Small Things Make all the Difference

“When you pay attention to the little things, the big picture will take care of itself!”

Planning ahead with my posting as I am leaving on vacation today and getting everything wrapped up before I leave.  This is not what I am wearing because when I travel (especially on a international flight) I love wear clothes that are extremely comfortable, without foregoing a little sass and style.  Stay tuned for my travel look and vacation pictures.

The outfit I am wearing in this post is one that I wore for work, but it is also perfect for date night, or pretty much any kind of daytime activity (at least for me because I always prefer to dress up a little more than most).

I don’t think I’m alone in thinking that sometimes the smallest things can make all the difference when planning an outfit.  Things like jewelry, a belt, a scarf, some kind of hair accessory, a bag or a pair of shoes can make an outfit look completely different.

I love finding fun things to transform my outfit – the earrings I am wearing in this post.  They were a gift a few years ago from a friend made by a local vendor…the colors and style worked so perfectly with my red top and black paper bag pants.  The studded belt added a little edge, and the bangle added a little boho.

 

 

When I pay attention to the details and feel like my outfit is totally put together and rocking it, I have an air of confidence, which translates to me walking differently, having a little sass in just knowing that I feel good about myself and how I look.

What gives you confidence in yourself and how you look?  Do you dress for yourself or to please others?  The more confidence I develop in myself and in wearing my own unique style, the more I am able to become more daring, more bold and ultimately happier.  I don’t think it’s shallow to put value on how you look, in fact, I think we owe it to ourselves to make the most of ourselves.

I hope your Sunday is fabulous, I know mine will be!

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How to Transition into a New Season

 

“Replace fear of the unknown with curiosity!”

When the seasons change, no matter where you live, there is at least in some part a change in the weather (even if it’s only the slightest change).  So, what is the best way to transition your closet to a new season?  The fashion magazines tell us the latest styles, trends, fabrics and colors, but how do you fit those to YOUR unique style?

Sometimes, expanding your sights to new things can seem overwhelming, expensive and very challenging.  I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be…

I have many pieces of clothing that I continue to wear across seasons, things I pull out year after year and colors that can be adapted to my style.  I don’t ever buy a completely new wardrobe every season, that would be too expensive and impractical.  What I do is add a few new pieces and pair them with things I already own.  I love creating my own looks using new and old styles, colors and fabrics combined.

There are some fabrics that work better during cooler seasons, and some during warmer seasons, as well as patterns that you associate more with one season over another.  That doesn’t mean that you can’t cross over or color outside the lines a little, all it takes is a little imagination and experimentation.  Here are some styles, patterns or fabrics that you can transition into fall:

 

Leather – although leather is definitely a warmer fabric, I wear this every season of the year and love adapting my looks accordingly.  In spring pairing leather with florals is a great way to go, and in the fall adding a chunky sweater or an earth toned contrasting piece along with some boots is a great way to wear it.

 

 

 

Red is a color for any season – for fall try wearing your red (warm or cool red works) with tan, some form of animal print or just black.  Red is such a strong color that makes a statement all by itself, so by adding this to your fall look, you are going to make any outfit stand out.

 

 

Unexpected – I love adding colors that are a little more unexpected.  I love wearing a bright pair of shoes or boots that are unusual.  Not necessarily the color of the season but one that can be a contrast to the look of your outfit.  I have a pair of green satin booties that I love to wear in fall even though they are not a traditional fall color.  This is where the coloring outside the lines comes in 😉

 

 

Velvet is a great warmer fabric, so tends to be more traditionally worn in cooler seasons.  However, if you wear a velvet top with a satin or cotton skirt or pair of pants, it is versatile enough to be worn in spring.  By wearing these velvet shorts with a pair of tights and boots, I could transition the look into fall and winter…the possibilities are endless!

 

 

 

Tights are a great way to change your summer dress to a fall outfit.  A little summer dress paired with a funky pair of tights, and a duster or cardigan is a great way to get the most out of your summer look.

