Sometimes you just have to do something Ballsy!

“Your greatest self has been waiting a long time, don’t make it wait any longer!”

 

A resolution is only as good as the amount of intention you have when you create it!

How do you plan on making 2018 the best year yet?

 

You may or may not know this, but my husband is a LIfe and Business coach, which is something that I have always been interested in.  A lot of the experiences I have had over the past few years could have really knocked me down, but I am still standing and now I’m even more determined to be even more successful, and most importantly I want to share what I have learned in the hopes that I can help others become successful too.  What good does an experience do if you can’t take that experience and grow from it, and to me growing myself is important, but lifting up others is so much more rewarding.

 

So, In 2018, my plan is to travel with my husband, and I am going to become more involved in his business and promote confidence and empowerment for Women!  Confidence and success can start with something as simple as feeling good about how you look and who you are…and if you don’t believe me, try putting on an outfit that is ugly unflattering, and see how you feel.  Then put on your best outfit, check yourself out in the mirror.  What’s the difference?  How you feel about how you look is what others see in you and that can determine whether they do or don’t want to do business with you or get to know you better.

 

As part of my quest to help others, I am also going to be launching my own audio and video series, so if you haven’t already signed up for my Newsletter, make sure you do that…

 

What bold moves do you have in store? I would love to hear you share yours with me – comment below!

 

Happy New Year!!

 


What is your 2018 Resolution?

“All you can change is yourself, but sometimes that changes everything!”

 

New Year’s resolutions are a hard thing…they are always entered into with the best intentions, but those intentions seem to become less and less determined after only a short time.  So, if you want to start off the New Year with new goals and habits, the only way you can ever make that happen is to change the way you think about what you’re trying to accomplish.

 

What I mean by that is if your goal is to get fit, you have to make a decision that being fit and healthy is more important than any obstacle or deterrent that might get in the way of you taking action.  Or, say your goal is to travel more, obviously your commitment to making more money and more time to travel is going to be necessary so your commitment to those things has to outweigh anything that could get in the way.

 

I have always avoided making New Year’s resolutions, not because I don’t believe in them, but because I think any “resolution” or change can come at any time of year and should most definitely not be postponed just because it isn’t New Year!  Nevertheless, I do have some pretty great goals that I have set for myself in 2018 and if you stay tuned for tomorrow you can read about my number one resolution and challenge to myself.

 

How do you change how you think to make sure that you can accomplish your goals?  We all have things that get in our way, so the key is getting to the root of what is causing those things to happen.  I have to admit I am very blessed to have a husband that holds me accountable, that pushes me and that encourages me to push myself.  He has helped me feel gratitude for those things that I have, to not focus on the things I can’t change, and to learn a little something from all my life experiences.  As I navigate my life journey I am realizing that I am a person that love to learn and experience new things, and that always wants to make myself a better person.  If you’re anything like me, you’ve had challenges and hard situations along the way, and it’s not those situations that will define who you are, but rather your reaction to those experiences!  I can honestly say that I am glad for every challenge I have faced because it has made me who I am today…

 

We all have comfort zones, those things we are comfortable with, the places and things that make us feel the most safe.  What if for 2018 all you did was expand that comfort zone just a little…what if you just pushed yourself to do one thing you have been too scared to do, or challenge yourself to accomplish something that has been controlling you to this point?  What could that mean in your life?  I don’t know about you, but I am really excited to find out.  Remember that your comfort zone today was once your challenge 🙂

 

Smile as you head into 2018 – I know I will!

 


Top 5 Ways to Avoid Over Indulgence during the Holidays

 

“What you do every day matters more than what you do every once in a while!”

 

The holidays are filled with cheer but they are also filled with rich foods, chocolate, candy, treats, and very often some cocktails or alcohol.  So how do you make sure that all the hard work you put into keeping your body trim and healthy this year isn’t lost in just a few weeks.

 

Long walks and runs outside are kind of hard in the winter here in Utah, the cold is bitter and the inversion makes it unhealthy to breath too much of that air.  Exercise requires a lot of commitment and with the “to do” lists that seem to get longer every day, it is so hard that sometimes it gets put off or just missed. 

 

Good chocolate is one of my weaknesses, and it seems like “just one” always leads to another!  Salads don’t seem as appealing and seem to be replaced with more warm dishes like soups, chilli, and baked potatoes, all of which are much more substantial and have a higher caloric value.

