“Sometimes you can’t see yourself clearly until you see yourself through the eyes of others!”
This thought provoking quote was how I wanted to start today’s blog post. I thought it was so poignant because how others view us really can have a lot to do with how we view ourselves.
I 100% believe that how I am feeling about myself, how I am acting and more importantly how I am treating myself can all lead to how others treat us. There have been times in my life where I have been in a dark, negative place and consequently I tended to show a lot more anger, frustration and impatience, and surprise, surprise, guess what I got in return.
So, the most obvious question is why would we treat ourself in any other way than how we would like others to treat us? Why would we want to let other people know that it is OK to treat us that way, and more importantly, why would we do that to ourselves. The answer is simple, more often than not, when we are in a cycle like this, we are completely unaware that we are doing it. Have you ever wondered why sometimes you act a certain way and have no idea why you do it? I definitely have, and when I am conscious enough to start to think about it, the only thing that comes to mind is that old habits and bad advice from past experiences are rearing their ugly heads.
The more conscious we are about what we are feeling and how we are acting the more likely we are going to be able to build a happy life.
It is also important to be conscious about how we treat other people, because I have seen it time and time again, the more patient you are with someone the more you are going to get the same treatment in return (unless of course we’re talking about kids which is a whole other topic!) . I have noticed that I can definitely make assumptions about someone based on their appearance, but guess what, my assumption is very often not correct, and more importantly, the more I do that with others, the more likely that people are going to do the same to me. However we act based on what we feel, that is exactly the kind of thing we are going to attract to ourselves. Feel and act negatively – that’s exactly what you’re going to get. Feel happy – you are going to attract happiness and happy people into your life.
I used to think that a lot of the self help programs were very “woo woo” and that how is it possible to “attract” something to me by acting a certain way? Well, I am a scientist, I love to know the facts, I love to think things through from start to finish and what my thought process has taught me is that our bodies are basically a big ball of energy, so why would it not be possible to attract certain energies based on the energy we give off? I have volunteered in my kid’s school for their “Hands on Science” and I love it, I love re-learning the fundamentals about how energy works. How our cells are made up and how all of these theories may be actually fact. Seeing the kid’s eyes light up when you show them how the energy works is fascinating and I love to see their excitement. I wish we as adults got excited about things even half as much as kids do!
It is important when you look at yourself through the eyes of others to be open minded. It will allow us to improve upon ourselves and shift people’s opinion if they are not viewing us in a favorable way, and it will also allow us to recognize that we are worthy to have people love and respect us if that is what they are seeing in us. I honestly believe that our families and our closest friends really do know us and how they treat us, act when they are around us and whether they trust us or not are great gauges to find out how someone feels.
I am hoping that this topic will give you pause to think and allow you to start off your week in the most positive way possible 🙂