 

 

I am always looking for new things to try, new ideas, something that will make me stand out, that’s the only way anyone can grow.  So maybe your style isn’t to stand out or maybe you don’t like to be bold, that is OK, but in order to grow in anything in life, you have to try something different.  However you transition into the fall season, what if you tried something you haven’t tried before.  What if you found that thing was your new favorite thing?  I am always telling my kids that if they don’t try new foods how will they ever really know what they like?  Even a new accessory, a pair of sunglasses, a new color…trying something new expands our comfort zone and the more we do that the more confidence we get and the happier we become.  Baby steps work just fine 😉

 

Walk in Style

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail!”

I realize that not everyone loves shoes as much as I do, but one thing I can tell you is that if you don’t pay attention to the shoes you are wearing, it can mean the difference between making a good first impression and not!

Shoes are the icing on the cake, the last piece of the jigsaw puzzle that is your outfit, and if you wear a pair that doesn’t match, is scuffed or scruffy, isn’t the right style for the outfit you are wearing, what it does is draw attention from the best parts of you to something that is wrong.  It may seem shallow, but here’s the fact…people notice the shoes you are wearing and they will make assumptions about you (whether they are correct or not, and whether they should be doing it or not doesn’t matter).  You have the control to make sure that their assumptions of your are the ones that YOU want them to make.

Strange to think that something as small as a pair of shoes could control someone’s opinion of you or have them form a great first impression.  I have talked before that quite often I will pick out the shoes before anything else, but that isn’t always the case, and I realize that is not something that everyone may feel comfortable with, so…here are some simple rules of thumb when picking out your shoes/boots for an outfit:

  1. Only wear a pair of shoes or boots that you are comfortable wearing – no matter how cute a pair of shoes is, if it’s too high, too pointy or just plain uncomfortable it’s going to have the opposite effect than you were going for.  You will have a harder time walking and draw attention to that rather than the shoes.
  2. Wear shoes that won’t get lost in the outfit – for example if you are wearing a wide pair of pants, your shoes are pretty much going to be hidden, so the need to wear something really fancy isn’t there.  What you won’t want to do is have the pants trailing on the ground, so wear shoes that will show as you walk and prevent the pants from dragging.
  3. In business, I have always preferred wearing at least a small or kitten heel.  It doesn’t mean that you can’t wear flats, but take care when you do to wear a pair that is a little more structured rather than so soft that your foot looks like it’s falling out the sides.  The key here is to look more polished, because believe me, people WILL notice!
  4. When wearing jeans, skinny jeans work with so many different styles giving you so many more options.  I like to mix things up depending on the season or the occasion, and when I am going somewhere special I sometimes add a little sass.
  5. Bold patterns, fabrics and colors are a great way add a little spice to a normally bland or conservative outfit.  For example, these booties in this post with the skinny jeans add an extra little pop to a pair of black skinny jeans.

Shoes should definitely not be the last consideration when choosing your outfit, in fact, when you take a little care when choosing your shoes I know first hand that you will reap the rewards.  Who doesn’t love a compliment or a little attention that wearing an awesome pair of shoes can bring.  After all, the right pair of shoes can speak louder than words!

I don’t know about you but I am walking into this Monday in a sassy pair of shoes 🙂

 

 

Expand your Style Comfort Zone

“A comfort zone is a beautiful place but nothing ever grows there!”

Have you ever heard that your confidence grows in direct proportion to how much change or discomfort you are willing to face.

This is true of everything in life…for example.  When Brandon bought my mountain bike for me (it’s an electric bike that when you pedal has a little or a big kick of power depending on what you turn it to), I had NEVER mountain biked before.  I had always wanted to try it but was too scared to do it, so the first day I rode myself to the foothills of the mountains near my house where I knew there were some good, wide trails.  I rode up the hills great but became very nervous going downhill with the fear that I would fall over the handlebars, the rocks would make me fall off, and oh there was that one time where there was a snake across the trail!  He bought me the bike back in May for Mother’s Day and ever since then there has not been a week where I haven’t gone on at least 4 or 5 eight mile rides since then.

