I was raised in a home with only boys…meaning that there was a lot more physical fighting to resolve differences rather than negotiating. I am the oldest, but that didn’t mean I could avoid the fights, but rather I had to become smarter about how I did it. After about the age of 12 I couldn’t match up physically with my brothers, but I could outsmart them. I learned some tricks (OK, some of them were dirty) but nevertheless, I not only survived my youth but I actually thrived.
For me being raised in such an environment taught me mental and physical toughness. I am not a quitter, and I don’t like to appear vulnerable (it was considered a weakness). Even after telling you all these things, I can tell you that it didn’t take away my feminine side. In fact, it has taught me to embrace what God gave me, and make the most of it wherever possible.
So, let’s get down to it – what are my tips for feeling feminine and using that femininity to your advantage – because, I believe that we were all given gifts, so why not develop them and use them?
I no longer believe that being feminine is weak – I believe that it is a gift we have been given and we should nurture it. It was never hard for me to dress in a feminine way, but my actions and behaviors were sometimes contradictory…I am still a very assertive, confident woman, but I am working on presenting myself in softer ways!