make a change. I had to decide if I would be happy if I was in the same place in a year or even 10 years. Obviously my answer was no, so that’s when I knew that I had to think about what I did want to be doing. It took me some time to ponder this question, months even, but when I came to the realization that it was important to me to help people, I knew what I had to do.
That’s when I called on that inner gangster & determination that I knew was inside me because I had used it many times before. The easy part is knowing what you want to do, the hard part comes when you have to slog away day after day, being consistent, undeterred and motivated (even when you don’t feel like it). This is when the grit comes in. That part inside you that doesn’t doubt you can put in the work necessary to get it done.
One of Brandon’s favorite shows is Shark Tank, and recently I have been watching it with him. I have found it so interesting to see these people that literally started with nothing, come up with an idea and grow that idea sufficiently that they are qualified to make it onto a show on TV. I love seeing their belief in what they are doing, I love seeing them overcome fear day after day – because that’s what I know I must do. It helps me know that I’m not alone, and that the only way anything happens in this world is if we believe enough in it and in ourselves to make it happen.
So what if, inside you, there is this inner bad girl with grit just waiting to help you accomplish your dreams? What if I told you that it is there – you just need to find a way to harness it. It’s no that it’s easier for some than others, it’s just that some will do whatever it takes to make it happen – they believe that much in themselves.
I may be that girl that eats organic foods, believes in the environment, believes that people and their feelings are more important than ideas, but I still love to listen to rap music. I still love to be walking the line of conformity, because I know that when I am open, loving and real, that’s when I am able to feel love and fulfillment in my life.
Sometimes I feel the need to show the outside world that I am not just a pretty face, but I have an attitude and I’m not afraid to use it…that’s why I chose today’s more casual, get stuff done, inner bad girl look 😉
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