I am by no means a pro, but I am going faster and doing things that scared me to death now!  At the very least, I am confident enough in my ability to control the bike, to know what I can and can’t do, and most importantly, I am eager to try new trails and go new places.

You may be asking what this has to do with anything…well, here’s what I think.  Because this concept works with everything, it also translates to fashion and style.   Expanding your style repertoire can take baby steps, or a bold leap, depending on the level of change you are willing to face at any one time.

There are some styles that I would never wear…mainly because just because something comes in my size doesn’t mean it is appropriate OR cute for me to wear.  I do however, love to incorporate new things into my style, and when I do I have found that I have loved most of them.  Expanding your style comfort zone is something we can all do, but in our own way…so what is your way?

Each season there are new colors, new styles, patterns and fabrics – expanding your style could be simply just wearing a new color or fabric.  In today’s post the suit I am wearing is from a shopping trip to L.A., and the blouse is Zara.  I loved the luxurious color of the blouse along with the tweed of the suit because you are going to see a lot of tweed this fall and it is always a classic look.  If you were into the Gingham trend that has been around, tweed is a great alternative to switch things up.

The reason it is called a comfort zone is because it’s comfortable – which means it is easier NOT to change what you’re doing, but it is always not as fulfilling.  I have found that it is always a challenge to me to come up with new looks, new styles that work just for me, and put my own stamp onto styles of the season.

Here are some easy ways to expand your style comfort zone for the upcoming season:

  1. Add a scarf of a different color or fabric to mix things up
  2. Find your “go to” style and find it in velvet, satin or even leather
  3. Find a pair of funky, statement shoes or boots to make any outfit pop
  4. Wear a pair of funky, patterned or colored tights
  5. Wear a bold, bright pair of earrings (perhaps one with tassels) in a contrasting color
  6. Add glitter or sequins – they’ll definitely get you noticed
  7. Metallics are a great way to add spice, you can wear either shoes, scarf, bag, top or if you’re really bold, a pair of pants or a skirt
  8. Wear a color that is bright, bold and really noticeable
  9. Wear a pop of red or pink on your lips
  10. Fur – there’s never a bad time to add some fur

I hope you find some food for thought, and if you do, I would love to hear…

 

Things to Look Forward To

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change!”

Summer is absolutely 100% my favorite season, I think because it is the farthest from winter and I love the heat.  Growing up in England we never knew if it was going to be warm or not, we could pretty much guarantee that rain was in the not too distant future, and we could hardly ever plan barbecues or other outside activities without a backup plan!

So, here in Utah, when summer arrives, and we can settle into long months of high temperatures and sunny days I feel most happy.  However, that doesn’t mean that I can’t find happiness in other seasons.  Even in the winter I can find positive things and that is the theme of today’s post.

Fall is just around the corner, and there are definitely some things I love and appreciate about the fall, so those are the things I choose to focus on when the very real prospect of summer ending hits me.  Here are just a few things I look forward to in the fall:

  1. Changing my wardrobe – I become very bored of wearing the same things and by the end of summer I am ready for new colors and layers.
  2. Jeans – yes, these can be worn in any season, but after scorching days, a fall day wearing jeans is so much more pleasant.
  3. Leather – one of my favorite things to wear in fall and winter.  It’s definitely too hot for the summer,  so by the time fall is here I am ready to break out some of my more edgy, funky leather pieces.
  4. Boots – I know boots and booties can still be worn in the summer, but I tend to lean more towards open toed shoes to show of my nicely pedicured toenails in the summer.
  5. Jackets – I have a lot of jackets and I find layering a much more fun way to express myself.  You can completely change a look by adding a funky jacket, so cooler nights and mornings in the fall welcome.
  6. Darker colors – more earthy tones may be the latest trends in the summer, but they are a staple in the fall.  I love pulling out rusts, oranges, yellows, reds, browns and of course black.  It is fun to experiment with mixing colors, patterns and styles and it brings a whole new dimension to your wardrobe.
  7. The changing colors of the leaves – I honestly believe fall is one of nature’s most beautiful statements.  I love driving through the canyon and looking at the many different colors that can even change day to day.  Our neighborhood is filled with enormous trees and driving along some of the roads where I live is an experience in itself.
  8. Halloween – it’s always been a favorite thing for us to celebrate in our neighborhood.  Decorating our house with spider webs and scary things is fun for the boys to do, because on halloween night the trick or treaters are always out in abundance.
  9. Thanksgiving – I know, I grew up in England and this wasn’t one of our celebrated holidays but I have embraced it since moving here.  It is a time that we spend with family, eating delicious food, playing games and watching movies.  Family time is the best time.
  10. Football – when I say football I refer to both kinds (soccer and American football) – soccer is my die hard favorite sport, but I do also love a good Football game.
  11. Barber Park Tour – every year our family (along with Brandon’s dad) go to a different baseball field to watch a couple of games.  We go in September so the team we are seeing is likely to be making it into the playoffs.  It has been a tradition in our family for 15 years starting with Brandon, his dad and I, and then the boys being able to come as soon as they were old enough.  We have a map showing all the fields in the office and add a pin to each park we go to.  The map is almost completely full now!

 

 

I have found that focusing on the things I do like about a season help me to find much more enjoyment and fulfillment in my days, and the best thing, this doesn’t have to apply to a season.  Don’t like work on a Monday morning?  Find something about it that you can appreciate.  Don’t want to clean out the pantry – what is something that you might like about it?

There are so many things in this life that we have absolutely no control over – and the weather is definitely one of them.  So what’s the point in getting frustrated or disappointed?

When we recently went to Glacier National park, we drove the “Going to the Sun Road” that takes you to the top of the mountain.  The day was not very nice, and by the time we reached the top it was hailing.  Now bear in mind that it was July and the clothes that I brought with me were summer clothes (although I did have a leather jacket and jeans), so as you can imagine, I wasn’t prepared for such conditions.  I became very frustrated and almost miserable wondering to myself “what am I doing here”?  It took me a little time to sit back and just surrender to the situation and realize that nobody planned this to happen, it just did.  I started thinking that as Tony Robbins says “Life is not happening to you it’s happening for you”.  Once that thought popped into my head, I let go of the feeling anger and frustration and just went with it.  An amazing thing happened, I started to notice the beauty around me, I started to have fun and I considered others, specifically Brandon who was in his element because he had always wanted to go there.

I hope your Monday is off to a great start, or even if it’s not, what is something you could appreciate about it?

Just a thought…try looking at it from another perspective 🙂

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Style Personality

 

“People may hate you for being different and not living by society’s standards, but deep down they wish they had the courage to do the same!”

You may have noticed a common theme on my social media and blog, and that is I talk about not being afraid to be yourself, be unique and express YOUR style personality…

Here’s another thought – do you just have to have one personality?  I don’t think so.

If you’re anything like me there are times when you want to be more edgy, there are times when you want to feel more feminine, and there are times when sophistication is the way you want to go.  These are just a few of my style personalities, because I have many…the reason I tell you this is that I think it’s important to not ever limit yourself or pigeon hole yourself into one style.  Today’s picture is a more feminine style, and that was what I was aiming for when I put it together.  I felt good about how I looked and even curled my hair used heated curlers (yes I still have some of those even though I haven’t used them for a couple of years).

I have heard many people talk about how a certain style is “them” and that they always gravitate to certain styles, colors, patterns and cuts…and that’s absolutely OK, especially if you open your mind to other options as well.

I have talked a lot about what I was like growing up and how I always had a very strong idea about how I wanted to look, what I wanted to do and how I wanted to do it, so for me having the ability to change how I look has been very important.  Being independent and strong willed, I never wanted to be limited or caged like a bird, for me freedom comes from knowing I can create whatever I want – even with style.

I do realize that not everyone has such a clear idea in their mind about how they might like to express their personality through their style, and certainly there are those of you that may not even think style or fashion is important.  If you are one of these people, let me pose a couple of questions to you…do you feel self conscious when you are around someone that has the appearance of being completely put together?  Do you compare yourself to others and how they look?  Do you feel insecure about yourself in any way?