 

 

So how do you make sure that by the time the holidays are over, you are not going to roll into the New Year?  Here are some tactics that I use, and they have always worked for me…

  1. Don’t tell yourself you can’t have a treat, but rather ration how many you have.  If you tell yourself you can’t or that you can only have carrots, or some alternative that isn’t anywhere near as good, you will rebel against yourself and end up eating more than if you let yourself have one or two!
  2. Want a dessert?  Go for it, but again ration how much you have.  Portion control has always been something that I have exercised.  I like to try lots of different things, and always make sure that I balance my meals with the right amount of vegetables, protein, fats and carbs (I don’t ever avoid carbs because I need them for energy).
  3. Allow yourself one or two “cheat days” each week, that way you don’t have to feel guilty or bad about anything you are eating.
  4. Dedicate 20 minutes every other day even if it is just at home to do a few exercises like lunges, squats, crunches, and curls.  I even do a few each night while I am waiting for my bath or while I am watching my latest DVR TV show.
  5. Drink a fresh squeezed veggie drink at least once a week, to balance out the not so good stuff you may have eaten or drunk all week.

 

The holidays should be a fun time and beating yourself up or telling yourself NO is not going to make it enjoyable!  If you are not creating long term bad habits it’s really not going to hurt you just for a few weeks, but it is definitely still better to be in control.  Enjoy your holidays and remember, moderation is key!

 

Happy Holidays…

 

Back to Reality

 

 

“One small crack does not mean that you are broken.  It means you were put to the test and did not fall apart!”

I had the most amazing Thanksgiving with my family up in Midway, so much so that when we came back down to our house and started getting ready to go back to work and school today, it seemed almost depressing.  When I woke my 2 younger boys up this morning, one said he had stomach ache and the other said he had so much fun with us this last week that he didn’t want to go to school but would rather hang out with us.  I have to admit that when my alarm went off I had similar thoughts and even went to a place of thinking what could I do to rearrange some things so I could just stay home.

 

Needless to say, I got up, got dressed in a great power outfit, and went to work anyway.  It makes our family time so much more precious when I realize that my boys loved it as much as I did, and that even though part of their stomach issues and sadness this morning was more about not wanting to go to school, I’ll take it 🙂

 

So how do we beat the blues when we have to come back to reality after a vacation, the holidays or even sometimes just a weekend.  I have found that the only way that works for me is to think about the things that I do love about what I’m doing and what I am doing them for.  For example, while I do love sales and having great relationships with my clients, I go to work so that I can buy the things I want, live in a nice home, travel a lot and not have to worry about whether I can buy something that I like.  I also focus on meeting with my clients (who are also my friends) and let that drive me more than the monotony that I have to go through with paperwork, etc.

 

It is hard to explain this kind of thinking to younger kids, but I do believe that my boys are starting to get it at least a little bit and realize that by going to school it means that they can get a good education, which will translate into a good job and great pay (obviously with work to get them there).  I definitely have to remind them quite often, especially since they can hardly remember to brush their teeth sometimes, but it’s worth it, and only the best habits are formed by repetition and determination.

 

We enjoyed the most amazing temperatures and weather this past weekend, but last night the winds came in and now the rain is here, which I know is soon going to turn to snow.  We truly will be in our Winter Wonderland here in Utah in no time…which is perfect for Christmas and the Holidays (see, I am being positive 😉 ).

 

 

As you probably have already heard me say before, rain is my least favorite weather so I have to work really hard at not letting it get me down.  The prospect of a lovely warm fire, hot chocolate, and snuggling under a blanket with the boys is what gets me through.  I am a firm believer in energy…I believe that there is always a transfer of energy between people, and if you surround yourself with negativity or positivity that will eventually rub off on you.  A trick that helps me when I have had a bad day is to hug my husband or kids for a minimum of 20 seconds, until I feel that transfer of energy and love which will erase most bad feelings from the day.  Admittedly I sometimes have to hold them there for that long (20 seconds seems like eternity for a 10 year old), but they are mostly accommodating to their crazy mum!

 

What tricks do you have to help you through days when you just don’t want to be doing what you have to, or those days when things just seem to go all wrong?  I would willingly try anything new to help me, and maybe some of mine will work for you!

