“The ultimate definition of bravery is not being afraid to be yourself!”
Have you ever noticed that one person who is so consumed with how they look that they never dress down? Someone that could take hours and hours to get ready in the morning…or someone who has to make sure they are wearing makeup and their hair is done even if they are going to workout?
Here’s my confession…I have always been concerned about how I look that no matter what I am doing I always make sure I am dressed appropriately – even down to making sure I had the “cutest” golf outfit for our Annual work golf tournament even though I probably only make it to play golf once or twice a year…
Now, I don’t consider this as a problem unless it interferes with your wellbeing, or of those around you! It has never really taken me a long time to get ready – in fact I had a flight to catch last week and set my alarm for 6:30PM instead of AM – for some reason I woke up at 6:55AM and managed to make it out my front door ready to go by 7:08AM and I was through security by 7:30AM – but, there have been times when I have caused myself undue stress by over-thinking what I would wear for certain events or on certain days, so much so that I have not enjoyed things like I might had this not happened.
So, without changing who I am (because I am ALWAYS going to take care in dressing nicely), I have rethought how much pressure I put on myself. Before I moved over the the US I hardly ever wore jeans, and I typically wore dress pants, skirt or a dress most days. I have learned over the years to incorporate some more casual, non high maintenance outfits into my style repertoire. In fact, I’ll admit that there are some days where wearing jeans is something I crave to do. I love weekends where I can dress up a pair of jeans or dress them down depending on what I am doing. I allow myself some days where I don’t have to plan ahead the night before what I am wearing, and I reserve this for days when I know I have more time in the morning or those days when I don’t have to be somewhere special. Weekends are perfect for not over-thinking what I am wearing, and I take those days to relax more and not put pressure on myself.
I am a styleaholic – and I am kind of proud of it. I love fashion, always have and always will. I love taking
something to wear and making it my own by adding some unique accessories, pairing it with something unexpected (like mixing colors that not everyone is doing) or adding a funky pair of shoes. I have realized that not everyone enjoys style and fashion as much as I do, and that’s OK. We are all unique individuals and we don’t ever want to change that, so how can someone that is not interested in style or fashion change up their look?
Here are a few easy to follow steps to help you in your own fashion story:
- Identify your body type – figure out if you are pear shaped, round, apple shaped etc. Once you know this, you can then determine the styles that will work for you: Pear shapes look better when they wear things that aren’t fitted around the legs and butt. In short – don’t accentuate areas where you are largest, find styles that balance your body.
- It seems like the easiest thing to do would be copy what someone else is wearing – but that is not always going to work. You can certainly use someone else’s style and outfit as a guideline, but don’t try to duplicate it identically. Everyone’s body type is different, so stick to styles that work for your body type.
- Pick out one thing in each outfit that is a statement piece – it can be a necklace, scarf, pair of shoes, skirt, dress, pants, blouse, jacket etc. Whatever that item is, you can build around it – if you have a statement necklace or scarf, wearing a plain dress is a really simple way to put together an outfit that can work for any body type. It could be a fitted dress, A-line, shift dress, or empire waist dress it doesn’t matter – the key is you have added something that will make your outfit stand out and be noticed.
- Make sure that your shoes are looking nice – they don’t have to be fancy, but always make sure that they are polished and well taken care of, otherwise you are going to draw attention to that and people will notice the wrong thing about you.
- Casual looks are just as important – wearing jeans doesn’t have to mean that you are not caring about how you look. Even distressed jeans can look amazing and classy – especially if you wear them with the right things! This amazing cross body bag with the tribal strap is a statement all in itself, but by adding a funky jacket and some awesome booties…the whole look is exactly what I was going for!
- Finally, make sure that your hair and makeup match your style…don’t wear too heavy makeup during the day if you are going for a more business like look! While smoky eyes look amazing, there is a time and a place for that kind of look!
The final, most important piece of looking like you know style is having the confidence to rock your own style…wear it with pride, own it, flaunt it and feel good about yourself. Remember – behind every strong woman is an amazing story!
For those of you who have been waiting…here are the shopping links to this outfit (for the cross body bag with the tribal strap – click here)