If you answered yes to any one of these questions, then I will tell you that there is hope!   Self confidence comes from being comfortable with who you are, and more often than not, when you compare yourself to others it’s because you are judging yourself.  I have found that the more care I take with how I look, the more positive reactions I get from others, and more importantly the better I feel about ME.  Even if you don’t care about style or following the latest trends it doesn’t mean that you unican’t still rock your own style.

Here are some tips for finding your unique style:

  1. Don’t be afraid to try something on because it scares you because it’s different.
  2. Mix and match patterns, styles and colors – you never know what works together for you until you try it.
  3. Ask a friend – I have a few friends that text me pictures of outfits and ask my opinion.  I am always honest and you will want to find someone who will do the same for you.
  4. Dress for the occasion – there is nothing worse than being over or under dressed.  I always err on the side of dressing up more than down, and this has always worked for me.
  5. Whatever outfit you put together, if you’ve followed the steps above, wear it with your head held high and walk with confidence.
  6. Believe in YOU.  You are unique, your style will be unique – don’t be a cookie cutter.  Trying to be someone else is only going to cause more self consciousness.

I hope these tips help, but if you have questions, please email me and I will get back to you!

 

 

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Being Fierce

“And one day she discovered that she was fierce, and strong and full of fire, and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears!”

What does being fierce mean to you?

Today was my Grandma’s birthday and since she was one of the most fierce women I know, I thought it would be a great tribute to her to write about this topic…

If you think about in nature the animals that are known as being fierce as the ones that are feared or at the very least revered…so as I contemplated what being fierce meant to me, these beasts are what came to mind.

To me, being fierce means being unshakeable in the determination to achieve my goals, regardless of bumps in the road, or even detours.  Having the belief that no matter what, I can do whatever I set my mind to…

My life has definitely not been an exercise in things being simple, but I can tell you this, there is not ONE THING I would change about my past or present because they are the amazing things that have defined who I am today.  I am pretty proud of who I am today, because the person I am may be strong and unwilling to give up her goals, but I am also a girl that takes my relationships and friendships very seriously.  I am fiercely loyal, and know this, when I am in your corner, you will have my 100% support.

So, how do you take your experiences and use those hard things you have gone through to make you stronger as well as being more vulnerable on the other side?  The answer is simple – you don’t be afraid to trust someone else, you open yourself to someone and allow them to help you.  When I first moved over to the US I had an amazing cousin that let me live with her until I had my own place to live.  She asked nothing in return, and has continued to be there for me.  I have made amazing friends along the way that I know will have my back no matter what, and I continue to develop more and more relationships built on loyalty and trust.  Being a fierce woman in this life doesn’t mean you have to step on others to achieve your goals, in fact, it is because of the others in our life that we are able to become our true fierce selves.

 

 

I grew up in a home with 2 brothers, I have 4 sons.  Living in a testosterone rich environment has made me realize how important femininity is to strength and how I can use my gifts to achieve my goals. It has made me realize that strength does not need to be aggressive or angry (the technique I used to use to protect myself), nor does it have to manipulate.  True strength is not afraid to lean on others, not afraid to be there for others, not afraid to be vulnerable, not afraid to surrender to those things we can’t control, and not afraid to recognize that control is only an illusion.

Because I have never known what it has been like to have a sister, my girlfriends are like the sisters I have never had.  I honestly know that my strength comes from them in some part, and I only hope that I can pay it forward and be doing the same for them and others as well.

Monday’s are a great day to start focusing on how you can achieve your goals…

Happy Monday!

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Keys to Feeling Empowered

“You can find me somewhere in between inspiring others, working on myself, dodging negativity and slaying my goals!”

 

When we came into this world we all had the same amount of potential…

Circumstances, environment and attitude determine what we do with that potential.  No matter who you are, chances are you have had experiences and lived through circumstances that have essentially “rocked your world”.  It’s definitely easy to let our circumstances and our living conditions or environment get us down, but one thing is for sure…it is possible to change your outcome!