 

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How to Make Sure the Holidays Don’t Stress You Out!

“If we don’t feel grateful with what we already have, what makes us think we will be happy with more?”

 

I was particularly happy with how this shoot turned out, Erin Wyness photography really captured some amazing looks.  Shop this outfit by clicking the links below…

 

There are many things that can detract from the true meaning of Thanksgiving, Christmas and many other Holidays, so how do we help ourselves from becoming too overwhelmed & stressed which can lead to feeling exhausted, shutting down and not being able to function and very often to even more stress?

While I certainly don’t believe I am so enlightened that I have everything figured out, after years of not really enjoying the holidays because I wanted it to look perfect, I have figured out a few things that have helped me along the way.  These may or may not apply or work for you, but even if you can take one thing and that helps make your holidays a more enjoyable experience, it’s got to be worth it, right?!  I know I would have had a hard time listening if someone else told me what does and doesn’t work and how I was allowing my perfection issues to ruin my holidays, I am pretty sure I would have shelved it or even worse, thought “they don’t know me” or “I don’t do that”…As I have become more mature (not just older), I have realized that perhaps (and yes you can quote me on this) I actually do need help sometimes and I am learning how to ask 🙂

  1. Don’t set unrealistic expectations.  I have been known to bite off more than I can chew, perhaps making 5 sides dishes, 3 varieties of pies, etc., etc…when in reality, most of it ends up getting wasted and I would feel frustrated that my hard work wasn’t appreciated because nobody ate all the food.  I know, I know, crazy self-defeating behavior, but nevertheless, this was the way I did things.
  2. Delegate – there is no way you can handle everything.  I have made meals where I have done everything and just like in Tip #1, it’s biting off more than I could chew.  Now, I ask people to help me because what I have realized is that most people are willing to do it…it appears, and I’m not sure why, everyone was too afraid to ask before – LOL!
  3. Set your menu in advance, prepare things that can be done before the day as much as possible, so that you are not spending all day slaving over a stove and missing out on spending time with friends or family.
  4. This was a huge one for me – don’t worry about the dishes, they can wait until the morning.  If you’ve spent all day cooking, pause for a little while just to eat, only immediately to jump into cleaning dishes, you are going to miss out on even more.  I had a hard time with this one because I like to see my kitchen clean all the time, and it can cause frustration when it’s not.  I am still working on focusing on not letting the clutter get to me, so if you have a hard time with this one too…I feel ya!
  5. One of the ways I like to show love is by service and that includes cooking for my family.  What I have realized is that even though I am doing something for them, it really doesn’t focus on THEM but rather ME…so I constantly work on having my boys help me or at least spend time with me in the kitchen while I’m cooking – that way, I can enjoy their company and still get done what I need and want to.

 

 

Thanksgiving is not just a time for Turkey and pies, it is also a time for contemplation, gratitude and family. Every day of the year I force all my boys to hug me – it always seems to give me a little more energy to get through the day.  So whether we are at home, in Midway or on vacation somewhere else, I like to use that time to get in more snuggles and love time.  It can also mean that there are more disagreements because all my family has strong personalities, so it is also a great lesson in patience for me.  The goal this Holiday season is to be better about how I react to stress, family disagreements, getting under each other’s feet and getting on each other’s nerves by remembering what I love and appreciate about everyone.

Here goes!….

 

 


Beautiful Fall Day

 

“Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or an event to control your emotions!”

 

While Summer is and will always be my favorite season (I absolutely love hot weather), there are so many reasons why Fall is a close second.

Firstly, Fall is the season where you can enjoy warm afternoons, and cooler mornings, meaning it gives us the opportunity to wear lightweight clothes with some fun jackets and layers  It is essentially the best of both worlds – I get to wear my favorite or new layering options for the season without having to give up some great lightweight favorites from my summer wardrobe.  It is a season where tights may or may not be worn, and layering is more for fun than absolute necessity.

Secondly, we get to enjoy some amazing colors that nature has to offer…the leaves turning tones of Red, Brown and Yellow, not to mention amazing sunsets and sunrises,

Finally, it is the season that prepares us for winter and the colder weather it brings.

