“Your ability to project a powerful and confident persona can be leveraged by choosing appropriate body language.”
When you meet someone for the first time what is the first thing you notice about them? Do you notice what they’re wearing? Do you notice what they say? Do you notice how they stand? It’s a fact that the impression you get from someone the first time you meet them is most likely to stay with you because it’s based on your past experiences and it resonates most clearly with you.
How you see someone the first time you meet them could very much determine whether you want to see them again, want to do business with them, want to get to know them better or would rather just walk away. Because our first impressions are based on our past experiences, we are not all going to see things the same way. However, there are some things that you can do that will start you off with a great first impression and then you can allow your personality, style, confidence and your other unique factors shine though at a later date.
I thought long and hard before I wrote this post about things that draw me to others to get to know them more, check out some of my ideas of being a magnet below:
- Even if you don’t speak, people can very often tell what you are thinking about yourself and about a situation based on your body language. If you are slouched down, have your head down, are fidgeting or even if you can’t make eye contact, it is going to tell people that you are uncomfortable, uneasy, not wanting to be there or even bored. If they were to draw the conclusion that you are any one of those things, it could harm your opportunity to develop a personal and start a business relationship with those that you are meeting.
- What you wear speaks volumes about how you view yourself. Now this doesn’t mean there needs to be a certain uniform that we all wear because we all have different personalities so our styles should be different too, but what it means is that whatever you are wearing YOU need to feel comfortable with. Enough so that you are able to stand with your back straight and your head high knowing that you are feeling good and looking good.
- A smile is something that can speak a 1000 words. A gentle smile can let people know you are happy to be there, feeling good and not being afraid to show it.
- I am drawn to people that I know feel good about themselves – which I think is easy to tell because they don’t feel the need to be the center of attention. The person that is the most confident I have found is not the one that is the center of attention but rather secure enough in themselves to be happy to be alone, silently observing and noticing everything that is going on around them.
- The strongest, most confident person is the one that spends a lot of their time not focusing on themselves but on uplifting and helping others. Finding someone that isn’t just in a relationship (personal or business) just focused on them, but they are there to be there for you, those are the ones you want to keep!
Don’t be stiff…relaxed is also an expression of confidence
As human beings we do so much better when we interact with others, so developing relationships whether personally or for business, it is absolutely vital that we are able to do it. Even the most independent person needs to know there are people in their corner when they need them.
Our bodies tell a story about us before we even speak, so the question is, what story do you want to be told about you? I know on the inside I have a really big heart, I am sensitive and loving, but based on past experiences I sometimes allow anger and frustration seep in and I build walls around my sensitive heart to protect myself – which can make me look rigid, unapproachable and intimidating. I know this is not the way to get people to know the REAL me, however, there have been times that I have been hurt, so it is a habit. If I want people to see me, I have to think before I act, I have to focus on how I present myself in public and in private, otherwise I will push people away, and I definitely don’t want to do that.
Do you have something you do that affects your body language? Comment below…I would love to hear!