We watched a movie last night and it’s a silly, funny movie, but it made me think…The movie was “Joe Dirt” and if you are not familiar with the movie it is about an 8 year old boy that is “lost” by his parents at the Grand Canyon.  He spends the next 25 years searching for his family only to find out that they left him on purpose.  I know, sounds very silly, and obviously it is not very likely to be real, but it made me pause for a minute and think about my challenges.  The hard things that I have been through, the things that have essentially defined my path, are all opportunities to grow.  Trust me, it’s definitely not easy to look at my challenges and say “well…this is for my own good” when I am in pain, and sometimes in the deepest and darkest moments of my life.  But one thing I have learned as I have gone through some pretty serious challenges (like moving to the U.S. as a single mother, with no job and just praying things would figure themselves out because I needed a better life for my son), is that my strength has grown, my determination has become refined, and my confidence is much more solid than it has ever been.

So how do you become empowered to be who you are capable of being?  I truly believe that whether you believe in God, a higher power, guardian angels or just the universe, there is definitely something or someone out there rooting for you.  I have experienced this many, many times, when I didn’t think things would work out, and somehow they did.  I have realized that I can make decisions to make things happen, but the only way that truly works is that I TRUST and that I am not afraid.

I recently started Mountain Biking, and this morning Brandon and I went on a really scary trail that was about 8 miles to the top of a mountain with narrow switchbacks  I fell about 6 or 7 times, I cried, I got frustrated, I was angry, I was terrified, but obviously as I sit here writing this post, one thing is for sure, I made it.  The sense of accomplishment was amazing, even though I know I didn’t do it perfectly, at least I did it!

So, with all these things being said, how do you feel empowered?  Here are MY top 5 ways, you may have different ones that work for you…but these are the ones I use:

  1. Believe in myself – I absolutely 100% know that I can do anything I set my mind to.  It may not be smooth sailing, but I will figure out a way to make it happen!
  2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  Vulnerability and trust are things that are essential to make it through this life with someone by your side.  All relationships are based on these two things.
  3. Put in the work – I see a lot of books that talk about manifestations, but honestly without effort and action, it doesn’t matter how much you believe or think something will happen.
  4. Be patient – this is a really hard one for me – I want it and I want it now…but I am learning.
  5. Be there for someone else – this is a great way to remove the focus from you and help someone who needs you.  I have found that when I am serving or helping someone, because the energy is positive, it opens more and more doors for me.  I don’t do it with a focus on me, but that is definitely a side effect.

 

I hope as you head into this week, you find yourself believing in YOU and if you don’t already, starting to believe that you deserve great things!

Happy Monday!

Femininity is Your Secret Weapon

“Femininity is the ultimate form of sophistication.”

Femininity is actual a super power that very few women realize is what they should be tapping into. Femininity is not weak and it should never be taken lightly.  In fact, in my humble opinion, when I am at my most feminine and vulnerable, those are the times that I am the most confident, successful and happy.

 

Lace, strappy sandals and fun accessories to achieve femininity

There are definitely times when femininity is not the role you play, because there are times when you need to be get a little down and dirty…For example, as I was growing up I was always a Tom Boy! Instead of a baby-doll I had a Go Cart, I liked to climb trees and play with Lego.  My mum bought me pretty dresses and I opted for more functional clothes and shied away from the lacy, flowery types of outfits.

Now that I am grown up I still love cars, and because I have 4 boys, I pretty much go to their sports and still help them with Lego projects. However, that doesn’t mean that I don’t love to look and feel feminine. Putting together an outfit that is soft, and flirty is always fun.  But, here’s the best part, femininity doesn’t always have to look the same way…in fact, it’s better if it doesn’t.  Because femininity is something that starts inside you, the outfit is really just a reflection of that feeling you have.  I believe that you could wear all leather and still be feminine, it doesn’t require lace, and it has a lot of room for you to interpret the way that is the best way for YOU to express YOUR personality.