 

 

I can’t believe that we are already only a few weeks away from Thanksgiving, and that 2017 is drawing to a close.  As I sit and contemplate what has happened in my life this year I can’t help but to feel grateful about the amazing blessings I have in my life, and the lessons I have learned.  We all have challenges and struggles in our life, but they are not what defines us…we are defined by how we react or handle those challenges.  I choose to feel gratitude for the struggles in my life because they have made me who I am…and I have to say, I kind of like ME!!

I constantly work on myself to choose to wake up every morning with love and gratitude in my heart, because I know when I do that, everything else in my life just seems to work itself out!  Have you ever gone through something and wondered why you went through it, only to find out the answer not long after?

I know that feeling good about things that are beyond our control can be very frustrating, but letting go of those things is so freeing.  I can manage my expectations about many things, but the weather is a constant battle for me.  I get headaches when it’s overcast or dull, and I want every day to have some sunshine and blue skies.  Unfortunately for us all that is never going to be a reality.  There will be rain, snow but there will also be sunshine.  I have seen more sunshine after moving to Utah from England and I absolutely love that, but I still find myself wishing or hoping that every day would be like that so I could feel “happier”. So, as the season with the least amount of sunshine rolls around, I find myself starting to feel a little down or depressed…so what do I do?  I choose to head into winter (my least favorite season) with an OPEN MIND and take the opportunity to become creative with my layering and sweaters…what a great time to start enjoying hot cocoa, cozy fires and snuggling under a blanket with one of my boys!

What if our least favorite thing had some positives too, and we chose to embrace those?  What would that do about your experience?  For me, I can’t wait to find out 🙂


Learning about Style

 

“The first step to being respected is to look respectable!”

 

From when we are five years old right up until, at the very minimum, we are eighteen, we go to school to learn…We learn some general subjects as well as those specialized to help us determine the career path we want to take in our life, but not only that, we learn how to interact with others, we learn how to be respectful all whilst we are growing and coming into ourselves.  So if we spend all this time learning and honing our interactional skills, learning capabilities and maturity, why would we not do the same when it comes to our appearance?  After all…in a world where judgements are rampant and our appearance is very often how people determine whether or not they want to do business with us, we should spend as much time if not more, learning and developing our presentation (and I mean personal appearance presentation) skills!

 

The challenge we face is that it is not as clear cut as school studies, relationship skills or even leadership skills.  So how do we grow our personal presentation capabilities?  Some people have innate skills, while others have to work a little harder, but the good news is that no matter how good we are, we can all learn more.

 

I will let you all into some of my secrets, which are pretty simple and I am sure you could figure them out even if I didn’t tell you (but just in case)…

  1. Don’t try to be something you are not.  I have talked about making sure you dress your age, but this goes even further than that.  Only choose styles that work for you, because wearing something just because it is “in” doesn’t necessarily mean it is going to look good on you.  I was just talking with some friends about how there are some styles that should NEVER come back in because they are not flattering, and I feel like mom jeans for me are one of those styles.  They do work for some people, but they are definitely one of the most flattering things for my body type.
  2. Dress for what you are doing.  Simply put – it is better to over dress for something than it is to turn up to an important meeting looking under-dressed or sloppy.
  3. Choose your colors wisely – again, just because a color is “in” doesn’t mean you should wear it.  Some colors can drain your color, while others are just a little too bold for what you are doing and who you are seeing.
  4. Notice how others are dressing, see how they wear belts, accessories, or shoes.  If you are wondering if a style of clothing would work for your body type, you can always google certain styles or check on Pinterest because there are always pictures of different body types.  Of course, nothing beats trying something on, but if you are looking to decide if something could work before you even get to the trying on stage, this is a great starting point.
  5. If you are unsure about how to put a whole outfit together, it is best to not get too carried away.  I do think it’s important to keep your style unique to you, but that doesn’t mean that you need to be so far out there that people remember you for the wrong reasons.
  6. Every store gets new styles, colors and fabrics throughout each season, so it is always good to check out the latest trends at Nordstrom, Macy’s and other department stores.  If you find a brand that you like that is great, but it doesn’t mean that everything they make is going to work for you.  Check out the styles, see how the mannequins are put together and use them as guidelines.

 

 

I love new seasons, and I especially love that we get all 4 seasons here in Utah because it gives me the chance to change my look every few months.  It keeps me feeling fresh and of course unique.

