Confidence is not something you suddenly just have, you don’t necessarily wake up with it…it can take consistent effort & positive thoughts.
I can recall being a young girl, and having a really distinct taste in fashion, and how my parents encouraged me to be me. As I became older people started to notice that I dressed a little differently, that I liked different things and that I kind of liked not fitting in the mold. The thing about being different is that it scares people, they see it as a threat to themselves because they are not truly confident in themselves, so because I liked to stand out, I was teased a little, criticized and sometimes laughed at. I had a choice at that point…listen to what people were saying, change who I was or be ME. I chose to be me, and a funny thing happened…I remember having a pair of Red Mary Jane shoes, and within about a month I noticed other girls wearing the exact same pair of shoes. I took that as a compliment, not because they were wearing my shoes, but because I realized that I had it right…I had the confidence thing right. I wasn’t afraid to be me and those girls learned something – they started to do that themselves.
I am not saying that I am the most stylish person in the world, I don’t always get it right, but one thing I can say is that no matter what, I wear what I want, I do what I want and I am who I am – no excuses, in fact, I LOVE WHO I AM!!!
I realize that not everyone is as stubborn in my confidence or as bold as I can be…so here are some easy steps to help you with your confidence:
I don’t know about you, but I wish that someone would have given me some steps when I was a little girl, almost a road map showing me how I could become more self confident. All of these steps are what I use…I know they are not all the things we can do to help our confidence, however, even by implementing one of these that you weren’t using before, it’s only going to help put you further down the path to self confidence.
Remember – self confidence isn’t something that is taught or learned, it is something that comes from surpassing your own self-limitations!