 

Embroidery detail, soft pastel colors and metallic shoes for femininity with a twist

As Women in business we have so much more power than we know. I have found that sometimes people are intimidated by me and my energy. One way to ease that intimidation is by acting softer, and dressing in clothes that are not so edgy but are more feminine. When I dress in a more feminine way, it is a great way for me to feel and adopt a softer persona.  But since that energy starts inside me, I have to make sure that my tone when I speak with people is a little softer (yes, I’ve been known to be a little overpowering, but that doesn’t mean I can’t change that perception).

As Women we have an inner strength that we need to harness and dressing in a way that helps us feel good about ourselves whilst also setting those we meet at ease, will help us achieve our goals and make us look and feel more successful.   There are definitely times when a more “business” look is required, but that doesn’t mean that femininity needs to be forgotten.  You will see a few examples of outfits that I felt feminine in, while at the same time feeling confident, strong and powerful.

 

Soft curls or waves, with a feminine top and natural makeup for ultimate femininity

Finding that right mix for you is important, so if you have any questions or would like me to make any suggestions of styles or outfits that can help you achieve your ultimate powerful, confident, feminine look, please email me and let’s chat!

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Finding the Beauty Around Us

 

“I choose to listen to my inner voice not the random opinions of others!”

No matter where you live, there is always something around you that can give you cause to contemplate the beauty and feel gratitude for something.  At my darkest moments, or when I feel the most depleted, I find myself turning to my kids, my husband, my dog, my friends, my family or the beauty in my garden…and that is without even thinking about anything material.

I have shared on my Instastories a little about some mountain biking that I have been doing because Brandon and the kids bought me an E-bike for Mother’s Day.  For those of you that don’t know what that is, it’s a mountain bike that is also electric.  I have never been a mountain biker, in fact I had never even done a trail on a bike before…but what I have found is that I love it.  It is partly because I love to exercise, it is partly because I am liking the thrill of riding up and down trails not knowing exactly what is going to come my way next, but it is mainly because I feel so blessed that I can ride right from my house and in about a mile I am in the mountains on a trail, and as I ride to the top of the trail, the views of the entire Salt Lake valley are absolutely breath taking!  I have hiked around the trails many times, but somehow being on a bike allows me to do it almost every day and get better and better.  I have to admit I have a few war wounds from falling – but the key for me is getting back up again and working on not falling the next time.

I think that contemplation, finding a quiet, peaceful spot to think about your many blessings in this life is so important.  Sometimes just a place where you can quiet the noise and focus on only the good stuff is enough.

Today’s pictures were taken in “the gully” which is just around the corner from my house, it has a walking trail, a stream, some great greenery and flowers, and it just such a place.  Yes, I was taking pictures, but as I was in the midst of the shoot I found my thoughts drifting to those things…

Do you have a place where you like to go?  It doesn’t need to be outside, but the key is a place where you won’t be disturbed.  Meditation is a great way to clear your mind, but if you are not familiar with meditation, just allowing your thoughts to go to appreciations and gratitude will allow you to focus on the good things in your life.  I try to take a small amount of time every day to focus on this, but sometimes busy schedules don’t allow every day, so at the very least, every other day works for me!

I often like to walk my dog and as I walk through my neighborhood, as I admire the beautiful homes, the trees and plants, the sunshine or whatever the weather, I find myself sometimes becoming emotional about all the amazing people and things in my life.  My thoughts run rampant as I am walking, and sometimes the most random things come up…I reminisce about my childhood, my family, the things that have shaped my life so far, and as I start to think these things, more and more gratitude comes to my mind.

Even if you feel depressed, like things are not great for you, I promise if you find at least 1 thing per day to be grateful for, you’ll find as you think about that thing more and more things will come to mind.  Whatever we focus on we get more of, so I would much rather focus on what I do have rather than what I don’t…what about you?

 

 

My contemplation outfit was not exactly the walking through the gully type of outfit, however, it’s very feminine and by adding the long strand of pearls, it is also classy!  (more to follow on the pearls…)

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