 

Even if you don’t remember anything else about this post, I want you to take this away with you…continue to learn about style.  Just like in anything else, it is not something where one day we can say we have learned all we can learn…things are always changing, new styles are coming out and old ones are being repurposed . That is why we need to keep it fresh.  Don’t be a follower or just stuck in your ways, find new ways to present yourself in the best way possible for your personality, body type and coloring.  I promise if you do this, you will feel more self-confidence and people will be attracted to that (whether it be business or personal relationships)…


Autumn & Winter Bucket List

“Fall is like nature’s Grand Finale for the year – the time when everything bursts it’s last beauty!”

Fall is the time for enjoying the outdoors without having to wear thermals, and sometimes in the afternoon we can enjoy not even wearing a jacket!  I love days where I get enjoy lightweight clothes and just add the extra layer of a jacket or cardigan in the morning.  It gives me the opportunity to really enjoy the beautiful days and not have to worry about not going outside (that’s going to be here all too quickly!)

Now that Halloween is over, the end of the year is drawing closer and our time in 2017 is becoming shorter and shorter!  It always freaks me out when we get to this time of year because it’s kind of a mad dash to planning Thanksgiving and Christmas as well as deciding what things we had resolved to do this year but they are still on the “to do” list!

With that in mind, I thought I would talk about some great things to do in the Autumn and Winter…because once you say them out loud, it means you have to do them, right?!

We don’t all have the same interests, but here are some things high on my bucket list:

  1.  Rake leaves with the kids and join in as they jump into the piles and spread the leaves all over the yard again.  I’m not big on this kind of stuff, but I am working on not being so serious all the time, I think this would shock the boys and make them laugh, which is the ultimate goal!
  2. Purge things I don’t wear anymore from my closet and organize what I am keeping.  I didn’t realize how many pairs of shoes I bought in England and when I went to Arizona recently until I tried to put them away…
  3. As a second piece to number 2, I would like to find someone that could REALLY benefit from my recycled clothes – I know Goodwill is easy to donate to, but I find it means more if you know someone that could really use them 🙂
  4. Plan a service project with my kids so as the holiday season comes around they are not focused 100% on themselves.  We have done this in years past and taking the boys to deliver gifts or do service for those in need certainly helps put things in perspective (even for them).
  5. Working full time it has sometimes been hard for me to plan meals and sometimes, unfortunately, our dinners consist of take out or quick fix meals.  I try to eat as healthy as possible and help my kids to do the same, so planning a weekly meal schedule with dinner ideas and shopping around that has been a goal of mine for a long time (I feel like the cooler weather will be a good time to start because I prefer staying in evenings when it’s cooler).
  6. This is one more for winter, but I have always wanted to take my kids to an outdoor ice skating rink and we’ve never done it.  This year is going to be the year!  Whenever I see a movie on TV and they are skating in Central Park, New York, it always looks so amazing…I’m sure it’s not cold at all, right?!

I know not all of these activities fall into a typical “bucket list” category, but I know whenever I accomplish something I have been meaning to do for a long time it always makes me feel less stressed – which is a constant goal of mine!

Being a Mum and Working or even if you’re a stay at home Mum (which is probably the hardest job of all), can be very taxing, so I always believe in taking care of yourself too!  Even if it is something simple like taking a bath, reading a book, watching your favorite movie or TV show, taking that time to recharge is so necessary.  It is easier to feel a sense of accomplishment when you take time to contemplate yourself and how amazing you are.  Give yourselves a virtual pat on the back and make a goal to enjoy this fall and winter – what’s on your bucket list?!

What if there were NO Rules?

“Courage is being yourself everyday in a world that tells you to be someone else!”

 

If you woke up one day and found out that there were no hard and fast fashion rules that you need to follow…how would that make you feel?

Well, here’s what I would like to tell you – with all the different styles of fashion around, with people taking greater care of themselves and with the different lifestyles everyone leads, there truly are no rules.  We all have different interests, we all love to spend time doing different things, and finally we are all different on the inside as well as on the outside.  Shouldn’t we express ourselves in a way that is true to who we are both on the inside and outside?

Now you know you are free to do whatever you want with your style, I did want to mention that although there aren’t any rules, there are definitely mistakes we can make that may cause us to not look our best, and even worse, things that can age us!

Here are some things you can do that will minimize the aging process and allow us to look amazing even into our later years in life:

  1. Now we’re in fall and winter is around the corner, tights can be our best friend…however, be careful the styles and colors you pick.  Just wearing opaque black with every outfit or wearing nudes are definitely more likely to age you.  Instead, try a pair of patterned, fishnets, different colors or finer opaques to mix things up a little and add a little sass to your look.
  2. Make sure that you dress appropriately for your body type. I always say that just because something comes in your size doesn’t mean that you should wear it.  Wearing clothes that cling in the wrong places, clothes that make you look boxy or even worse something that is too short, is a sure fire way to ensure that you actually look older than you are.
  3. One of the worst things you can do is go shopping and buy an entire outfit that you see on a mannequin.  I have found that it is better to be more subtle with your styling and pick a couple of things that are new and in style rather than going for everything you see.  Remember, the goal is to do what is right for you not what everyone else is doing or what the stores are telling you to do.
  4. Never, never, never get too carried away with accessories.  Just think “less is more” when accessorizing and just in case that isn’t clear, follow the direction of Coco Chanel “When accessorizing always take off the last thing you put on”.
  5. If you are big believer in all things that are Black, don’t despair, you can still do that, but try to add at least a little pop of color to brighten up your complexion.  I always try to add a bright or bold lipstick to my Black outfits…you could also add a cute purse or bag, a contrasting pair of shoes or even a few accessories.

The ultimate goal should always be YOU…

“Be yourself, no one can ever tell you you’re doing it wrong!”


Simple Tricks To Take The Hassle Out Of Traveling

 

“And then I realized adventure was the best way to learn!”

 

Going on vacation can be the highlight of the year for most people. Getting away from the stresses of modern life and spending the week

relaxing in luxury somewhere is the perfect way to recharge your batteries. If only it wasn’t such a pain to get there in the first place. Getting to the airport, checking all of your luggage, and getting through airport security is an absolute nightmare. When you get to the other end, you’ll have to do the whole thing again. It’s almost enough to put you off traveling altogether, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Just try these simple tricks to make the whole process a lot smoother.

 

Ship Luggage

 

 

I must admit this has never been something I’ve tried, but I have heard that if you want to take a little more with you when you’re traveling, it’s a great way to save you time and hassle…

Checking in your bags and then waiting for them at the other end takes ages but you can skip all of that if you just ship the bulk of your luggage ahead of time and pick it up when you get to the hotel. Just take one small piece of luggage on the plane with you that has all of the essentials and send the rest separately. You can also cut down the time you spend getting your bag checked if you learn how to use a packing cube to separate all of your toiletries and anything else that needs to be examined. That’ll make it far easier for security to check through your bag and you can get onto the plane a lot quicker.

 

Book Ahead

Sorting everything out well ahead of time will take the last minute stress out of your trip and it can save you money as well. Experts advise that you book flights at least 6 weeks before you plan to go. It’s also advisable to book any other transport links you’ll need when you get there. Landing in a country that you’ve never been to and trying to find a taxi to take you to the hotel can be a struggle. Most airport transfers have a website where you can book so it’s all sorted as soon as you arrive.

 

Download Travel Apps

There are so many great travel apps available for download that can take a lot of stresses out of your traveling experience. Citymapper is a great one that can help you to navigate the public transport systems when you’re abroad. It’s likely that it’ll be a completely different system and this great app can help you get to grips with it. Gate Guru is a similar app for navigating airports which is always difficult if you’ve never been there before.

 

Once you’re there and you’re looking for somewhere great to eat, download The Fork. It lists over 30,000 restaurants with reviews so you should be able to find something on there to suit your tastes.

 

If you’re looking for a more authentic, local experience when you’re abroad try looking at Spotted By Locals. As the name suggests, it’s a travel guide that’s based on advice from locals that live in the city. They charge a small fee for each guide but it’s definitely worth the money to get good tips from local writers and photographers, updated regularly.

 

Traveling doesn’t have to be hard if you follow these simple tips to the hassle out of the whole experience.

I don’t know about you, but I definitely live to travel, so anything that can save me time AND stress, I’m all over it!  I hope you found this post useful…remember “not all who travel are lost!”